I'm not sure how to start this blog, so I will begin with how I still can't get out of my head Teresa saying that she doesn't like the way cumin tastes. Lucky for her there are so many other "ingrediences" to choose from. She's so funny! Anyway, congratulations to Teresa! I'm so proud of her for making another successful cookbook! It has more Fabulicious recipes, beautiful pictures of her food and her family, plus stories from memory lane and a few ball-busting, Teresa-like comments that we will discuss later. Ahem. Next...
I never used to fully believe in psychics. It started off as a fun, silly girl thing to do with my friends, but when I met Tia at The Craft in Midland Park, New Jersey that all changed. Of course some things that Tia says are general, but she has also has predicted several events down to the detail which she has been right about. It totally blew my mind. She has told me things that she couldn't have known or that I could have ever predicted. She has predicted the same for some of my family members and friends. It's a gift that she has. Just when I thought Teresa had survived it all, now Tia tells me that Teresa has daggers coming at her from all angles and that this will be going on for some time. How much can one woman handle? Teresa has amazing strength, but she's still human for godsake. Time to sage Teresa's house. I get my protection bracelets from Tia. I suggested to Teresa that she get some too. (Actually, she wore some the last time she was on Andy Cohen's Watch What Happens Live with me.) Tia's website is www.Thecraftbytia.com.
For those that keep asking -- I got my fertility bracelet from ZenJen at www.Zenjewelz.com, and I will have both of their websites on my website. Www.JacquelineLaurita.com. It should be up soon. A lot of you have asked me where Ashley got her three jeweled ring that she had on in the diner scene. She got that fromwww.Valou3cap.com.
The boys are so blessed to be able to move into that apartment in Hoboken. The views from their apartment are spectacular! They are having a blast there. Chris and I gave the boys a couch, table, drinking glasses, a throne, and a stripper pole. Haha! I got it at www.flirtygirlfit.com. They are single guys. To be very honest, I think that pole would be a huge turn off to a lot of girls if they saw that in their apartment, and they should get rid of it! I think they already did. It was really meant to be a big joke! (Stripper carwash? Single guys?) Sorry if nobody got it. We were just trying to be silly. I also gave them Gas X, a plunger, 1,000 flushes, Febreeze, toilet paper, butt wipes, etc. You know, things boys need. Moving on...
You have always looked great, but this season you look very toned and trim. Nice job!
-Jeanette Monmouth County NJ housewife
I think you are amazing but I was disappointed in the episode with the Psychic. I couldn't believe a women of faith, who wears crosses and is so smart would allow this nonsense to become apart of her life. God is the only One who knows your future. Prayer is were you can get all your answers. Many Blessings to u and your family.
Jacqueline, Kathy chose to bring up the sensitive subject of the Christening to Teresa "at the Brownstone after the fashion show" instead of with Teresa "before the fashion show". She, also, insulted Teresa about her parenting. I think she must have known that Teresa wouldn't appreciate that. I think Kathy wanted "good camera time" where she would appear to be trying to resolve things with Teresa "in front of the cameras" and Teresa would explode and look bad. When that backfired and there was a scene that made Kathy look bad, she then wanted to talk to Caroline and redeem herself "in front of the cameras". If she had really wanted to have a heart to heart with Teresa, she would have done it privately, not at the Brownstone and not in front of the cameras.
Jacqueline, when I saw the previews of Ashley cleaning and claming she did it just to become a better person, and wanted nothing for it,Ha! we all could see her method...next scene..Waaaaa I need a new car! next scene, Chris and Jacqueline giving each other the look, you know the one when you cave in and give her what she wants.....are you kidding me!
Hi Jacqueline - I can totally relate to you. I was a single Mom for 5 years until I remarried. I have since re-married and I am with my husband (Chris) going on 13 years. My son (Christopher) is 17 going on 18 soon and a daughter who will be 12. I understand about over compensating to not feel bad or guilty about our child growing up without a father. Sometimes I wonder why my son acts the way he does. He's a good kid, has never been in any trouble, but there's disrespect and a ungrateful attitude. It makes us crazy. My husband and I have spent hours talking to him and we hope that one day it will all sink in. We only want the best for him. He will be starting college in the Fall and God Willing, I pray that he thrives and continues on the right path. In the meantime, I will continue to be watching. God Bless!
