Marisa Zanuck

Marisa reflects on her part in Season 3 and on her "fight" with Brandi.

on Mar 26, 20130

My final blog entry comes straight from the heart. In truth, I have moved past all of the drama, and I don't want to acknowledge it anymore. This is my final blog and I want to dedicate it to all of you that have supported me immensely throughout this experience. I really appreciate the time you took to write me and share your perspectives; you have given me some really great advice. I also appreciate the constructive criticism because it helped me think about the choices I have made and the things I have said. I feel like we have gotten to know each other throughout this experience and while some may call you viewers or fans, I would like to call you friends.

Joining The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills has been an incredible journey. There are many people behind-the-scenes that work extraordinarily hard to make this show a success and they rarely get acknowledged so I am giving credit where credit is due!

I would like to start by thanking Evolution and their incredible staff from the Executive Producers to the Production Assistants and everyone in between. I would also like to thank everyone at Bravo who work equally as hard to make this show a success. Thank you to all of the media outlets that cover the show. I enjoy reading your creative and witty recaps and blogs and appreciate your sense of humor. Bonnie Fuller and her staff at Hollywood Life were wonderful to work with. StoopidHousewives.com and RealityTea.com always make me laugh and supporters like Lucien Simpson (@mintedroyalty), Coleen (@chicagocollen), Jim Kaurudor (@bitterjim2u), @piazzaalexander and all of my Twitter friends are truly special. Without all of you this show couldn't happen. I wish I could name everyone but you all know who you are and I thank each and every one of you for your hard work and dedication to making The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills a success.

I have learned so much from this experience and it has changed my life in ways I couldn't have dreamed. My husband Dean and I have grown closer as we discussed the things I've said on the show. I regret many things that I have said without thinking, but my husband and I are deeply in love and after 16 years we know how we truly feel about each other. Dean is an incredible man and he knew that I didn't intend on hurting him. I am blessed to have him and my beautiful family and I am grateful for their love and support; it means everything to me.

328 comments
chocoholicmandi
chocoholicmandi

I always like the fact that you say exactly what you think.  I've never been able to do that but I respect people who can do it.  This was the only blog of yours that I read.  I was very pleased to hear that you and your husband are closer than ever now, and that you worked through things that you said on the show.  I was appalled when you talked about your husband and other men.  I think that the upside of being on a show like this is that you can watch it back and realize how you sounded and looked.  All you can do is learn and grow from that situation and it sounds like youl are in a good place.  That's awesome!  Best wishes to you and don't listen to the mean comments that people made here.  They don't even know you.  People seem to be so much meaner when they don't have to face the person in real life.  I think it's plain rude!!  

bravofan55
bravofan55

No offense Marisa, but out of ALL of the Housewives on Bravo, you are the one that needs a makeover SOOOO badly!  I think you're a sweet lady, but your style, and especially your hair is absolutely not representative of Beverly Hills, nor a Housewife for that matter.  Your hair looks like an outdated style from the 50's (and a blonde version of your mother's style), and your wardrobe does not flatter your body shape in any way (shape) or form.  I think you could be so much prettier with an updated makeover, and please...praise your husband, not cut him down.  As you know after the loss of your father-in-law, life is too short, and I'm sure you're husband doesn't appreciate (especially after giving you everything you've ever wanted) the entire viewing audience to hear that you'd like to sleep with other men, but you feel very unsexy about yourself when it comes to you & him.  Take into consideration your husband's feelings before you open your mouth.  Put him on a pedestal like he does you.  How would you feel if he made the same comments about you that you made about him???  And sweetie, makeover, makeover, makeover....and your mother's hair too...break the cycle.  Just a little constructive criticism from a loyal RH viewer....

texasviewer
texasviewer

When I went back and rewatched the last episode where you picked out Dean's clothes for the trip and then constantly criticized him, you were wearing a white tank top with a dark color bra.  I remember you being very annoyed when your mother criticized your choice of clothes for the trip to Las Vegas.  By the way, many of us viewers keep shoes longer than 4 years.  We can't all go out and buy expensive high end shoes at the drop of a hat.   

