Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Kyle Doesn't Lie

Taylor explains her thoughts on Adrienne's cowardice, her drinking, and her new relationship.

As the reunion began, Andy dropped the news. Adrienne would not be present. Her "final act as a housewife" was not showing up. Cowardly, to say the least.

After my Season 2, there was nothing I would have liked more than to stay home during the reunion but, I went and I faced the toughest year of my life on national television. I used to view Adrienne as a strong, independent business woman, but her behavior this year proved me wrong. This is our reality but it is also a job and not fulfilling your commitment to Bravo is not the act of a business woman.

I am proud of Andy for taking a stand not only for Bravo but also for all of us who share our lives, share our "secrets" and. . .show up.

Over the weeks leading up to the reunion, Adrienne or "her people" were leaking stories that she didn't want to be a part of the show any longer mixed in with stories that she was dating Rod Stewart's 31-year-old son, of course. She has been beating Paul up in the press as well. In fact, she has been quite busy leaking stories to the press all season. There were a couple stories early in the season that were quite detailed and clearly came from inside our circle. It was no surprise that the stories were negative about 'Wives that Adrienne was having conflict with and yet her name was omitted from both "incidents." Guilt by omission, perhaps. I agree with Brandi that Adrienne "buys" her way out of things well, I guess this time she bought herself off a hit show.

"Shut the f--- up gate" started the season off in true Housewives style. Brandi knows how to mix it up and she and Adrienne were destined for disaster from the beginning of Season 3. Once she let the cat out of the bag regarding Adrienne's family "secret," I knew we were in for a wild ride.

I didn't think it was a good decision for Kim to tell Adrienne and Paul what Brandi said especially at Mauricio's business event. She could have spoken to them privately about the whole thing and let them calm down before seeing Brandi. When Brandi said "I will cut a bitch" during the reunion, it made me laugh. Going gangster in Beverly Hills. Paul called Brandi to apologize for the legal mess. That was the right thing to do. I don't agree with Brandi outing the "secret" but their reaction was way over-the-top. I know what its like to be sued as a single mother and it is scary as hell and equally as expensive. "Friends don't sue friends". . .well, they threaten to apparently.

My favorite time watching us all have fun this season was "drunk-nastics" in Ojai. We were having a blast, laughing and acting like girls (girls over 21, that is). It makes me smile watching us be silly and laugh with one another. It doesn't make me laugh seeing my 41 year-old ass flying through the air during that round off. For a night (a late night), we dropped our swords, put our differences aside and had some laughs. . .so much so that Kyle wet herself. Did I mention she and I were sharing a room. . .and a bed! I see a Depends endorsement in the making. As I often say, we are a family, mostly Family Feud but a family nonetheless.

In the beginning of the season, I found it frustrating that Yolanda didn't seem to know much about each of us. She clearly didn't understand how our dynamics work and that we are dramatic. When she would say "these girls" or these "Beverly Hills girls" it sounded condescending. She didn't get that in sharing our reality, we have to think out loud and not hold back.

When I found out she had never watched our show prior to signing up to be on it, I was puzzled. I understood at that point why she didn't get our group dynamic but, I would never take a position without researching a company and the people I was working directly with on a daily basis. it felt disrespectful to me that she knew so little about the hit show we created that she now had the privilege of being a part of. She did admit she made a mistake not watching the show and I appreciated that. As for her attitude being a "Dutch thing," if she is going to say something, she needs to be prepared to accept the consequences and not expect for it to be overlooked because she is from another country. Lisa is as well and she doesn't use that as a pass card.

All this being said, I have many regrets about my not opening up to her in the beginning. I wasn't in a good place and certainly wasn't ready to make new friends. She says she was on guard meeting all of us well, I was on guard as well. My trust in people was shattered and seeing her beautiful life while mine was crashing down around me was making it really difficult. I apologized and I owed that to her. I am in a good place now and my heart is open. Yolanda and I have begun to get to know one another and I look forward o the opportunity to forge a friendship.

I went through a difficult time when I wasn't "coping" well. I was terrified everyday as to how I was going to get through the litigation. I was grieving, and I was angry at the world. I was self-medicating with alcohol and not wanting to "feel." Kennedy was the light that kept me going everyday. She is and always has been my first priority. She is well-cared for by me, a nanny, and my parents. She is surrounded by love. Kyle has become like a second mother to her, and I am thankful that she has others who love and support her. She and Portia are like sisters and watching them grow up together is a joy.