I felt compelled to write to you. I, like you, was a very young mother. I had my daughter when I was 17 and she is now 19. When I watch your relationship with Ashley, it reminds me so much of what I am going through with my daughter. You handle things much like I do and Ashley acts very similar to the way my daughter does.
It's reassuring to know someone else is dealing with this somewhat unique situation. I think the close age difference combined with a divorce and years of trying to overcompensate due to guilt creates an interesting mother-daughter dynamic. I think you're doing a great job despite how exasperating it can be at times, and you are very lucky to have loving and supportive family and friends.
Take care and best of luck to you!
I just wanted to tell you that I think it is wonderful that Chris went from not wanting Ashley's dog in the house last season, to welcoming your beautiful Cavalier King Charles Spaniel! Every home feels complete with the sound of paws clicking around the halls. Thank you for also bringing up that Delores is from a puppy mill. I hope this brings some awareness to the issue! Keep having the kind soul that you do. You seem like such a genuine person and you and your family deserve all the best.
What you and Ashley have been going through is very difficult, but I went through the same thing with my mother right after getting out of high school. It's finding that balance between beings friends and still being a mom since she is at the point where she is considered an adult. She will appreciate you one day and be able to feel empathetic towards your situation as a young mother. But I can see the same frustration in her eyes that I had. She really wants to be an adult, but it is very difficult with the way things are (especially with the economy). I hope you two get to that place soon, it is just a matter of time (or maybe you already have). All the best to your family.
Jacqueline your not doing a thing wrong other than being a friend to Teresa. As far as your daughter keep doing what you have been. I raised 3 daughters, they all grew up to become strong self sufficient woman. It might see like touch love but go with what you feel is right for your family.
The comment about your belly button was priceless! I laughed for 10 minutes. I think every mom can relate
Jacqueline, you are a good mom. Your daughter will one day wake up and see you were always trying to help her. She just wants what she wants. She needs to stop crying about how she gets to work and just do it. Millions of people have worse commutes than she does and they do it to earn a buck. I think she is alittle lazy and wants it all hannded to her. On a another hand. You are very blessed to have Chris. He is attractive, intelligent and very level headed. Thank God for him. These housewife shows are full of people who have no understanding of each other or how things should be. He is the only one who I can see always has the right perspective on things. He is also very easy going when he is trying to bring a point across. Someone like him, I would listen to. He is very smart.
Jacqueline I absolutely love you! But honey please don't feel guilty about divorcing Ashleys dad you two did your best being as young as you were. She has been given a wonderful life by your and your husband1 She has been blessed many times over, there are millions of kids that would kill to be in her shoes, heck I would and I'm 40 years old. She needs to recognize what a wonderful mom you are and embrace that. Stay as great as you are!
You are a class act. You seem so genuine and level headed! But you can't blame your divorce for Ashley's behavior. The sad truth is that almost 50% of marriages end in divorce now. And children learn to cope, and lead meaningful happy lives. Don't let Ashley manipulate you.
jacqueline, I love you! You remind me of myself--just a nice girl who wants the best for everyone. Your daughter is extremely lucky and I hope she realizes it soon. You did the best you could. Don't feel guilty--easy to say I know but just help her move forward.
Dear Jacqueline Its clear you really love your daughter ashley and are pained by the helplessness/ineffectual feelings that arise when she won't take your advice. You have excellent instincts, patience and are warm and loving with everyone in your life - it seems - except Ashley... I thought your dad was right when he described the complexity of your daughter's situation. And you want her to learn from your mistakes and take personal responisibility for her life - I understand where youre coming from for sure. And you and ash are stuck butting heads in a power struggle of sorts...while everything you're tring to teach her is absolutely correct and I'd stick to your rules eg no car or apt money, instead of verbalizing that when she complains and plays the vicim role, I'd simply listen calmly and notice and allow whatever thoughts n feelings come to your mind but I would keep them to myself and only listen and emotionally support her. Cause right now while you're well meaning, ash feels criticized and misunderstood by u I think. I'm in Hoboken and would be happy to discuss the situation with you. I know you really want to improve your relationship with Ashley. You may check out the blog I just started at peaceagenda.type pad.com and my psychology today profile under Hoboken or Marla Guglberger.
