Before I say anything else, I have to say this -- thank you all so much for your support! My book is on the New York Times Bestseller list! I am beyond ecstatic. Thank you, thank you, thank you! xx
Please know that I do not want to say anything bad about my family, ever. And I will not trash them in interviews or on Twitter. But part of being of the show is blogging my feelings about the episode, and it's not fair to viewers to just put up summer safety tips. I wish my family wasn't on the show so I didn't have to talk about them, but I did not want any of this. Melissa chose it on purpose, knowing exactly what it would look like, and has continued to bash me in the press. I will not bash her back. I will just talk about what we see on the episodes and clear up some of her contradictions (because I think she's gotten herself confused by now).
I've decided to go back and look at some of her blogs, because she does a far better job of showing you the "real Melissa" than anyone else could. In her very first blog she wrote, "Some of you may be very confused right now. You may be thinking, 'Teresa has a brother?' Before all the press, you probably didn't know we existed, did you?" That might have worked if she hadn't forgotten about my New York Times bestselling cookbook Skinny Italian where I introduced Joe and his family to the world by dedicating the book to him, featuring pictures of us growing up, and talking about how much I loved him. A definite cover-up.
Another great Melissa quote from the first week: "Why do you want to suddenly dance with your brother, when you have left him out of your life for years? You be the judge." I hope the footage of my housewarming party when I introduced him to everyone on camera like he was a king helped you judge. I think you could see my love for him. (And Melissa screaming "No!" from the front row.)
OK Teresa...you just said the tabloids "made up" stuff about your legal issues then in the next paragraph (that you didnt write) you said they say what you give them so which one is it? I think you are so freakin jealous of Melissa and Joe you would do anything to try to be bigger then them. You are so mad that the media actually likes Melissa AND Kathy that you try to make up lies to make them look bad. GROW UP ALREADY!!!!!!
I adore you Teresa. I am so happy you spoke up and set the record straight. everything you said was exactly as I viewed it. Melissa will reap what she sows.And that is too bad.
I admire you for wishing her well. I love all your books and now buy them as gifts. It is my way of supporting you.
Love you Teresa!!!!
Keep your head up and stay strong! I wish you and your family the best! TEAM TERESA ALL DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
At last....we saw in last night's episode what made us like you so much in season 1, you are a mom with real love. My favorite scene is when you had on no makeup and your girls were all over your bed. That's real! Melissa's blogs are very telling of who she is because they keep contradicting themselves. Please keep your head up and be proud of your girls. Btw...get Joe some coffee Lol!
I would have accepted your blog more openly and would have respected your "side" of this ridiculous family feud if you had kept this line out of your blog: "But part of being of the show is blogging my feelings about the episode, and it's not fair to viewers to just put up summer safety tips."
It's an obvious dig at Kathy, so HEY, you are no better. Boohoo.
I am a first generation sicilian girl. Both my parents were born and raised there. We may live on the opposite side of the country but watching you and your family is like stepping into my world. I know you're the real deal because all your traditions, the language, the way you interact with your family is just like mine. I hope and pray that you get the closure you deserve. I am the only girl and youngest out of 3 brothers. I have had my share of sisters in laws, cousins, aunts all starting petty drama ..and once those sicilians start talking, forget it.. The grudges come out in full force. I hate to say this, but sicilians are very jealous and judgemental people. Moreso with family. The second someone is doing very well or succeeding there is always that one person in the family who has to knock it down, and compete for the attention..aka Melissa. At this point, you and Melissa will never be best friends, but the only thing you can do is just be civil, respectful, and see your brother as much as possible without bringing up the past and the things she may have done to you. It will fuel the fire and he is stuck in the middle. Your eyes are different this season. You can see the stress/pain that you're going through. You're a great mother, wife, and you know what you have to do to take care of those around you..Show that confidence again. And tell Melissa "va fare una camminata" .. I probably butchered it but you know what i meant ;)
Couldn't have said it better. It was awful to see Gia cry and even more awful when they showed up two hours late like nothing was wrong. Who does that?!?! He'll be back Teresa. One day he'll wake up and see her for what she is. I just wish he would grow up and tell her to back off already.
Teresa, You are absolutely right about respecting your in-laws and your mother not deserving any of this nonsense. It is obvious you are a wonderful mom and you are very, very lucky to have such healthy, happy and beautiful daughters.
