Caroline Manzo

Caroline gives her thoughts on Kathy and Teresa's confrontation.

on Jul 17, 20110

Hello! It seems as if I just wrote last week’s blog only a few hours ago, where is the time going?

I love the Christmas season; it’s my favorite time of year. It’s a wonderful blend of chaos, laughter, food, friends, and family. Putting up the tree and decorating the house is always an event in my home, and I was happy to see that we aren’t the only ones that argue during the process! There’s nothing more magical than watching the kids faces light up when the house is decorated and the tree is lit for the first time. Precious moments…

Ashley struggles with her feelings about belonging to two families. I understand where she’s coming from to a certain extent, but then I look at the two families that she’s a part of and wonder why she’s so negative. It can’t be easy to have your parent’s divorce, remarry, and expand their families with their new spouse. However, in Ashley’s case there is no divide between the two. Jacqueline and Mat have a great relationship with each other and their respective spouses. Ashley is part of our family, when I speak of her, I say my niece Ashley, my kids will say my cousin Ashley, never once was the word “step” used. The same holds true for her dad in Texas. You can’t change what is, but you should embrace the positive; Ashley has two families that love and support her. To me that’s a blessing.

Lauren had a tough time adjusting when the boys moved out of the house. I’ll never forget the day we moved them into their apartment; she was laughing and joking with them the entire time. On the way home she burst into tears and told me how upset she was about the move. She told me that for her entire life it was the three of them; they did everything together, and now she was alone and the boys moved on without her. She felt that she was being left behind and her brothers would move forward making new friends and have a new life that she wouldn’t be a part of. I felt terrible for her, but at the same time that’s life. Things change and you have to bend with the changes and adjust.

282 comments
PHILLYWILLI
PHILLYWILLI

CAROLINE ON THIS ONE I AGREE WITH MOST PEOPLE ABOUT KATHY SAYING THE BABY WAS UNATTENDED, IMPLYING TERESA WAS A BAD MOTHER, MAYBE SHE DIDN'T MEAN FOR IT TO COME OUT THAT WAY AND THEN AGAIN MAYBE SHE DID, BUT ANYWAYTHE WORSE THING YOU CAN SAY TO A MOM IS THAT SHE DID SOMETHING WRONG.....KATHY WAS MAKING THE DIVIDE BETWEEN TERESA AND HER BROTHER JOE SO MUCH BIGGER....SOMETIMES OTHERS NEED TO STAY OUT OF A FAMILY ARGUMENT AND LET THEM WORK IT OUT WITHOUT SOMEONE BUTTING IN AND CAUSING MORE HURT FEELING, I FEEL LIKE HER BROTHER JOE AND MELISSA AND KATHY WERE NOT THERE AT ALL FOR TERESA AS SHE WAS GOING THROUGH SUCH A DIFFICULT TIME , SHE NEEDED THE SUPPORT AND A SHOULDER TO LEAN ON, THAT IS WHAT FAMILIES DO, WHEN YOU ARE DOWN OFFER A SOFT SHOULDER. BUT SAYING THAT...... I ALMOST ALWAYS AGREE WITH YOU AND YOU HAVE SUCH WONDERFUL CHILDREN, I KNOW YOU ARE A PROUD MAMA, AND TAKE IT FROM AN OLD GRANDMA, ME, THE BEST IS YET TO COME, SOMEDAY YOU WILL HAVE A HOME FILLED WITH GRANDBABIES, I HOPE YOU CAN BE WITH THEM AS I WAS WITH MINE, I SOLD MY HOME AND MY SON SOLD HIS HOME AND WE NOW LIVE A FEW HOUSES AWAY SO THE KIDS CAN RUN BACK AND FORTH, MY GREATEST JOY WAS CARING FOR THEM ALL DAY AS MY SON AND HIS WIFE WORKED, AND OF COURSE GRANDMA HAS A NICE NURSERY IN HER HOME EVEN THOUGH WE ARE JUST FEET AWAY FROM THERE HOME...IT IS SO FUN TO HELP SHAPE MORE LITTLE LIVES AFTER THE KIDS ARE GROWN AND ON THERE OWN....AND YOU WILL BE BUSIER THEN YOU EVER WERE WITH GRANDBABIES TO HELP RAISE....