Jacqueline you are my favorite on the show and seem to be the most down to earth. I was bothered to see you cry and blame yourself for being a divorced mom. It's not like you just divorced it happened when she was younger and she's had plenty of time to get accustomed. I think she is playing you and Chris with all the tears and tantrums thinking you'll give in and get her the apartment in the city. You have done a good job with her from what we see on the show, she should respect you. If she's having such difficutlies getting up and to work, get a job closer to home! Welcome to the real world, young lady.
Been there, done that with my daughter as far as overcompensating because her father no longer lives with us. It will get better and like you said, you learn by your mistakes. No one gave me a "how-to" book on child rearing, did you receive one? LOL
Does anyone know where Jacqueline got her cross necklace? she was wearing it when she was at The Craft. Thanks so much
Hey! I think you are great on the show and your advice is very much the same as I would give if I were there myself! We have a lot in common, I too always try to see both sides and not take one side or the other, and that is hard when it comes to your own children and their spouses. You can't get in the middle of that and it's hard to see both side sometimes, but we as mothers have to do what is best for them and sometimes it means just saying what you think and then let them figure it out for themselves. I think that is part of growing up and learning your own life's lessons.
Jacquline- OMG you are such a valuable player in this show! In the letter scene i know it looked and felt like teresa wasn't listening to you but she did! I think even the sound of Melissa's name puts her on edge but she did tell Joey that she missed him and "his family" which means she found a way to include your advice because she knew you were right... she seems real hostile right now and I do believe that is because she has all her defenses up and I think a defense mechanism she has is making outrageous and humerous statement like "if everyone was like me this world would be a better place" lol not at this point in her life but making it through struggles makes you stronger, and you need to remember that with ashley too! ;)
LOVE LOVE LOVE you and your husband. You guys are the best!!! My fave. Thanks for staying real and not letting the show change you.
Jacqueline.... You are so pretty and very real. Stay true to yourself and I look forward to seeing you and all the girls with every episode and season.
You are an amazing mother-don't forget that! Many of us insprire to keep a balance like you and still look as good!
girl i love you u r a sweetheart. i think that u r the nicest person on the show and u really not about the drama which is good. u just need to focus on your kids and keep being the sweetheart u r
hi Jac, I love you on the show... You are a true friend and a great mom... I've noticed on the show your tough times with Ashley.. I just want to say.. your a great mom... You are a true role model... I am a huge fan...
You crack me up, Jacqueline! Like a breath of fresh air in a pile of NJ manure. BUT take a look at how the psychic drills you for information - no doubt she does this with everyone, which is how she "knows" stuff she couldn't "possibly" know. If you buy into that psychic babble and her trinkets, I'd love to sell you some bracelets that "help you be the best person you can be - the more you spend, the better person you'll become." Really, it's true! Just send $$$$$$$ to find out. :-) (Save your money and send it to a charity instead of buying the psychic's bracelets - you'll reap what you sow there - great stuff!) Adios, amiga.
Jacqueline, bless you and Chris for providing such important and needed guidance for Ashley. As a couple, you're setting an excellent example -- one she will long remember and appreciate throughout her life.
Chris has an excellent manner and a particular gift at putting his thoughts into an idea that she may be able to accept from time to time. I hope so.
Just a small suggestion. It may be that preaching at Ashley is not helping her as much as you hope it might. Try to stop that behavior. Let her experience for herself the consequences of how she's acting and learn from that. I suggest this change because right now, she's tuning you out. You're only so much 'white noise' in her ears that she doesn't want to hear.
I was in a very similar situation as you with your daughter. I felt so guilty when my first marriage broke up because I always said I wanted my daughter to have a secure home. We also lived with my family until I remarried. My daughter was ten then and unlike your situation my new husband did not get along with her and so she never had a father figure at all. I still feel guilty that she never knew what it meant to have that Daddy in your life who is on your side no matter what. So Ashley is actually luckier than my daughter as your husband tries to be there for her. What you are feeling is natural. You are my favorite by the way!! Hang in there and Ashley will eventually grow up.
