Caroline Manzo

Caroline's not putting on a show for anyone.

on May 6, 20120

Let’s talk about Lauren. My beautiful, beautiful baby girl. If you remember last week I mentioned that Lauren was beginning to fall into a state of depression about her weight and her self-image as a whole. You saw some of that this week. I cannot tell you how many times Al and I would have conversations with her telling her how beautiful she was, how smart and funny she was. It all fell on deaf ears. Her response always was “you have to say that, you’re my parents.” Nonsense. We are not those parents that tell our children what they want to hear. We tell our children what they need to hear, and we don’t sugar coat it. Although Lauren was overweight, we never said she needed to lose weight for vanity reasons. She needed to lose weight for health reasons, both mentally and physically.

My husbands’ family has a history of obesity, and Albert was no exception -- he’s lost nearly 100 pounds over the last two years. I’ll never forget the doctor’s words to him -- when you are overweight, it’s not if you get diabetes, it’s when. It’s not if you get high blood pressure, it’s when. It’s not if you get heart disease, it’s when. Your risk of cancer is higher, and your life expectancy can be cut short drastically due to your weight. I remember bursting into tears and looking at him and asking him if overeating was worth him dying. The answer is obvious. He took action and is healthier than ever. Thank you, God. There was no way in hell we were going to watch our daughter go down this road.

293 comments
A Viewer
A Viewer

Submitted by girlymom, on May 9, 2012. WROTE: Maybe Bravo should invite some of the family members in your life your at odds with, without your permission, and see how that works out.

GIRLYMOM: I laughed when reading your comment. Now there's a show I'd watch. Caroline is so full of herself! I've NEVER liked her, saw her for who she was from the very beginning, a bully, a 'GODMOTHER' wanna be, busy body, who best keep her divisive attitude toward herself.

Caroline I hope Bravo fires YOU, KATHY and Spiteful MELISSA!!!! I've not watch this season because of all of you. You all spew hatred, make fun of Teresa, and act like you've done nothing wrong. PLEASE!

Caroline: TEND TO YOUR OWN FAMILY ISSUES! LIVE AND LET LIVE!

Jo Ann Powell
Jo Ann Powell

I was born in New Jersey, but left at 6 months old. If I had grown up there and raised my family there, I would have been very lucky to find a friend like you. Keep up the good work Caroline....

busymomof4
busymomof4

Caroline, big fan of yours from the very beginning. Glad to see all of you realizing Teresa for the fake and fame seeker she really is. Her world will crash in on her one day and she'll be needing all the people she's hurt...KARMA is cruel.

I do have one issue with you...after struggling with my weight for most of my 43 years of life, I was not pleased with the way the boys especially treated Lauren. Teasing would have never been allowed in my house by siblings on this matter. I think encouraging her would be more productive. Let your hubby handle it, believe me when it comes from someone you can relate to and not a "skinny" relative, it's much easier. You are still an awesome Mom in my book!!!

Patti Cakes
Patti Cakes

Clean up your own Front Porch before you comment on others!!! Seems to me that all of the energy you put out trying to stir the pot with Teresa & her family would be better spent mending your relationships with your own family ! Mind your business!

Mrs Mac
Mrs Mac

Caroline is obnixous, selfrightous, arrogant person. Oh look at me I have the perfect family. Oh look at me I choose not to get invlolved. HELLO News Flash your on the show if you really don't want to get involved leave the show. Your just the a bully in the playground. This season, I have seen every season, I feel like there's something missing, like we (the public) are not getting the whole story. What I'm seeing is that Thersea doesn't like her sister in law.Thersea is trying to breakup her brother's marriage. Here's another news flash Italian's don't get divorced over petty crap like this. Caroline your boring!!!!

Glori
Glori

I use to be a caroline fan...but not anymore. I don't think Teresa had anything to do with a disagreement that you and your sister had...You look shady. this time look at you.

Viewerdalamo
Viewerdalamo

caroline

luv u

I hope u come back next season.

