Cast Blog: #RHOM

My Struggles with Miscarriages

A Therapeutic Season for Alexia

Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea's Double Standards

Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

An X-Rated Reunion

Lisa's Vegas Regret

Joanna's Perfect Day

Lea and the Beefy Bus Boy Duo

Lea's Lip Service

Lisa's "Peacemaker" Problems

Alexia's Not Sweating the Small Stuff

Real Friends Don't Hold Grudges

A Fun Party, Minus the Distractions

Apologizing to Lea

Alexia's Anniversary Celebration

Lisa Loves Texas

Meet Joanna's New Puppy!

Lea's Walk Down Memory Lane

Adriana's Wedding Full of Waiting

Adriana's Two Loves

May Adriana Live Happily Ever After

Romain's Troubled Past

Alexia's Birthday Drama

Meet Dr. Sex Therapist Lisa

The Wedding Evite Explained

Targeted by the Hate Club

Lisa's Button-Pushing Behavior

Peter's Healing Process

Lenny's Lipo

Lea's Over the Haters

Adriana's Difficult Past

Joanna Talks Role Playing

Update on Elsa

Recovering Frankie and Peter

Lisa's Bridesmaid Ultimatum

Joanna's Outright Insult

The Birkin Bag Bonanza

Adriana's Glamorous 'Great Gatsby' Wedding

Lisa's In-Law Issues

Shocked by Lea's Secrets

My Struggles with Miscarriages

Lisa opens up about her fertility issues.

Watching this episode and discussing it with my husband was especially hard for me and at times painful to watch. The fertility issues that we have had to deal with over the last several years have been trying and reminders, like this episode, are tough. I have since become very aware that so many other couples face these same challenges. We never thought that starting a family would be so difficult, and we were really unprepared for this journey.  We never thought that we would need to seek the help of a fertility expert or some of the other treatments that we have done in the hopes of making our dream of a family a reality.

During our ordeal many of our friends have casually asked us innocently enough, "So when are you going to start a family?"  They were just being nice, but every time I heard it, I cringed, because I just did not want to be reminded.  Many had theories like I was too small or too thin, and although I know it was not said maliciously, it made me feel self-conscious nonetheless.  I know that I am a very healthy person who eats well and maintains a healthy exercise program, but when people talk, it brings up self-doubt.

I had called my husband insensitive, because sometimes I feel hurt when I see him so upset that he has not fulfilled his desire to have a child. I know he supports me and everything that I am going through.
 
Now let’s talk about some other people.

Romain was clearly and rightfully upset about the drama at Mynt. He reminded Joanna that she cannot handle her alcohol and should have stayed away from it on his big night. Clearly this is not the first incident with vodka and our Polish princess, and probably not the last… It seems she is not what I would call a "happy drunk." Romain also seemed to blame Marta, although she did nothing wrong that night, and in my opinion tried to calm Joanna down. I think she is just a casualty of Romain's anger.We get another glimpse into the couple’s relationship troubles when Joanna explains to her sister she got a phone call about Romain and a Mynt dancer making out in the club. I find it hard to believe that Romain would do that in his own club, when it would of course get back to Joanna. It seems like trust is a factor in their relationship. Trust is number one in my relationship, and if Lenny and I didn't have that, our relationship would not survive.



Adriana was the subject matter of a sexy shoot with a well-known artist she looks up to. It’s flattering to be the inspiration for a great artist and his collection. I have had the pleasure of being the muse for a very talented and well known artist by the name of Tomasz Rut. His neo-classical artwork is showcased throughout our home. Lenny and I were invited to his studio after being introduced by a mutual friend to do a shoot for his paintings. Currently we are showcased in his collections, one of Lenny and I and two of myself. The picture of Lenny and me on my cribs video was actually a gift from Tomasz on our wedding.It was evident Adriana was apprehensive about getting nude for the shoot. Again, I can relate, because I made the decision long ago to shoot for Playboy magazine. I was very young and at that time and I didn't realize that these pictures would be accessible forever in this world of the internet and that someday my kids may see them. It is a decision I have come to regret, but when you're 23 you don't think about consequences.

Adriana’s photo turned out beautifully, I can understand why it was sold so quickly. I did agree with Karent that Lea’s comment that the work must have been bought by Adriana herself was insulting, and it did seem like a backhanded compliment. I’m no stranger to these from Lea.