Lovethemanzos
Lovethemanzos

Caoline, I love you and your family you all have good hearts. I rarely disagree with you but when a family fights it's usually big and making up is sometimes difficult but will happen. Tresea was being as nice as she could towards Kathy, It was when Kathy pushed her for more that Tre went off. She's making an effort with her brother and his fake wife right now plus going through some tough times. I think if Kathy were to just back off for now and let things be what they are for now, eventually things will get worked out.

ViewerLin
ViewerLin

How weird it feels for me to be admiring Melissa and her Joe's actions, while wondering who took off with the real Caroline ...Kathy was trying to mend fences??? More like poking her with a stick while she's down!

Akashara
Akashara

I watched the show and I disagree with all the comments bashing Caroline for her take on the Kathy/Teresa confrontation. When Kathy said "it's good to see you" Teresa gave her a cold, insincere "it's good to see you too" and then turned her back and proceeded to the buffet table. Kathy then said "no, I really mean it. It's good to see you." Once again, Teresa came back with that cold "it's good to see you too." It was obvious that Kathy was trying to make amends...Teresa was being extremely unwelcoming and negative.

Caroline calls it as she sees it. Being a friend does not mean that you don't recognize your friends short comings. Teresa is far from perfect as his her husband Joe. I lost taste for them during that entire bankruptcy. If I am to feel sorry to anyone, it will be to those who extended them credit and basically got "legally" ripped off. We all saw The Guidices' spend money with wild abandon. You just don't wake up one day and find out that you are in debt. They knew for a long time they should be cutting back , but they are all for show. After the bankruptcy proceedings are finalized, Teresa decides she will author some cookbooks. Why didn't you do that before and pay off your creditors? It's a shame the laws are what they are. Too many people get to skate free. Why not do a Chapter 13, then continue to pay off your debt little by little. I grew up in an Italian family and my father had pride and always paid his bills even though we were living on very little.

I think Kathy needs to just write off Teresa. Just because you're related doesn't give anyone the right to abuse you. Also, during the Gorga's baby's Christening, it did look like Audriana was left in her carriage alone until Kathy went over. It could be just how it was edited, but that's the way it looked to viewers.

newyorkconnecticut
newyorkconnecticut

With the emotions involved its no wonder people behave in a certain manner, perhaps to the dismay of most. I believe Teresa was so on edge....feeling very uncomfortable and worried about how the night might go that when Kathy came she behaved in what some may say was combative. If Kathy wanted to make ammends, she should have called Teresa to discuss the problems prior to that night or as she was saying hello at the party asked Teresa to meet sometime the following week. I think Kathy had good intentions but here approach was all wrong.

traciefromHAWAII
traciefromHAWAII

I personally think that the "olive branch" was a bust because Kathy was too pushy. It was great that she said "hello" and "you look good" but after Teresa said hello back, Kathy walked toward her and kept pushing that it was REALLY nice to see her and wanted to make sure she got the message. Messages are good in small doses when you're trying to reconcile. Too much too fast is a recipe for disaster. I wasn't even there and I saw all of that. Kathy shouldn't take it so personally. It will blow over. They are family. It happens.

Nina Girl
Nina Girl

Caroline, I side with Teresa's reaction about Kathy, she was cordial responded to her greeting but Kathy pursued it more and she got the backlash of Teresa. Rich was completely out of line with his comment of burning the place and Kim G. was another crazy coconut.

Ms. Sim
Ms. Sim

Caroline, you always get it right. Love watching you and your family and the advice you give.

beentherebefore
beentherebefore

Caroline, I agree with you 100%! Being a good friend to someone doesn't mean "always having their back" as so many people have posted. It means wanting what is best for them and helping them in achieving that. If Theresa wants to be closer to her family, like she has been saying all season, then you have been a great friend to her in helping her stay focused on her goal, trying not to let her get distracted by the drama, and making her family feel welcome.

chelly5272
chelly5272

OMG-all of your comments about the Kathy/Teresa thing are so stupid. Yes Kathy was dumb and annoying how she kept saying It's good to see you. But all Theresa had to say was thanks and it's good to see you to but now really isn't the time to get into anything so maybe we could have lunch one day and talk about everything. Then that would have made Teresa look good & Kathy bad. I used to love Teresa and not that I don't like her anymore but this whole season she has had an attitude towards everybody but all you see is if Caroline doesn't stick up for her. You can only stick up for someone so many times before they have to deal with what they say or do. I don't think there should be "sides" at all. Caroline was Dina's older sister. She didn't come on the show as Teresa's best friend. Maybe if Dina came back things would play out differently.

