Mary Schmidt Amons

Mary talks about getting caught on Candid (Housewives) Camera.

on Sep 21, 20100

The many faces of Mary! Have you figured them all out yet? Because I haven't!

I had to laugh hysterically at what people have always told me…that I have crazy facial expressions! I clearly didn't realize that cameras were directed on me as I shared with Cat my surprise at seeing Lolly in a few of my things from across the room at the Men Against Breast Cancer event. At the end of the day, I really don't care about "stuff." I care about people. On that note, I can't say enough about the wonderful work that President/Co-Founder, Marc Heyison and his team are doing with Men Against Breast Cancer. MABC offers support and education to men serving as caregivers to the women in their lives struggling with Breast Cancer. This is an awful disease to face and much of the emotional burden rests on the men walking through this battle as a source of love and support. Lets hear it for the boys!  Most of my enthusiasm during the fashion show was directed towards my dear friend and Fox news anchor Will Thomas who was a celebrity model that evening and looking so fabulous! And of course I was cheering for the always gorgeous, Paul Wharton! What a fun night! (Please visit the MABC website to find out more information and how to support Men Against Breast Cancer - www.menagainstbreastcancer.org)

Losing a close friend is something that must be extremely difficult to endure, and I felt a deep sense of sadness and empathy for my friend. I can't imagine what the experience was like for Cat to go through the death of her dear friend Phil while cameras were rolling. I was moved to tears once again while watching Cat's pick up interviews and seeing the pain and heaviness in her heart. Cat is a treasured friend and my heart goes out to her as she has had to be reminded of the pain watching the episode one year after Phil's death. One of the most moving moments for me in watching Cat deal with this difficult loss was how she handled herself with both tears and laughter. She made a decision to remember Phil by verbalizing the fun memories they shared together as friends. I was deeply touched by the bonus clip where she and Charles memorialize and pay tribute to Phil in a ceremony in their backyard.   

65 comments
Erintt5
Erintt5

Mary, are you making any progress on how we can purchase that fab cross necklace? Still waiting.

Carol Williams
Carol Williams

Mary, I had never watched a RHWO show until I happened to see you on the View,and realized who you were. I have been watching the show since and have enjoyed seeing the loving,warm mom you are. I went to nursing school with your mother, and shared an apartment with her ( and 2 others from our class) in Arlington, after we graduated. She was also a bridesmaid in my wedding. Pictures of you, when you were younger, remind me so much of your mother when I knew her. I wish you and your family all the best. Please give Patti my regards. Take care and enjoy your children while you can..they grow up so fast!

Angela M.
Angela M.

Mary, I think you are great. I love how you and your husband are on the show. I love that you guys still love so much in love and after more than 3 kids, you are still hot, and so is he. You have a beautiful home and you have a very warm personality. Yaaa Mary.

ADDICTEDhousewife:)
ADDICTEDhousewife:)

True, Mary did not come to Cat's defense, but then again, the whole fight began because Cat was being sarcastic in her description of Mary being a too-nice and too-tolerant mommy. Mary did the right thing...she sat there and kept her mouth shut.

ADDICTEDhousewife:)
ADDICTEDhousewife:)

I agree. Let's hope the ladies stop picking on Mary as she "allows" her daughter to nest at home in order to get confidence and direction. This includes STACIE, who if you noticed at her ice cream party, was also picking on Mary along with Erika. Somehow I did not see Erika launching at Stacie, who said her daughter is "not allowed to come home". Jeeeeze...just wait til these moms' kids grow up. Seriously.