It was sweet to see how excited Adriana was to meet the founder of kinetic art. I don't believe Karent wanting to have her photo taken with this man should have caused such a reaction form Adriana however. He didn't seem to be put off by it, and actually he seemed to enjoy it. He even asked Karent for a second kiss on the cheek. But this scene was the inspiration for the best comment I have heard in this social media obsessed day and age -- "She beat me to the tweet." An instant classic!
Adriana did an excellent job with the Dali art exhibition. Well done, girl! I of course could not produce art like one of the greatest artists of our generation. The cameras caught me in another Lisaism… Don’t worry, there are plenty more of those to come. My husband quickly corrected my joke/Lisaism and saved me from myself when he disagreed and said, “Uh no, honey, you can't.” LOL! When I was with the ladies, I could not help but feel that this was also a bit of a bitchfest. First the talk about Marysol and her business, the red carpet incident with James/Elaine, the Karent picture taking situation and the beating her to the tweet… Conveniently all of the people being bitched out were also absent. This ticked me off, because they were not there to defend themselves. Karent took a picture with Adriana’s favorite artist whom she looked up to -- big deal! If that’s the worst thing Karent has done to someone, I would definitely want that person as my friend. And so what if she talks a lot? Who cares if she has something to say and she says it? I don't remember myself being able to get a word in edgewise at this event, because everyone seemed to have a lot to say! Pot, meet kettle!


As a good friend should, Ana made Marysol aware of the discussion about her and her business at the Dali event. I love that Ana defended her friend and looped her in right away. She obviously has her back. I don't believe in ever messing with a person’s ability to make a living or underestimating their abilities, especially if their business is based on word of mouth. It’s just not me. Ana made the comment about Lea marrying a rich guy, wondering how hard it could be. I'm here to tell you that it’s not that easy! I bet she doesn't even know the amount of books and training I had to endure just to lock Lenny down with that ball and chain. Men like Lenny and Roy are far and few between! LOL! (For anyone who doesn't understand Lisaisms, that was just one of them.)

Just like Ana, I felt it necessary to update my girls about the happenings at the Dali event. I didn’t intend to stir the pot, but I would hope they would do the same for me. After discussing the photo with kinetic artist, I learned that just as suspected, Karent’s desire to take a photo and tweet it was as innocent as could be. She learned that this artist was famous and she wanted a photo op with him. No MALICE intended. I had to let Karent know these ladies are not her best friends, and that she should stand up for herself. Karent needs that push, because she wouldn't hurt a fly.

I decided that we needed a code -- the devil horns. An obvious and obnoxious one, but a surefire way to let someone know you are on to them without saying a word. LOL! Me and my humor again. As you can see, I like to have fun and don't take all these silly situations so seriously. There was another Lisaism at the end of that conversation, when Karent said money can't buy you class and I chimed in, “But it can buy you an ass." I was being funny and have no idea where that came from. I guess what I was trying to convey is that money can buy anything, asses included in today's world! (Although mine is all mine!) But class isn't one of them! You either got it or you don't.

Karent’s scene with her mother broke my heart. Sometimes when in love, we are blind to the truth. A mother knows best, and the saying “love is blind” is so true. Karent deserves to be with a man who shares the same goals as her, to be married and have a family together.Ana and her daughters are so funny together; that relationship is wonderful. It makes me want children more than anything . There is no stronger bond.

The Winter Party Festival in Miami is basically like gay Christmas, as Ana said. I love and support my gays all the way, so I of course wouldn't miss this event. Not to mention I would not miss Joanna performing. She killed it! She was worried for no reason. This is where we found out from Marta about the 4 am phone call about Romain’s alleged cheating scandal. Those two have so much stress on their relationship, I really hope they can rise above it all and work it out. It’s going to be tough.

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Lea's Final Thoughts on the Season

Lea shares he status with each of the girls post-reunion.

It’s a Wrap!


It’s been an interesting season. I've been as honest and authentic as possible. I feel I owe that to myself and to you, our viewing audience. I've defended myself when wrongly accused or misinterpreted and in the process unfortunately, ugly truths have been exposed. I haven't gone out of my way to hurt anyone, but if I have, in the spirit of defending myself or setting the record straight, then so be it. I've had some fun, a few laughs, and experienced a lot of unnecessary stress.
 


I've showcased as many of my friend’s businesses as I could and got in a few shameless plugs for theworldofleablack.com. However, I haven't traded on the show or received any freebies, other than borrowing jewelry a couple of times! LOL! Some have interpreted it as being materialistic, I call it marketing. LOL!
 


I've listened to people re-invent the past, camouflage the present, and stoop to insults, foul language, and ugliness, all of which make me cringe. I've made closer bonds with some and made new friends along the way. I’ve learned to love and appreciate the work that goes into being on the show. Of course, I don't like what I see from time to time, but I hope I've maintained my integrity and what was important to me.I cracked a few jokes at others expense, made a few sarcastic remarks, and rolled my eyes a few times. I just can't (or won't) stop being myself. LOL! I've loved reading all of your comments and tweets. Even when I disagree, I'm OK with it if you were being intellectually honest. But the few comments which were mean-spirited, based upon uniformed conclusions, bias, or outside influence, I disregarded, ignored, and deleted. I have a low threshold for pettiness and unnecessary maliciousness.
 


