Lynda Erkiletian

Lynda gives her thoughts on the ice cream social scandal and Cat's new book.

on Sep 30, 20100

 

First and foremost, I want to thank y'all for your continued support. Please forgive the delay in posting. I’ve been having fun in addition to working. All work and no play makes for a dull life. I’m blessed today to be sitting in the beautiful sunshine in one of my favorite cities, Los Angeles. I arrived late Wednesday evening to prepare for the annual Operation Smile gala emceed by Billy Bush honoring Harrison Ford, John Stamos, and Susan Casden. I caught Michaela and Tareq on Billy's new live Access Hollywood show this morning and I have to thank him for tackling the rumor that Michaele was not a Redskinette as she has claimed. He clearly did his homework and he didn’t back down when she talked in circles. He pursued it head on until he got to the truth, which is, she has never been an NFL Redskins cheerleader. Seriously, I just don't know what to make of it. Having experienced firsthand her ability to lie about so many topics (some more entertaining than others) with a big smile on her face just astounds me! Then there's her "other" face where she plays the victim so well. I have never met anyone like her or Tareq! It is just another one of those stories that they make up on a day-to-day basis to keep themselves in the limelight. 

I may be a little tired and grumpy today because I’m still recovering from an incredible night out with family and friends celebrating my birthday, again! It was a surprise and for those who know me, I’m not big on surprises. But this was an exception, since it was intimate and hosted at Jose Andrés' new restaurant, The Bazaar at the SLS Hotel. INCREDIBLE...five stars all the way! Thank you, Stephanie and Michael, for hosting such a wonderful evening. 

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I’ve read enough of Cat’s book to tell you that when she squares away a publisher it will be on the NY Times Best Sellers list. I’m proud of her for pressing the “delete” button when it came to her marriage. Not everyone has the self-confidence and strength to remove themselves from an unhealthy relationship. Dis-ease brings disease. :(

Marriage Equality 

I think I made myself clear on my views regarding gay marriage. Hopefully I’ll live long enough to see the day where all God’s people are treated equally. 

95 comments
Guilty Pleasure
Guilty Pleasure

Linda, I thought I wouldn't like you, but I was wrong - I do! Erika was so childish and she was dead wrong for the way she behaved. If I was Stacy I would have asked Erika to leave. Don't like Erika! First off, why is she so offended by Cat not liking Tyra Banks? She commented that Cat must know her personally to say she dislikes her. Well, does Erika know Tyra personally to get so wound up because someone does- n't like Tyra?? PLEASE! Hey Erika, I don't like Tyra either, in fact, I can't stand Tyra -WHAT YOU GONNA DO ABOUT IT?? Anyway, Linda I enjoyed your company - look forward to next season!

Kristian
Kristian

There's a difference about being open and honest and being rude. Cat deserved for someone to speak to her about her behavior It wasn't Staci's fault but she could've popped in the convesation and said something. If anyone should've been offended it should've been STACI! Although Erica didn't do it in the right place, time, or enviroment it still needed to be said. UNLIKE you who said so many bad things about Michaele about her behind her back. To be such an older woman your antics are very high school.

KEY-POINT
KEY-POINT

PERSONALLY I THINK ERICKA WAS RIGHT ON WITH THE COMMENTS SHE MADE REGARDING CAT, YOU CAN BARLEY UNDERSTAND HER WHEN SHE TALKS BUT WHATEVER YOU CAN MAKE OUT IT'S ALWAYS SOMETHING VERY NEGATIVE. IS IT WRONG FOR SOMEONE TO GIVE THEIR OPINION ABOUT SOMEONE OR SOMETHING? NO IT ISN'T AND THAT WAS JUST WHAT ERICKA WAS DOING GIVING HER OPINION AND STACIE DID THE RIGHT THING AND STAYED OUT OF IT YES IT WAS HER HOME BUT AT THE SAME TIME THEY ARE TWO WOMEN THAT CAN HANDLE THINGS FOR THEMSELVES AND DIDN'T NEED AN INSTIGATOR I THINK LYNDA NEEDS TO COME OFF HER HIGH HORSE BECAUSE THE WAY SHE SPEAKS ABOUT THE SILAS, MAYBE THAT'S WHY SHE AND CAT GET ALONG THEY ARE BOTH NEGATIVE PEOPLE THAT LIKES TO TALK ABOUT OTHERS AND NOT BE TOLD ANYTHING BACK.

