Melissa Gorga

Melissa talks about the difficulty of being the new girl.

on May 24, 20110

On to the second episode. First of all, trick or treating is my favorite! Did you see my two little bats and my pretty little peacock? I love them so much! So cute to see them on the screen, they are so precious to me. I have to admit I'm slightly obsessed with them. We went trick or treating for five hours that day and to two different neighborhoods. My feet were killing me! We had enough candy to fill our candy draw for a year. You will come to see that when my kids walk into a room, Joe and I just light up. We were meant to be parents. When I said, "I'm a wife and a mommy, and that's what I do best," I meant it. They are my life! 

OK, let's discuss Joe in the leopard dress. He's so annoying! Why couldn't he be something that would get me excited! Nothing embarrasses him, he's just that confident type of guy. God bless him, he's better than me. I wanted to crawl under the table when I saw that, but he was laughing hysterically! We had a really great night with my sisters and our friends. We try to do it now before we get old and never want to go dancing anymore, it keeps us young and fresh! At this point I'm really starting to like Kim D., but I am not so sure about Kim G. Time will tell. 

Loved watching Teresa play with her kids and their friends at the party she had for them. Those are the times I wish the kids could be together. That's all they have to remember when they get older. Friends come and go, but family is forever. Jacqueline's house looked like a great time too! I agree with her that fall activities are the best, and Jersey is gorgeous in the fall! 

Kathy and Rich invited us over to talk about what happened at the christening. They knew how hurt Joe and I were, so they wanted us to come talk about it. They are good people and know that Joe needed some family to talk to, and they were kind enough to offer that to us. I love them for that. As you can see, my husband was still so upset. I think he was expecting a phone call from his sister asking if we were all OK and trying to explain why she pushed him to that point, but he never got anything, He admits the way he reacted was not the right way, but bottom line is it was his son's christening. Families have blowouts, sometimes even tragic ones like this, but most of the time you get a phone call the next day. I think he wanted that from his sister. He wanted an apology for doing what she does best, causing a stir and getting everyone crazy when it all could have been avoided in the first place. He then would have told her he is so sorry for calling her garbage. He absolutely doesn't think she is. That's how family should get through tough times, talk it out and forget about it. I think Jacqueline hits the nail right on the head when she says, "Whenever Teresa says hello or congratulates someone, sh-- hits the fan.” I also think Jacqueline's face says it all when Teresa says, "I'm never confrontational." Hmm, Jacqueline might be on to something there!

88 comments
Dana from NL Canada
Dana from NL Canada

Melissa, ITS HARD TO BELIEVE watching the show what a new level everyone has sunk too..except Teresa who is trying to be the bigger person. Your husband ruined the christening..NOT TERESA!! he was acting like a spoiled child and your so quick to say your spoiled and how wonderful that is...I'm thinking maybe that is why your marriage works..too children married trying to be adults.

Maggimty
Maggimty

Well, you were right!... now I understand you a little more... I have changed my opinion about you completely, and I feel sorry for Teresa, she seems to be very jealous of you. I am on your side now.

Tiffany Paler
Tiffany Paler

"You will see that I do everything in my power to mend the fences here, watch and see!"

The only thing I see so far is you separating them even more! Yes, you do convince Joe to talk to Teresa but prior to that you do nothing but smack talk Teresa. Its like you don't even try or care to have a relationship with her! Be the bigger person you claim you are.

McCoyBarb1
McCoyBarb1

Melissa,

Whatever issues you have and someone like Kim G asks questions, because all she wants to do is instigate trouble, you need to take high road and not comment on your family or your family issues. By engaging her comments you create a bigger issue than necessary. Be classy and upscale, Kim G is obviously not so why associate yourself with someone like that? Gossip is not God's way.

V

heidi bells
heidi bells

Melissa Can you please please please do a make up tutorial? Your makeup is so nice on the show, especially the pink and grey smokey eye you have sometimes! Heidi

becca kaye
becca kaye

you guys came on so strong right from the start attacking your sister Teresa,it will be interesting to watch the show to see how this plays out .I hope it ends up with your family resolving this and show us how true italians keep that family bond,that is one thing I have always admired about italians that tight family unit.

agheos
agheos

I want to start off by saying that your family is absolutely beautiful. Your daughter... that hair!! What a little princess. I'm excited that you're on the show, I can tell what a great mother and wife you are, and I know that there are two sides to every story. I will hear yours as the season goes on with an open mind.

