First and foremost, I want to thank y'all for your continued support. Please forgive the delay in posting. I’ve been having fun in addition to working. All work and no play makes for a dull life. I’m blessed today to be sitting in the beautiful sunshine in one of my favorite cities, Los Angeles. I arrived late Wednesday evening to prepare for the annual Operation Smile gala emceed by Billy Bush honoring Harrison Ford, John Stamos, and Susan Casden. I caught Michaela and Tareq on Billy's new live Access Hollywood show this morning and I have to thank him for tackling the rumor that Michaele was not a Redskinette as she has claimed. He clearly did his homework and he didn’t back down when she talked in circles. He pursued it head on until he got to the truth, which is, she has never been an NFL Redskins cheerleader. Seriously, I just don't know what to make of it. Having experienced firsthand her ability to lie about so many topics (some more entertaining than others) with a big smile on her face just astounds me! Then there's her "other" face where she plays the victim so well. I have never met anyone like her or Tareq! It is just another one of those stories that they make up on a day-to-day basis to keep themselves in the limelight.
I may be a little tired and grumpy today because I’m still recovering from an incredible night out with family and friends celebrating my birthday, again! It was a surprise and for those who know me, I’m not big on surprises. But this was an exception, since it was intimate and hosted at Jose Andrés' new restaurant, The Bazaar at the SLS Hotel. INCREDIBLE...five stars all the way! Thank you, Stephanie and Michael, for hosting such a wonderful evening.
I’ve read enough of Cat’s book to tell you that when she squares away a publisher it will be on the NY Times Best Sellers list. I’m proud of her for pressing the “delete” button when it came to her marriage. Not everyone has the self-confidence and strength to remove themselves from an unhealthy relationship. Dis-ease brings disease. :(
I think I made myself clear on my views regarding gay marriage. Hopefully I’ll live long enough to see the day where all God’s people are treated equally.
I just love you. I love that you are unafraid to clearly state your dismay at Erika's behavior. I felt so terrible for Cat; couldn't believe Stacie, Cat's friend and host, allowed it to happen and even asked Cat to reconsider leaving(!); and was so disappointed in Cat's great friend Mary, who appeared to do nothing.
I just fell even deeper in love with you for standing firm against the bully.
And I love that you are clear and strong about your belief that all people in love have the right to marry.
Lots of love and light are coming to you from me.
You Lynda are a most precious contribution to this otherwise, world of chaos and confusion. To this show you bring the dignity and class needed.
You put the "Bravo" in Bravo TV. Thank you for sticking up for Cat. You have alot of class Lynda, and I applaud you on your ethics, and calling it as you see it! (Which is what I love about Cat as well) Erika isn't even a housewife.... I'm confused as to why she is in every episode.....and one thing the viewers don't need, is more drama, and being mean. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! Once again, Bravo Lynda!
Lynda, You are a breath of fresh air. Loved you for calling Erika out, and helping a friend going through what must've been a very hard time in life. I am enjoying watching housewives with some real class and who sound educated when they speak! Keep on doing what you do!
I think you are adorable. I disagree with you about Erica and Cat. Erica was looking for a fight with Cat because Cat has been so rude in the past. She has no regards for anyone else's feelings but has a thin skin when confronted.
As a southern woman, I'm proud of your behavior on the show. You seem to be honest, strong headed yet kind, and a God-fearing. Exactly what a southern woman should be!
I love Linda. She is a say it like it is girl, and that is so rare nowadays. People are so afraid of being themselves and what other people will think. You go Linda.
I LOVE YOU, Real, Sophisticated, Down to Earth, Georgeous, Funny, Outspoken, Straight Forward, Classy, Determined and Advocate. They Don't come any better than you! I pray for your continued success. Keep it Real Mama, Im in your corner....
Lynda...very well said, you utilized excellent judgement and exuded class, and from what I've seen, this is in every situation you are placed in. You look great and I'm glad to see you with a lil taste of chocolate ;)...be blessed!
You are by far my favorite housewife of all housewives...that would be inclusive of DC, NY, NJ and Atlanta...Caroline Manzo runs a close second!!! You run your business and personal life with such grace and ease that they seem to be a single entity. You are just a phenomenal woman!!! Michaele referred to you as a bully. I so disagree. Your opening statement in the introduction to the show "I give enough rope for people to hang themselves with and the smart people don't"...perfectly fits your personality!!! God Bless and keep thriving!!!
