The scene with Lenny and I coming back from the fertility doctor really shows me how far we have come. My approach to using a surrogate is very different now than what it was at this time. I am much more comfortable with the idea and realize that it’s a blessing that this is even an option in today's world for us. I have come to understand that the bond between a mother and child doesn't just come from carrying that child. Even though I have not had the experience of carrying a baby full term, I think my comments may have been a little insensitive to others out there who may be adopted or have used a surrogate. For that I apologize.
I want to thank all of you who have reached out to me on my Facebook, Twitter, and website and share your personal struggles with me. So many of you have gone through similar situations as me. Many of you have given me helpful advice and have been a real support. I cannot possibly get back to each one of you, because the messages have been overwhelming. It's truly humbling.
I don't think Lenny was being insensitive towards me; he just wasn't looking at it from my perspective. No insensitive man would bring home a beautiful necklace just to put a smile on his wife's face.
It is true Lenny works practically all the time, and on this particular day he was even working a full day on Saturday. He's definitely a workaholic husband, so I guess that makes me a desperate housewife (kidding...kind of). He does it because he absolutely loves what he does and has a hard time turning down patients. Nevertheless I am so proud of him and all that he's achieved. I know once we have our first child he will slow down a little bit.
I disagree with others saying "they don't like you." I think your infertility struggle is heartbreaking and interesting to watch. I also like seeing the shopping the women do and can't stand te fighting as I feel it brings women down!!! Please keep Lisa. I love her!!!
You're husband is the top plastic surgeon in the country? According to who? And you make comments about women having work done? Am I the only one who finds that to be in bad taste? And haven't YOU had work done? And hasn't your HUSBAND had work done???!!!! That's pretty outrageous of you to make comments about other people getting work done!
Andy!!!! We watch your show to get away for an hour and be entertained. I don't want to watch Lisa complaining and this chick does nothing. Why is she on the show? At least Karent has a career we can follow. I don't want to hear about Lenny and babies for an hour. No offense but please replace her. Lisa brings ZERO to the table. Sorry but so true. She needs to go ASAP.
You are my favorite on the show! Besides the fact that we share the same name. :)
I was a surrogate 3 years ago for a married couple and honestly I would never do it again! It was tough! So words of advice... be nice to your surrogate, be considerate, appreciative, and show her love, respect and appreciation. Be grateful...I did not get that from my intended parents and the experience sucked for me. Also, don't be over bearing. She had children of her own who are healthy and normal so let the baby carrying expert live her life. That is all and I cant wait for you guys to have those babies! :)
I love Lisa! At first I thought she was just a barbie doll but she has the best one liners on any of the real housewives shows. You go girl!!
....Best line on tonight's episode...."RJ is too young to know just how exciting that could have been"... so funny & true!!
I'm watching the show when your with your mother-in-law, And I have to say tht when you were showing true affection towards her and the look on her face I just wanted to pick you up and snatch you out of there..Maybe you should rethink That Relationship... Until Your Husband lets you inlaws knows your Not Their Choice BUT is IT his, maybe your baby is waiting to see if it wants into this world with that negative Grammy. Lenny needs to Check is Mother!!!! But you are in my prayers every night ! Does she even have a clue what the word Respect means!!! If you have nothing nice to say.. Just keeping feeding that mouth and stopping trying to talk.PERIOD!
I can't believe you told your Mother-in-law that she is annoying, really??? You are a spoiled rotten brat and you my dear are very annoying.
how much did you and Lenny donate to the charity. Or did he spend too much on jewerly for you to wear and couldn't afford to give?
The whining needs to stop. If you are alone so much, volunteer at the local homeless shelter and maybe that will put your lifestyle in perspective. If you can't have a child adopt or use a surrogate. Your problems are solvable. There are people in the world with real issues...dying, starving, illness, etc.
..Hey Lisa...watch out!! The hater gang will be looking for a new victim at this season's reunion & I have the feeling you might be next...
Season I ~ Christy ol what's her name?
