Cast Blog: #RHOM

Thomas Kramer or Obama?

Joanna doesn't understand all the fuss over being invited to Thomas Kramer's house.

It’s really hard to watch two people that I truly love to be in a situation where they just can't see eye to eye. I don't know where it went wrong, but I have a pretty good feeling it has more to do with me and Romain than anything else. I know Romain loves Marta, wants her to succeed, and have whatever kind of life and career she wants, but he feels that I have babied her too much since I helped raise her. In a way I feel I’m her mother, and it’s not healthy. I need to cut the umbilical cord and let her be an adult so she can find her way. She knows that no matter what I will always be there, and at the end of the day, even if she’s not best friends with Romain at the moment, I know he has her best interest at heart and would do anything for her if she needs it. The three of us are going through a big bump in the road at the moment, but in my heart I believe everything will be OK one way or another.

When Marta told me she wanted to move out, it made me emotional because we have lived together since we were little. When Romain came into this relationship, he also adopted a family. My mom and sister both live with me in Los Angeles and Marta stays with us whenever she wants when I am in Miami. He never really had the option to have a problem with it, because I never asked him, but that is what I love about him; he has never had any issues with my family living with us and me being so close to them. To be honest, if it was the other way around and his mom and brother lived with us, I don't know if I would be OK with it haha! But let’s just thank god that’s not the situation.

I don't have to worry about that, but I do worry about Marta and Romain finding peace with each other eventually. Marta moving out will give us the space we need to work on our own relationship and move forward from here and be happy like we used to be. Marta has good intuition, so I am hoping she is right about this decision.Poor, poor Karent! How did she become a “wannabe?” I’m confused as to why Adriana said that. If anyone is a wannabe here, it’s Adriana. Posing topless in a pool for a gallery shoot which never got used anyway and was the smallest photo in the gallery? Come on. Karent is a wonderful dentist and has celebrity friends, so why not have a publicist to help her network and meet new people for her business? I think Adriana and some of the other girls are just jealous of her success and beauty –- not to mention she did this all on her own without a man’s help. The others just can't get over it. There is a reason why Karent is successful and has what she has. People need to stop hating, because they only look bad in the process. They should respect that she had so much success as a gorgeous woman and leave her and her relationship alone. If she wants to find out if he's cheating or not, she will do the digging herself and eventually the truth will come out. But some of these women are not her true friends, and it’s getting a bit old talking about it over and over again. Karent seems to be happy with the way her relationship is going, and it’s her decision what she wants to do and no one else's.  I just wish Karent would put these women in their place and stand up for herself, because otherwise I will have to stand up for my friend soon!

And why are the girls fighting over who should be invited to Thomas Kramer's like he's Obama or something? Obviously some of these women are not busy enough in their everyday life and find the pettiest things to argue about rather than focusing on the real reason we are at the Hearts and Stars Gala -- CHARITY!

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!

It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.

I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!

I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.

Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.

Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.

I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.

Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.

And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.

My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.

So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.

I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.

Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

Please comment below, it would mean a lot to me to hear your final thoughts.


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