Wow Wow Wow
Wow Wow Wow

Caroline, luv ya! But do not blame Teresa; she kept it cordial, it was Kathy that kept trying to push the issue. Teresa said hello, Happy Holiday's and toasted Kathy, and that should have been the end of their conversation. Maybe Kathy should have said I would like to call you or get together with you after the Holiday's. It was not the time or the place for them to go into a discussion that they both need to have. Just as Kathy ran to you after the Brownstone situation and met one on one. She needs to do the same for Teresa. Love the bracelet and kudos for your remarks about Ashlee. She is spoiled and selfish, I was lucky to grow up with both parents. But, if I did not I would of loved to have a stepfather like Chris, everyone can see that he adores her and treats her like his blood child.

ILRHONJ
ILRHONJ

I just wanted to say thank you, Caroline. Something you said on the show stuck in my mind. I recently had to have a really difficult conversation with someone and I was so afraid to do it but I kept hearing you say, "Sometimes you have to put your big girl panties on." Everytime I started feeling I shouldn't say anything (out of misplaced guilt), remembering you said that helped me so much. Thank you!!!

Deb Schneider
Deb Schneider

Caroline, I have always LOVED, LOVED, LOVED you on the show, but you're really having a hard time keeping your eye on the ball when it comes to Teresa. Kathy is always extending the olive branch, and if Teresa doesn't appease her on the spot, she turns right around and shows us all what is underneath her olive branch... genuine contempt and venom. Teresa doesn't give a hoot about Kathy's olive branch because it doesn't come with any sincerity. It the same with you and Kim G. You don't give a hoot about her olive branch, because it's not sincere either. Teresa is just as cordial to Kathy, as you are to Kim G. Why would you condemn Teresa for not accepting the olive branch when you can't even do it yourself?

Viewerviewer
Viewerviewer

I completely agree with your perspective on the situation, I can count on you to be the voice of reason. Thank you!

Viv
Viv

I love you and you are my favorite, but you are so dead wrong about Kathy. She was trying to push Teresa's buttons. You are usually such a good judge of character. Kathy definitely isn't the poor victim in this case. She pushed Teresa and then went whining to everyone that would listen.

Mary87
Mary87

Corona Mom - Amen!! I totally agree with everything you said.

Richstevens
Richstevens

Wow I can't believe how many people are turning against Caroline for Theresa! I agree with Caroline! The show is only an hour so we don't know what is really going on. For the record Theresa was upset because Kathy said she left her children unattended (WHICH SHE DID). Kathy DID get the children out of the way. Caroline I don't think your being a disloyal friend. Theresa fans get it together and stop putting her on a pedestal! She's only human! What you all don't seem to realize is that Kathy and Theresa are FAMILY!!! By bashing Kathy you are bashing Theresa!!!!

Viewer
Viewer

Wow Caroline, you finally said the truth about Teresa. Thank you. It's clear that Teresa has to fight with everyone in order to be happy. Too much turmoil in Teresa's life and mostly put there by Teresa!

luvtowatchrhnj
luvtowatchrhnj

Caroline Caroline Caroline, I do not know what is going on with you and Tre but I hope all is well. I love seeing that you and your family have a strong bond. You are very fortunate to have a good husband and great kids. I hope that your kids bond will always be strong. They are hilarious! You have done great raising them and I love the way you get a long with them. I hope we can see your sister Dina pop up every here and there on the show. You have a great family, blessed in both ways lots of sisters/brother and again a great husband with good kids. I would love to see a family reunion with all your brothers, sisters and there kids. God bless you and your family.

receptionist-1
receptionist-1

Caroline what a disappointment! now I realize the only reason I enjoyed watching RHONJ was because you guys were "REAL" friends, stood by each other and worked things out above the others. you have become two-faced and a hypocrite, and maybe the fame has gotten to your head, I'm not sure, but is very sad, remember "We are thick as thieves" comment, you should live by it. Be loyal and stand by your friend, may be is time for you to get back to earth, admit, heart searching and come clean. we the viewers could see right thru you.