FancychefinNapa
FancychefinNapa

Hey Mary, my daughter now almost 25 went to a ivy league college, went to 'the big city" to work for a year, and then decided to come home and work closer to home and pursue a masters, so sure enough she moves back in the house (we thought maybe for 6 months). She ended up staying almost 3 years! Believe me we endured our share of comments, snide remarks and many many opinions from neightbors, friends, relatives, you name it...but my maternal instinct told me she just needed to be home at that point in her life. I could see she wasn't totally ready to go off in the world on her own quite yet. BECAUSE OF THAT STRONG AND NURTURING FOUNDATION, we provided her and because of the security she came to have she just left for the east coast to attend a very prestigious graduate school and I can truly say went with bells on, she was so excited. There is a time and place for everything, there is no doubt that this generation is by far the most delayed generation in modern history. It is what it is, we need to deal and accept. Sure, we could have told her no you have to go and make it on your own, or pushed her before she was really ready but instead we opened our home (which had more than enough room) to her and as long as she behaved like a responsible adult and carried her weight we told her she was welcome to stay here as long as she needed to. I like to think we were helping her build her wings and finally when they were intact and fully ready, she was able to fly away (quite smoothly i might add) from the nest, and so far is just having the time of her life and thanks us over and over for allowing her the time she needed to prepare for this next stage of life. Every kid is differnt, my oldest son left for college at 17 and basically hasn't lived at home since, totally different types of kids. So I can relate and commend you for you going easy on your daughter, in due time when she is ready, and she will know it- she will fly away on her own and thank you for giving her the air beneath her wings. You are a good mom :)

really?
really?

You've gotta learn how to play nice in the sand box! I thought you said episodes ago that you don't talk poorly of people!?! REALLY? I felt like I was watching RHONY not DC!! You, Cat and Mary looked like Jill, Louanne and Kelly! Marjor two faced moment for you! Why can't you all support one another instead of breaking each other down? It's not very becoming of women to do that to one another! Look where it took Bethenny when NY ganged up on her? To the top and her own show! Just saying~

GOODFRIEND
GOODFRIEND

You are typical of the middle-of-the-road, I'm not taking sides, please, everyone, continue to love me type of person.

Some friend you are. Cat would have had your back, you can depend on it.

Baroness Von Hartmanstine :)
Baroness Von Hartmanstine :)

McBoogie, my Mom would have killed for that lock! You're obviously a well-behaved young lady and would never steal any cashmere sweaters from your mother's closet as I did in 11th grade.

Baroness Von Hartmanstine :)
Baroness Von Hartmanstine :)

Mary I saw your visit on Andy's show, very funny! Jeff was nice for the first time ever I think because of you! Andy is adorable, even tho he totally bashes Republicans like me. So I wanted to tell you that I rolled off the sofa with laughter on that first episode that showed us your entry-proof CLOSET! Priceless. On Andy's show some odd person said you resembled S. Channing and I think that is kooky. Queen Nor yes, totally see that you could be sisters. You know who else you remind of...a young Ester Williams. Pls help Cat come back to the show, it wouldn't be right w/o her. She and Erica could make amends. I sense Erica has it in her. Cat is total doll, love her and the other ladies. Lolly is lovely, but having grown up in similiar fashion - I would say I would have prospered sooner and been more independent and strong sooner, if my Mom and Dad had cut the cord in my early 20s. Granted none of our business. You, youur house, kids, hubby etc are gorgeous and so is Lolly's dog! Thx for making Thurs night TV divine w/ a glass of wine. ~ BVH

Stand
Stand

Mary, When my husband and I were building our new house our children were in college and high school. We actually built the house with the mindset that after they graduated from college the would come back and live with us for five years! My husband did research that concluded that it take a person about five years to get enough money together to move out on their own successfully. After putting all that time and money into our children we definately want the to be successful adults. So here is to a full house for years to come. I love it. Let Lolly stay.

Bjan
Bjan

You should invite Bethenny Frankel and her family to visit your home with ALL your family.

Sun T
Sun T

Mary,

Because we have a mutual friend, tonight I decided to watch the show because of you. Our friend told me you really have a big heart. You are a kind and generous person, and you are not selective with the company you keep. I hope I won't hear how you are hurt by the company you seem to think are friends.

Sun T

LoReeDeVine
LoReeDeVine

Mary - I do believe that my Great Aunt and your Grandfather were neighbors for a while ..... however I am not sure if it was in Leesburg, Fairfax, or Purceville. But I do remember hearing my Aunt "brag" about Aurthur Godfrey being her neighbor --- but the only complaint was that sometimes from a down wind breeze you could definitely smell the horses from his farm.

My aunt's name was Mamie Goding ...... and I really would be surprised if you remembered her.

I must tell you ---- of all the Housewives from DC, to me you show the most class, decorum, and display an air of normalcy thru out the program.

Keep up the normalcy in a sea of stab in the back, lies, one ups manship, and deceit.

LoRee

Carol R.
Carol R.