a.kimchi
a.kimchi

wow... you pick out his clothes then criticize him for keeping the same clothes... and only dole out criticisms that are along the lines of, "you can't do anything right." you think you could have done better so do everyone a favor and do better. don't take your unhappiness out on a man who loves you.

ceeli
ceeli

You treat your husband like a dog.   

jackie0812
jackie0812

Please come back next season, you are wonderful and many fans want to see you more! :)

Rosebud960
Rosebud960

I don't care for you Marisa. I think there is much more to you than meets the eye! I hope you aren't asked back to the show! Some of the things you did were sneaky !

yoyooc
yoyooc

I think you are a very nice woman...you truely do not belong on this realty show.  You have a husband that you love and family that support you....yes what you kept saying about your husband not being your type, I get, my husband is blond, blue eyed and I am attracted to the latin look....that being said, my husband is made for me, our wants in life and love are the same..and he will always be the handsomest man in my eyes...I hope the same for you and your husband...best of luck to you

SPR26
SPR26

Personally, I think you should have asked Brandi what she meant by that text. You were right to read it out to the girls, but you should have immediately responded to Brandi and asked her to explain herself. Brando is a trouble maker, she is hurtful under the guise of being 'honest'. I respect your wishes to leave because eventually those women would have chewed you up and spat you out. They really are pit bulls. If someone had cupped my face, as Yolanda did to you, I would have pulled her hands away and reminded her we weren't in junior school. She can be very condescending. You are too sweet for this group, get out while you still have your dignity intact.

SPR26
SPR26

I loved watching you on RHOBH however, be it the editing or what, I am not sure, but I am sure you got caught up in all the chaos and some of the stuff you said about wandering what it would be like to be with another man, at Lisa's party would have hurt your husband's feelings. You may not have thought so but it would have had to. I asked my husband how he would have felt if I said something like that and he said he would have been deeply hurt. I am sure you love your husband but maybe you need to think before you speak. These things do hurt and he would love to know he is exactly what his wife desires, not some tall, dark guy like Eddie Cibrian. Remember, the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence, but it would still need mowing !!! You are a gorgeous looking woman and your husband loves you dearly. How would you feel if the boot was on the other foot?

jackieeckler
jackieeckler

Marissa I enjoyed you on the show. I hope you will come back next year. Glad you and Brandy worked the little issue out with no friendship ending. By the way I never write on these blogs until today and have no clue what a hashtag is yet lol god bless

erica8123
erica8123

The last couple episodes you were on, I knew it wasn't going to work out.  I wish you the best and I thought you wrote a wonderful last blog.

sas16
sas16

Have to say, you are truly a good person but please get a good haircolorist. That dark hair underneath with horrid ash overlay is so unbecoming.

leeety
leeety

Since the began I never liked your , I hope you will not return to the show.

laura777
laura777

Seems to me like you test the air based on who is winning the race. Judging by your post and after they put you in your place your siding with Brandi and company, so sad to see how fickle some people are!...depth of character is often absent as I am learning from watching reality tv, at first I thought you were going to be a women of conviction but unfortunately it was not the case.

monkeyNUTZ2008
monkeyNUTZ2008

The only thing that I felt you could have done differently was tell Brandi how you really felt about her text and comments about your marriage. You've said to a few of the women that you don't understand where Brandi is coming from and that you don't know she feels the need to try and counsel you on your marriage.

 

Her text to you was inapproriate and you reacted that way at Adrienne's party. I think you should have told Brandi exactly that when you spoke to her. Too bad you aren't staying, I think you would have brought a different look to the group. Best wishes.

BigFan92868
BigFan92868

what a shame! Wish you would have stod your ground to Team Bully~Drama Queens Brandie and Yolanda!   

kellygirl1
kellygirl1

Awww, I enjoyed watching you, best wishes!

petras
petras

mouse  be gone !!!!!

