4. Question: "Do you think Cat's racist?" RESPONSE: I am still shocked by how much run that episode had in the minds of the fans! NOBODY called Cat a racist -— yet the question is asked over and over. Honestly (and I know some won't be able to handle this) this season's dialogue and response shows how much more there is to talk about when it comes to race in America. Just because someone may be uncomfortable around a new and unfamiliar environment doesn't mean they are discriminating against them! Case in point: when I go to Nigeria, I promise you I may appear VERY uncomfortable considering everything will be new to me: new food, new customs, new wine, new clothes! Some people in my new family may initially think I am rude, stuck up, or that, "Maybe I have a problem being around Nigerians!" That wouldn't make me a racist; just uncomfortable in new surroundings. Fortunately, I love being in new surroundings -— and it's not likely that I will either leave early or not eat the food.
5. Question: "Why do you not talk about your white birth mother the way you talk about your birth father? Are you ashamed of being white?" RESPONSE: I am PROUD of my entire heritage, which is why I sought it out. At times now when I feel alone from an immediate family perspective (not counting my wonderful in-laws), it's really not hard for me to wonder who out there might care to know that I'm here living and breathing -– and I could care less what they look like, trust me. My birth mother made it crystal clear to me that she wants to keep me and my existence a secret, so I respect her wishes and moved on.
6. Comment: "I liked you Stacie, until I learned about your position regarding gay marriage. Why don't you believe in equality for everyone?" RESPONSE: I DO believe in human equality on everything. All people should have the same right to live life, love, and legally unite in love with the person(s) of their choice, without restriction, differentiation or discrimination. That said, my own definition of marriage remains that of a union of one man and one woman. Another case in point: I have recently learned that my father took two wives in Nigeria. Polygamy is a legally and religiously acceptable practice of marriage for many in Nigeria. This means I will wholeheartedly accept whomever my father would introduce to me as his wife; but Jason better not get any ideas!