Viewer2309
Viewer2309

Sorry, but i don't agree with you, Cat didn't deserve that at all whatsoever, she doesn't deserve that. First of all, it was a gathering for the Children to have Ice Cream to hang with other kids and the adult are there to hang and social while the kids are having fun, so for Erika to come out to Cat like that was uncalled for and so what Cat doesn't like Tyra, so what it is her opinion what is the big deal for Erika to get upset for something stupid like that, it is an opinion that is all, Erika needs to get over it and start acting like a lady, not a stupid bully coming from the streets with all her home girls, please, what the hell is her problem, Erika was the rude person, not Cat. Point Blank, Erika was totally wrong to confront Cat on her being rude, Erika just didn't like the comments Cat made, you don't have to like it but you don't have to be a bully to someone to make them be what you want them to be. Excuse me, but if Erika did that to me in Front of MY Children, OMG, I WILL definitely beat her up, sorry I know it is not lady like, but in front of my children you are going to talk to me like that in front of them and you don't expect me to do nothing, oh please do that so I CAN show how I Can be, I too can be rude and will kick her ass and make sure that all can see, Erika is wrong to do that and as for Cat, she is just stating her opinion, she doesn't like Tyra, ok, her opinion that's all, she is just a person that say what she mean and hey that is cool, she doesn't waste your time, she tells it like it is and it is refreshing, Erika and maybe the others don't like her because they think Cat is abrassive, but she's not that is how she is, it's just people are too sensitive they should learn to really pick their battle and not little things, like "I don't like Tyra', it is so small.

Viewer2309
Viewer2309

She is helping, you just don't see that way you want it to be sugarcoated and sorry but it can't be that way especially to a grown woman who already knows that she has been lying to everyone, but doesn't care as long as she gets what she wants. So, yeah this is how the Salahis are and will continue to be, the problem is that you don't like it that it is the truth and yeah Lynda can say whatever she wants if she see that there is something wrong and she is gonna express it, why hide it? Isn't that what the Salahis does. Lynda is not beating up on someone she is just telling the truth about these people and the problem is that you can't handle it or don't want to believe it, that's ok, not everybody agrees, but you don't say she is beating up on a person when you don't agree, just say you don't agree, that is all and move on. I definitely agree with Lynda, she is dead right on this one, do your research and you too will see. Peace & Love Toni

Denice P
Denice P

Lynda - WOW You are so great! I don't judge, but honestly I was not sure at the beginning if I would like you and I surprised myself even more, because not only do I LOVE you but I ADMIRE you as well. You are a wonderful person and as I go through life myself I can see me becoming more and more like you. Thank you for being an inspiration and so great to watch! Love you!

RealWorkingHousewife
RealWorkingHousewife

I agree~ and I also think that Lynda may be intellectually well-spoken, and she can guise her insults by using proper grammer!

one_suppawoman
one_suppawoman

Lynda, you are such a class act. I enjoy watching you every week. Continued success, peace and love!

AO
AO

Lynda,

You have turned out to be my favorite DC housewife! Your class, honesty, and integrity shines through. You stick to your values and it is refreshing. We know the show doesn't give us all the behind the scenes- so it is very telling that you are supporting Cat-because ultimately she needs to tone her sarcasm/rudeness down- hopefully you can infuse some southern charm into her. :)

Joesph Taylor
Joesph Taylor

Lynda, You are a class act, I love how you were the only one that was full of enough sense to stick up for Cat, very bad hosting on Stacie's part. I do hope and pray that you are blessed beyond measure, you, Cat, and Mary. You three are my fave and sometimes Stacie. Keep up the great work!

LynneH
LynneH

You look identical and speak just like Danielle Staub form NJ. Are you related?

southern charm
southern charm

Lynda, I enjoy watching you each week, you're my fav! I want to tell you how eloquent you are, both in your blogs and on screen. You have true class! I tend to identify with your point of view on any topic and I love reading the extra words of wisdom you share at the end of each blog. While many claim to be "spiritual", you actually live a spiritual life and seem to enjoy every minute of it. From one southern belle to another....kudos!! love ya, xoxo!!

Viewermidwesternlady
Viewermidwesternlady

Wow, you are a classy and strong lady. Thank you for sticking up for Cat and not sitting back like some of the other "friends?" that night. Erika was ugly that evening and should truly be ashamed. As you said, Erika continued her attack in front of Cat's kids and that's just plain nasty.

