OK so let's talk about my shirt! Umm, hello, it's a goddess party with a bunch of girl friends, I thought it was a perfect choice! Kathy asked us to dress the theme. I see I was the only one to actually run with it! OK, Rich with the holy water was a little too much, easy there killer! Mending the relationship with our families is a work in progress. I vented to Kathy about the play date that Teresa and I had, because I didn't want to vent to my husband and I had to get it off my chest. I told Kathy the whole story including how Teresa reacted to seeing the studio and hearing that I was recording a song. I did everything I could that day to bite my tongue and not say a word to Teresa when she was at my house. Kathy is my friend and I tell her everything. Doesn't everyone vent to their friends? You can clearly see there is still some tension between Teresa and I at Kathy's party, but baby steps is all we can take. In the end we all appreciated being together and had a good time.
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Actually I DO tell my friend everything, just not on tv. I would not disrespect the aunt of my children the way you talk about Teresa.
Tre's behavior at Kathy's was very ungracious. I was shocked at her rude comments. Still, I would perhaps reconsider venting to Kathy about Tre if you really are interested in moving forward. In fact, I'd avoid any family member on both sides, and consider venting to a friend who is not involved with Theresa. That really is the bigger way to go.
Shady, shady, shady Melissa and Kathy! You vented to Kathy because, AGAIN, you wanted Teresa to look bad. I just wonder if teresa had make friends with one of your cousins to talk trashy about you on national TV , how would you feel?
But what you aren't mentioning to Kathy is that you think HER husband wants you. You mentioned to Kathy that Teresa said it (which she didn't, she said he dogs her all the time, she did NOT say he wanted her, YOU insinuated that, GAG). So I hope she learned a little something about you in watching this episode.. that while you vented to her about Teresa, you failed to mention that you also spoke badly.. grossly.. of her husband. Hope she noticed that...
Yes, we understand Kathy is your friend and you wanted to vent. However, you have to decide if you want to mend things between Kathy & Teresa or not. If yes, you can't run and tell her every bad thing Teresa says (which is a lot) and expect Kathy to want to mend things. Also I think it's horrible that you told Kathy what Teresa said about Richie IN FRONT of their daughter.
Good Job on your post Melissa, I am so happy to see that you and Teresa are trying to refrain from bashing each other on your blogs.....Keep up the good work and baby steps is all you need to heal a family misunderstanding...... Keep being positive and enjoy your family and friends, and please don't listen to any negative comments....
You didn't exactly tell the whole truth to Kathy? You completely mispoke about what Teresa was saying about Ritchie! Kathy is Teresa's cousin and you are her sister-in-law. You really think that talking behind her back to Kathy is not stirring the pot?? Teresa is not innocent by any means, but neither are the two of you!
Loved this blog....no family bashing of Teresa. Hope this keeps going and it gets better and better. Someday maybe we will read a blog and you will compliment your brothers wife for her success. I hope that day arrives. I personally feel sorry for Teresa and all the bashing she is getting while going through so many personal problems. As far as Kathy, I would hate to have a cousin like her. I think I would just write her off. Be kind to Teresa, she is going through alot and working hard to keep her family together. Best of luck with your music career. Stay in the positive.
You didn't just vent you INvented things that Teresa didn't say about Richie. You also make fun of her every chance you get not only to Kathy but your sisters. You just keep on stirring it.
Still looking forward to the emails and voicemails between you and Danielle coming out!
Hi Melissa!! I thought what you wore to the party was great. I think you should wear what you feel like, when you feel like and when you can!! Especially with a great figure like yours!! I'm totally jealous. I think you behaved very well regarding Teresa. Just brush off the comments that Teresa makes, she's going through a tough time and your an easy target for her to take her frustration out on. I adore you and am happy that you are on the show.
Sorry but it is very bad taste to say negative things about someone right before they are joining you, especially when you claim to be trying to mend fences...