For the last time, lets go through this. My nanny was instructed to stop by Kyle's house to get Kennedy's iPad and then take Kennedy to meet my mother for a sleepover at her home. I was going to Kim's that evening so Kennedy was to stay with my parents. When the nanny stopped at Kyle's, (we live in the same neighborhood and we spend a great deal of time at her home) Kyle asked if Kennedy could stay and play and then go to Kim's. She planned to see me there so she didn't think it would be a big deal. No one called me about the change of plans so, I was surprised to hear Kyle say she was with her. Simple misunderstanding, moving on.

Kim and I do not socialize outside of the show. She knows very little about me. I have friends that care for me and expressed concern about my coping. I appreciated that and took their advice to heart. As for Kim saying she was scared for me and that is was hard for her to be around me, well thats how she made all of us feel for a very long time. Rather than saying we didn't want to be around her, we protected her time and time again. She has never reached out to me off-camera, period.

I do have a new love in my life and no, his divorce is not final yet. . .these things take time. As Yolanda said, assets can take years to divide. We are extremely happy and Kennedy is thrilled to have a father figure in her life. They have a beautiful relationship and she is witnessing for the first time what a healthy relationship looks like. I feel for Brandi that she was pregnant and Eddie was cheating on her repeatedly. Our situation is much different and I think Brandi is starting to understand that.

Andy's prank was hilarious. We really thought a new housewife, maybe Leanne, was about to walk in the room.

Lisa is right. Her relationship with Kyle has changed. This is a tough one for me because I care for each of them. The same happened for me with Adrienne. I thought we were friends and then she lied about being my child's godmother on the Season 1 reunion. I was so shocked, I didn't react at the time. Then, she didn't support me during Season 2 regarding the abuse. I just couldn't look at her the same after that. I realized that the friendship I thought we had was never a real friendship and that it would never be as I had thought. Kyle wants to bury the hatchet between them and go back to how things use to be but, I am not sure we ever get to go back. Feelings get damaged and they just don't heal. Kyle and Lisa care for one another and my hope is that they will get past the struggles. Kyle and I have differing views on Adrienne but it hasn't come between us. We are a group of friends and we are not all going to get along. It's tough to be on one side of an issue while your friend is on the other. Adrienne is not the root of their issues but, I do think she played a role in dividing them further this year. Its going to take time, that's for sure.

I wasn't in Paris so, I wasn't privy to what Yolanda said in regard to Lisa in the airport. I know there was more to the story than what has been covered thus far. Maybe next week we will get to the bottom of it. Kyle doesn't lie, I can tell you that.

Who knew a couch could be so uncomfortable!

Until next week,

Kisses xx
Taylor

Brandi: You Can't Confirm What Didn't Happen

Brandi questions some of the ladies' motives, plus gives an interesting update on her relationship with LeAnn. 

Hey, My Bravoistas!

I’m in my American Airlines' seat 36 hours later, flying back home from NYC, thankful to be on a safe path home. My prayers go out to the families and loved ones of the downed German airliner in the French Alps this morning. I cannot imagine the pain being experienced by these families at this moment, which shockingly has led me to add a new person into my flight prayer today...my children’s stepmom. Don’t get me wrong--not everything is yet copasetic, but my children love her, so she is now in the “flight prayer,” differences aside. Now on a happier RHOBH note, last night’s WWHL with Andy was sooooo fun! No drama for once!

NEWS FLASH! Please watch for my new Sonoma County Chardonnay “Unfiltered Blonde,” to launch in April!

As I look over this past season, all I can say is it’s been an odd one. There were so many fun moments that got lost in the drama and so many weeks of fun you never saw at all. I wish you had, but I'm not in control of everything we get to see. I’d like to remember having fun with Kim “stalking” my now boyfriend J.R. That was such a crazy fun girls' night, Lisa R. being chased by killer bees, Yolanda and her Facetime confusion and meeting her family for the second time this--time in Holland, the Foster Foundation Extravaganza, “singing” at Lisa V.’s birthday party, and Kyle pretending to be a caring sister and owning yachts and planes…haha.
Ok, I’ll behave.

Here we are at the last episode of the season, yet, it seems most are still stuck in the beginning. I wish we weren’t, and I would dearly like to leave “Poker Night” behind. However, one person continues to make it the focal point of every interaction from when it happened and far into the three-part reunion.