EastofHeden
EastofHeden

i hate to see you go .  I wish you and your family all the best and may all you do be successful.  Thank you for sharing a part of yourself with all of us both on the show and here, in your blogs.  You are a smart, interesting, classy woman and i wish we'd of had the chance to get to know you even better, however , I'm sure most of us can understand and appreciate your decision.  Again, all of the best to you and yours.

weds.46
weds.46

If you join the show, I will stop watching. I place you in the same category as Faye. You are both poisonous.

melindaannie
melindaannie

I really like you. I hope you stay as a housewife, although your way to humble and nice for this group. Possibly it would be best to move on, nonetheless I enjoyed you sharing your life with us. I thoroughly enjoyed the scenes with you and your mother, and if you do come back, I'd like to see more scenes, showing you and your family. Good luck!

Palapa
Palapa

Marisa The way you talk about your husband is disrespectful beyond imagination. He should dump you. There is nothing more to you.

cgarden
cgarden

The ONLY thing you did that I supported was calling classless Brandi on what shes done wrong (everything in my opinion) but your belittling of your husband is disgusting. Period. Such a huge turn off at your husbands expense. NO CLASS.......hey you and Brandi do have something in common!

gnoy
gnoy

You did not intend to hurt him by the rude and disrespectful remarks about your husband...really? Did you think that would make him feel special, wanted and adored? You are so empty. 

 

ReasonIsMyFriend
ReasonIsMyFriend

What you did to Brandi was cruel. You knew exactly what you were doing when you started reading that text in front of the jealous, catty women.

andebrown70
andebrown70

I think you are tops! You never offended me with what you said about your husband! You should write a novel! I know you have several in you! I would like to see you again!

fiesta
fiesta

Hope to see you on the show next year! Your hair looks great in braids, not a lot of women can get away with that look!

Fluff
Fluff

I think you would be a lovely addition to the show. Is this decision etched in stone? Hope to see you next season!

Jane1970
Jane1970

Marissa, 

 

You were wrong to bring out Brandi's text to all the women and more importantly you were wrong about Brandi having a crush on your husband. Fact is, Brandi like many viewers felt sorry for your husband the way you talked about 'your type' of man. 

 

Your continual statements indirectly said that you were not attracted to your husband. You say stupid things in public and you humiliate the man. 

 

You are very similar to Adrienne who would emasculate her husband. Although some things were cringe worthy, the viewer accepted what they saw with Adrienne because it seemed that Paul was able to give it back. But your Dean stands speechless when you say you are not attracted to his type or that you would love to have another partner. Viewers feel sorry for him and I assure you that does not translate to crushes. 

 

You and your husband might be best friends but there is a red alert when a wife isnt attracted to her spouse.  

 

Enough said. 

BonBon1948
BonBon1948

Marisa, You are just too nice of a person to be a part of this group of women any longer. You cannot be a TRULY good, kind and giving person and stay on any of these housewife shows for longer than a season.

I'm happy to have seen that there exists in Beverly Hills at least one woman who is not a narccissist. Thank you for sharing your self with us to the extent that you could.

Be at peace and enjoy your life. It does appear to have alot of love and joy in it without us and those other women intruding. You are one of a kind and shall not be forgotten.

Allisonpeach
Allisonpeach

I can't believe some of nasty comments here. You seem like a nice, decent, kind person. Ignore the BS that you read from some of these commenters. They all need to get lives.

falina_c
falina_c

Sorry, but a lot about you just doesn't......add up.........

mary.katherine.79
mary.katherine.79

Glad you shared that stupid text from Brandi.  And glad you won't be put in a position where Yolanda thinks she can boss your around.  Have a wonderful life!  