Mary - I too love the bracelet and also, even more, the silver necklace that you wear on a cord - somewhat like a sword. It drives me crazy every time I see this necklace.

dolsgirl1
dolsgirl1

My kids boomeranged back a few times before we nailed the door shut from the inside. Lolly can work & make some money & still be her artist self. And she can use the coin laundry. Most of the world has & it would do her good & she will survive the activity.

I do love that you do not gossip. You keep your mouth shut & keep doing it. I know Bravo will put you in situations to try to crack that but don't cave.

Your family is gorgeous & your home as well. But, the family makes the home.

Now, I have to check out that necklace you wrote about.

BurnAfterReading
BurnAfterReading

Mary I totally get your letting your daughter come back home to figure out the next move...I had to do the same thing when my married son couldn't tolerate his job and needed to not only quit it, but wanted to move to a better school district for his children starting school....sometimes, others don't understand that these "adults" are actually our children, who are trying to progress with their life in a positive way...it doesn't mean that we are enabling..we are simply offering room and board until all things are manageable...I am always curious why some parents feel their kids are not worthy of that little bit of understanding and help...My son and his wife and 2 kids moved into my house, there was plenty of room, so why not? I wanted them to be able to sell their home, take time to find just the right one, and also get back on track with a new business....five months was not a lot of time to invest in my family...I missed them when they left...never allow other people to give you attitude when they know your daughter is living there...a lot of people in this country will be doing the same thing as unemployment goes up and houses are foreclosed....people better get used to it and keep their mouths closed, because they never know when they will be making room for not only their kids, but thier in laws and grandkids.....it's hard to stop being a MOM..and why should we?

Lois Lane
Lois Lane

I so agree, but for a different reason: Mary, I think your hang-up about the 20-year age difference between you and Lolly is causing you to parent out of guilt. How long will you continue to "baby" her? You said she "had" to quit her job because she was miserable. As adults, we know life isn't easy. How will Lolly ever stand on her own if she doesn't have to face any challenges, which will ultimately make her become a more responsible adult? (You said your dad supported you when you had to move back home, so you will support Lolly. Well, the circumstances aren't the same.) You can "support" your daughter and teach her at the same time in much healthier ways that are still loving, rather than enabling her to be lazy and totally dependent on her parents. And the "art career"? Come on! Does she have any schooling in that area? To think she can go out "full force" in the world and make a living doing something that has been no more than a hobby is so unrealistic and childlike. I totally agree with your husband. Time to kick the birdie out of the nest - just do it gently, with guidance and resources. She wouldn't have quit her job if she had to support herself. My nephew comes from a very wealthy family who has given him everything he needs to succeed in life. Unfortunately, he is 28 and lazy, and though he has two degrees and NO COLLEGE DEBT (his parents paid for his education in full), he is currently waiting tables for a living and just "getting by" in life. So sad. I hope you take your hubby's advice and take a different angle with your daughter. You are such a loving, productive family. Don't you want your oldest child to grow up to have at least what you have? You can't keep doing the work for her. She will feel rewarded when she eventually learns to do it herself. Baby steps.

eve4ever
eve4ever

Mary you do have the best hair it is georgeous. I love the relationship you have with your family. Just remember to close the door of the closet.

Wasingtonapples
Wasingtonapples

You look a lot like Nikki Newman on Young & the Restless...they should totally cast you as her long lost sister!

diana lynn
diana lynn

Mary, overall I love your personality BUT if I hear you say "I was so young when I had children one more time " I'm gonna scream !! Enough already, you don't have to keep saying it UNLESS you were 14. If so, then, that's a really interesting story.

MicheleO
MicheleO

Hi Mary, I think you are a fantastic Mom, don't let the other ladies tell YOU how to raise YOUR children. I have children in their 20's living at home while they go to school and I wouldn't dream of making them leave. This is THEIR home and they are always welcome to stay - as long as they clean up after themselves and occasionally buy a couple of gallons of milk. LOL. Good luck and God Bless Mary. Michele : )

Pelty
Pelty

I'm guessing the amazing hair is the result of a Brazilian Blowout. They cost hundreds of dollars and have to be re-done every few months, but if you can afford it, go for it! Who wouldn't want super-soft, shiny, frizz-free hair?