Teresa!!! I am even more crazy about you after reading this blog! You nailed it about Melissa. I have tried to like her, she is a cute girl and has a beautiful family, but her heart is black. She is soooo jeleous of Joe's family, esp. your brother and sister relationship. I feel sorry for her because she is making herself look bad. I beleive she has been jeleous of you since you got on this show. It shows in her behavior. Every time she goes shopping she parades around in the clothes trying to be "noticed" and now with the singing! Oh boy! She is ok, but come on...really? I think she is making an ass of herself and your brother. She should have let those children play!!! I think that was terrible. You and your brother could have talked right then. Why didn't she take the kids and let you guys talk? I am sorry you have to deal with all of this and your kids do too, but you can't help it. It is the circumstances of Melissa being selfish. I didnt like what she said to Joe about being empty either. He is clearly a big softy for her and would do anything for her, so why can't she share him with his family? Sad, sad, sad.... I wish you the best Teresa, stay the way you are and always be YOU! By the way, I don't blame you for being annoyed about the card. You know her too well and we woman can read between the lines. God bless!
Theresa - love you and the show. Your beauthers are absolutely beautiful and those eyes. Just wanted to say I know you love your brother and someday the faily will be together again. Keep your head held high and let others sink to the lower depths where they belong. You are best!!!
It's the delivery Teresa. I agree with 90% of what you say. It's just how you say it. Maybe after years of feuding you don't have patience. So you say it w/o filter. The goal is for your parents to get their son back and be close. Sometimes you have to suck it up. I think Melissa really loves your brother but really needs to mature. In her mind she's the victim. You can't tell someone I'm being hurt but I'll continue to be in pain so you can be happy baby. What? She causes ton of stress for the Gorga family and it's avoidable. She lost her dad and miss him but doesn't value your parents. They deserve the respect. Regardless of how she feels about anyone. I can really see how much the kids love each other and how they are suffering.
Teresa..love you! Family may not always get along but please try to make it right wether you are right or wrong. Melissa is Joe's wife, so she will have to be included in the getting along part as long as he is married to her. Don't lose anymore time with your brother, you will regret it someday.
Keep your head up, Teresa. Melissa will hang herself by the time this season is over- she really is manipulative. I feel badly for your brother. He really is in an awful position between his wife and his extended family. He needs to stick with his wife- that's just how it has to be.
Teresa, I am a true fan of yours. And I agree that Melissa acts badly. Last nights episode showed her desire to manipulate your brother to be against you and your mom. It was sad that she played the "poor Melissa" card. She created drama that intentionally put your brother in a bad place.
But I believe it's your brothers immaturity and/or blinders that allow it. I know you love him, but I believe even you can see that he has issues with immaturity and insecurity that run deep. Melissa says that she sees him as a father and husband, but her need to be protected by him (when there is nothing to protect her from) is like a child begging for attention.
I feel the most bad for your mom. She seems like a great lady and Melissa even drags her into the "poor Melissa" game. It's sad. I hope your brother rises above all of this and sees clearly.
Hang in there.
Teresa - you seem to be the new Danielle this season. Last week I questioned why you conveniently had Melissa's card at the Thanksgiving table just like Danielle had the "book" at your dinner. I felt sorry for Gia - she obviously loves her Uncle Joe and it was sad that his not being there upset her.
Love you and your family Teresa. Not all of us are as stupid as Melissa thinks. We see what she is doing. She bashes you with every breath. How is that helping anything? It's like she keeps a list of things that you do that bother her. Then she poisons your brother's ear all the while saying she is the one trying to get you back together. I wonder how she would feel if Joey did that to her sisters. This week we got to see what this is all about. Melissa wants a singing career and doesn't care who she hurts to get it. Big surprise. After all, it's all about her right? Love and kisses out to that fabulous Gia. She is really something.
Thanks Teresa for being so real. We all have picked up from the beginning that Melissa is the problem with the family discord. I do wish Joey would wake up and be the man of the house and tell her while he loves her, he will not forget his parents and sister. He shouldn't be made to choose between the two. I do wish you hadn't needled him about being late. Better late than never. I love your spirit and family loyalty.
Teresa! Gia is growing up to be such a beautiful girl inside and out it shows what a good job you and Joe are doing as a parents. Keep taking the high road Girl! Love, Love.. LOVE you!!
It is obvious to me that Melissa has always been the center of attention in her family. She doesn't understand how her inlaws don't think she is the sun and stars like her family does. She has to be able to take a secondary role when she is with her husbands family. I hope she can grow up, become an adult for the sake of her husband and children.
ughhhhh i love u teresa! u show sooo much classs! love it! the world sees who melissa really is!!! MAYBE IF SHE MADE AN EFFORT TO BE PART OF THE FAMILY AND ACTUALLY SHOW SOME RESPECT EVERYONE WOULD LOVE HER!!! i met your mther and motherinlaw at your booksigning and they both love u very much!!! That is how I know you are a good person! When your motherinlaw loves you the way your mominlaw loves you! its very rare! keepup the good work!!! your books are amazing! TE AMO TERSA!!!!!!