Season II ~ Joanna
Season III ~ Lea
Season IV ~ ????
Relo-HOM I thought Season II was mostly about the Karent hate, and Joanna got into it by being overly-vocal about the Karent hate! lol
It sounds like you have been coming out of strong emotional disappointments. So everyone go a bit easy on her.
It take time to adjust to the news that you can't carry your own baby. It appears like you have turned an emotional corner. Good for you. Relax now that decision is done...you are a very lucky woman that you have a husband who can afford a wonderful life style for you. Enjoy and give back, help others and keep Lea close who is a great lady.
@threesistersx3 I don't think life could be easier for Lisa. Her husband has the means to give her a baby. She wants what she wants which is to carry it. Lots of women desire to have children and can't afford other options. She will have a baby when she stops whining about the way she wants the baby. She needs to go.
Lisa, I want to say thank you to you and your husband for being so candid about your struggle to have a child. I too have had fertility issues. This is something so many women and couples out there are having to struggle with also, mostly in silence, accompanied sometimes or often by feelings of guilt and shame over something that is beyond our control. I do understand the desire to carry your own child,,however I think that you are so lucky and blessed to have the option of a surrogate. Most cannot even afford IVF unless they are lucky enough to have insurance that will cover it and most times that only covers 1 round. I am guessing that it will be your and husbands embryo? I know a lot of people talk about how "beautiful" pregnancy is or can be, however most girlfriends I have talked to say they couldn't wait to give birth and how hard it was on their body. So I think it's kinda awesome in a way that you get to bypass all of that? Your baby is your baby, is your baby. If you want it bad enough it won't matter in the end how they got here. When you hold that baby for the first time and fall in love deeper than you thought humanly possible, when you see the pure joy and love on Lenny's face, nothing else will matter. The real bonding with a baby comes after they leave the womb. I wish you and your husband much luck and happiness and hope that we will be hearing good news from you in the near future :)
You are going to get a lot of "hater-ade" thrown your way. Don't listen. You are a simple gal and that's what I like about you. (PS..please don't interpret "simple" as "stupid." You enjoy the simple pleasures of life and that's not a bad thing. The "haters" are jealous. Yucky.
You are a nice person, but seriously Lisa, to waste the few minutes, per week, you have on this show, where you are spotlighted,,,, you spend waaaayyyyy too much time whining, and complaining. I feel for your infertility plight, truly I do, but this is reality show business, and though it is good to know your heartfelt struggles, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for not drumming up evil drama, to attempt to entertain,,,, and for the sake of me wanting to like you, please try to brighten up your tone of voice......
Lisa, I used to think you were so real and funny but you seem so shallow and ungrateful this season.
price dropping is really tacky....I promise there are much more important things in this world than your diamond necklace! and I'm sure Lea owns plenty of her own. Maybe your husband wouldn't have to work as much if you didnt need such expensive gifts! just something to think about.....
oh and the joanna bangs comment? That comment was immature and made you look jealous of joanna (which is understandable---she's drop dead gorgeous) but still!
Lots of people can't have kids in this world and don't have the options you have. Still wishing you the best in that area though.
That you mention the cost of your necklace is classless. That you compared it to the cost of Lea's borrowed jewelry is worse. You do this all of the time. You are bourgeouis at best.
Lisa, get ahold of Giuliana and Bill Rancic, they have gone through the same thing you and Lenny are going through. Now they have a beautiful little Duke and planning on number two! Be positive and do what's right and get busy. Yes, you are not going to be carrying your baby yourself, but it is your seed and Lenny's sperm, so it is your child! You are lucky that we live in times where this can be done. Be thankful and get busy! p.s. Keep your life positive and uplifting. Don't get caught up in the high school girls (Adrianna, Marysol, Alexia) mean click. You are better than that. And you have a better lifestyle and a better husband. Lea and Joanna want what's best for you. God Bless
Please understand the difference, you will not be using a surrogate, you will be using a gestational carrier. Had you done this years ago you would already have your precious child. Watch Giuliana Rancic's show, she and her husband had a similar situation and not only do they have a healthy one year old (through a gestational carrier) but are looking at having baby number 2. Educate yourself and best wishes.
