Lynda Erkiletian

Lynda shares her thoughts on certain medicinal herbs.

on Oct 15, 20100

What a long, emotional, and revealing day! I appreciate that the reunion provided a forum in which to openly discuss our questions and opinions, as well as yours, about all that has transpired on this inaugural season of the Real Housewives of DC. Of course, some comments raise more questions than they answer, so I'd love to address those points here.

The Woman Who Cried Wolf

Firstly, while I am very critical of the Salahis and their spin-factory assembly line of contradictions, I need to reiterate that I sincerely miss the Michaele I once knew. If she does in fact have Multiple Sclerosis, I will of course support her in any way and wish her a long, healthy life full of blessings. I hope that she will use this opportunity to set a good example for other people struggling with this difficult and potentially debilitating disease. However, my previously expressed doubts are best represented by the familiar parable, "The boy who cried wolf." When people lie continually, misrepresent themselves, and even manipulate the truth to satisfy their agendas, it becomes impossible to discern when they are sincerely suffering. Michaele is indisputably guilty of all of the above; therefore my first and honest response was "BS." I hated to see her cry or feel bullied by us "mean girls," but her attack on Cat regarding her dissolved marriage with Charles was more mean-spirited and misguided than anything anyone said on that couch. I would like to believe that she truly "is from a different make" as she later asserts to Mary, that she doesn't know "how someone can feel good about hurting somebody." But this seems like yet another contradiction given her insensitivity and even cruelty towards Cat. I say she needs a therapist because: A) We all do! B) She appears out of touch with reality, as Stacie mentions, she lives "in a delusional world." I truly hope she gets the help she needs and deserves. 

107 comments
getwiththetimes
getwiththetimes

Lynda, why is it ok for Mary to be drinking all the time, but you cant smoke up? Who makes these rules? LEGALIZE IT!!!!

Jason B
Jason B

Actually he did say she eats a filet mignon every day. He mentioned her ordering a grilled chicken breast at a restaraunt in a different episode.

Viewer1001
Viewer1001

You seem nice. I think you have treated Michaele wrong and you should be ashamed of yourself.

eve4ever
eve4ever

Lynda, Stay the way you are, never change. You are honest and straight to the point no BS. I am was really happy at your insisting on having the other men out when the other half of the party crasher came out.

Politcal Junkie
Politcal Junkie

Lynda, This is to Lynda and Bravo, really. Thank goodness you finally put someone on these shows who IS educated, not women who claim to be educated! Reading Lynda's blog was fun, not a chore, because the dear woman can write without grammatical error and faulty sentence structure! I realize that all the women have editors (some much more skilled than others), but either way, I feel less foolish for watching a reality show knowing that someone, Lynda, really does have half a brain (or much more, in Lynda's case). Andy, reconsider? Refreshed in Michigan P.S. The ONLY other Housewife who can communicate effectively beyond a post-it note is Bethanny!

tinykaty
tinykaty

I love love love you! Your genuine, honest, and kind-hearted.

Viewer in NC
Viewer in NC

You seem to be more interested in bringing Michaele down than you do about building your business back up.

Austin, TX
Austin, TX

You were the biggest surprise. I sadly judged you as the snob of the group. Really there isn't a snob of the group. You are lovely and seem to be the fair minded in your opinions. Thank you for proving me wrong. You lovely and good for you to have such a cute boy friend.

Mary T
Mary T

Thanks for your insight into MS. It is okay for the other housewives to not believe Mrs Salahi but they don't know about the disease and should shut up about it....I have never seen so many judgemental, know-it-all women in my life! I wish you and your sister good health in the future!

Deninge Sims
Deninge Sims

I want to say thank you for sharing your life with us this season. You are simply wonderful and hope to see you next season

Katiann
Katiann

Every good deed you are doing for your commmunity is over shadowed by every ugly remark you make toward Michaele..... It's very sad

irishlass.il
irishlass.il

For someone who is so spiritual you spent a lot of the time judging others, wishing ill will for people, etc. etc. Please practice what you preach and stop sending negative energy to people you don't approve of. Really, if you can't say anything nice keep it to your self.

Viewer12
Viewer12

You are not a "mean girl". You asked for the truth and became frustrated when she continued to lie. You are not a bully.

SassyJess
SassyJess

You are my favorite housewife of all time! I love your honestly, vulnerability, sensuality, and ability to be a strong figure for your family while sill maintaining your feminine mannerism and ways.

You are truly adorable. I am a huge fan!

ViewerDenver
ViewerDenver

Had to laugh at Laura S. By your thinking: Who cares if Lynda cares if she has MS! I find it funny that you offer an opinion and yet think Lynda should not have or voice one.