maricruz
maricruz

yes so much drama. even i could feel the tension in the room. Nobody is perfect, it seems like kathy did go with good intensions to put things behind. but sometimes their are problems that need to be talked through and express how you really feel. so i think it was the wrong place to want to clear the air, and thats y i understand teresa's reaction. I think kathy should have left it at "its nice to see you" to clear the tension and make teresa feel comfortable. But lets see what happens between them.

lakeviewbay
lakeviewbay

Caroline, I have to disagree with you on this one, Kathy picked the wrong time and place to try and start something up with Teresa. She should have called or texted her. Teresa did say hello back more than once. I was very proud of both Teresa and Joe for how classy they were with Kathy when she greeted them. It was nice to see the Gorga's put family first.

I loved the Manzo bracelets and love your Al more. He is a keeper. You could see such pride on his face about this family, and my heart melted that he wanted a bracelet as well. Proud Manzo moment for you all.

Tommy93654ca
Tommy93654ca

Caroline ,

it's good to see You n Jacqueline and your families trying to help teresa and het brother be a family again, I will say what I want in regards to Teresa and Kathy, Teresa did say hello and had a very short cordial conversation and Teresa smiled and the conversation seemed over, Kathy told Teresa "what do you mean by that", kathy Caroline ,

it's good to see You n Jacqueline and your families trying to help teresa and het brother be a family again, I will say what I want in regards to Teresa and Kathy, Teresa did say hello and had a very short cordial conversation and Teresa smiled and the conversation seemed over, Kathy told Teresa "what do you mean by that", kathy is the one that caused it , if Kathy truly wanted to extend the olive branch she would have showed Teresa  the same courtesy she showed you by calling her and/or stopping by to talk wit her , not start crap at a party...again.       if Kathy truly wanted to extend the olive branch she would have showed Teresa  the same courtesy she showed you by calling her and/or stopping by to talk wit her , not start crap at a party...again.      

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Viewer6635
Viewer6635

Caroline - I totally agree with you about Kathy & Teresa. Can't believe everyone else's comments objecting to your point of view. Teresa is rude and class-less.

JerzeeGirlToo
JerzeeGirlToo

I totally agree with you on Kathy and Teresa...Teresa was just MEAN. She really does have some issues!

debbieinmissouritx
debbieinmissouritx

Caroline. you are usually right about alot of things, but I have to disagree with you this time. Lets try to walk a mile in Teresa shoes. She is walking into the lions den at that party and she is uncomfortable and she is afraid to say too much because of what happen at her brother baby christening. So she is trying to diffuse Kathy the best way she knows how before it turns into another christening situation. But Kathy blew anyway. so what if Teresa gave in to Kathy and it became a tit for tat, then it would have been far more worse. hope I was able to put it all in perspective for you. That was just not the place or time, and Kathy should have began with an apology if she was extending an olive branch. Here in texas when you apologize we call it coming from a place of humility. didnt see that from kathy...

holy cannoli
holy cannoli

Hello Hello Caroline...Watch the episode again, put down the Kathy Koolaide and then maybe you wil see what really happened!!

Umm your drunk on the Kathy Koolaide, sober up!

You defaintly have a problem with Teresa,and for whatever reason you are not being fair or neutral in your Blogs..I really think you need to spill the deets, because you are losing favor with people Caroline, just read your blog posts from the season so far.. People are not diggin' you!

hollysooner
hollysooner

I too appreciate your insight, and like some of the other comments, I also saw things differently when it came to the Teresa/Kathy confrontation. It was obvious that Kathy had something more to say...3 times she came to say, "no really, it's good to see you..." what more did she want Teresa to say? It wasn't the place or time and once was enough...if she wanted to launch into a discussion - do it another time. Teresa didn't have to react that way, but for Teresa (someone who does not tend to hold back) she really pulled back the reins, yet still let Kathy know that she was still upset...Kathy may be a sheep in wolf's closings.

kmdtigger41
kmdtigger41

I agree Teresa should have just said hello. However, if Kathy was sincere in making amends she would have called her before the christmas party. It's obvious that either side knows what forgiviness is.