Anik86
Anik86

Dear Caroline, I've never posted on a blog before, so I have no idea if you'll even read this...but I was hoping you'd pass my this along to Lauren. I don't watch the show regularly, but I occasionally catch an episode here or there. Tonight I saw the episode where Lauren started her diet and is struggling with how she feels about measuring up to her brothers. I just wanted to let her know that she's not alone in the way that she feels about herself. I'm 25 and I'm cute but I could lose some weight. I've done the crazy diets and the trainers but it really comes down to whether or not your ready for a life change. I know that it is difficult to see the beauty within yourself, but if you can't see it then no one else will... Anyways, to quote a random poster I saw " this is your life, make it beautiful." -A

Denida
Denida

Caroline...you are are getting too involved. You are now making yourself look like the ring leader of badness. Your advice is sneaky and bad. I have always loved you and I realize you are hurt. But you are the better person. Do not let this turn on you !

Doreensdsdsdsd
Doreensdsdsdsd

I feel so bad for your daughter. Work on your own family before giving advice to others. Watching your daughter get bullied in her own home by people that are suppose to LOVE her was heartbreaking and made me not even want to watch the show anymore.

My mother used to be like you and it almost destroyed our relationship. She constantly was projecting her issues with herself on me and still does at times but I have to keep her in check. I decided to lose weight when I wanted to and now that I'm thin her comments about my "nice personality but lack of beauty" were still heartbreaking and still damage me to this very day. For that, I have to say, f you. Because you don't understand how badly that hurts from a mother and of course Lauren is defending you - but one day she won't. God you're just awful. And your sons aren't that perfect. They're both basic as hell. Even Alvie or whatever his name is.

tweety bird
tweety bird

what's with this twitter war you're having with some woman and something about hanging her? What's going on?

Maryann
Maryann

Caroline, I love the way you love and care for your family. Keep standing your ground about Teresa you are so right she was mad she got caught not sorry. I am proud to see your friendship with Kathy and Melissa grow it's good to watch and know you are your own person that noone else calls your shots, only you. Have a wonderful summer and keep your spirits up.

sharon12123
sharon12123

for people who are bashing caroline for suggesting a liquid diet sometimes that type of diet and a quicker weightloss will encourage the person to get on the right track there is nothing wrong with caroline suggesting that especially that Lauren feels so miserable, as for you caroline you are my favorite i agree with your statements and you should not be teresas friend she is a bad seed best to stay far away you have always handled yourself with class end of story

Chicago mom
Chicago mom

You have your opinions and seem to feel the need to point out everyone's faults. I have never been a fan of Teresa but surely you can find something to pass time instead of stirring the pot.

Why do you favor your sons? Shame!! Lauren has so much potential as a young adult! Believe in her. Just my two cents like you always give everyone.

NC, NJ
NC, NJ

Caroline - I'm a Howard Stern listener. He's not particularly known as sensitive. Once when someone made fun of a woman's weight to her on his show, he stopped them and said "what kind of man are you ... you never make fun of a woman's weight." My brothers, uncles, cousins, etc. would never tease or taunt a woman with that. Shame on all of you - it hurts her - everyone knows better than you do. You always qualify a compliment to her: "You're wonderful, etc., etc., but you have a belly." Stop it already - you're wrong.

Lady Doodah
Lady Doodah

It was so sad to see the family being so cruel to Lauren. Encourage her...not tear her down constantly!

Susan Gonyea
Susan Gonyea

Caroline, You are so right and don't have to justify how you handle your family. There is no right or wrong way we just do the best we can do. I think you are amazing and I have the same relationship with my kids...

Cheers!!! Susan

jurseyviewer
jurseyviewer

Caroline, While I am a fan of your entire family and in my opinion you seem to be one of the "smarter" housewives I am very disappointed that you would encourage your daughter going on basically a "liquid diet". Sure, she will lose weight but, most likely for only a period of time. In order to lose weight and keep it off she needs to change her lifestyle and eat healthy and exercise not go on some silly fad diet that no one can maintain for very long. I'm not sure if this was some sort of plug that you have going on with this "doctor" but, I really believe this sends the wrong message and thought you were smarter.