Pleasepost
Pleasepost

You are adored Lynda - by a whole group of us who think the DC wives has been the most interesting housewives show on Bravo.

We don't think you're a mean girl at all! You avoided Michaele for most of the season, which doesn't constitute bullying. The only bullying we actually saw was at Michaeles dinner party when Tareq and Michaele attacked Mary with threatening allegations about her daughter. We think she's quite cold blooded under that I Love You mask.

Both you and Cat get our thumbs up for being straight talking ladies.Michaele on the other hand, is our least favorite. A friend who's a psychologist tagged her as a "narcissictic predator".

Love your guts and smarts! We wish you the very best and hope you'll be back next season. God Bless you!

paper gal
paper gal

You are awesome! I love that you are quirky in good way and you have a sense of humor about it. Also, love how you aren't afraid to tell it like it is. I really hope you all are back next year (minus Michale)!

Lynda You Rule !
Lynda You Rule !

May I just say that I was one of the people that posted a comment about how much I liked you early in the season. You have not disappointed me and have proven to be consistent and have carried the show the whole time. I absolutely loved you at the Reunion last night. I think even Andy was floored by your honesty. I also hope that a lot of people learned much about race relations from you as well. Thank you for being respectful of your other cast mates (Michaele not included). You are truly a classy woman and embody how a true "southern belle" should behave.

Blessings to you Ebong and your lovely family

MrsTaras
MrsTaras

Can I just tell you that I LOVE you! "Outing" yourself re pot on the reunion was great. Maybe someday it will be legal and we wont have to settle for wine and scotch lol. Hope to see you on Season 2!

micheley
micheley

Lynda, I am an RH addict and have been for years. After each new cast is revealed and I watch a season, I am always drawn to one person. This cast, I feel that you represent the person I can most relate to. I have to tell you though, I am always disappointed after other seasons when stardom or celebrity or reality sets in and the people end up disgusting me. I am starting to become jaded in that I choose poorly and am obviously not seeing these people for what they are. Please dont change, for those of us on the brink of ending our addiction.

Real Fan
Real Fan

I have watched each and every housewife episode since Bravo began the series and all I can say is you stand out as the only honest real person on this series that I have respect for and really enjoy watching. Thanks for keeping it real. Look forward to your next season.

MrMiaWallace86
MrMiaWallace86

Linda, I love absolutely everything about you! That's seriously all I can say after this season. Stay beautiful, amazing and just plain fabulous!!!

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

You are just a smart, sexy and wonderful woman..."mental-pause" and all. You were an AMAZING addition to the DC cast. This is one sophisticated group, in comparison to some of the other Housewife shows. And, I agree with so much, actually ALL of what you so eloquently blogged about here: Cat is not a racist, whosoever keeps coming to that topic is a racist in and of themselves; Micahele....well, you are too kind on her... Mary, a laid back and fab young mom. Kudos to her for making motherhood so hip, loving, supportive and YOUNG! Stacie, good she found the family, but I was surprised none of the other ladies knew it. I guess you are not close with her as you are with Mary and Cat. and INDEED I agree...let's get on with medical marijuana already. I agree pot is better than booze...although a good Bordeaux is hard to beat. I'm not the DIGNIFIEDaddict;) for nothing....teehee.....

Bootheel Chick
Bootheel Chick

Your a great person who calls it like it is, I almost died laughing when you said her "initials were MS and the rest is BS". Besides the nut job couple your group of housewives are definitely my favorite of all the housewives.

southernhw
southernhw

Lynda thank you for your honesty! You are brave for admitting to preferring pot to alcohol. I hate the taboo that surrounds marijuana in this country. We live in a culture that feels it's fine to pop anti-depressant or some other wonder drug the pharmaceutical industry is currently pushing but god forbid smoke an organic herbal plant. Your insight and perspective on the show are always spot on, thanks for keeping it real!

vickysue
vickysue

I agree with your assessment of Cat, and of Stacy, who will not completely own up to her comments. You have become my favorite, along with Cat, because you seem to have common sense, and empathy, yet you are not a fool by any means. I hope you will be back next season.

And the hot flashes, well mine have not stopped. I can't even blow dry my hair because I keep soaking so I have just given up and wear it natural or in a pony or a double pony.

haleyann
haleyann

I have to say you are my favorite on this show! I feel that you are the most up front of all of them. You know who you are and have a good sense of right and wrong. Contrary to what some people say, you are NOT mean at all - quite the opposite. It is nice to see someone who stands up for what is right! I also enjoy Cat and was just floored by the low blows that M dealt her saying stuff like "At least I am married, Cat!" Having been divorced, I know that Cat didn't get offended by the statement because it doesn't mean anything to her, but the intent from M was to hurt - not love like she always says she does. She is such a hypocrite. Everyone with half a brain knows that you, Cat, Mary, and Stacie are not at all jealous of M. You have such lovely families and full lives and real money in the bank! Good for you! I hope M. gets the help she needs to straighten her life out. So sad.