Laura M
Laura M

Mary,

I love your style! Clothes, hair, personality, All of it! I want to know where you get your handbags, where you find accessories, everything. I especially like your tan handbag that looks like it patent leather. I adore that bag. The house looks incredible. Love the style of it.

Army Housewife
Army Housewife

I dont understand the big deal about a child having to come back home. Times are much harder and you never know what circumstance may be brought about to cause you to have to return to the nest. Mary, i love that you have let it been known to your children, "if you need me, im here" there is nothing wrong with that. At the end of the day, thats your child and she should be able to depend on you. Keep it up!

katalin
katalin

I was dissappointed to see you not say anything when Erika started to attack Cat. Your silence said a lot about you. You knew what Cat was going through and you just sat there and said nothing in her defense. Sorry, I don't think that's being a friend, maybe you're just whimpy.

Abbey P
Abbey P

Mary, I was just watching you on What What Happens LIVE - and I love love loved your braclet. Can you share details about where you got it?

latinagirl
latinagirl

Mary, Love the lock, love the husband, love the hair!!

Aloha808
Aloha808

I want to get the same lock on my closet that you have!

SheShe
SheShe

Mary, I love ya, you're by FAR my fave. I LOVE how you've done your home. The minimalist style that you chose, with a few pop pieces and the lighting is nothing short of pure class!! Just like you!

Ohio ordinary housewife
Ohio ordinary housewife

Mary The comments that Cat made about Lolly were not mean intended it was what friends say sometimes Do you guys not ever tease one another. Believe me as a 51 year mom your doing a fantastic job with your children. And do with your children what you feel is right and it shouldn't bother what anyone thinks except your husban. Good luck on this show. Stay away from that Ericka and what we call woman like her is a Hater.

ca grand
ca grand

Mary you do like talking about people one for sure M. why dont you leave her along. You act like you like her ,but talk about all the time. Like last night when no one was talking about her you had to bring up her name. If she wants to work out with the cheer leaders that his business. You sure like talking about her, the look on your face you are enjoying it.

Julie S.
Julie S.

I totally agree. There's no "gossip" or intentionally hurtful words from her, but rather honest assessments and fact. She says it like it is, but doesn't go out of her way to be hurtful or nasty.

DIGNIFIEDaddict;
DIGNIFIEDaddict;

I support you as a mom welcoming her daughter back home after college, and after a time when she could not get out in the real world and jump start the career, apartment, and so on. But in the case of Lolly always taking your clothes without asking, that's just not right. She should respect your wishes on that.

J. Dance
J. Dance

Mary your are the best mom, but you need to pick a side. It appears that you take the side of the person you are with at that time. It's okay to tell someone they are wrong.

DIGNIFIEDaddict;
DIGNIFIEDaddict;

WHY DOES EVERYONE PICK ON LOLLY??? The other ladies make Lolly out to be a much older, burdensome child, someone who was set on automatic pilot to move out and support herself the day after college graduation, but failed. Mary, I think you are a compassionate and great mom who wants her child to leave the nest when she is fully ready and able. Kicking kids out any earlier than they are truly ready is not giving them a "gentle push in the right direction". That's a revolving door, and they will be right back. Of course, Cat and Stacie have YOUNG CHILDREN, who are still in the golden years. Just wait!! Fast forward ten years and let me see how quickly their kids have left the nest. Maybe they will be entering the real world in a better economy. Maybe there will actually be jobs available for them, too. Kids want to be out of the house even more than parents want them gone. There is a reason some kids have to return home after college. Lolly is one of them, and she should not be made out to be problematic, and Mary should not be constantly berated by the other ladies for welcoming her child home and giving support to help her get on track.

Jane Ann
Jane Ann

I raised my daughter to 'know better' but she constantly took my stuff when she lived at home. A very precious necklace that I bought in Copenhagen was lost by her. If could have afforded a biometric lock when she lived at home, I would have!! Even now, when she comes for a visit I watch her pack to make sure my things don't get mixed in. I really want to say that enabling her is not good for YOU or her. My daughter would love to come home, but she was raised knowing that the time would come where she would become responsible for herself. It is hard to stay back and let her experience the things that she sets herself up for with her bad choices, but I can see that she is indeed learning, growing and maturing into a beautiful, responsible, APPRECIATIVE woman. Good Luck

 rhiannon
rhiannon

Mary, I just love your hair, especially when it is blown out really straight and blonde. You should get tougher will Lolly. A girl of her age should not have to be locked out of a closet, a simple off limits should be working. It is very natural to want to help our children out financially, so I can totally relate to you wanting to help Lolly while she gets hersef situated.

