Cast Blog: #RHOM

Lisa and Karent's Cattiness

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

Lisa and Karent's Cattiness

Alexia felt Lisa and Karent could have been more sympathetic.

This episode was very difficult and painful for me to watch. As I reflect on this, I praise God for the miracle he has blessed me with -- to have my son alive, breathing, eating, and walking. We take all these things take for granted, which are really a gift and so precious. I also feel joy; I can look back and see how far Frankie has come in this journey. I appreciate the progress he’s made and I’m thrilled to see how he's improved day to day.

The pain I've endured is indescribable, only a mother who has been through this could understand the pain and suffering, which brings me to realize how insensitive “some” of the girls can be towards my situation and me. I’m not asking for pity, and I don’t expect you to feel what I'm feeling, but I would like for others to understand what I'm feeling and to be more sympathetic.

I’m very disappointed and saddened by Lisa’s cattiness and immaturity when speaking to Karent about me. How insensitive can you be? Clearly neither of them is a mother. I dare Karent to insinuate I'm on something! Do you want to know what I'm on? Months of sleep deprivation from sleeping on a pull out chair at a hospital for five months, uncertainties, worries, stress, and trying to find the strength to keep my family together. People have no idea how a tragedy like this affects the entire family.

In Lisa's conversation with Karent, Karent again tries to play the victim as if we’re ganging up on her, but at no point does she take any responsibility or acknowledge what Adriana and I are trying to tell her. She brings up irrelevant points and excuses and continues to laugh it off. She accuses me of not giving her an opportunity to get close, when from the very beginning she has not even asked me in person about Frankie or cared to find out how I'm holding up. I'm disgusted with her lies and with her whole phony character. It was nice to have Ana come over my house, since she usually drops by my office. I feel comfortable speaking with her, because I feel that Ana can relate, since she is a mother of two adolescents, has been married, and is a professional. (By the way the hardest of the three is being a mother, there is no school or book you can read that can prepare you for this task.) Frankie and I were playing basketball, which is one of the things that he seems to have not forgotten and still enjoys doing. It’s IMPOSSIBLE not to break down when speaking about Frankie, and it is also impossible to try to explain to the other ladies what my reality is like, especially when some of them don't really care and are so consumed with themselves.

This was my first Venue party since Frankie's accident. My friends, family, employees, and clients were there to celebrate our March/April cover with Jen Carlos Canela (singer and actor). Like all of my days, I woke up as usual at 6:30am with Frankie by my side, bathed him, dressed him, and made breakfast. (Peter and Frankie only like the way I make breakfast.) And then it was off to therapy until 12 noon. I was able to make it just in time for the walk through and setup of the party. There are hours of hard work, preparation, and details involved for a party of this nature. Thank God for all of the Venue Magazine staff that are so amazing and that go beyond their duties, especially now that I need their support more then ever. I was looking forward to the party, but at the same time was torn because my heart really wanted to stay at home with Frankie. I felt a little better when Frankie saw me all dressed and ready to go and he pointed at my shoes and with a smile, giving me a thumbs up. (Frankie is my shoe consultant, better yet my fashion consultant, and I would not walk out of the house without his approval LOL!) As usual, Herman was yelling that we were late and Peter was asking me what to wear (he was going to the party too).In reference to my outburst… We all have our moments and this was my moment where I broke down for obvious reasons, especially when Frankie's name was brought up. I made it very clear -- I have more IMPORTANT issues in my life like my sons, husband, family, and good friends. That is why I do not even want to dedicate more time to this matter.

Until next time!

Like always I leave you with this thought: "Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference."

If you'd like to know more about Frankie's story, please visit: http://www.jhsmiami.org/body.cfm?id=11329.

Again, thank you for your continued love, support, and prayers! God bless you.

Besos (Kisses),

Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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