That said, you are attacking Teresa in this blog post. No matter how many times you say you just want things to get better and to put the past behind you, you are still blaming Teresa for virtually everything - and I'm sure part of this is her fault. But she did not owe you a phone call or a card after the Christening. Not whatsoever. The fact that you believe she did owe you an apology is very telling. If anything, your husband owed that to her instead. SHE did not ruin the Christening, your husband did. Yes, Teresa is confrontational, but she handled that evening in an incredibly classy way and like an adult. What would win a lot of the viewers over would be your recognition of the fact that you and your hubby are a part of the problem, just the same way as Teresa is.

Catherina
Catherina

I do appreciate seeing you try to mend fences with your husband and Teresa, but I am still baffled that you nor your husband take no responsibility for the craziness in episode one. Your husband was wrong to call Teresa garbage, your sister stirred the pot when she said Teresa being invited was a technicality, and Kathy chose an awful time to speak to Terease at the Brownstone. In understand that there may be a back story, but seriously what planet are you living on. Wrong is wrong.When you and your husband are wrong, you should own up to it and when Teresa is wrong she should do the same.The fact of the matter is that your husband and sisters destroyed your sons christening. I hope a light switch goes on for you.

Viewer2692402
Viewer2692402

"You have to understand my situation, I am caught in the middle of a brother and sister quarrel."

Here is an idea, why don't you take yourself out of it and let them hammer it out themselves. Do you not see that YOU are the reason they are fighting? Maybe if you removed yourself from the situation instead of being an attention seeker they could work it out. If Teresa doesnt want a relationship with you then so be it, at least let her have a relationship with your husband and your kids. Stop being so childish and selfish and try to think about other people instead of only yourself.

gussy
gussy

Submitted by Carolina Girl on May 25, 2011..Melissa...are you watching the same episodes that the rest of us are watching? Teresa has been handling this situation like an adult. You say you are all about family but you have done nothing but talk about Teresa and her husband on the show AND your blogs. I'm surprised you're a little turned off by Kim G...I think you too have a lot in common so far..

Good lawd have mercy, took the word right out of my mouth! M-get a life and get your hubby in tow!

Viewerinfl
Viewerinfl

Teresa has the fire side to her but she does love her family with her whole heart and you can see the toll it take on her. Melissa is malicious and makes low blows all the time to nit-pick at Teresa and her every move. The comment about not receieving a card yet for the baptism and how it's a no-no. Let it go. You know the saying. There is Teresa's side and Melissa's side and somewhere in the middle is the truth. I do think Joe Gorga and Teresa need to mend their realtionship because they are blood. I can see they are both stubborn and need to try and "listen" better but, if Melissa is a good wife she would do everything in her power to have a relationship with her sis-in-law and defend her when her own sisters and Kim G bash her. Regardless if they are in turmoil. Melissa is the MAIN one at fault for everything. You can see it in her every action and how she flaunts herself they way she does. She is pure evil and hope she gets off the show SOON!!!! Bring crazy Danielle back instead of these two.

TEAM TERESA!!!

JVB
JVB

Is Joe Giudice really such a bad guy? You made a statement on how you have bills to pay and that you pay your bills. Does that happen at the expense of Joe Gorga not making time for his father? You do not, ever, ignore the patriarch of an Italian family... especially when you are a son. I see Joe Giudice and Teresa as having to "fill in" for your husband's inability to make time for his father. That is not Joe Giudice's fault. And as far as the Christening went, sorry, but Joe needs to re-evaluate. His sister approached you both to congratulate you and your husband told her to "do what she always does... walk away. No matter what Teresa does, she gets kicked in the face. How well do you think little Gia will think of her Godfather if he is lashing out at her mother and having fist fights with her father. You need to help your husband get a handle on this. I do not see that Joe Giudice is doing anything other than what is expected of "family". You and your hubby are lovely people but he has got to carefully evaluate what is happening. It is so sad. :(

Angelanna
Angelanna

Well, I think that you are fantastic. You are my new fave. What a precious, adorable family you have. You're children are beautiful.