You "vented" to Teresa's cousin on TV, not to a friend in private. You also vented incorrectly by saying that Teresa thought Kathy's husband was hot for Teresa. Teresa said the he was, "obsessed with her because he was always trashing her". YOU got it wrong, peacemaker!
Melissa, Why do you continue to stir the pot? Was it really necessary for you to repeat to Kathy Teresa's comments about Rich? It doesn't seem like you want to mend any fences the way you continue to gossip.
First of all are you saying what "T" and her family are going through is petty BS? Second of all you already told your husband everything that happened at the play date with "T" because he was there when you were telling your sisters everything she said in your pitiful "T" voice... PLEASE don't take us all as fools... There are some but I think most of us have your number, and it's not #1 on the charts...
Melissa, many things to say but first, my daughter's name is also "Melissa" and everyone calls her that but actually her name is spelled the Italian spelling of "Melisa" and is pronounced "Ma-lee-sa." My In-Laws are Italian. Anyway, my wife and I love you and your family. I love Teresa and always will but she is not being nice at all this season and I am shocked. Please do not change as you become more and more famous, which you will. Please stay down to Earth. At first, I really didn't like your husbad based on his temper at the Christening, I think he could have handled that better, but since then, he has been nothing but a genuine, great guy, who loves his wife and family. I love your "Thank you Jesus" tributes. We are the same age and I could only dream of living in that huge house and money not being an issue. I hope you know how very blessed you are, and I have a feeling you do. I lived in a huge house like yours when I was married to my first wife but money does not buy happiness. I found my soul mate now, however. She loves you. You guys are a lot alike. She woudl love to meet you. Please do not take this the wrong way but please watch Kathy, I think she likes the drama surrounding Teresa. Teresa and Joe have been through enough, even though they made their own mess, but they need you now more than ever, even if they don't say so. Please keep trying to break down Teresa's wall, take breaks if you need to but I know she loves you and her brother. I realize you have taken a ton of crap from her and looks from her but keep trying. Every family needs a hero and you are that person. I hope you get to actually read this yourself. Many Blessings, Jim F.
Melissa- Maybe you wanted to vent about Teresa to your friend but that friend is a relative of Teresa and you mocked her using that Fran Drescher voice. That was too much and makes you look bad.
Tell Teresa "THANKS" for giving you and Kathy the Bravo start. Without you all bashing Teresa and family.....the both of you would still be sitting home wishing you were on the RHONJ. Your song would have never came out and you would never be where you are now. Both of you should kiss the ground Teresa walk on.
Melissa, My son has studied music for 17 years. He is classically trained. There is a tremendous amount of work that goes into being able to sight read music, hear tone, appreciate true musicians and honor their music. It's an insult to see someone get auto tune and build a studio and pass that off as real music. You don't know what you don't know. Buy my song on itunes! Is THAT your passion? My son has sung in the best symphony halls in the country with the most talented orchestras and maestros. They sing songs from the masters. My point is, if you are going to venture into music, know what you're doing. Study. Take classes in music appreciation and music history. Then start taking voice, ear training and sight reading. The other thing is, why would you sabotage Teresa by going on her show knowing that it was going to create such discomfort and pain for her? Why don't you create your own life and stay within bounds? What you and Kathy did is unforgivable in my book. Teresa is just trying to survive, has something nice in her life and you two decide to pig pile on her and ruin her gig. What brats!
Im confused by your words and actions. You repeatedly talk about your loyalty to family, which is certainly commendable; however, in the very next breath you can be seen gossiping about your family. This is not the way to heal the wounds and bring your family back to whole. You apparently still have some maturing to do.
Melissa, Nice stirring the pot at Kathy's house before Teresa showed up, not that you cared about what you did since I guess if your har looks fabulous that is all that matters...I cannot say it enough just not COOL how you and Kathy are always bashing Teresa..she is mad and she should be YOU came on the show to bash her invade her space with her friends and all the will you smile doing it friendly reminder she was going through a horrible time during this time how long does she have to pay for throwing your cookies in the trash?? SHE IS FAMILY..ahhh good times I guess for you WHILE YOU ARE THAKING JESUS I hope you are also keeping your mouth shut about your family AHH Now that would be great! we will see on the next episodes....