This blog was well put Teresa. You didn't bash her in a hateful and ugly way. All you did was point out what she has said and what she has done. Things the viewers have all seen. It is very clear to see that she loves this wedge between you and Joey. She gets all of his attention because of it, that's what she wants. I hope it works out and I hope that your brother eventually see's what a manipulative and nasty person Melissa really is.
I think it's terrible how Melissa just twists everything and makes it about her. Your poor brother is just blinded by love and can't see how she really is to other people and how she manipulates him. The fact that her sisters are older (oh and side-note how horrible of her to say "you're too old to be my back up dancers") means she was pretty much an only child and the youngest and center of attention. She wants to still have that and she definitely sees you as competition. It's sad that a grown woman acts the way she does and I feel so bad that you have to deal with a family member like that. Keep your head high xoxo
GIRL! Mellissa need therapy & you need a vacation with your girls to like... St. Lucia or something.. I really hope that this stops and yall can be a family again.. it's really hard to watch at this point.
Teresa you are such a good person, it shines through loud and clear. No one is perfect, and we all have our different personalities, but if your heart is good (and your's is) it shines though. Don't like Melissa, haven't since the first showing of her. She's a scheming person wrapped up in a pretty/sexy package (although I find her very unattractive because of her actions and personality, I can see why people think she's cute). And to text and drag children out, make them cry and attack your mother.......wow! that really says it all, doesn't it?? My grandmother had a saying, *can't hear what you're sayin' for seein' what you do*........I think this applies here. T, you are a sweetheart and the prettiest of them all, in my opinion, when you are in the room the rest of this overdone women just look like wannabe's. Keep the faith and keep on keepin' being you, you're terrific! xo
My brother and I haven't spoken in 18 years because of his wife. I believe it's an issue with insecurity and like my sister-in-law, Melissa needs to seek help with her issues. My sister-in-law will never accept she needs help and has taken my brother back to her family. Everyone in her family has since passed away and there is no one left except the two of them. What a lonely life they carved for themselves. Your friends are now your family.
I have to say...what a well written blog! Teresa i may have been wrong about you...good luck with everything you do.
Teresa I adore you and Joe and the Kids your family is awesome. That GIa is beautiful and talented and graceful. I hope she stick with gymnastic she seems like a natural talent. with training Gilfriend you may have a olympiad in your family. Good luck Gia!
Teresa, I find it amusing that your blog will post and then Melissa's blog will post. Just sayin...Anyway I have 2 words for you...TEAM TERESA. And quit responding to Melissa on your blog. You are more mature than that. l remember an old saying...." A son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life."
Teresa, you are my favorite housewife! I love Caroline and Jacqueline as well. Anyway, I could see right through Melissa in the very 1st episode -- not a fan! Even last night, as my hubby sat watching the new episode with me, he said, I like Teresa and her family! I guess it's funny because I feel like I "know" you -- you are a fabulous wife, mother, and friend. It's obvious that Melissa is self-centered and has driven the wedge between you and your brother. Unfortunately, a lot of wives try to distance their husband from his family and it looks as though she did just that! On another note -- I bought your 1st cookbook last year and love love love it. I haven't bought your 2nd one but it's on my to-do list. Have a happy day! xx
You know Melissa looks very coniving & sneaky & I don't even know her! I see & feel the jealously she has when ur brother is around y'all! & that's not good at all! If we the viewers can feel it through the tv screen, I can ONLY imagine how you feel filming with this person:\ I see the love in pictures that you & Joey had for each other it looked amazing & pure Teresa! Melissa putting ur brother on the spot like that is totally wrong of her saying in other words that as long as y'all were like that to her, their little family wasn't gna work!? Whatever! Ur mOther is a angel & knows what she has for a daughter in law! She raised u n Joey to be 1 that close! I just wish u the best & continue to pray ur brother sees what & who actually is the problem! Love you & you keep doing you!
Hi Teresa, I am a huge fan, and it's about time you called Melissa out. Enough with her lies and excuses. She loves to play the victim role. She clearly does not know her place in line when it comes to family. Instead of shutting up and pushing you guys together she has to throw in your brothers face that she is willing to take the "abuse" from you and your family. She knows how to work your brother. A good "Italian" wife would NEVER mention that. Maybe she would think that but never say it bc, she truly wants her husbands family together. And does not need credit for "taking the abuse". But Melissa likes to play the victim role and act like shes is getting slaughtered for him. And Teresa kudos on what you said about the proper way is to go to your in laws/mothers. Respect your elders and your family you go to them, they don't go to you. But she has no idea of true family values nor RESPECT. I hope she gets kicked off the show. She is annoying me, and is looking for her 15 minutes of fame. Ciao Mia
I wish that you didnt go on this rant...u said you would never talk about your family! I still love you...