I hope it all works out. Keep doing what you're doing.

Stephanie1111
Stephanie1111

Did you ever think that maybe your husband should apologize to Teresa? All she did was walk up to you and your family, say hello, and congratulations. Your husband flipped his lid and you go around town telling everyone you're waiting for an apology from Teresa. Doesn't make sense in the real world. Looks like you just want to make good tv.

hollybee
hollybee

After last nights episode I SEE EXACTLY what the problem is! Teresa doesn't listen and doesn't take anyone else's feelings into consideration. My daughter was watching with me and she even said "why can't she stop talking and listen??!" I really like you on the show! I'm becoming a fan of you and your family! You can tell there is so much love between you, your husband, and kids! Keep your head up, viewers will start to see the light!

Marie Johnson
Marie Johnson

I think your great and I think there is much more to the situation with your husband and Teresa than the viewers know about. It is obvious he is truly hurt and it is also obvious that Teresa has a new adopted family and fame has gone to her head. I understand how your brother feels because the same thing happened between my brother and I. I have allot of respect for you and the way you are trying to be objective. Keep doing what you do.

Doobiec
Doobiec

You seem to be genuinely trying to help your husband through his issue w/his sister. But you are overlooking his (and your) culpability in this mess. You keep talking about why Teresa hasn't called you, why hasn't she contacted her brother, well have you tried to contact her? Her brother told her to leave, called her garbage and pretty much stated he no longer wanted her in his life by his actions that night. Why would she dare call after being told that? Dr. Phil always says every argument/disagreement needs a "hero". Help your husband be that hero by encouraging him to call/contact his sister. Of course this all happened months ago and we are just catching up so ya'll may have already cleared the air by now. I hope so! But if not or if there are still some ill feelings, remember that while you may think you "know" what someone else's intentions are, start taking what they say to you at face value. Stop blaming each other and start forgiving one another. Easier said then done I understand. Just encourage your husband to love his sister no matter what she does or he thinks she has done to him. Christ told us to "judge not lest we be judged" and to "love one another as I have loved you". Trust in that message and try to accept Teresa as she is and not expect her to change. If ya'll are just sitting around not talking to one another until the other person changes, that will get you nowhere. Be the hero. Hopefully all this is a moot point and ya'll have already mended fences. You seem to have a great capacity to love your family! Just make sure that love is unconditional and based in reality and not on expectations. I hope nothing but Blessings for you and yours!! God's Speed to you!!

B Chalabi
B Chalabi

Melissa, Are you serious? "New Girl" Please. Sweetie most new girls sit back and observe the grounds before talking trash about others. It seems as soon as the words "action" was said that's all you've done is talk trash about Teresa. Then the hardest is part about watching is how you seem to have a plan of attack if and when you see Teresa. From what I can gather, this has nothing to do with Teresa at all.. This so called fued is really between her husband (Joe) and Joey. Honestly! Joey called Teresa "garbage" with little Gia Standing there,Talk about High School. What would Joey have done if Joe had said that to you? She (Teresa) is doing what you would do if the shoe was on the other foot. She is honoring her vows and standing by her husband. "For better or for worse" and baby it just can't get any worse than it is for her now. I wonder would you go thru her hell with your head held high or would you divorce and live with your sisters? One thing that bothers me most is Joey's comment about Teresa's thinking of Caroline and Jaquline being Family. After watching who could blame her for going else where for support? Certainly she would not have any of yours. With a Family like this who needs enemies?

DISNEYFAN
DISNEYFAN

MELISSA I AM TEAM TERESA ALL THE WAY THE FIGHT AT THE CHRSTENING WAS NOT YOUR FAULT OR TERESA'S IT WAS YOUR HUSNAND AND YOUR SISTER'S. YOUR SISTER NEEDS TO MIND HER BUSINESS AND IF NOT TERESA NEEDS TO MAKE HER SHUT UP. I THINK YOU AND TERESA ARE ALIKE IN SOME WAYS BUT AT LEAST TERESA IS HUMBLE WHEN YOU GET A FREE MOMENT PICK UP A DICTIONARY AND LOOK UP THE WORD MODESTY.