I am tired of people saying over and over again that a gay marriage is a human right. It has nothing to do with human rights, marriage is between a man and a woman,period end of story. I have nothing against people living what ever life you would like, but civil union is what fits because you are same sex . I think for Linda to say Stacie and her husband need to wake up, I don't think so. They have a right to their beliefs as well as she does.
I really believe your comments to Erika's were way off base. It seems that you can forgiven and forget Cats behaviour. Because someone has personal problems in their life should not be excuse to behave badly, as Cat has done many times. I find her to be very offensive and she really needed to be put in her place. Erika's thank you for standing up and letting Cat know how offensive her remarks are. The women friends that i have would never behave and believe me they have many more serious problem then Cat. So Lynda makes me wonder what you are really up to, I don't think you are as real as you make yourself out to be.
Toto were not in DC anymore where back in NY!
Wow....It seemed like I was watching RHONY's Jill, Louanne and Kelly all over again! You, Cat and Mary were very mean women tonight. Learn how to play in the sand box and try being nice! It's never becoming of women talking and be trashing other women. Makes you all look very jealous and her look normal! Look where it took Bethenny...above all the rest! Once again girl....You get more bees with honey!
You are absolutely beautiful and lovely always, period. You're ever the lady that we all aspire to be. You and your boyfriend are an amazing and classy couple! Thank you for showing us all how to behave.
I am glad you spoke out to Erika. Her conduct was so horribly offensive. I just felt she was trying to draw attention to herself to get airtime.
EXCELLENT show tonight Linda! Sorry to say I missed last week but I think tonight was the first night that Bravo gave you the credit you deserve! Proud to say you are an acquaintance!
Why, oh why is your hairdresser with you all the time?? Cat, the same question, why do you have the hairdresser as your closest friend? Please ask Mary why does she gossip so much when she said "I don't talk about people", yes, she does. I just love the look on Mary's face when someone is talking "are they talking to me, wake me".
As a fellow spiritual person, I'm surprised at how much negative energy you expend on talking about Michaela. It's really not healthy for you and is not pleasant for us viewers to see. You say "pretty is as pretty does." Spiritual is as spiritual does!
I must say next to Stacie, I think you might be one of my favorite....it's a toss up between you and Mary. However, I do not agree with you regarding Cat and Erica's encounter. Although I thought Erica was a bit forward, I do feel that Cat was simply getting her own medicine spooned back to her. She is very rude and abrupt with anyone she feels that she can get away with it. Have you seen her on camera---check out her behavior, comments, and actions at the Vinyard. I must admit it was funny because it was regarding the "intrusive" couple but just the same rude. I do find it funny that when she is getting her own medicine back she melts down quickly and that attack spirit disappears. So you should re-examine your opinion regarding Erica's actions. She was simply returning to Cat what she continually gives out. Congratulations on your Birthday and I pary many more in your future. Be blessed immensly.
Lynda all I can say is this is the first Real HouseWives I have watched and I love it. Now for the Micheale drama ( they could have drop that character) but I love the role model you represent for young women. You are always classy and elegant. You have built a successful business and I can only give you praise for the behavior that you give to all women. I wish more of us had your grace and style. Thank you
I concur with you completely! Sorry, ladies but Erika was way out of lines. Cat's behavior at times is wrong, but so was Ericka's and two wrongs don't make a right. Please folks from watching the housewife show's I've learned that more people need to learn how to be assertive. With all the resources the housewives have, I'm sure a coach could be afforded.
I think you're a cute, funny lady but what i can't seem to understand is why everyone keeps ripping Erika for being honest and forth right yet so willing to give Cat a "pass" because "she's going through some things". Who isn't going through something yet Cat can be as brutal if not more so than all the housewives and friends put together. You are a champion for those causes that you feel strongly about yet very intolerant regarding those who have an opposite opinion. I think that's what makes relationshipships so cool....the ability to have so many different views on life. I think David Catara said it best: We must be tolerant of those individuals that don't necessarily agree with us 100% and try to understand where others are coming from. I also don't think it was cool for you to post pictures of Michaela and her husband for security reasons. It think it lacked class and didn't represent your fun loving personality at all.
Vee Lu, the fact is, Erika is NOT a housewife on Real Housewives of DC, she is merely a friend of Stacie and Jason. So the fact that you feel Cat is rude and abrasive if not brutal, is fine however, she IS a housewife on the show. Erika should stand down, Bravo should have stopped filming Stacie if Erika was in the room.