@BettyBoob With all this free time in her hands, her best bet is to go back to school. Learn something, get an education. Instead of concerning herself with the superficial things in life and hopefully she will stop whining so much!
BettyBoob Hey hun she does know the difference she has used a GC in the past. If you recall she was talking about it in Bimini with Lea. She has been down this road for a few cycles I happen to know this for a fact and the outcome so far is still no baby unfortunately :(.
All I hear out of your mouth are complaints, complaints and whining. Get a grip and recognize how blessed you are! You live in a huge home because your husband works all the time. Your going to build your dream home on the coveted star island because your husband works all the time. So stop complaining about it. You'd be no where close to where you are if it wasn't for him and on a whim to stop your childless behavior he buys you a $400k necklace. Be grateful. And have a big wheel of cheese to go with that whine.
Gwenever Her story is getting very played out!! I'm over watching Lisa Hotchstein getting ready for the night! We see her bathroom more than anything! Than she attends the event! she plays Switzerland all night. and basically doesn't keep it real...
piperbeau Gwenever Just because her husband makes the money doesn't mean she needs to shut up and sit in a corner. You both sound jealous. Too many of you viewers are just out for blood. Switzerland is quite beautiful.
marcisue piperbeau Gwenever its hearing a scrathcy record and all you hear is noise. Its calling attention to shut up and be grateful. jealous.. PALEAAASE!!! especially Lisa.
piperbeau Gwenever I was responding to the others who got their feathers ruffled thinking we are jealous and judging Lisa. Im explaining how Lisa's constant complaining is like a scratchy record and she needs be grateful- not sit in a corner and shut up as "marcisue" commented- but rather sit back/pause and be grateful for her blessings. RECOGNIZE. And I agree with what you said- and switzerland is a great way to put it about how she "plays" it.
Have faith! God will bless you and Lenny with a beautiful family to complete your amazing life. You both seem very genuine on the show, keep it up.
I've seen Flo Rida up and close at the ESPYs and he was AWESOME! That scene brought back fun memories.
How embarrassed you should be to have been seated at the same table with all the misfit rejects. Denis Rodman!? Really!? Joanna maybe pretty but her and Roman are cheap, loud, rude and obnoxious. No words for the 7 foot tranny. Your husband was the only legit person at the table. I'm glad he defended Fredric, the men should not get dragged into pretty girl drama.
...Lisa, it's nice of you to apologize for your words that could come across as insensitive....I only wish some of your other cast mates would do the same & own it!
On another note...be careful when you say the word "Cuban" because if it's not used in a positive way, there will be a lynch mob after you!
Signing off with the words of Alexia,..." I CAN'T!"
Whether or not the bangs were fake Joanna looked absolutely stunning ! It's always nice seeing a woman doing something different with her hair instead of the same stale hairdo. Making a snide remark about her bangs being fake does not become you. I guess you are all natural?
Your a doll and Lenny is a great guy. Good luck with you fertility treatments. My prayers are with you.
I can really relate to your struggles. My husband is 48 and I'm 32. We've had miscarriages and have been trying for years. It's truly heartbreaking to go through this. I haven't given up hope because I could never afford the surrogacy route, but I do plan on adopting one day anyway. God bless you in your endeavors to have a family.
I also want to say that you are a great addition to the Housewives since last season. I would be super careful with Adrianna because she is major phony bologna.
I liked the blog, I like that you've chosen to move forward with a surrogate. Haven't been much of a fan this year, the blog is positive. Hoping for the best.
No need to apologize. Of course it is understandable you might hesitate to use a surrogate. Glad you went to the Gala (and went early!). You are a stand-up friend.
Please stop with the price dropping. It makes so seem so insecure. We don't care if Lenny spent $400K on a necklace. Actually, it's quite foolish and it causes him to have to work more and more to pay for your lavish gifts...