#1 Nana fm MD
#1 Nana fm MD

Lynda - Loving you and DC gals! You remind me so much of a friend of mine [Linda] who sings in Celebration Choir, St James Episcopal Church, MD. Both of you are lovely, smart & quick witted! # 1 Nana fm MD

#1 Nana fm MD
#1 Nana fm MD

Lynda, your comments about Erika were right on!!! I totally agree with your comments and EH's comments supporting you on Oct. 2d. #1 Nana fm MD

MoodyGerl
MoodyGerl

Hi Lynda! Hope all is well. I loved your up-do at the fashion show you had, it was like french twist but on the side?? Do you have any pics of it? I have a wedding to go to and so want to wear my hair like that, flower and all =)

Fontana
Fontana

Some of the story line just doesn't hold up. A couple of episodes ago, you told Paul Wharton that you were worried about Mrs. Salahi's weight loss and that you "loved" her-now you are talking about how embarrassing and untruthful Ms. Salahi is and you don't want to be around her--which is true?

Sherry
Sherry

There are alot of hurting people in this world, instead of beating up on them, why not find compassion and mercy for them like Jesus did. Try to be a helper to the hurting, don't throw more dirt on them. We should always strive to be better and more loving.

Stop!
Stop!

If you are so spiritual and nonjudmental, why do you constantly criticize the Salahi's? Why can't you live and let live? Leave them alone. Its vicious behavior and breaks one's spirit

EH
EH

I agree with your comments about Ericka. She was out of line and frankly she is too old to behave the way she did. I am sure most of it was for airtime and nothing else; it is just too bad she apparently has nothing else to offer viewers other than her thoroughly unpleasant personality. I and I am sure most other viewers have seen enough of her for good and I hope she will not be trotted out again if there is a second season!

Best to you and your lovely family! EH

Sun T
Sun T

Karentc on Oct 1,

You have sharp eyes.

Lynda must haver ADD.

Saintt
Saintt

Lynda I have to admit when I first started watching the show I found you to be a bit cold/harsh...But the more I see of you on the series the more I just love you...You have become my favorite housewife...Your insight and forthright tongue make me laugh continuously...I admire your spirituality, sense of family and friends...One last thing you are so correct give someone enough rope and they will hang themselves...With that being said I have a funny feeling we will be seeing one of your cast mates and her husband dangling soon... *wink wink*

FrenchyCali
FrenchyCali

I ABSOLUTELY agree.. Cat needed and still needs to be called out on her behavior..I too lived in UK and Cat's behavior is rude and condescending.

yoga_girl_2004
yoga_girl_2004

I could not agree with you more!!! THANKS** She needed to be put in her place..... and I love that she did it to face not behind her back!!

A.
A.

You are absolutely lovely in every way.

Shelbie
Shelbie

First, please let me say that I have NEVER posted on something like this (reaality show site, celebrity blog and the like) before, so I hope that will speak to the sincerity of what I felt compelled to write. Lynda, you are a generous, articulate, gracious classy woman and I appreciate your candor and your authenticity. You are a woman who understands that being direct is only synonymous with rude and hateful when the speaker is coming from a dark place. I truly believe that true benevolence you exude toward others comes from living a life that is full and fullfilling. Clearly, you appreciate your life and those in it and genuinely hope and work toward a world that provides EVERYONE to experience the same blessings. In a world that sometimes seems driven by the Michaela Salahis and Danielle Staubs...you are a ray of light and an inspiration. All the best to you.

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

Loved your fashion event at Union Station! Totally beautiful clothing and you looked stunning. I also do agree with your assessment of Erika pulling her claws out on Cat. She attacks attacks attacks...and it was ugly to see, especially when she went back for round 2 when Cat was trying to leave with her daughters. You seem so grounded and are highly successful...full of POSITIVE HONEST energy....and never have the need to tear someone down like Erika did. What on earth does she gain by consistently being mean?! Love you!

Melissa Mary
Melissa Mary

Lynda, I think you are wonderful. I really like all of the ladies on the show. However, I think that in regards to Ericka and Cat I do not agree. Cat feels she has the right to be rude, abrasive and say what she wants to say. (For example her rudeness at the vineyard, we all know they are full of crap but you should display more manners.) I think Cat got a dose of what she dishes out. If you cant take it then get out the kitchen! I think Ericka's timing was bad. But, I do feel Cat was confronted by someone who called her own her own behavior. Good for you Ericka!

I do love you though Lynda!

Astrologically Curious
Astrologically Curious

Hi Lynda - I've foun myself actually enjoying watching this "Housewives" show, primarily because of all the political slant and stories...very interesting! I also think you're one of the more grounded, real and sincere people on the show.

