Lisa R: Let's Call a Spade a Spade
Lisa R. explans why it's time to get answers and stop ignoring the issues.
Can we all just start off by taking a collective deep breath and really let this episode sink in? There is just so much going on with intense emotions and feelings that are being felt on a really, really deep level. Too bad all two million of us can’t meet at Yolanda’s gorgeous pool for some mind clearing yoga, right?
The end of Kyle’s gay mixer was full of tears and conversations filled with questions that began with the word WHY. Why do certain people behave a certain way? Why is it OK to say certain things to someone else? Why do we all keep letting this happen? There are just so many unanswered questions, and for Eileen and me to be the new girls on the block, we really have these questions just waiting to come from our lips.
“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.”
I’ve been saying it all along in different interviews and now you are finally seeing it. I just feel it’s my place as a friend to these women to ask questions, questions that need to be asked, questions that are important to the foundation of all of our different and very dynamic relationships. You all can see what’s going on; every week I say I don’t need to break it down for you, and it’s true! I know our viewers see exactly what’s happening. I’m here to ask what you want to ask and to say what you’re thinking.
Let’s start with the yoga session followed by conversation with Yolanda at her place in Malibu. Yolanda is such a classy woman and has been a true friend to Brandi. Watching her talk to Brandi about her drinking really resonated with me, until Brandi deflected by hitting below the belt and called out a child before answering a question about her own potential issues. As a mother, this really affected me. Could you imagine offering your friend sound advice from a place of concern and love only to have them panic at the reality they were facing, turn it around, and then manipulate the conversation into being a rumor about your child? Oh. My. God. No. As usual, Yolanda handled this like the champion she is.
How incredible of Eileen to plan a lunch for Kim, Kyle, and herself in order to help the two sisters mend their relationship. I can’t even begin to imagine how hard it must be for Eileen to watch the complications of the Richards sisters’ relationship after losing two of her own sisters, one of which passed just mere months before. I think it shows that Eileen is an amazing character for her to make the effort to reach out and share her story in hopes of helping Kyle and Kim.
More of my own heartstrings are tugged at as we watch the family dynamic between Max, Pandora, and Lisa V. This is what life is all about to me: family and love that runs so deep, regardless of being a biologically tied or not. Lisa is handling Max’s desire to research his biological family past with such grace and class. We have seen many poignant moments with this situation, and listening to Pandora tell Lisa that Max was theirs was a vulnerable and beautiful moment. Much love to the Vanderpump-Todd family.
Speaking of family and children, we caught a quick glimpse into my own household when my daughter Amelia was running late for a One Direction concert. Watching this was like looking into a mirror. I absolutely cannot stand being late for anything, and I get really stressed out when it happens. Clearly this is something Amelia gets from me, and when it’s coupled with holding up her ride for 10 minutes and a One Direction concert, instinct and desperation kicks in. A 13-year-old girl running late for a concert with five cute guys is like missing a 100% off sale at Neiman's.
Clearly there is a lot of tip-toeing going on around Kim Richards, and I just don’t understand why everyone is so hesitant to approach her about it.
Lunch with Brandi was interesting, wasn’t it? So, before we sat down for lunch, I had actually just done her podcast. I really wanted to spend this one-on-one time with her, because I had so many questions that I felt only she could answer. I had also talked to the other women about her and her behavior already, so I felt I needed to speak directly to her. The Brandi that showed up for lunch was a sensible, empathetic woman who made some pretty powerful statements. Asking for a group intervention with a therapist? There’s a whole lot of meaning behind those words! Discussing how Kim would murder her then kill herself if she found out we were discussing her sobriety was another eye-opening and very telling statement for me.
“If the addict is pleased with your help, you’re probably enabling. If the addict is pissed as hell, you’re probably helping the person you love.” -Sandy Swenson
Clearly there is a lot of tip toeing going on around Kim Richards, and I just don’t understand why everyone is so hesitant to approach her about it. There is definitely a reason I am here among this group of women, and maybe it’s to ask questions and to call a spade a spade.
“Always help someone. You might be the only one who does.”