Lolly Rocks
Lolly Rocks

Just wanted you to know that Lolly's response to the gay marriage issue made my night. She's right on. Gays are not only hairdressers and wedding coordinators and a host of other misleading stereotypes, they are people and fully deserving of equal rights. The younger generation recognizes and accepts this, and is not threatened by it. And that makes me incredibly hopeful and humbled. Lolly heard the "debate" over the issue and didn't hesitate. You should be proud for having raised such an empathetic, open-minded and caring young lady, even if she does raid your closet from time to time...

Gigi Roger
Gigi Roger

I am glad you retracted your statement about gay issues not being important to you, because it doesn't impact your life...yikes, sort of like saying starving children issues aren't a concern because it doesn't impact our lives. All things impact our lives. Some are more obvious than others. It is always best to error on the side of compassion and thoughtfulness. My husband makes this same statement at times and it drives me crazy, because it makes him seem selfish and a bit self-centered. Do love you DC girls...not as much nuttiness and you actually cover issues that are intelligent and thoughtful.

tandra
tandra

Hi Mary, WOW!! I just read alot of comments from viewers. I think it is sooo funny, how some can not understand why you have locks on your closets. I have 3 daughters. When they were teenagers, thats what we argued about the most! The 2 oldest were always in my stuff!! And most moms are neater than kids. It is fustrating to go get a certain 'sum-n sum-n' and it not be there, but you find it on the girls bedroom floor!! My girls & I wore the same size & liked alot of the same classic clothing. And some of my nicer, more exspensive items, they were locked up! I do agree w/ yo hunny, about kids, leaving the nest. The way I believe is, what if I died tomorrow? They can carry on with out me. Thats the best thing I could teach them, besides love & respect yourself, the rest will be fine. I will tell you like I wrote to Cat, I love how ya'll all, well, you, Cat, Lynda & Stacie stick up for each other when some drunk ss wine-o attacks you or your children. No, no one agrees on everything, but thats great! You can still discuss it. I really love you, well the ones I mentioned aboved anyway. And the mentioned names, oooh your hubbys are soo yummy!! I love them too. Please keep them on the show too!!! Good luck!!

dgirlinpink
dgirlinpink

Mary it is not your fault that your daughter takes from your closet because you left it open! She can not go in becuase you've told her too! She's not 4 years old, she was told, tell her to move out if she can't follow the rules.

Maura Patricia
Maura Patricia

Mary, Love you, but please do not confuse the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence. While, I personally agree that laws banning gay marriage are unconstitutional, the lines that you and your daughter were quoting are from the Declaration of Independence. While unlike the Constitution this document is not an official source of law, it is declaration of our arguments justifying the existence of this country. Powerful symbolically and historically, but not as legally important as the Constitution. I recommend reading both and refreshing your memory---I think you will find the arguments you are looking for to support your new-found awareness and beliefs.

Brandiglass333
Brandiglass333

"ART ISN'T A CAREER...IT'S A HOBBY" Response to Lolly...PLEASE READ

My family said those exact same words to me at your daughter's age. I was told about "starving artists" and encouraged to pursue art in my SPARE time. I am now 38 year old mother of 3, who after several jobs doing much more "responsible" work, I am finally fully pursuing my art again. I finally realized that each individual has the RIGHT to pursue their passion (regardless of popular opinions). In this day of working for a company located across the country with advertising being one of our largest and most secure industries, art ABSOLUTELY IS A CAREER and has unlimited alternatives that translate into sometimes thousands of dollars for one piece. Please, please support Lolly (sp?, sorry) in the development of her talents, because if she starts developing those now, by the time she is our ages, she'll be renowned in her field....her chosen field of STUDY, her passion, joy and therefore, her best chance of real success. -A viewer with dejavu

Housewife
Housewife

Rich is spot on and you beter listen to him about Lolly leaving the nest! You don't want a failure to launch do you?

Marcus Blatch
Marcus Blatch

You say it has nothing to do with you? Open you eyes. Equality suffers with attitudes like yours.