Grageo
Grageo

It's pretty obvious what's going on here.

New wife feels threatened by husband's relationship with his sister, so she makes it her mission to drive an irreparable wedge between them.

Husband is jealous of sister's husband because Daddy likes him more.

Husband and wife say they're mad at sister/sister-in-law because she hasn't "invited" them to certain functions over the past few years. Translation: Husband and wife are jealous as hell that sister/s-i-l is famous but they're not.

Husband and wife somehow manage to see themselves as the victims in all of this.

Team Teresa.

Team Teresa.

MuMu
MuMu

As a wife and a sister I think that you need to show a lot of humility. I would not want my husband in the middle of an argument I am having with my sister, and you need to give your husband space and support because he probably needs you right now in this situation, and not be whispering in his ear about his Teresa. Because eventually everything comes out and you wouldn't want him upset with you over something you said over anger and frustration. Like it or not you married this man knowing that he has a sister that means a lot to him, and you should be reminding him that you guys are family, that's the bottom line!!!!

karenCakes
karenCakes

PS - Start making demands of your husband. All he does is make demands of you. And don't worry - he's 'needy' - he'll never leave you

Maria from Miami
Maria from Miami

People don't agree with Teresa because they are fans...they agree with her because you are wrong...

Maria from Miami
Maria from Miami

Melissa, you are very smart. You wind your husband up like a clock and then when he blows up you sit back and now try to ACT like the good wife who is trying to help her husband make up with his sister. You have your husband so convinced that you and him have been wronged by his sister that now you can take a back set to the problem that you have been feeding for probably years. It's very sad to hear you use Jesus name in the midsts of tearing a family apart. Jesus knows your heart....what would he tell you about your behavior over the years. You a right, you love family....YOUR family and you want to make sure that your husband gets closer to them and that he focuses on the problems of his family. He really needs to stand up to you again like he maybe once did and not allow yourself and your sisters to poison him and then pretend you are the one delivering the cure. It's very obvious to me and maybe you will be honest with yourself and apologize to everyone for the big role you have played in this family falling apart the way it has.

AZ Viewer
AZ Viewer

Well ....

The last couple of weeks (ESPECIALLY after the first episode), I soooo wished you and your family would crawl back under the rock you came out of. I'm woman enough to admit (and hope that women everywhere can be) that I "may" have been quick to judge (and it wasn't a rock, but a very lovely home by-the-way). Now, I love Teresa. Always will. She's gorgeous, hilarious, ditzy and fun ... she has a good heart, even if she trips and falls while she attempts to show it. She's not afraid to be who she is ... though, as with every other person walking this earth, she's still trying to find her strut and confidence ... even with family. That said, I'm still undecided about you, your husband and your cousin. (Not about Kim G, though. That woman is a DISASTER ... girl, stay away!) I'm hoping as the season progresses, you reveal yourself to be a sane head in the crazy ward ... and I'll give you lots of room to manuever.

We ALL walk clumsily ... it's called being human (and why 'Reality TV' is so popular). The key is to get back up when we fall on our tushes, admit our crazy steps, laugh at the mess, clean it up and stumble forward again. And my unsolicited, unwarranted and completely uncalled for advice (for cryin' out loud - I'm a random, anonymous blog commenter!), keep as much out of the sibling feud as possible. We (well meaning, but over zealous) spouses often think we know best (we're so wrong) or should be able to speak freely (we should really just shut up), but we don't (okay, we often do, but in the middle of those feuds, I've learned its not the best time to gloat ... or thank God that this is not our blood kin). Those aren't our relationships; not our blood (see the 'Thank God' comment above). We give what we can from a distance ... and stumble forward some more.

