Cast Blog: #RHOBH

Yolanda's Dutch-Style Candor

Yolanda comments on the finale, Marisa's change of heart, and the timing of Adrienne's divorce.

OK I was confused. I wrote the reunion blog before I realized I was missing Episode 19 so here we go quickly. . .

Maybe in hindsight I should have not brought up the Marisa and Brandi situation because it was Lisa's special night, and it looks like it started a whole mess that was not needed. However, since we were at Adrienne's the night before, it was still fresh in my mind and I wanted to clear up the situation.

Obviously I was not invited to this group to look cute but rather to speak my mind, Dutch-style.

I already expressed my thoughts about Kyle's best friend Faye. She has proved to have absolutely no boundaries. . .

In the moment, I thought Marisa handled the situation correctly. She admitted she should have not read the text to a group of women that obviously hate Brandi.

I liked Marisa, but I just wanted to hold her accountable for not protecting my girlfriend in this situation. As you can tell, in the moment she totally agreed with me so it is disappointing to see her have this change of heart in her blog.

I was surprised to see Linda at Lisa's party, but I did not mind it at all. She is a nice person. We have a big unconventional family, and I support and love the fact that we get along with our exes and make it comfortable for our children to be surrounded by both parents throughout the important times in life.

When I watch myself interact with Kim, I really felt we had a nice connection and established a genuine friendship -- but I guess I was I mistaken.

The public announcement of the Maloof separation was done the morning of Lisa's wedding anniversary party. Obviously, we all acknowledge the seriousness of this and don't wish a divorce on anyone, but this situation arose at such a strange time. Then seeing Adrienne walk into Lisa and Ken's home without acknowledging them was rather uncomfortable. Usually the etiquette is to find the host and hostess and say hello upon late arrival.

The energy obviously changed and unfortunately it really affected the way Lisa felt. It was endearing to see Brandi give Lisa a shoulder to lean on and give encouragement. We always see the strong Lisa so I loved seeing her vulnerable side.

A little B-loving went a long way. Soon the romance was back in Villa Rosa, and the night ended with a beautiful, memorable and loving celebration!

My heart melted when I saw sweet Ken joke, "I will obey you…I have always loved you, and probably never deserved you." Lisa truly loves her husband and this love shines through. In the end it was magical to see that love triumphs all after all.

Rolling right into one other note about the reunion. . .I still did not get my point across regarding the lesbian remark, I sound ignorant because I know that homosexuality is nature over nurture, but I did experience a beautiful gay relationship with one of our daughters who was given the freedom of choice. I was raised in Holland were race and homosexuality are not a subject matter but rather a part of life.

Until next week. . .

Much love and a big hug,

Yo

Lisa V.: How Many Scenarios Can We Excuse?

Lisa Vanderpump tries to make sense of what happened at the reunion and gives us an update on her life since. 

And here we have it...the final episode as the curtain drops on Season 5, the last part of this intriguing trilogy...

Firstly, it is almost too complicated to dissect, but let's try to have a better understanding of the complicated dynamic that materialized this season...

I think upon reflection, it has been pretty obvious after months of filming the intent of some to insert themselves into an already fractious situation. Kim obviously felt bolstered by BG, much to her detriment, as she became a victim of her own volatility. I doubt since filming has wrapped whether there has been much interaction between BG and Kim. It would surprise me greatly if this supposedly close relationship is still flourishing.

What concerned me this season was the manipulative attempt by BG to undermine Kyle and to validate any negativity that Kim was feeling.

Lisa Vanderpump

There's not a lot to say that hasn't been said, really, but what concerned me this season was the manipulative attempt by BG to undermine Kyle and to validate any negativity that Kim was feeling, salaciously stating what a wonderful friend she was and how totally unsupportive Kyle has been. I don't believe the years of dealing with a sibling struggling with alcoholism, supporting financially when needed, should be ignored--also the emotional toll it must have taken on the family. This is a family that has many offsprings who love each other dearly, and that should be paramount. BG has no idea of any history, just a few short months under the glare of reality television.

Also in this final segment, it baffles me once again as to the arrogance as to state what is off limits. How many scenarios can we excuse? Dogs? Children? House? Sobriety? Our business became your business when we entered into your living room. We should strive for transparency, and we should deal with consequences as we profit from the benefits.

I have grown close to Lisa and Eileen and enjoyed them immensely, not always understanding Lisa's actions, but always believing it came from a place of concern, even if sometimes, like in regard to the text she sent, it was a little impulsive. Her anger got the better of her, and for that, I believe she was sorry. I am not making excuses for her, but I am resolute in the belief that provocation sometimes creates a day of reckoning.

My suggestion of putting a band aid on a situation is one of experience. Sometimes we reach for the unreachable, especially when it comes to relationships. Furthermore, we have to accept that idyllic relationships are not always obtainable, but what we should not accept is that the whole family infrastructure, which can be so delicate, would possibly be fractured--weddings missed, birthdays ignored, and all of life's moments punctuated, documented with regret.

So that is what I hope for this season, that the devious trifling is never rewarded by the success in the breakdown of any relationship. Last year, as I sat on my own, aghast at what had transpired, I hoped for a clearer picture, and now I have one, as I think you all do.

Snippets of downtime that have been aired this reunion--cups of tea requests, diarrhea jokes, pussy to the bathroom jokes, didn't know a Flex but definitely knew a Ford--are a great way of also demonstrating that there are giggles in the face of adversity.

Lastly, I would like to say a huge thank you to all of you, who have sent messages of love and well wishes in what has proved to be a trying week. The surgery has been a reminder of how sometimes the indomitable support of those close to you is so valuable, and I appreciate it tremendously. My children by my side, friends, and family are the icing on the cake. Thank you to you all. Ken is doing much better and is well on the way to full recovery.

I have appreciated your comments and enjoyed interacting with you.

Much love as always, 

Lisa

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