NC LADY
NC LADY

Love it Caroline!!! I think your telling the truth no matter what people say!!! Tre is constantly defensive. COMBATIVE is the PERFECT word to describe Tre right now. She seems so aggravated with the Gorgas all the time even when they're trying to make amends with one another. It's petty and caddy. It's very obvious that she doesn't want to share the spotlight with Melissa. I have only seen the Gorgas try and make up, and then what happens?..... The Guidices start with digs every time. Never fails Tre starts stirring it up. Joe Guidice is the worst. Who actually holds their wife back from making up with her family?!?! Why purposely stop the progress?!?!

litlin89
litlin89

Teresa needs to GET OVER HERSELF.. it was an initial HELLO, its good to see you, and TERESA gave her attitude.. I am so NOT into Teresa this season, she has turned into such a WITCH... She thinks she not at fault for anything.. Never takes responsibility for HER.. its always someone else...

TEAM GORGA

smob
smob

I agree with you 100%, it isn't always easy to say you are sorry especially to a family member. To err is human to forgive is divine. :)

Viewer1221
Viewer1221

I don't know why I can't ever post a comment here. This is probably my 10th time. Anyway - Caroline I am shocked you think what Kathy did is extend an olive branch. Maybe we are not watching the same show. Teresa was, for once, polite and gracious to Kathy's badgering her over and over about how nice it was to see her. She responded the same until finally she, being Teresa, gave a snarky reply. I don't know what's going on with you but you almost always side with friends and family even if they are out of line or wrong and now I am seeing that you don't seem to particularly like her. Either way, Kathy is manipulative and so far up your you know what that it worries me that your judgement has become clouded.

katewest
katewest

First season i didnt really like you ... but as the seasons went on i really started to like you because you seemed very real... well now i think you are just as fake as melissa's tan and kathy's attempts to "make up" with Teresa. Teresa is suppose to be your friend and all you do is put her down and tell her how she should live her life. I would never want to have a friend like you. Teresa is very lucky to have Jaqueline and Dina. You act like you have the right to give your "friends" and now the world advice but maybe you should take your own advice and make up with your sister Dina first.

Wendie Yancey
Wendie Yancey

I too think you are wrong this time...only to a certain extent. Kathy did extend the olive branch but she just would not shut-up. Had she left at Hi good to see you maybe Tereasa would not have been so combative.

Wow Wow Wow
Wow Wow Wow

Caroline, luv ya! But do not blame Teresa; she kept it cordial, it was Kathy that kept trying to push the issue. Teresa said hello, Happy Holiday's and toasted Kathy, and that should have been the end of their conversation. Maybe Kathy should have said I would like to call you or get together with you after the Holiday's. It was not the time or the place for them to go into a discussion that they both need to have. Just as Kathy ran to you after the Brownstone situation and met one on one. She needs to do the same for Teresa.

Love the bracelet and kudos for your remarks about Ashlee. She is spoiled and selfish, I was lucky to grow up with both parents. But, if I did not I would of loved to have a stepfather like Chris, everyone can see that he adores her and treats her like his blood child.

Mango Beach
Mango Beach

LOVE YA! Caroline, I understand why some comments are negative. Kathy should have backed off the minute she saw Teresa's demeanor. She should have noticed her cousin was not ready and she should have just taken what she got which was a polite "Hi" and walked away. HOWEVER, YOU ARE RIGHT about the fact that Teresa should have just said something like 'this is neither the time or place but I am open to have a conversation at another time', instead she verbally came out fighting and turned very defensive. Obviously she was on the defensive with reason, it was a tense situation and she probably was on edge. Sometimes it's easy to judge a situation, as we all do at times, when our emotions aren't invested in it.

Brookly
Brookly

I agree with EVERYTHING you said in your blog. Thanks for always keeping it real and telling the truth.

Chicago Girl
Chicago Girl

You are not as wise as you think you are-you are wrong about T shoving it back. That Kathy is a camera hog and T was as polite as could be, until Kathy kept coming at her. Look at it again and you will see what really happened.

nyfriend
nyfriend

I would love to tell you what I think of you but you would never learn....... you always have to be right and in charge.

mrtyhill
mrtyhill

i agree with most of the posts. You had me at "hello". Going out of your way to greet her proves you are going out of your way to make amends. But she had to go further. Apparently Kathy wasn't satisfied with being civil. Save the in depth very senstivie and personal conversations for coffee, not at a public party. Going further at this time was inappropriate and showed bad taste.