Thought your blog was great. I do agree with your take on Erica. Even if her comments were justified it was the wrong time and place. She came off very condescending and once she had Cat in tears that should have been a clue she had gone too far. I was shocked she continued in front of her children. How disconnected can you be. Why is Erica always included is she a housewife??? I do like how you try to see all sides of someone rather than immediately judge. What I took from your conversations about Michale and Cat was one of understanding not gossip. I thought Michale's Catty (no pun) about your remarks to the male model where very immature! You have a business and your remarks were to make him more employable not a personal attack on his sexuality! I do find the Salahli's offensive, not just there lack of boundaries but their presumption that we must all be stupid! I do feel sympathy for Michale because her life is superficial and based on fabrication. What a terrible way to live. That is short lived when their lies hurt innocents such a charities, businesses and individuals to get their fifteen minutes. Hopefully that is finished and they will at some point get a profession and become productive humans.
That dress you had on at the fashion show was so beautiful! I am trying to learn how to sew, a bit late in life but.. I must say I admire you for your attitude and beliefs, you seem happy with who you are and what you want.
I like you but I disagree with your views on Erika and Cat. Cat has dished out rudeness for so long and Erika had a right to dish it right back to her. Was it the wrong place and time? Maybe. But you cannot expect respect if you yourself have never given it.
Linda you stay true to your words. You are not like the others that can not stand Macheale behind her back and hugs and kisses to her face. You made a point to keep them from the affair and you took the necessary precautions. I can appreciate and value your opion as you are not wishie washie.
I beg to differ........it was one thing for Erika to call Cat out on her behavior but then Erika kept badgering her over and over and instead turned herself into the behavior she was admonishing. Cat is blunt, yes.....but Erika did turn into the mean girl....and at the end, when I thought she was really going to apologize she instead kept berating her in front of her children. Bad bad bad behavior on Erika's part. I think Lynda is correct in this instance.
That type of behavior in front of children whether justified or unjustified is inappropriate! Doesn't matter who is "right" or "wronged"...it is undiginified, inappropriate, self-serving and just dang it WRONG!!!
First, why are people so intimidated by Gay Marriage? What does it take away from your marriage? I've been married for 20 years to my husband and never once has someone elses happiness diminished the love we have for each other. Second, where does Erica get off thinking she is the end all and be all of deciding who is a "Mean Girl"? Or is it that it takes one to know one! You can't accuse someone of the same thing you do. Besides she seems to be a tag-along. She isn't a DC Housewife, why is she always there? Maybe she and KimG are friends.
I have to say that I totally agree about your approach to Erika's behavior. You never bring that kind of thing up when there are children within ear shot. Also, if she had a problem with her behavior, it needed to be brought up at the time when it went down. It's never appropriate to take cheap shots at people in a very passive aggressive way verses being an adult and addressing your anger immediately. Also, it seems that she's using other housewives experience with Cat to justify her being so rude. I would like to hope that grown woman wouldn't need a champion to go and fight their battles for them. Stick to what happened to you. Also, in regards to the Micheale and Tarq situation. I honestly believe you are allowed to choose what company you keep regardless to what anyone else believes. Kudos to you for doing just that :)
Gee,new country, rocky marriage, being away from friends and family, losing a close friend to suicide...god people cut Cat some slack...so glad you are all so perfect...she's out spoken...so what! Erica was way out of line to attack someone in front of friends and children...if she wanted to "confront" Cat she should have have chosen a more private moment and place...P.S. Lynda LOVE you!
Linda, thank you for always being so honest!! I love you!! I like how you always say" I only give people enough rope to hang them selves" You are a true to friend to Stacie, Cat, and Mary. They are lucky to have you!! Happy Birthday may all your wishes come true!
Thanks for your blog. I do admire you and on what you do I love strong women, I use to be that many years ago and because I let my guard down let someone else drive my life to nothingness, I have lost 23 years of my life, I now have nothing, no job no confidence no self esteem, I now have to start all over again. I did once had everything, not money, but had my life had a job and even though I had my daughter young at 16, still had my place my job my confidence and self esteem that no one get in my way, but I let a man control my life my money my family and now I have nothing I have to start all over again. I thank GOD for my daughter, she is my rock my love my everything and a woman a strong woman for at least I taught her that, so seeing you how strong you are with everything reminds me on how I use to be and I hope that I can go back to that, a strong independent woman with a purpose, I know I know I have a purpose and that is my daughter and my family, mami and papi who have been there for me while I am going this depression. Thank you Lynda for everything, I love seeing you because you do reminds me of me back then when I had that, I'm 46 and I have to start over and it is not easy but I will do my best again. Thank you Lynda, so much you are a woman to admire.
