Yolanda H. Foster

Yolanda explains her placecard kerfuffle, shares her journey with Lyme Disease and hopes Santa is very good to you.

on Dec 23, 20130

Hello Bravo Lovers! Thank you for your continued support of the show and taking the time to read our blogs. I wish you a very Merry Christmas from our family to yours. May your holidays be filled with happiness, laughter and delicious food shared with those you love.

My greatest joy this time of the year is decorating our home and being in the kitchen with my girls and sister-in-laws preparing the special traditional foods we have grown to love over the years.

Because of my health situation and not being able to run around, we've decided on no gifts this year. This took a lot pressure off of me and I am beyond happy with this free pass.

Getting a clear diagnosis last week of the inactivity in my left frontal lobe was the best Christmas present I could have ever dreamed of. Obviously anything damaged by an outside organism is scary, but at least it validated that I have not lost my mind and that we now have clarity as to why I have been isolated at home for the past year and a half with a paralyzed brain. I am lucky to have entered a clinical trial which I hope to one day be able to share with you as I am counting on being one of the 70 percent success stories they have had so far.

Until then, I will keep practicing my patience. It is definitely not my forte, but I have no choice but to accept the new normal as I continue to visualize the energetic, athletic and multi-tasking woman I once was. Obviously, I wish I had more glamorous and fun news to report to you but unfortunately this is my reality.

Please know that I am not sharing this information with you for any sympathy vote or pity but rather to take pride and make sense of the cards life dealt me. It takes great courage and strength to share and open our lives to you, the viewers, especially when the chips are down. I have chosen to do so because I feel it's my duty to use this platform to bring awareness to the silent killer called Lyme; a disease that so many know so little about. I would also like you to be aware of the fact that no matter how fancy and perfect someone else's life looks to you on the outside, most of us have a story you know nothing about. Unfortunately but absolutely fair to all, the one thing money can't buy is HEALTH and happiness.

Usually David and I love to have dinner parties at our home but, due to my health, this was the only dinner party we've had in the past year -- so I look a little rusty and overwhelmed if I might say so myself. Especially when I realized the big blunder of my handwritten seating cards. I tried to make light of a truly unconscious act but nevertheless it was a terribly rude mistake.

430 comments
katiebaby311
katiebaby311

Yolanda...I <3 You!!  you have definitely become my fave....smart, kind, beautiful, thoughtful, and REAL.  I think you are a great role model for all types of women & girls...you have a refreshing "pro-girl" attitude that I wish more would have too.  I wish you all the strength & health in battling lyme disease....stay strong & much love!! 

~Katie  <3

Deb1958
Deb1958

Yolanda, You are a good person. I think you want to be friends with everyone. Be careful though. You have everything going for you. Great husband and a beautiful family. Don't screw it up. You are not stupid. Going with the flow is not always the right way.

I just thought of when my son called me from his dads, and we were very far apart. I was in Michigan and he was in Mexico. He didn't get along with his step mom and he wanted to leave. He asked me what to do. All I could think of to say at that time was., There is a right way, and there is a wrong way. Think about it and then decide. That is really the only advice we could give anyone. It's common sense, RIGHT?

Reallifewife
Reallifewife

Euro girl Yolanda doesn't need any help looking bad, she is doing a very good good all by herself. If the situation was reversed and Kyle, Kim or Joyce were having a dinner party and drew stupid immature hearts on place cards for the three of them then it would have been a huge deal. Yolanda is not to be admired. She could learn a lot from Joyce and Kyle on how to be kind and gracious. When people sit idly by and snicker and don't correct the bad behavior of their friends then they are just as bad as the offending person.

NaniD
NaniD

I'm sorry but if I am hosting a party, I wouldn't put hearts on certain name tags. Who does that? It's one disrespectful, and two it's in a way saying the others don't matter.

 

But you really are a mean girl so I am not surprised that you did it.

 

I CANNOT STAND YOU!!