falina_c
falina_c

I find you fake, vapid and transparent.  You knew exactly what you were doing to Brandi and your personality seems to change on a dime.  Maybe you think you are giving us what you think we want to see.  Even playing to us viewers, we can still smell insincerity, whether you realize it or not.  Interesting commentary on  Adrienne.  She really made herself look very sad ,pathetic (not to mention SILLY) at her last-ditch attempt in trying to "dig" at Lisa.  She made it very clear that Adrienne is only worried about Adrienne and her extremely classless and inappropriate behavior reflected that clearly.  That is why she is no longer married, on the show and is very alone and losing money. She' s been reduced to running around lingerie parties with a 32 year old addict "boyfriend" looking quite ridiculous. It's called karma. Proof of what bad behavior will bring you. If I were you, Faye, Kim and Kyle I'd pay very close attention.

piperbeau
piperbeau

Marissa for the most part I really enjoyed you this season! I think you realized you probably shouldn't have read that text message around the pit bulls!! You apologized, you even stuck up for Brandi when Faye accused her of destroying Adrienne's marriages!!  I really hope to see more of you next season! I think you offer a lot to the show!! P.S. You look young too!! And you don't look like you are all botoxed up!! very cute...

WCW
WCW

Now that Adrienne got the boot and Faye says she won't be back maybe you will be back!

rosyposy
rosyposy

I disagree.  By the time we enter elementary school, we should begin to realize that everything in our head does not need come flying out of our mouth.  What a nasty, mixed up society we would have if intelligent people did not develop filters for their mouths.  In the first place, it is a sign of maturity to realize that every opinion one has is not a definite, true fact.  In other words, our mouths are not bibles just because they open and shut.

texasviewer
texasviewer

a.kimchi....I agree.  There is a raging tiger in that petite frame.  She needs to be thankful she has a husband who does love her, because most men would not take that kind of verbal abuse.

 

 

christmaszorro
christmaszorro

 @Palapa It is mean, and Marisa tries to justify it by saying "I am just being honest" or "I am just saying what everyone else is thinking but not saying out loud."  There is a way to be honest without being cruel or mean or putting someone down.  If her husband did that to her, omg would she feel like garbage.  I think he should give her a taste of her own medicine.

RHOBHfavoriteshowonTV
RHOBHfavoriteshowonTV

 @Jane1970 I'll be Brandi wishes she could have translated this bad feeling about Marissa so eloquently, because it's obvious that's exactly how she felt, as did I.  Poor Dean.

littlewingporter
littlewingporter

 @mary.katherine.79

 So Brandi's text was stupid, but Marisa's 10-12 comments about her husband and wanting to sleep with other men was just fine with you? Did it ever occur to you that perhaps given Marisa's CONSTENT talk about cheating that Brandi was just chiming in on the conversation? Brandi did not send a text like that out of the blue.

clss
clss

 @ccwriter  I have only flown first class once before (couch more than I can count)... and being in couch is like being cattle tethered to impossibly small pens, awaiting an upcoming slaughter that is an uncomfortable flight. If I got used to flying first class, I would have no intentions of ever setting foot in couch or being associated with couch ever again. I didn't comprehend her comment as insulting to the people as much as the experience.

Bigwednesday
Bigwednesday

 @WCW

 Faye wont be back because she isn't invited back! Do you think Faye would pass up an inch of her 'busy' life to be on tv again? The woman lives and breaths for attention of any kind! The fans didn't take to her...in fact...they detested her more now than anything she did in her sorted past.

As for Marissa, not sure. Did she not like being on the show? Did her husband decide that this was WAY too personal for his taste...was he ashamed? Or was her life story just not tv worthy? Don't know.

kristinaski
kristinaski

@christmaszorro @Palapa Agreed!!!! I didn't like the spin on her comments " oh I'm the guy in the relationship" I don't know about anyone else, but my husband doesn't behave that way...... Oh that's right, because he is "the man", not "the guy". She should grow up

cajun-mommy
cajun-mommy

 @littlewingporter  @mary.katherine.79 I've said it over and over. There is more to that texting conversation. She happened to read the "scandalous" text from Brandi that would get a reaction out of those at the party. She left out what she said to bring about that text.

ccwriter
ccwriter

@clss It came across as snooty and superior. I wasn't impressed. That was only 1 piece of the puzzle for me after watching her all season.