Laura S.
Laura S.

Hi Linda, I have always liked you on housewives, but did you see yourself at the reunion, what do you care if she has M S? The way you went on and on, was sad!!! Who cares, give it a rest, we all know she has serious problems! Mentally, Laura, San Jose

S
S

It seems that you know Michaele the longest and may or may not remember that their wedding was postponed. It would be interesting to hear her reason for the delay as there was some dishonesty going on even way back then!!!

Linda from NC
Linda from NC

Lynda I think you are great, glad you stood up for yourself and the other girls, Tareq should not come out unless the other men did also. Michaele and Tareq should be ashamed of how they acted this season, but I don't think they know how. Good Luck to you and we adore you and Cat.

Debra Haire
Debra Haire

Lynda,

I really wanted to comment on your "new" information re: MS. There are 3 types of MS, each has a different pattern, treatment and symptoms. Michaela appears to have Relapse Remitting which means she has flare-ups and then recovers. The fact that she is thin can very well be symptomatic of her disease. She has spoken of numbness and tingling in her arms and feet. Watch the tapes, sometimes she is moving her feet about which sometimes comforts the sypmtom. As to the diet that some dr. told you about, it is called the SWANK diet, is archaic and seldom recommended. There are much better remedies today.

Speaking to her drs., the reporters who informed you of her drs. are in violation of HEPA and could be prosecuted. The fact Michaele revealed her disease is that her whole life is under a microscope and people with MS are often misunderstood, persecuted on the job market, avoided as though their disease is communicable.

So Lynda, in retrospect, you should not speak of something you nothing about. I question your dr. friends? I know of what I speak. I have had MS since 1998; my sister has had it is since 1980. We each have a different type and are treated differently. I am treated at Barrows Neurological Center in Phoenix and my sister is treated in Seattle.

corky
corky

Lynda! At first I had no opinion of you, but slowly as I saw you interact with the other housewives I started noticing you always saying exactly what I was thinking!! Everyone else always seemed to DC it up with ignoring the elephant in the room and not standing up to people. You are amazing! I wish I had friends like you! Those girls are lucky to have you! In an old saying you are a "ride or die chick" :)

Kelly4
Kelly4

You and Cat are my absolute favorite. You tell it like it is with no back peddling or talking in circles. You are straight forward and always spot on. Best wishes.

Sue H
Sue H

Lynda,

You are an incredible woman. A credit to the women of the world. Kind and smart, compassionate and forgiving. I hope to be more like you. I believe you hit the nail on the head in your blog when referring to Mrs. Salahi and I also believe that she could be back to her old self if her husband was out of the picture. I've watched him more closely than ever in these last episodes and Mary's right about him. There's a reason he was sent to military school. He's not right and you can see it in his face if you look close enough. Hope to see you next season!!!

Viewer97971
Viewer97971

Love, love, love you! Nice to see someone be open and honest. Keep it real! You're amazing!!

Lisa llm
Lisa llm

Thanks for coming out on the marijuana. My mother was on doctor prescribed pain meds that made her out of it and eventually put her in the ICU for 5 days after a nasty fall due to the mixture of narcotics, again all per her prescription from a pain doctor. Luckily here in Colorado (the healthiest State:) we do have medical marijuana and she has been free of narcotics for 1 year. You never hear of MMJ ruining families like alcohol, lab-drugs such as coke or meth or prescription drugs. I hope everyone knows that marijuana is not a drug to be scared of. It has natural components that will help so many aliments. LEGALIZE!

Cat Fan
Cat Fan

ps, Michaele may have been telling the truth that what appeared to be recent weight loss was really her just ending a course of steroid treatment. I have gained 20 pounds after a course of steroids and it goes away pretty quickly once the treatment ends.