I think you and Kathy are truly amazing! If you have a dream then go for it! As for making amends with family...stay strong and pray it all works out soon. Btw, your husband cracks me up! He is the long lost twin of my friend and daughter's god father...who is from the Bronx! Great job singing and being a great Mom!
vent to a friend who does not know Teresa, that is always my rule. If you vent to a person who does not know the person you are venting about, it really does help you to work through your problem, rather than have it blown up into something worse. Not only will you hopefully get some unbiased views, but you will also be able to keep it as venting, not adding fuel to the fire. I had to learn the hard way, and I am so glad I figured out the best way to get things off my chest, without making things worse. I know you tell her everything and that you guys are close, but there are times when it is just not a good thing for anyone, for her to know everything. That is how the drama keeps on going and ruining a chance for a true friendship to emerge. when two people get together and talk about someone they both know and have problems with, innocent venting turns into talking behind their back and mean spirited comments. I think you want peace, but I also think you are so fed up with her antics that you want someone else to see them and validate your feeling about them. I have been their with my sis in law and for the first couple of years of my marriage and the first year of my son's life we were not in each others lives, which meant my son missed out on his Uncle and cousin. It was ugly. I will never really like my sister in law like I do my friends, but I found a way to like her as my sister in law and love her as family. I watch what I say to her and about her. I vent about her, and then let it go. I always feel like I am the better person, who is giving up allot to keep the peace, but the peaceful times are much better times than the ugly ones and I would rather feel like I am "taking it up the butt" than have tense family moments. I have found the things i like in her and like doing with her, and I keep it down to those things. Yes sometimes we treed into ugly waters, but I learned to give it a day or two and then deal with it the right way. with in laws, you just have to deal with it, sadly!
When you speak to someone about Teresa to "vent" you need to find someone that isn't directly involved. Without knowing it (maybe) your pitting them against each other. You shouldn't talk to Teresa about Kathy and to Kathy about Teresa. You've put yourself in the middle. Congrats on your first song!!
I have come to deeply respect you for your mature reaction to Teresa. Keep to the high road! Gosh, what a pill she is. When something doesn't go her way, she turns into a snarly snipe! Kudos on your hit. I hope you go far. You and Joe are a cute couple and your children are beautiful.
Melissa, At the beginning of the show, you were not my favorite. But slowly you are growing on me! I do love Teresa, so I just hope that you both are in a better place now. I enjoyed reading your blog, especially because you took the high road and didn't say anything bad about your sister in law. I respect people like that! Good luck with On Display!! xo
Mellissa, In reading Teresa's blog this wk one can truly capture her anxiety regarding having her relatives on the show. It's a palpable feeling of dread and anxiety. Kathy's husband I do not personally find "funny" at all. He is mean and says biting awful remarks about Teresa. You also realize Teresa NEVER intended anything sexual in referencing him that day at your home. You spun that for Kathy and that is sooo wrong! You all say hurtful things. But, a "work in progress" these relationships are not. I agree with Caroline here. There is so much disdain and baggage, am not certain how you can move forward without professional help. You are all "stuck" in my opinion, not just Teresa.
Nice Blog, I'm glad to see everyone is trying hard to see the good in the little things this week and focus on the postive.
So glad you took the high road and did slam Teresa even though she deserved it. She came to the party ready for a fight and I'm glad all you "ladies" didn't go for her bait.
By the way, your children are BEAUTIFUL!!!
Melissa, your great! Teresa is so Jealous of you she cant stand herself. I notice Teresa never seem's concerned for anyone else in the group who has problem's. She is all about me me me.I can see why she did not want her family on the show she new she would be exposed as the phony troublemaker that she is! ignore her! she's worse than a 10 year old.
You looked stunning in that shirt at the party. I think someones a little jealous that she couldnt pull that off.
Did you tell Kathy that you thought Rich was sexually into you?
You said it, Teresa didn't.