BRAVO!! ( no pun intended) Jacqueline!! I think that you finally hit the nail on the head with Ashley. She is a very fortunate girl and it troubled me when people were trying to say that coming from a broken home is why she behaves the way that she does. My three adult daughters also had a broken home and their father is Gay as well. Try that on at the age of 11. My girls have a wonderful stepfather that I married almost 20 years ago. They have more love than someone from a traditional family and they know and appreciate that. My girls are ambitious, self sufficient, loving, wonderful, strong women. I think that Ashley has been given soooo many excuses that she believes her own hype. Just be patient and demand in a loving motherly way that she take pride in herself and become the lovely mature woman that she can be. I really think that you are on the right track. Hang in there!!!!lol
i am just like you Jacqueline in terms of overanalyzing things and seeing all sides. If i am right that we are similar, you have a big heart and you just want all people to get along. I hope Teresa and her family can resolve their issues.... well i will watch to see what happens
Oh how I would love to be Ashley sometimes! Get to travel to see family all over the place, very nice home to live in rent free, all expenses paid for... and all I'd have to do is work & not even full time?! Sign me up! Jaq, I sympathize with you because I have been in a similar situation. Ashley truly does not know what she has, but the hardest part is only SHE can wake up & realize it. I wish you the best, I think you're doing just fine- she will wake up soon enough.
hey jac. i love you on the show!!!! and stay on the show for more seasons and keep up the work!!!! and email me by
hey jac. i love you on the show!!!!!!!! just wanted to say that keep up the good work and email me thx by!!!!!!!!
We need strong boundary setters like Caroline AND good listeners like Jacqueline. You two are a healthy balance and I love watching both of you.
Hey Jacqueline - Two things: 1) Why did the psychic talk so much about Teresa? It was your dime and I thought she was reading your cards - not Teresa's. 2) I think Ashley is playing both ends against the middle. She is working you and her biological father to see who is going to give her the best deal. I'm sure when bio dad hears Ashley whine he gives her lots of attention, pity and maybe some $$. Its the old "When mom says no, ask dad" syndrome. You have nothing to feel guilty about and frankly - Ashley is being spoiled by too many people trying to make sure she is happy. She is immature and needs consistent tough love until she grows up a little. Good luck!
My heart goes out to you with your daughter, Ashley. You are clearly doing the best you can. I'm so sorry if this offends you. but I was so annoyed seeing your daughter crying about having to get up early up take the train to work. Oh brother! You are obviously annoyed at that too. Its ok, though. Keep doing what you are doing. But honestly, try to be more firm with her about that. I can see how she is feeling about all her brothers away, in other families, I'm sure it makes her feel like she doesn't belong anywhere and it confuses her. But really, she has to put it in perspective at her age. If you baby her too much, this situation will only get worseis let go it will only get worse.
Hi Jacqueline. You give great advice! I am most like you. I struggle with my son and always want everyone to get along. You can only do so much. You have given Ashley the tools she needs, she has to choose to use them. I try to encourage my son and "guide" him, but then I realize that I might be pushing him too much. I just want the best for him.
The gifts for the boys were hilarious and fun! The stripper pole should be kept out in the living room! It shouldn't be anything for a guy or girl to be embarrassed of, it can keep a healthy relationship even healthier if used right. :)
Jac...... your psychic spent more time talking about and asking questions about TERESA during your visit than she did you. Can we say nosey PHONY!!!!
Jacqueline, I dont think your daughter is as bad as you make her out to be. People have children who are much worse. I don't think it's wise to complain about her all the time on national T.V. You make it look like she is a problem, please pick another storyline I don't like the reviews I see about your daughter & I don't like the way she is potrayed, she's not that bad & she's an adult now. I would understand if she was really bad & I would hate if my mother ever did that to me. Start counting your blessings she is not that bad no one else does that about their child all the time on TV.
Your description of yourself sounds very much like me and I urge you to do a little reading on being codependent. You love everyone so much but you're a bit too invested in them. Love ya!
I thought the stripper pole was hilarious, and loved how good a friend you were to Teresa. It's got to be tough to be trying to be reasonable when someone is that hurt and thus that defensive. I also liked your Dad, he seemed like a great guy. Ashley will be fine. I totally understand how you feel, that sense of guilt can be overwhelming, but the truth is that as Ashley becomes a woman, she has to work through some of these isues of hers, and when people are learning new things, and working through old things they aren''t always graceful. As she grows and learns she will be more graceful in how she handles life, and you just have to have faith that your grace and love are already within her.
I am sure you get tired of folks asking where you got which piece of jewelery you were wearing on each episode.... but I A.D.O.R.E the silver earrings you wore on the episode last night when you were talking to your father. They had a ball in the middle of them?!! LOVED them! Hook this potato up with the intel!
XOXO Keep it real!