Hopefully you work the season like you did that runway. You are beautiful and obviously care about your kids and hubby. Let's see how you treat the rest of those not in your "inner circle". If not, well ... we'll pray from your swift recovery from 'Housewives Hell'.

xoxox

Tenn2406
Tenn2406

I have no sisters as far as siblings but I do have four sister-in-laws that are just the same. We are close and I'm lost with you and your husbands ONLY SISTER. You have yours and are willing to watch your husband lose his only SIBLING not just sister but ONLY SIBLING. I'm not a hater as you put it. Your husband had way to much to drink especially for it to be a celebration for your son to Christ. You keep saying Thank you Jesus. For what exactly???? Taking a man from his family. Everybody in your famliy grabbed your husband and raced him to the bar when the fight was over. Even when he tried to reach out to his family they blocked him. Also as I stated in the first sentence I have no sisters as siblings but I do have four that are as good as life long siblings. Blood is thicker than water and tread lightly. I'm so blessed not to have in laws or family devided. Wish you the best but I truely think unless you push to make this better.....you will be lonely in the end. Hope your sisters are there for you then

IANYViewer
IANYViewer

Melissa, When viewers comment that you need to humble yourself, PLEASE take their advice to heart. You are blaming everyone but yourself and your husband. Speaking of your husband, why is he the only husband on the show doing interviews? This is real HOUSEWIVES... You both are so clearly out for the fame. I truly think your actions are disgusting and I can only hope you are in some small way ashamed of yourself. Teresa's no saint, but you are making yourself look like a bad person.

lucy21
lucy21

Melissa your beautiful, young, and have everything going for you. Your kids are gorgeous and your husband loves you. It's pretty clear why Teresa is leading the "lets hate on Melissa" ban wagon. Don't pay attention to these people on the blogs who are telling you to mind your own business. You are married to Joe and anything that goes on in his life is your business, your his wife and that's that. Be mindful to teach your kids to love one another and always back each other up no matter what. Clearly Teresa lost that concept somewhere along the lines that's why she is acting this way towards her brother.

If anyone is airing their dirty laundry it's her. Not to mention she blames everyone for her issues other than herself. Now I see what Danielle was talking about the whole time. Teresa is over the top because otherwise she is simply boring, so she starts drama with you to keep the spot light on herself. How sad, I feel sorry for her pretty pathetic.

I'm Team Melissa all the way.

Billye
Billye

What the the heck? What I saw was your husband starded it. He has so much anger that he blames every thing on his sister. He needs to figure this out.

If you keep staying around Kim G (or letting her into your families life) - Not going to make you look any better- not going to bring your family and friends together (and will not make you happy). Look at her and watch her and listen to her - she is so evil and demented and she does it for what?. You do not want to be like her, think like her and I got the feeling that if she had not been around that your sisters would not have acted like they did. As a matter a fact they did not know what to do. Stay away from the likes of her or any one else.

This is between family - right and peace of mind.

PaulineForestHills
PaulineForestHills

Take responsibility! You and your husband were waiting around for Teresa to call? Why didn't you call her? Both parties are in the wrong and both parties should apologize, but its absurd to just pass all the blame on her. If you were trying so hard to make things right, then why didn't you call?

You're living in heavy denial.

Kay123
Kay123

I want to start off by saying that, I don't dislike Teresa but I wouldn't call myself a "fan" as you call it either. Surely, you must have watch what millions of others were seeing, so you have to see it from our point of view. I can see on the 2nd episode that you're trying to make your husband and his sister come together. However like everyone had mention, you talk about how family is important then turn around and bad mouth Teresa which is part of your family is it not? I don't understand why Teresa would ever need to apologize considering she didn't start the ruckus at the Christening, it was your husband who told Teresa to walk away and called her garbage or was that just edited in there?? hmm...another questions which is a big question mark. Seems like the rift between them all lies within Joe and Joey and Teresa just got caught in the middle for trying to defend her husband like you are trying to defend yours. Your husband talks about how Teresa's hurt him but doesn't really mention what that was except the fact that her husband had said some things to your father to cause rift between father and son. So, again how does Teresa end up in this drama? Teresa is trying to make amends and your husband isn't budging, maybe its just your husband?

TeamGiudice
TeamGiudice

Be a part of the SOLUTION, not the PROBLEM.

Alabamaviewer
Alabamaviewer

Teresa should apologize??? Are you kidding me??? Your husband should apologize because he has no one to blame but himself. You and your sisters need to stay out of their business instead of causing trouble!