Teresa said she thought Rich was obsessed with her. She didn't say sexually, you did.
Every chance you get you talk behind Teresa's back. Is that how you want to fix things between your family?
Did you join the show to stick it to Teresa?
Sorry, Team Super "T"
Ok you, Kathy and her horrible husband Rich make me sick, the constant Teresa bashing, the feign innocence are bad enough, but your constantly running back to Kathy and your witchy sisters is just too much. I really only watch the NJ housewives but I think the three of you were a big mistake for Bravo, time to turn the channel. You have destroyed this show, and Rich is really a low life. Teresa's right he is obsess with her.
Melissa, The problem I see is that YOU and KATHY should NOT have gotten on the show if there were problems between you guys and Teresa. That was Teresa's gig. And talking with Danielle?? Low blow!! Looks like you two were jealous! Just saying....
You are my favorite housewife. I wish you a lot of success with your music career. I think it is clear from the show that Teresa is so jealous of you. Keep doing you. Teresa is the one that's making herself look like a fool.
You've got to be kidding me! You said Rich and the holy water was a little much, but I think your comment about Teresa melting from it was worse. AND I love how you justify your smack talking about Teresa to Kathy as "venting to a friend". Here's a tip, when you're "trying" to repair a relationship between 2 people, you don't continue to bash one of them to the other. That would be called stirring the pot, which you seem to be an expert at. Singing on the other hand, not so much.
I loved your comment about Teresa and the holy water. It was funny and smart. You look beautiful Melissa in anything. I love your song and think you are so talent. And 3 kids! How does this!!!! Keep it up, waiting to see more show business!!
When you vented to Kathy, you were instigating. You implied that Teresa said Richie had the “hots” for her, she never said that. She said he always talks about her which makes her believe he is obsessed with her. YOU WERE THE ONE WHO MADE IT INTO A SEXUAL THING, NOT TERESSA!!!!!! Why would you even take it there IF YOU ARE TRYING TO FIX THINGS IN YOUR FAMILY, YOU WERE INSTIGATING. According to all the footage on the show, Rich is always talking about Teresa, if he isn’t talking about her, it appears that he has nothing else interesting to say.
Lastly, how is that you can state that Teresa tries to be like you???!!! You are the one who went behind her back to be on HER SHOW, and now you are trying to be a part of her social circle (Caroline and Jaquline’s friends), why don’t you find your own friends and leave Teresa alone!!!!
If it weren’t for Teresa you wouldn’t be on the show in the first place, so you need to be thanking her instead of ruining her life!!!!
Amazing you didn't bash Teresa in your blog. Its ok tooo vent to friends but not when all they have are negative responses. Hope coming on the show helped your music career.
You talked to Kathy about Tre - ON NATIONAL TV! I think your husband will see it and you will discuss it anyway.
Teresa, Bravo (no pun intended, lol) for such a beautiful blog! You could have slugged some mud around but as always you took the high road! You are one classy lady! Now if the other ladies Melissa, Kathy, Caroline, and Jackie, could follow in your foot steps and conduct themselves with some decorum! YOU ROCK!
Melissa, so glad you took the high road and didn't go into the deep dark hole wih Jacqueline. Theresa is family and family needs to keep private feuds out of blogs.
Melissa, I felt sorry for Kathy. She worked so hard to make the evening special for everyone and MOST appreciated it except the little ol' grudge carrier. To be putting down the menu and everything else was uncalled for. It really put Teresa in a bad light. Not sure Kathy needs such negativity in her life. Glad she had you for a friend. Caroline as always a class act. Glad she told Kathy she was wrong, takes a big person to do that. The last thing the Giudices need to do is start a restaurant, really?? How bout paying up what you owe and get on sound footing???
I'm so glad that you're doing everything possible to STAY positive! That's the only way handle difficult family dynamics. Especially when there are so many little ones (who ADORE each other) involved. I hope that things work out and Teresa gets back to best part of who she is. Kudos on your musical endeavors! Enjoy yourself.