Can you tell me who does your astrological charts? I've been trying to find someone reputable, but it's very difficult...it sounds like you've found someone legit...who is it?

momc
momc

She did it for Mary's sake. Mary wants nothing further to do with the Salahi's and has said she will not attend anything they will be at. So, Lynda was making sure Mary felt secure knowing they were not going to be in attendance.

Martha O'Reilly
Martha O'Reilly

Lynda, you are quickly standing out as an amazing, genuine, and kind person. I was disturbed that the other women didn't defend Cat as valiently as you did, but was glad that SOMEONE stood up to the bully! Amen to you sister, keep fighting the good fight. You are a beautiful human being and a wonderful, true, loyal friend.

Grannie
Grannie

Obviously you are a very warm and caring person. Please tell Paul that he is a beautiful person, and there are some of us old female WASPS that wish him every happiness and joy he wants in his life. He too is a caring person. And beautiful to look at too.

Dramadish
Dramadish

Lynda I agree that Erika did something to Cat that was so like a mean girl...it almost seemed planned...But what I found to be even more offensive was when Erika came in the foyer to further add salt to the wound...When she was standing there trying to be sincerely sorry, it seemed condescending, almost as if she were a teacher trying to explain to a student why she had to be punished...I can't believe all this started over Cat's opinion of Tyra Banks...I think Erika has taken on a role as Stacie's protector....it seems that she is always in an episode, whenever you are all together, and she isn't a housewife that Bravo chose as I understand it...I think Cat should have told her to please back away when she confronted her in the foyer again...she should have taken her arms and took them from her waist and told her to please act like an adult in front of the children...I think Cat was simply overwhelmed by the confrontation and maybe was left speechless..but the viewers had some pretty strong feelings at the time....we have all been in a place where someone tried to make us feel foolish for crying over something that clearly hurt us...I have had this same thing happen to me and it is never ok for someone to make you feel even more out of control with your emotions....

cheryl Jones
cheryl Jones

I really like you and your personality. Erika should had spoke to Cat in another room or at another time. I'm surprise you weren't shocked by some of the things Cat has said or done. Maybe it's because she was being rude to a mutual enemy. The rude, nasty, and harsh policy that you were upset with Erika should be applied across the board not just with certain people. Cat can dish it out but can't take it. No one knew she was having problems in her marriage. It's still no excuse. Lived in England and know most European don't act like Cat. Love you and your sense of humour.

gg10
gg10

LOVE Lynda Keep doing you, you are awsome!

TORANADA
TORANADA

YOU ARE AWESOME. I WOULD LOVE TO MEET YOU TO ABSORB SOME UP THAT POSITIVE, SOFISTACATED, ELEGANT ENERGY YOU HAVE.

Love Linda
Love Linda

LOVE LINDA. the BEST housewife ever. Seriously. She can do no wrong in my book - she's straightforward, sexy, intelligent, I mean, COME ON! Love watchign this show, it's my favorite out of all of them. I think they should rotate Linda on the different houswives shows.

luv2shp
luv2shp

I totally agree with JaxTrina in regards to Cat. Cat needed to be put in her place since the show first aired. At least Erika had the balls to set her straighnt, unlike the other fake ladies on the show.

Lovely1Love
Lovely1Love

At least Erika voiced her opinion of Cat to Cat's face. You, on the other hand talk about Michaele behind her back but never confront her. How can you pass judgement? And besides, Cat is rude and had it coming.

karentc
karentc

I can understand how you feel about the Salahi's but was gives you the right or authority to have them thrown out of the fashion show? You said it yourself, you were not hosting the event, so who made you the secret service for the night? I think you probaby would have enjoyed yourself a little more if you were not play the bouncer. By the way, you did look great!

viewerabc
viewerabc

As I watched you,Cat, and Mary at dinner last night I thought "Wow, what a beautiful group of laidies!". None of you are are too botoxed, too tan, too blonde,too much makeup, or sporting silicon DD's! You all look so amazing (Stacie too, even though she was not there at dinner) healthy and natural beauties! You 4 are a breath of fresh air to every single bravo housewife!

Chrisy
Chrisy

Happy Birthday!!! May your birthday wish come true!!!!

You were right to stand up and defend Cat and I applaud you. It was not the right time and place for that discussion to have taken place. Not everyone is going to be friends in life, but we must learn to respect others who disagree with us or are different then us. That is one area that I find we as a society need to work on.

I feel sorry for Michaele as she has MS which I understand is a terrible disease. I don't have MS but I have other health issues that cause me to be in a lot of pain on a daily basis. She is married to a man who I believe is not being totally honest with her and is very controlling. I also know what it is like to be married to a man who controlls every move a wife makes. I escaped and left that man as I couldn't live that way anymore. Michaele has to make the decision to leave like many of us who decided to leave the abuse.