WhatRUWatchin
WhatRUWatchin

I don't think you have been mean at all, and can see how you could have doodled the hearts absentmindedly, the Dream Team comment was a reaction to the moment.  How soon people have forgotten the way Kyle and Kim welcomed Brandi to the group, including Kyle and Kim.  They were horrid to Brandi, ganged up on her, and was mean as snakes!  Kim was under the influence, Kyle had no excuse!  Brandi has been having a rough time, but both you and Lisa tried being a positive friend to her.  I think you and David are a class act, down to earth, and having fought health issues for several years that have changed my life, I look up to you!  You live a life most only dream of, but I feel you both have loving, humble spirits.  I am also in awe of your husbands talent, and your beautiful children.  You handle yourself with grace and style.

cocoaa50
cocoaa50

Team Yolanda!!.............What Yolanda did was not mean spirited. I was shocked that she did that. But at the same time I was LOL. As we  all know Kyle is attempting to clean up her image from last season. Captain of the MEAN GIRLS, by playing the victim role to gain popularity.

ShariO
ShariO

Love Love Love Yolanda, unlike so many other comments about Yolanda not standing up for Joyce with the Brandi situation I believe she is being the honorable friend by not saying anything and then in private telling her friend to her face how she feels god bless you Yolanda and praying for you and your health!

blinny
blinny

Your behavior is offensive and hypocritical. 

texasgaga
texasgaga

I really liked you in the beginning, Yolanda. You genuinely seem to love your husband and children. You handled your health scare very courageously. On the other hand, you seem to enjoy being one of the mean girls you refer to as the Dream Team. You would never defend Kyle or Joyce if they were to behave the way Brandi does. There is no excuse for her behavior. A true friend would tell her so.

chulk2
chulk2

Your place settings were really mean Yolanda.  I used to admire you for being so grounded.  What the hell happened?

 

Vthom
Vthom

Love you Yolanda. Don't understand some of the comments I'm reading. You have been extraordinarily compassionate with women who don't deserve it, you are a true friend to those you love and care for....it's so obvious to me what a decent, accepting, and loving woman you are. You have been the best thing to come on any of the housewives shows in some time. I don't care if you have friendships with Lisa, Brandi, and Carlton...that's just silly on the part of the other women. And I think Joyce is one of the most shallow and narcissistic people I have seen in some time. Good luck to you in combatting the illness.

kazzae
kazzae

Yolanda, my dad has only a few days to live due to cancer and I would not even think of associating him with people who were negative. Brandi is such a negative person, it cannot help your fight against Lyme disease? Rid yourself of her negativity and bad choices, move on towards a more positive future and make her become accountable for her own decisions.

sofroniidoinita
sofroniidoinita

I really like you on the show. I hope you are having a happy new year and that you are feeling better health-wise.

Picket@fence
Picket@fence

I just spent 14 hours working in the ER as a nurse, on new years eve, no less. Girl, you need some perspective, from what I obviously know, yes you were very ill, however, you have no excuse to be so rude to people, with such condescension. I take care of the sickest and dying, and the grace and kindness I see from them humbles me every shift. I will never be rich monetarily, but the spiritual rewards are heaven.

shecodes
shecodes

Just like men who marry and befriend women can be sexist, people who marry and befriend minorities can be racist.   They just choose not to PRACTICE their prejudice on people that they LIKE.... but give hell to black people that they don't.    I'm amazed at how you can gloss over Brandi's comments about Joyce's ethnicity, being a foriegner yourself.   I am very disappointed in you.

grub
grub

Don't worry Yolanda. Plenty of people are way sicker than you and they have been for many years, some of them are dying and yet most of them are kind and nice. There's never a good excuse for mean behavior.i pray for your full recovery.

LIVLUVLAF58
LIVLUVLAF58

Here's what happens when you decide to lay down with dog's, you get flea's. Brandi is flea infested

"Do not be deceived, bad company ruins good morals." ~ 1 Corinthians 15:33

 

rogelia3
rogelia3

Yolanda,  is it the lyme disease that is not allowing you to see that Brandi needs help??? 

KrissyU
KrissyU

I thought your dinner party was a complete success.. They always are. Yolanda you Lisa are to wise and big hearted women that deal with the small stuff and let it go. You are trying to teach Brandi that skill, I hope that funny girl can put the bottle down and pick up the skill instead.     

Gemma_72
Gemma_72

       Yolanda I would say the dream team but more like  THE MEAN  TEAM, grow up!