Blaze23
Blaze23

I like Kathy, and I think she comes from a good place ... but her approach to certain situations is just not well thought out. When you're dealing with a person who's already uncomfortable in a situation, to keep coming at them and coming at them is going to get your head bitten off. The blow up between them was pretty big, and all Teresa heard was the comment she made about her parenting which I think would send anyone into a rage. You can't force a make up. You say your hellos, kiss kiss, hug hug ... and then you take a step back. Give the person some air and let the tension dissipate organically. Don't keep putting on the pressure. Not unless you want the caged animal reaction.

And as for Kim G, she should be ashamed of herself. There is no excuse for her bringing that woman to Melissa and Joe's home. But Monica should be ashamed as well. Why would you want to come to the home of a family member of someone you're in a legal dispute with?? That makes absolutely no sense unless you're a classless person who is intentionally looking to start a fight. Both of these women are despicable.

Vanessa98
Vanessa98

I love you and your family. Don't be so hard on Teresa. You know everything that has been going on...I would have reacted the same way if Kathy were to hover over me. Teresa was nice when she first walked up but Kathy should have walked away after that. It was not the time or place to have serious dialogue, it was time to relax and have fun!

Viewer in Florida
Viewer in Florida

Caroline, rewind the tape and watch it again. Although Theresa was less than welcoming to her cousin (I don't blame her since she sat with Kim G at the fashion show then insulted her parenting saying she left her children unattended), she attempted to be civil and walked away after they exchanged their obligatory fake pleasantries. Kathy kept going back like a dog with a bone and wondered why she was shut down. She is annoying and passive aggressive. We all know her type..the victim!

aidasummers
aidasummers

Caroline your buggin if you think that what Kathy did was appropriate..if that had happened in your house to you by someone you werent that fond of at the time, you would have had a fit...Teressa did say hello..how are you? all is well..and then went on to get food...kathy and her derranged antics is what got her feelings hurt..why did she hover over teressa like that? she could have picked another time to try and make up...C'mon Caroline..

Annette from Chicago
Annette from Chicago

I totally agree with you. But please, could somebody please 86 Kim G. from the show?

Margie, MI
Margie, MI

Caroline, your exactly right, Kathy extended the olive branch initially with good intent, but when she didnt get the reaction she wanted, she shoved it in her face instead of walking away and contacting Teresa at a later time in private. Why did Kathy go to you in private instead of Teresa? It puzzles me. Kathy seems nice enough and smart enough, but playing a little dumb it seems when it comes to Teresa. Sometimes standing with the masses isnt always the right thing to do, Joan of Arc taught us that.

Happy Christmas in July! :o)

tcsznm
tcsznm

Hi Carolyn, I do love you one of my favorites! You need to knwo though not everyone needs or wants your opinions. You jump right in as head person in charge when there is no need. Last nights episode you told Melissa how to handle asking Monica to leave. Melissa is a grown women and doesnt need to be told what to do or how to act. Your not her mom. Just imagine you have a party at YOUR home and you have the same situation with your family. There is a women at your party that you really dont know that well yet (I mean that is the case) turns to you and tells you how to behave what proper and whats not?? Come on you know you would be like shut the hell up and MYOB I think I can handle myself in my own home. Not trying to be mean but sometime you need to zip it :)

RHONJ fan
RHONJ fan

Caroline, I really like you on the show. But what Kathy did was out of line. She pushed Teresa's buttons. She wasn't extending an olive branch. If she wanted to extend an olive branch she could've called & worked things out before the party. I hope Teresa still has her friends as a support system during this difficult time she's going thru....none of us are perfect....none.

Boss640
Boss640

Caroline, I always agree with you, but this time you are wrong, This was Kathy's fault, she wanted to push a fight with Teresa',Cause Kathy has nothing to say unless it involves Teresa, comeon, Poor Teresa, and Joe, it had to be hard to be around all those people, they are talking about them I give you credit cause you always stick up for your friend!!! well this time you didn't!!Kathy her husband, Meliisa, Kim G, are a watse of tv time!!!! Please get rid of these LOSERS!!!!!!!