When Erika invited us all to dinner, I was really disappointed I had to miss it because of work. I was on set doing pyrotechnic stunts; running down a burning hallway, covered in layers of dirt, and wearing a long dress and five-inch heels (I only ate it once!). But after watching what happened at dinner, I think I had the more pleasant evening.
Dinner was guaranteed to be a little awkward after everything that went down at Wally’s. But it got worse when half the dinner party had to cancel. And worse still when Kathryn felt the need to comment or “joke” as she said, about Lisa R.’s eating habits.
It was odd to me, because very recently, at Kathryn’s home in San Diego no less, Lisa R. made a point of saying she didn’t like those comments being made about her. I don’t believe Kathryn is trying to be hurtful, but then again, can you imagine saying those things to someone who was overweight? I just don’t get her behavior. It only got weirder as Kathryn continued to get aggressive and argumentative throughout dinner. Even going so far as to take on the host!
I don’t think Erika’s language is “false lashes.” I think her language is “straight-forward.” After much discussion, it came out that Kathryn had shared the whole “web convo” thing to get a reaction out of Erika. Whaaa? I don’t want to say I think that’s not true, but I do doubt that’s the whole reason. I think it’s something deeper. I’m just not sure what.
There were a lot of other things that happened in this episode, but I have to talk about the conversation on the beach between Lisa R. and me. That conversation was a game changer.
Lisa R. dropped a bombshell about the origins of the Munchausen comment. But, since Lisa R. confessed that Lisa V. had prompted her to mention it, I have to confess something, too: I already knew that. Lisa R. had told me of past instances where she had felt pressured from Lisa V. to say or do something. That knowledge was underneath my reaction to her at Wally’s, and frankly underneath a lot of things that have happened in the last weeks. What I wasn’t prepared for was all the other stuff. I didn’t know the words “faking it” were being thrown about. I didn’t know that Lisa R. wouldn’t have said the “M” word if she had not been encouraged by Lisa V.
Then, Bombshell #2: Lisa R.’s strong feelings about Yolanda. They had just worked out their issues about the Munchausen’s (well at least it appeared that way to me), and then Lisa R. confessed she might think that Yolanda has a lot emotionally going on that is not being dealt with. And that she’s even more manipulative than Lisa V. Okaayyyyyy....
I must say, I don’t see Yolanda in the same light as Lisa R. does, but she feels strongly about her convictions. She clearly believes what she’s saying. Lisa R. is not mean, and would never say these things lightly, which leaves me a bit perplexed about the whole thing.
At the Habitat for Humanity site, all I can say is Lisa R. better have some extra duct tape left over for me. My persistent need for resolution is starting to really bug the crap out of me. Erika was talking about Kathryn, and Kathryn was less than then 10 feet away. I figured if they talked it out…well, the rest is history. Anyway, I called Kathryn over to explain herself. I did not think it would escalate that quickly, but then again, I was not at Erika’s house for dinner. I’m glad they finally hugged it out, but I’m sensing it’s going to be a long time before the two of them are “genuine girlfriends.”
And for the record, I am VERY proficient in manual labor. I paint things, hammer things, and bring people face to face to have conversations they may not want to have! Maybe I should just stick to the running out of burning buildings…