Teresa: Love you and your gorgeous family! I absolutely think its disgusting that Melissa is feeding poison into your brothers ear.
I enjoy watching the RHONJ each week and wonder prior who is going to be the drama queen - of course it is Melissa! She contradicts herself every time she opens her mouth. It seems as if she is reading a script.
Also, it seems your brother wants to have things the way they were but his wife is standing in his way...Of course husband and wife have to support each other but sometimes enough is enough. This is only hurting the parents and children. The ones involved can be as stubborn as mules and live with it, but nothing can be worse than seeing the hurt in the children and parents.
Sometimes everyone needs to forget there are cameras around and be who they are and not act fake. Some may forget, tapes can be rewinded and watched, so they should be wise to the words spoken in interviews.
The sibling rivarly brings back memories of my mother and her brother. I only knew of my uncle when I was a young child. He was never spoken of, seen, heard from, etc. because of an incident back in the day. This grudge was there and remained because of my grandmother who did not want my mom to talk to him. There is much more to it I am sure, but like I said, he was never mentioned. I didn't 'meet' (over the phone) until my mother finally reconsiled (sp?) with him after I was married and had children of my own. We wrote back and forth weekly. Soon after the reunion of my mom and uncle, he passed away from cancer. My point of telling you this is to say LIFE IS TOO SHORT to hold grudges! You will never be able to take it back if something "god forbid" would happen to either of you. Is it worth it?? I was grateful I was in communication with my uncle through letters, but it could have been different if there wasn't so much anomosity between siblings and parents.
Teresa, it is horrible that you have to go through this. My brother's wife is very controlling and spoiled and has caused a few very hurtful and damaging fights since they have been married. My brother is a wonderful man, and father who I have always gotten along with very well. What makes it even harder is that when she is upset with the family, he has to take her side, and when we see him and she is there, the only thing he can do is put his head down. My husband is in the same position. His brother (who has been one of my best friends since long before I was with my husband) has a girlfriend, who he has been with for seven years, who is jealous of me. My husband, my brother-in law, and Iwere always together; now he is not allowed to speak to us. My brother-in law's girlfriend even tries to go to Christmas dinner early to avoid us. When she is there, she won't come out to the dining room with everyone else. She just sits in the living room with a scowl on her face texting away.
Teresa Teresa Teresa you can't pretend to want to have your family back together and then write a 5 page blog bashing your Sister in-law. This is NOT one person's fault. You need to accept some blame for the situation. Just like when you saved and read Melissa's card at Friendsgiving to continue to make digs at her. Don't you realize by doing that and bashing her on this blog is only going to push your brother further away.
No one is perfect or without fault in this situation.
Take the high road for a change. No matter what Melissa says do not respond.
If you want to get away from the bad press, stop doing the show. I still love you Teresa , but it just makes you look petty and jealous for not wanting Kathy and Melissa on the show. If you loved them why not let them be stars too?
Teresa i am so proud of u. I thnk ur girls r beautiful and u as well. Ur brother will soon see the light. Just b true to urself and trust n God and it will all work out.
I love you Teresa. It was nice to see you trying to talk to them so much at Gia's meet. It is clear you are trying to open up communication between you and your brother. I thought that her crying was so childish. She was just trying to play the helpless victim. Maybe all this stems from Melissa just being insecure, which is her own problem???
Teresa, Melissa is so transparent in what she is trying to do. What a sad sad thing for a family to go through. Keep your head up. Everyone sees who is causing the trouble! And the ones who suffer most are the kids. I hope everything works out in the end! Love, Love, Love TO YOU!
Well said Teresa! I just love you Joe & the girls. No doubt about Melissa, I saw right through her the first episode. Talking about Jesus and how baby Joey was going to Jesus's Kingdom (Jesus's kingdom is in Heaven silly women) And really Amazing Grace :/ saved a "whench" lol.... Uh the word is wretch! If she's so godly she needs to get rid of her jealousy & slandering issues. And the last time I read the bible it said God is not too fond of liars, they will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. I like your brother and as tough as he comes across she plays him and everybody else. Love you Teresa I am glad you decided to do this show even though I know it's hard on you & the familia. You seem to be keeping it all together. You are a good daughter, mommy, wife & friend. A good woman period! Ciao Bella
Seriously, your attitude and comments to your brother when he got there were so out of control. It is no wonder he has these feeling towards you. Totally over controlling.
Hi tERESA, Love the show! Please come to Aventura Florida,Boca is too far for me. You are truly blessed to have a beautiful family. Enjoy them!