This episode opens with Rinna tearing down a swing set, but her home interviews are still about what she perceives as Kim’s issues to be, not the actual touching moment of what the swing set tear-down symbolizes or her own family (I can't wait for her daughters to write their Brooke Shields-style memoir when they are age appropriate). LR says she feels sorry for Kim and cares about Kim and wishes Kim well. The truth is a lot less pretty. Some people have been attacking Kim’s sobriety online this week, but we won’t name names. BTW, Kim is sober and not online. She is busy caring for serious ill family members and driving back and forth to doctors and hospitals and being strong for her family.

Next we see Nicky Hilton’s book signing--sister Paris and mom Kathy Hilton are there. Looks like a great party and congrats to Nicky on her style book. Camille looks gorgeous as usual. Kyle angrily flips her hair, because Kim was wearing a shirt that she carries at “her” shop, but didn’t buy it there...whatever. Then Kyle whispers about her sister Kim to Lisa V. and Camille.
Kyle then tells them she is confused and impatient that Kim hasn’t confronted me over her third-hand Lisa R. gossip. She states Kim WILL be hurt and broken hearted over what “I” said… Kyle seems way too overy excited about that happening, which I find kind creepy. Why would anyone WANT their sister to be hurt or in pain?!

The preparations for Adrienne’s party are in full swing next. Lisa V. is fretting it, Kim is casually discussing the intervention GOSSIP with her makeup artist before the party, I’m getting ready and waiting for my friends and my date.

Adrienne’s party is the big finale of our journey this year. Everyone is there, and Adrienne always excels at events. So here we go. First off, my mind was not on the party at all. My father was recently hospitalized, and I didn’t leave his side for two weeks. It was very serious, but I had to return home to my boys. He was still not conscious, but I needed to get home to run my household--a party was the last place I wanted to be, but I had promised. That’s why I decided to bring the few people that I felt I could depend on in that moment. My friends and J.R. have been there for me during my father’s health scare and over more then a month of hospitalization--that was and is what remains what’s important to me.

The party seems like it was fun for a lot of people who weren’t involved in Kyle and Lisa. R.’s drama. I wish I were one of them, but in a way I was. As much as Kyle relished telling Kim the hurtful gossip she heard from LR, what she wanted to happen didn’t happen. There was no argument between Kim and I. We were happy to see each other. We spoke easily. I was busy worrying about my Dad; she was busy with her family.

What we saw on the finale was an efficient Kim quietly confronting Lisa R., then leaving Lisa R.'s table somewhat amused. Lisa R. couldn’t confirm the veracity of her gossip, because I DIDN’T SAY IT. Thanks again to Bravo for showing the truth in a flashback last week.

So, Kim knew who was who and what was what. The entertainment of the night was provided by Lisa R. going radio silent while Kyle begged for corroboration on her dramatic intervention gossip. Watching Yolanda, Eileen, and Lisa V. urge Lisa R. to support Kyle and verify her hurtful gossip was almost amusing. You can't confirm what didn't happen, can you?

In the end, I left the party early. Why? Not because of a past friendship with Lisa V. It's not her that made me cry--I was crying for my father, my dad! I was in no place to be at a superficial party, discussing a superficial incident with a person who was clearly not a friend, not that night. I said I would show up, and I did. After that, I wanted to be with my real close friends and family. Since this party my dad came out of the ICU and after 2 entire months and after a long stressful time I want to thank Dr. Allen Morris and all the doctors and nurses at Mercy General Hospital of Sacramento for saving my dad's life yet agin for the second time in 15 years. He is doing much better and continuing his hope of a full recovery. I am so thankful to all the people who were there for me and continue to be here for my family and I.

THAT is what life’s about, being with the people who truly love and care about you and the feelings are reciprocated.

As you hear, at the end of the finale, I am wistful, yet, wiser, and I think in a stronger place. I love and loved being there for Kim and being Kim’s friend, and I love that she was, is, and has been here for me. Even more so, I'm grateful and blessed to have Yolanda in my life; she is no bullsh--. Even when suffering herself, she is still so selfless. Yo is very special to me, I love her, she gets me, we have fun together, and I value every moment we spend together. I always will. As for the rest, I hope to share laughs and fun again, maybe tears, but hopefully only joy.

Peace Out. (deuces MFs--JK)

XOXO,

B

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