I don't think Michaele was lying because she did cheer with the cheerleaders though not very good, but I think she twisted the facts to make it seem like she had a more important role then she actually had. A lot of people twist facts to make it seem they are more important then they really are.

The show last night showed me a side of Michaele that lets me think that she is not the one who is calling the shots but doing what she is told. I think she does what she does to please her husband. She asked about the invite to the state dinner and her husband says they don't need it. He introduced her to a life she didn't know before him. Best food, wine and travel all around the world first class. I think they are both having a hard time accepting that that life is gone now and that the winery they loved is most likely not going to be rebuilt. It is hard to admit that the life one loves is gone. Yet, people all across this nation with the bad economy are having to face that the life they knew is going to be very different because for many people the money is GONE.

Sometimes I think that you and the others are to hard on her and I don't like that. You seem spiritual that is good. I am a Catholic woman who tries to live true to my faith. I have friends of all spiritual paths. One thing that our faith should teach us is love and compassion for others. I don't see much love and compassion shown by you, Mary and Cat toward someone who is hurting. Michaele seems like a hurt bird to me who needs help and not this evil women who you all HATE. I am not even going to defend the husband, because I think he is the cause of the disfuction.

You and Mary say you knew Michaele for years before she married this guy. Mary always has to point out that she was a sales girl, like there is something wrong with working in an dept. store. I don't believe in looking down at people because of where they work or the profession they do. I worked in Home Health for many years helping elderly patients. Some would look down on me and other caregivers because we are not nurses. Even the garbage man deserves respect and when you make comments about where she used to work like it is some low class job beneath you housewives, it makes you look bad and not Michaele. You and Mary come accross as snobs, which I don't think you truly are in your heart or at least I hope not.

I hope you will think about what I said and try and show a little compassion to someone who needs help in seeing that it might be best for her to leave her husband because he is abusing her. He might not beat her with a stick but the control and not telling her the whole truth so she will go along with his wants is a form of mental abuse. She believes she is doing something good and they are working together as a team, but the winery is GONE. I don't think she is living in the here and now. It is not easy to face the truth. You would be more of a friend by trying to get her to see the truth and leave him; then to talk smack about her behind her back and treating her the way you do.

Remember what we give to others comes back on us. Everytime you speak mean things about her it will come back to you. Karma is not always nice. Do you want to be judged the way you and Mary are judging her? I just don't see where this woman is the mastermind of their stunts. Maybe it will come out more clearly by the end of the show and I will end up thinking your are a saint for putting up with her for so long. We are at a disadavantage because we only see what little makes it to the tv. Please try and be kind to others who are less fortunate than you. Thank you for reading my comment.

Christine

Candace Honoré
Candace Honoré

I concur with Desandé. Being a "GRITS" (Girl Raised In The South), I am not surprised and proud to see you represent. Consider it 2 in your corner. With much love.

AndieJ
AndieJ

Lynda, you really are the most normal person among the housewives! I am so appalled by Erika, who is obviously jealous that she is just a bit player on the show and will act as badly as she can to get more camera time. Every week we see more clearly Erika's mean and hideous personality. I'm not a big fan of Cat, but she was so out of line in following Cat when she was trying to leave and continuing to torment her in front of her young daughters. Talk about kicking someone when she's down! I wish Erika would wipe that perpetual scowl off her face and find someone else to pick on!

Tonisocool
Tonisocool

Thanks for your blog. I do admire you and on what you do I love strong women, I use to be that many years ago and because I let my guard down let someone else drive my life to nothingness, I have lost 23 years of my life, I now have nothing, no job no confidence no self esteem, I now have to start all over again. I did once had everything, not money, but had my life had a job and even though I had my daughter young at 16, still had my place my job my confidence and self esteem that no one get in my way, but I let a man control my life my money my family and now I have nothing I have to start all over again. I thank GOD for my daughter, she is my rock my love my everything and a woman a strong woman for at least I taught her that, so seeing you how strong you are with everything reminds me on how I use to be and I hope that I can go back to that, a strong independent woman with a purpose, I know I know I have a purpose and that is my daughter and my family, mami and papi who have been there for me while I am going this depression. Thank you Lynda for everything, I love seeing you because you do reminds me of me back then when I had that, I'm 46 and I have to start over and it is not easy but I will do my best again. Thank you Lynda, so much you are a woman to admire.