Deniece1382
Deniece1382

Maybe Lyme disease is like alcohol, disinhibiting so your true, immature, cliquish, exclusionary, colors fly.  Very convenient to have a disease on which bad behavior can be blamed.

cigarflower
cigarflower

Yolanda, the person who preaches that 'trust and friendship' are earned, commits a social disgrace by creating the 'the  dream team'. Really? Which etiquette book you subscribe to, to embarrass your guests?

Glittererotica
Glittererotica

I really think you've been spending too much time with Brandi and it's rubbing off! It's plain to see the place cards were an intentional, immature snub! When you reprimand the other housewives for telling you not to act immature...then you had better not act immature! 

Best wishes for continued improving health!

tjjpt
tjjpt

The more you are on the show, the more you reveal yourself to be nothing but a hypocrite who loves to preach one way and act the other way. Don't you know that what happened on that dining at Lisa's or at the swimming pool in Palm Spring was nothing ' petthy ' as you dismissed it to be  but a serious matter. Brandi was being a bully racist and you condoned her behavior. Shame on you.  You are nothing but some silly woman who thinks too highly of yourself.

beverlyhillslover
beverlyhillslover

I'm sorry Yolanda, but your excuses don't cut it. I don't think you meant to start a fight with the hearts on the cards, but it was an obvious slight to the people who didn't have them. You know you were going on and on about how you "love to set a table to make people feel welcome", so I think people find it hard that you would overlook something like that. I have one question: I wonder every time I watch Brandi drunk off her head and saying and doing rude and obnoxious things if you would invite her to your home with your husband's other "famous" friends? I doubt it. She is an embarrassment and you know it. For some sick reason you and Lisa are really enjoying this year watching Brandi implode and her being rude and obnoxious to Kyle and especially Joyce. You and Lisa laughing and snickering and basically sitting there quietly while Brandi goes on a rampage shows that you really are mean girls and bullies. I really hope your young daughters don't emulate you when it comes to treating other women. And I am so glad that Joyce's husband told you off, who are you to tell him to stay out of it, when last year Ken was defending Brandi left and right and nobody told him to stay out of it and she's not even his wife.

Nomorerhonj
Nomorerhonj

Let me be clear, having friends of all races does not minimize the intent nor does it eliminate the sting of a racial remark. So the "I have a black friend" defense needs to go. The difference is knowing your audience. Brandi didn't know Joyce well enough to think that would go over as a joke. I think that is very apparent. It doesn't matter what you thought about Brandi's comment or her intent. The recipient of the remark was hurt by it. You and Lisa are so dismissive of other people's feelings. Why is that? If someone made a racial statement regarding your daughter, I don't believe for one moment you would care if they had Arab or middle eastern friends. You wouldn't stand for it and neither would her father. We can all stand to be a little more compassionate and considerate of other people's feelings.

bluediamondi
bluediamondi

Yolanda became one of my faves. She seemed classy and elegant, respectful and beautiful. I fear she's gotten caught up in the drama and is trying to make a name for herself on this show so she's siding with the girl who doesn't know how to behave..Brandi for attention. Worst of all, she's turning into a mean girl. It's too bad. I really had hopes for her. 

Chickynannel
Chickynannel

Best wishes to you and your family and prayers for a full recovery in 2014

Elizabethsheila
Elizabethsheila

Why on earth was Joyce and Brandi's argument your business. I think your husband will be embarrest when he watches these episodes of you arguing like a high school child. He does socialize with the elite what will they think of you when they see this. OMG

housewifefan2012
housewifefan2012

Yolanda, you may want to think very seriously if you want to stay on the Brandy train ride. You have too much class to be associated with Brandy's behavior. It does not look good.

DeAnna1964
DeAnna1964

I wasn't aware that your husband had written "The Prayer".  The first time I saw Andre Bocelli and Celine Dion perform that song, I was moved to tears.  Still, by far, the most beautiful song I have ever heard.  What a blessing to be married to such an incredibly talented man.  May God Bless and keep you healthy!  Peace ~ D

Success1
Success1

Not a Yolanda fan… fake, two-faced, condescending, classless, insecure.

 

 

rockemsockem34
rockemsockem34

Love your spirit Yolanda! And I LOVE flowers too!!

BonBon1948
BonBon1948

What confounds me is why Foster's ex-wife, Linda Thompson, wasn't there to receive a star on the walk of fame. She was not only married to him the longest of his four, but collaborated with him on many many of his hit songs.