Viewer58256
Viewer58256

You are beautiful & so is your family! You are my favorite housewife!

love, love, love RHOJ
love, love, love RHOJ

I think everyone should cut Teresa some slack...My heart breaks for her. She has handled herself with class during her financial problems. Melissa, Kim G is not your friend. She is a trouble maker and really makes me want to stop watching the show. She has no class and you associating yourself with her (I dont care how rich she is) makes you look trashy. I just hope to see you grow up a little and stop bashing your family and actually defend them...family is forever!!

Maureen T.
Maureen T.

Melissa, Melissa, Melissa- The only one who owe you an apology for ruining that day is your husband. He is the one who made a scene. Get the rose colored glasses off, make nice with your husbands family and stop airing your dirty laundry on T.V.

Maureen

AmberInPittsburgh
AmberInPittsburgh

P.S If it's so "High School" then WHY after 3 years did you decide to join??? You actually took away from the show...go away.

Aunt Pol
Aunt Pol

You obviously want nothing to do with your Husband's sister, but if you want to be the bigger person, stop talking about her. It sounds to me as if YOU are the problem here. If they had a good relationship before you came along you shouldn't have ruined it for them. You should never say such awful things about your in-laws, one day your Husband will open his eyes and realise what you have done.

Jackie4
Jackie4

Melissa you are great on this show don't let these haters get to you. Theresa and her family should be embarrassed pay off your debt and live within your means. Everyone will see who she is eventually.

AddictedtoTV
AddictedtoTV

Please tell your husband that this show is calle 'real HOUSEWIVES of NJ' not 'real HUSBANDS of NJ'

Drella
Drella

what's a candy draw?

Juliegirl
Juliegirl

Melissa, please look in the mirror and eat some humble pie. You, Joe and your sisters have been hateful to Teresa and her family. Viewers are not hateful as you call us for seeing reality and truth. Beg forgiveness and YOU need to pick up the phone to apologize and stop trashing everyone in the press and in your blogs. Otherwise you can just be the villian of the series. The ball is in your court.

deekay
deekay

The first episode, I really didn't like you and your sisters. But after watching the second episode, I can see that you are REALLY caught in the middle of all of this mess. Hope things get better between all of you, because at the end of the day, YOU ARE ALL FAMILY, whether by blood or marriage, (and yes that includes your sisters.) The ones to suffer from all of this drama are your and Teresa's beautiful children. Hoping for the best!

Karin Theresa
Karin Theresa

I just read all the comments from your first blog and boy were they harsh. Granted I know you are on television so everyone is going to have their opinions, but I definitely think you are brave for coming on as a rookie and trying to share your side of things. Hopefully now in present time things have gotten better in regards to your relationship with Teresa and Joe's relationship with her and his parents. I just wanted to post a positive message saying I think you bring a fresh look to the show and I am enjoying watching you and your beautiful family. Keep it up with being yourself and screw what everyone else thinks!

DivaGoddess
DivaGoddess

Bravo, please post!

Girl, you have a lot of growing to do!! Just like Teresa did when she first came on the show. Your sisters are the worse, I am sorry! I know you can't change or exchange them, but you can direct the way they treat this matter which really is not their business. Why did you let Bravo make you the new Danielle? Of course this show must have its drama and rivals, but why did you buy into this part with family? If you knew there was an underlying strain in this family, why sign on to this project? You and your husband are entertaining without this drama...why didn't you let someone else sign up to be the rival? I'd like to ask the same to Kathy.

I'm sorry but I just don't understand you. So it makes sense for you and Joey to attend every event they had for the kids and sake of family, but then bash your nieces mom and father on national TV and allow another woman outside the family (Kim G.) to talk about Teresa. NOT ONLY are you keeping a rift between you and the Guidices but this strife WILL GROW when all your children get older and see this for themselves, forming their own opinions. THIS CRAP IS GOING TO LAST FOR YEARS. Hope it was worth it!

njs
njs

you say not to judge you too soon. Stop talking badly about Teresa!! Fans dont like it and then wont like you!!

sadie666
sadie666

Who could possibly think you have done anything wrong? From what I have seen from the first two episodes, Teresa is like a loose canon. I love you and your family and Kat and her family. You guys are a breath of fresh air!!!!!!!