Cat Fan
Cat Fan

Mary- I have no idea if Michaele really has MS, but you got one thing wrong. People with MS are not supposed to eat saturated fat and are supposed to restrict all other forms of fat, there is no restriction on protein as you said on the reunion. Also, to clarify, Tareq said that Michaele eats a grilled chicken breast every night, not filet mignon. Grilled skinless, boneless chicken breast is very "legal" for people on low saturated fat diets for the treatment of MS while beef is not allowed solely due to its saturated fat content. As a person who suffers from MS, I know how important it is to avoid saturated fats and not eat too much of other types of fat. This *may* be why Michaele is so thin. However I also know that one of the main symptons of MS is often debilitating fatigue and it is one sympton that seems to be pretty universal among MS patients. Keeping active and bubbly would be extremely difficult especially after 17 years of disease progression (I am on year 3 and can barely keep up with my toddler). Also, MS is known as the "but you look so good" disease because the symptons are so varied and personal to everyone. I know how hard I suffer and when someone tells me "but you look so good" I want to cry because they are either implying that I am lying/exaggerating or belittling my true experience. I know she is a nut case and totally delusional in almost everything she says and does, but please learn a little bit about MS before you accuse her of making it up. As someone who has it, I know how hard it is for those around you to not appreciate how much I am suffering because they can't see it. Otherwise, you totally rule and Ebong is so hot -- you go girl!

ditennessee
ditennessee

Lynda, you are a breath of fresh air. A Real Housewife who is honest and doesn't thrive on the misery of others - gasp! Perhaps you could give Stacie lessons? She seems to enjoy other people's misery.

aunt kiki
aunt kiki

From commercials, I did not think I would like you but you have turned out to be that little pleasant surprise! You are calm, cool and collected. I love that. And you are very perceptive and intuitive it seems. I felt you were the voice of reason for season one. I am with you about Cat. Americans just don't get the Brits humor sadly. I hope she never censors herself and well, I know you won't.... Enjoyed the poem!

Sunserae214
Sunserae214

Linda. You seemed really down to earth. Thanks for your blog.

The Watcher
The Watcher

Lynda, It occurred to me that Michaele and Tarreq are trying to live it up, because life is too short not to make as interesting and entertaining as possible. If Michaele has MS, Tareq may be attempting to make her life as happy and as full and exciting as he can. It is easy to tell that Tareq truly loves Michaele. Some people would like to do things they can only dream of, but they never do them.

Kelly4
Kelly4

I believe everything you said was spot on. You and Cat are my favorites because you're real and tell it like it is, no backpeddling, no talking in circles. Just honest and straight forward. Someone recently asked my mom if I was racist (I am not, I have two black step-children). She replied "No. She hates everybody just the same". Good luck in everything that you do.

DC Fan
DC Fan

Lynda... you are an intelligent, grounded, and rational woman who also expresses deep care and concern for others. I appreciate your sincerity and honesty. If one wants to perceive it as mean-spirited, then that's their choice, but everyone needs a reality check from time to time... some more so than others. I like how you and Cat are not afraid to just tell it like it is. The only way I grow is when my friends call me out on bad behavior or on something I might be concealing. We have a saying, "Our secrets make us sick." That's what friends are for... to be honest with you, and to support you. You clearly do both for those you care about. Thank you for revealing what an eclectic, vibrant, and classy culture DC has to offer. I was hoping to find the intelligent women I was seeking in RHDC, and I certainly found it in you and some of your cast mates. Thanks!

Lynda Lover
Lynda Lover

Bravo Lynda! Every episode throughout the season you got better and better. And last night's finale part 1 was the icing on the cake. You speak the truth, and I know you honestly care about your fellow "housewives," and when it comes to Michaele, only want to offer her heartfelt advice. You were poised, eloquent, and controlled, which is a lot more that I can say for other "housewives," on this season and past. Thank you for making RHWoDC a delight to watch. I look forward to season 2.

Shelby Lynn
Shelby Lynn

Thanks for being honest about the helpful use of Marijuana. I suffer from Osteoporosis as a result of having a Hysterectomy at 26 and smoking pot & doing yoga really helps my body not hurt so much & cope. I appreciate that someone has the balls to speak up about it.

Since your all about platforms.... make that yours !

A Real Texas Housewife !

201maryf
201maryf

Love the way you were so direct with Andy when he wanted to bring only Tareq out, and not the other husbands. You were so right, and you got your point across without profanity, yelling, stomping your foot, or walking off. Loved that moment of the reunion. Good for you.

iheartyr
iheartyr

Again, I just love ya! Particularly your honesty is what I find appealing. For instance, the Reunion when you mentioned having smoked pot. You said it without hesitation or shame. Millions and millions of Americans smoke pot (both legally and illegally) but so many like to pretend its an evil drug that only addicts participate in. I love Stacie but her reaction to you mentioning pot was a little PollyAnna, and, in my opinion, put on. Didn't want to zero in just on the pot thing (because to me, its no big deal) but it was just another example of how truthful and forthcoming you are about your life. Its very refreshing, considering how dishonest and false your castmate, Mrs. Salahi, is. Can't wait for Part II!