Yolanda, you had nothing to do with his star rising. You just happened to be there just about the time he was ready to receive one.

I used to like you until your real narcissistic, arrogant self emerged. Stay on the show a little longer until you become so obnoxious that he finds someone with humility and REAL beauty in her soul..

iheartc0c0
iheartc0c0

you are a true mean girl. you can keep your group you ladies are RUDE

mitfordgirl
mitfordgirl

I think the hearts were tacky, but who points that out and makes a big deal about it?

Deb1958
Deb1958

 @NaniD You know who does that?? Yolanda does that, and she has the right to do whatever she wants, It's her party and if they didn't like it they could have left, but they didn't , did they. It was a beautiful evening for all. You can't stand her? You don't even know her. I just get so upset with all of you judgemental people who don't even know what others are thinking. Give her a break!!

Sara.Bellum.1
Sara.Bellum.1

 @texasgaga 

Lisa has told Brandi numerous times that her behavior is inexcusable. It does not work to do so. 

So why would Yolanda waste her time? Like she says "I'm not her parent".

It really does not bother me that Brandi is outting Joyce for who she really is. I see Joyce for who she really is and the fact that Brandi is poking fun at it makes that much funnier. Joyce deserves it because she is not only two faced but a complete  fake.

Sara.Bellum.1
Sara.Bellum.1

 @Picket@fence 

What I call tacky is someone who comes to a blog where the author is sick and is on RHOBH to open a discussion about Lyme Disease and it's effects and posts insensitive & negative words — especially but not exclusively about the illness itself and it's effects on the author.

After reading a lot of posts about how Yolanda is a sort of beacon to some very sick people who are grateful to her for trying to shed a light on Lyme Disease and neurological issues.

Apparently the tacky do not know what it is like to suffer with a disease that changes the brain. Apparently the tacky don't know what it is like to watch the scared eyes of a loved one going in to a procedure that has something to do with something so unknown as the brain. They are lucky.

My Father died of a brain tumor. It was a very long process that lasted for two and a half years. He began doing things that were not ordinarily normal for his personality. You never know the effects of what happens with neurological damage. Sometimes it seems that my Father would do things to intentionally hurt my feelings but I had to remember that he had a very serious neurological disease.

You of all people should understand that, Picket@fence. I am questioning your claim that you are actually a Nurse because you don't have the heart of great nurses I have ever dealt with. That or you seem to have a touch of PTSD which is entirely likely if you are an ER Nurse. You're in the wrong profession if your post reveals your true feelings. You know as well as I do that people with brain damage & neurological diseases can have their days.

I'm going to be so tacky to say to the tacky that I hope that karma bites each one of them in the ass and hope that they find themselves in a situation where they need compassion and all people do is point fingers and make sarcastic comments to them.

Negativity is never acceptable in any serious illness. It takes persistent positivity to heal.

My best to you, Yolanda. I wish you a speedy recovery. You're beautiful inside and out.

 

Louboutin
Louboutin

@shecodes ITA on everything you said. Did you hear Yolanda quietly say she ONLY sits with Europeans? .

Vthom
Vthom

@rogelia3 She knows that..what do you want her to do? Brandi is a grown woman, and you should be able to see she's losing her friendship with Lisa....because Lisa is speaking up...Yolanda is not Brandi's mother

koczusia
koczusia

 @Glittererotica Brandi or not Yolanda is responsible for her own behavior and choice of friends.It's all Yolanda.

Itokagi23
Itokagi23

 @DeAnna1964 Lyrics to The Prayer were written by David Foster, Tony Renis and Carol Bayer Sager. 

Skimom60
Skimom60

 @BonBon1948  What a stupid comment. She was there because she is MARRIED to him and he is divorced from Linda. It doesn't matter one bit if Yolanda wasn't part of his career - she is his WIFE! 

koczusia
koczusia

 @BonBon1948 Agree ,and I was surprised as at their anniversary dinner Yolanda was "teaching" us again what to do to keep a marriage alive and sexy.

Well if only she could prove it.Two years with David and seven with Mohamed do not qualify.Yet again,Yolanda you think you know it all.

Sucked_in
Sucked_in

@BonBon1948 well said! I think Yolanda is far more concerned about her 'image' than any single thing in her life. Did you read her blog?! She calls this her platform to educate. Laughable!