Cast Blog: #RHOM

Fur, Feathers, and Joe Francis

Lisa was embarrassed by all the craziness that went on during her chairty event.

My much anticipated lingerie party to benefit Susan G. Komen is finally here. Our philosophy is that if you are going to have a party, party with a purpose. This is one of the foundations we work with to raise awareness and funds. I liked the idea of having a lingerie party in conjunction with breast cancer awareness. It will definitely create a buzz and draw attention to this cause. Of course I need to look fabulous at my event, so my "hired friend" and fashion consultant Daysy has come to my rescue. Doesn't everyone model sexy lingerie for their housekeeper? I passed on the angel look, because I didn't have the horns to hold my halo up.

I had to call Lea because she had not RSVPed at that point, and I really wanted her to come. I was incredibly surprised (in a good way) when she actually showed up, and I appreciated her donation to the cause.

At Lea's office Adriana brings up Karent's article in the paper labeling some of the ladies classless fame addicts with Botox for brains, saying how she wants to show women have class and beauty in Miami like her. I agree with Lea here in that if the shoe doesn't fit, I'm not wearing it. I also agree with Joanna in that journalists sometimes tend to misquote or misconstrue your words. I for one do not believe everything I read and only half of what I hear.

At Alexia’s house, she and Marysol discuss Karent not knowing her place and that she is attempting to elevate herself to a place she's not in. I believe we all are on this show and this world to elevate ourselves to the next level. That's part of what life is about.  I would hate to think that I would ever become so complacent that I would stop trying to improve myself. And what is her place? To sit on the sidelines looking into a life and position she deserves to be in? No one person is better than the next.Joanna then does her shoot at my home. I am very proud of her for being a voice for innocent, helpless animals. I however wasn't thrilled with Daysy saying I was hard at work shopping. Ha! Sure I love shopping, but I was actually getting my event prepared. I like to be as hands on as possible. I have a type A personality and consider myself a perfectionist. Sometimes that is my downfall. Daysy simply assists me in the process. My husband likes to poke fun of me when I get stressed. He has that joke that I am not used to work, when in fact I have worked very hard my whole life. I think, sometimes, that Lenny does not want me to work just so he can make jokes about me not working.

I of course don't expect my friends to lift a finger when they are guests at my home. Any one of them will tell you I am a very hospitable and gracious host. I didn't mind at all that Marta was enjoying the company of my friends and enjoying the beautiful day while I was getting the event together.  I had said that Marta seems like she is on an extended vacation, because she doesn't currently seem to be pursuing her dreams while in Miami, which is also the reason I said she may be a little lost. I hope she achieves all she desires and finds her way. I didn't mean those words to be unkind in any way. I sometimes feel that I am on an extended vacation and lost myself. I think we all go through it at some point in life.

Later that night I became incredibly stressed when the people working the event were not on time. They were of course on what I call "Miami time" where everyone is an hour late. Things never get done properly unless you do them yourself. My husband was clearly frustrated, because our guests were expected to arrive at any moment. I was unhappy with him, because I felt he was taking out his frustrations on me. Sometimes we do this to the people we love. I don't however let him get away with it, although my choice of words when I called him an a--hole was a little harsh. I could have handled him better, but I was already aggravated with the situation. Thank god we sorted this situation out just in time. Phew!

Lea had mentioned that she didn't expect the protocol for our event to be as rigid as a black tie event such as hers, and she is right on target with that. Our guests don't get assigned seats but rather are made to feel at home, meet as many other people as possible, and have fun. No sticks in asses allowed! I mentioned that she has never met celebrity she didn't like, because she clearly holds her celebrity friends in high regard. I am at the end of the day (as Karent would say) happy she came, it meant a lot to me. Marysol arrives and Karent immediately warned her that Joanna was unhappy about her lingerie choice because of the fur. I feel Joanna should have calmly pulled Marysol aside herself if she felt strongly enough and expressed her feelings about it. Obviously they aren't close enough to do that, which is probably also the reason Marysol didn't think about the possibility of offending Joanna or owe her an explanation. Coincidentally Lea was also wearing feathers herself, but no one's feathers were ruffled over that? Why was she exempt? She said herself that they were only fake for the night. Is everyone frightened of the "mayor" except for me?

The conversation quickly turned from fur to Joe Francis’s relationship with Marta and Joanna. He did offer too much information, but Karent did open that door by asking if she slept with both of them. Then to make the situation worse, Karent told Joanna in front of Joe that he had just said he slept with both of them. The question should never have been asked. Joanna then of course got irate with Joe. I felt embarrassed for everyone involved. I didn't appreciate any of this behavior at my event. Obviously no one cared enough that I worked very hard to make this event a success and that we were here to raise funds and awareness for an important cause. These issues should of been addressed at another time.

I finally make my grand entrance to the group of ladies. Lea was kind enough to call me "cute," which was definitely not the look I was going for, but was nice to see her make an effort to be nice to me. The hilariousness about my outfit I didn’t understand. What was so hilarious about it?

All of this chaos and the night has only just begun...

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!

It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.

I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!

I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.

Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.

Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.

I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.

Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.

And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.

My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.

So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.

I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.

Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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