Lynda, you really are the most normal person among the housewives! I am so appalled by Erika, who is obviously jealous that she is just a bit player on the show and will act as badly as she can to get more camera time. Every week we see more clearly Erika's mean and hideous personality. I'm not a big fan of Cat, but she was so out of line in following Cat when she was trying to leave and continuing to torment her in front of her young daughters. Talk about kicking someone when she's down! I wish Erika would wipe that perpetual scowl off her face and find someone else to pick on!
I concur with Desandé. Being a "GRITS" (Girl Raised In The South), I am not surprised and proud to see you represent. Consider it 2 in your corner. With much love.
Happy Birthday!!! May your birthday wish come true!!!!
You were right to stand up and defend Cat and I applaud you. It was not the right time and place for that discussion to have taken place. Not everyone is going to be friends in life, but we must learn to respect others who disagree with us or are different then us. That is one area that I find we as a society need to work on.
I feel sorry for Michaele as she has MS which I understand is a terrible disease. I don't have MS but I have other health issues that cause me to be in a lot of pain on a daily basis. She is married to a man who I believe is not being totally honest with her and is very controlling. I also know what it is like to be married to a man who controlls every move a wife makes. I escaped and left that man as I couldn't live that way anymore. Michaele has to make the decision to leave like many of us who decided to leave the abuse.
I don't think Michaele was lying because she did cheer with the cheerleaders though not very good, but I think she twisted the facts to make it seem like she had a more important role then she actually had. A lot of people twist facts to make it seem they are more important then they really are.
The show last night showed me a side of Michaele that lets me think that she is not the one who is calling the shots but doing what she is told. I think she does what she does to please her husband. She asked about the invite to the state dinner and her husband says they don't need it. He introduced her to a life she didn't know before him. Best food, wine and travel all around the world first class. I think they are both having a hard time accepting that that life is gone now and that the winery they loved is most likely not going to be rebuilt. It is hard to admit that the life one loves is gone. Yet, people all across this nation with the bad economy are having to face that the life they knew is going to be very different because for many people the money is GONE.
Sometimes I think that you and the others are to hard on her and I don't like that. You seem spiritual that is good. I am a Catholic woman who tries to live true to my faith. I have friends of all spiritual paths. One thing that our faith should teach us is love and compassion for others. I don't see much love and compassion shown by you, Mary and Cat toward someone who is hurting. Michaele seems like a hurt bird to me who needs help and not this evil women who you all HATE. I am not even going to defend the husband, because I think he is the cause of the disfuction.
You and Mary say you knew Michaele for years before she married this guy. Mary always has to point out that she was a sales girl, like there is something wrong with working in an dept. store. I don't believe in looking down at people because of where they work or the profession they do. I worked in Home Health for many years helping elderly patients. Some would look down on me and other caregivers because we are not nurses. Even the garbage man deserves respect and when you make comments about where she used to work like it is some low class job beneath you housewives, it makes you look bad and not Michaele. You and Mary come accross as snobs, which I don't think you truly are in your heart or at least I hope not.
I hope you will think about what I said and try and show a little compassion to someone who needs help in seeing that it might be best for her to leave her husband because he is abusing her. He might not beat her with a stick but the control and not telling her the whole truth so she will go along with his wants is a form of mental abuse. She believes she is doing something good and they are working together as a team, but the winery is GONE. I don't think she is living in the here and now. It is not easy to face the truth. You would be more of a friend by trying to get her to see the truth and leave him; then to talk smack about her behind her back and treating her the way you do.
Remember what we give to others comes back on us. Everytime you speak mean things about her it will come back to you. Karma is not always nice. Do you want to be judged the way you and Mary are judging her? I just don't see where this woman is the mastermind of their stunts. Maybe it will come out more clearly by the end of the show and I will end up thinking your are a saint for putting up with her for so long. We are at a disadavantage because we only see what little makes it to the tv. Please try and be kind to others who are less fortunate than you. Thank you for reading my comment.