Now, for the girls, in my usual style, let me be as honest as I can be.
 


Lisa: I feel she and I have a lot in common, and I'm closer to her than the others. I think she has a good heart, but is a little too sensitive. I think she often takes things too personally. She wants to have fun; she has a wonderful spirit and loves a good party. She did get on my nerves while attempting to be “the connector" but I understand the reasons and know her intentions were good. She can always depend on me, and we enjoy a loving and brutally honest relationship.
 


I'm the next closest to Joanna. I love a lot of things about her. Her love for animals, how much she works , her willingness to speak publically about her very personal problems, endure public scrutiny, and the manner in which she let's things go and moves on are all admirable. She doesn't live or die based upon the opinions of others. I am disappointed with some of the things that she said things during the reunion shows. I know she has suffered for it, regrets it deeply, and wishes she could take it back. But because of some of her choices, I have a reluctance to fully embrace or trust her. She knows exactly how I feel.
 
Alexia: For three seasons I have defended her, had her back, and given her the benefit of the doubt. Watching her all season, week after week, speak one insult or mean-spirited comment about me, knowing many of them were lies, causes me to wonder if she did it to patronize the hate club, play all sides, or if she has some hidden resentment towards me. Perhaps she did it for air time in an attempt to make herself more relevant? Maybe she just doesn't like me and doesn't want to say it? Whatever reason she got her digs in, it is not justifiable; they were uncalled for and she should regret it and say so.  Whenever the cameras weren’t rolling, she’d tell me how much she loves me and what great friends we are. So even though she threw me under the bus several times, as recently as the reunion, I'm not interested in going tit for tat. I wish her and Herman well, and I have a lot of empathy for her personal issues.
 


Now to Adriana:  Everyone knows how I feel about her. The one thing she did which showed her real inner self is when she ripped my son’s heart out and stomped on it. She intentionally, out of hatred, kept her son away from my son. To this day, I know that I’ve done nothing but try to help her or defend myself against her lies.  She has expressed her gratitude by stabbing me in the back. Whatever her motivation (I have my own conclusions), nothing will ever put Humpty Dumpty back together again. I can put the past in the past and be amicable towards her, but let me make the following point crystal clear: I will never fully trust her. And I really just don't like who she is. Since the show either she has changed or who she really is showed up. Either way it’s not compatible with who I am and what I want in my life.
 
Marysol: Again, I've called Elsa many times over the months, and I've continued to do so, whether Marysol chooses to believe it or not.

And to set the record straight, yes Frankie is a friend of mine. He is a comedian and has a You Tube channel of impersonations, he is a Broadway star and an entertainer. He only impersonates people he finds interesting. No, he never knew Elsa was sick and no, I didn't see him make the video, and no, I wasn't in the background. All of which can be proven. But if it was a big secret, he wouldn't have posted it on You Tube.


And by the way, he made the You Tube video months after the show was no longer filming. But of course Marysol brought it up about 5 months later, so she could justify and explain away her behavior of the season.

Overall, it’s been a learning experience. I've been surprised to discover how people will behave and how far they will go for attention, relevance, a storyline, or to make someone look bad. I've always said reality TV brings out the best and worst in people, and I stand by that belief.
 


My tag line “I live my life like everything matters, because I think it does" is true for me. As easy as it may be for some to just live in denial and brush things aside, I believe everything we do matters, including who we are to ourselves and to others. And who we are produces consequences, both good and bad. I choose to live my life trying to create good consequences and limit negativity.
Not all drama has to be negative. One doesn’t have to criticize others in order to justify their own poor behavior or make themselves feel better about their lives.
 


So maybe I'm a fit for reality TV or maybe I'm not, that would be up to the viewers. The one thing I am certain of is that my real friends, my family, my son, and my husband understand me and are more important to me than anything and everything else. They know that my charitable work, being true to myself, living like everything matters, giving more than I take, my sense of right and wrong, making a conscious effort to live a life of purpose, setting a good example for my son, and being mindful of future generations are the most important things in my life.
 


I love nice things and love living the good life, and sharing it, and I've earned every right to do just that. I will never apologize for my lifestyle, but I won't be defined by it either.
 


Thanks for watching. Life is time, and you took time out for us, and for that I am forever grateful. Whether you enjoyed me on the show or not, know one thing, I put as much into it as I possibly could, and then some. LOL! Thank you POP, our amazing producers and their incredible team, the Bravo Network, and the viewers for the opportunity to cross paths. Did we bond yet? LOL!

Spread the love and keep the peace.

Love, Lea

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