Just me
Just me

Caroline just adds fuel to the fire. She is mad at Teresa and she is going to make sure everyone else is too. Just like what she did to Danielle Staub. Shame on you Caroline. With friends like you, who needs enemies?

Mel_B
Mel_B

I know everyone has an opinion...I also know everyone thinks that they are right...I think as a viewer I may have an opinion but not a right to judge any of you. I enjoy the blogs but I do have a hard time reading the comments. Teresa is in a bad spot. Is she right or wrong its not up to me to decide. Should you stand by here and put up with the disrespect that she showed towards your family? I truly don't believe that you should. My family is number 1 in my life. If someone wrote the things that were written I would question the friendship as well. I also agree with you about how you let your children know when they need help. I am the same way. I tell my children straight up how it is. They are only children for 18 years they will be adults for a whole lot longer sugar coating life is not helping your children. Bless you for who you are, you are not putting a front on because of the camera's you are a REAL person. That is why I enjoy watching you.

Bunny
Bunny

Hey Caroline,

Are you familiar with the philosophy that Deepak Chopra and others spirtual teachers believe in - that what you loathe in others is what you loathe about yourself? "BULLY, who is trying to tear apart a family?" Sound familiar? Take a good, honest look in the mirror. You have no room to preach about loyalty and forgiveness. Tend your own garden. If you were so wise and the "voice of reason" that we were fooled into believing the first two seasons, you would at least be on speaking terms with your own family members. Clearly you are not perfect; who are you to judge someone for how they handle their family issues? Wow, you are not the only one whose fame has gone to their head.

Speaking of soldiers... Was it you or Jac who started using that term first? Echoing each other. Talk about soldiers... Funny, how Jac said she wasn't going to be Tre's soldier, yet she had NO problem listening to Melissa's side, both poker night and fairie night. News flash. My friends and I ALL vent to each other, because we are there for each other. Tre was just expressing her own side of the story to Jac. It's called being a FRIEND. Not trying to recruit for her army. Really, where do you guys get this stuff! If that's your kind of loyal, I'd rather be Tre's. When people complain about being stuck in the middle, it's usually because they put themselves there, Jac.

And FYI, I'm buying all of Teresa's books. Not because I'm a fan of hers, but because I used to be a fan of YOURS - until last season when you and your clan started ganging up on her. Then the reunion, ugh! It truly is like watching adults attack a child. You know Teresa doesn't possess the verbal skills to express herself well or defend herself. Hardly a fair fight. That's why you're coming off as a bully. Think about that.

Viewer
Viewer

Caroline you sit and talk about your family is your life which should be everyones way of thinking (as it is mine) I adore my kids and break my back for my family. That is it! You need to handle YOURS, why on God's earth are you invovled in other household issues. You are a contradiction of yoursellf, stay out of other peoples issues it makes you out to be that damn nosy neighbor. You spit out damn advice why don't you listen to your own crap. Where WE come from you don't stick your nose in other peoples business! ( that is my advice to you, take it or leave it) but one day it is gonna bite you in the butt!

Lisa grace
Lisa grace

Stop Being Such A busy body you act like your staying out of Teresa affairs with her family but you are as cunning as a wild cat who sits back creating the perfect time to attack using your fellow lioness to circle around and set the perfect attack .. Shame on you to play as if your so innocent. trust me so many are starting to see the real controling my way or the highway type person you have become.. Friends like you have a name... Two faced. you didnt like Dina or felt threaten by her? hmmm?? and turned everyone against her including jackelyn as i remember you pointed out to her to choose a side even when she didnt want to ..and she felt torn and oblagated because your her sisterinlaw.. but yet you say teresa is the one who bullying her .. i think it just you like being the only one controling whats what and whos who in your circle of friends and who they can be friends with.. you even were snooty with Teresas cousin at the begaining.. REMEMBER.... Just do whats right and stay out of things that are not your place..focus on your own faults before judging what others need to do about thiers..

Fan in North Carolina
Fan in North Carolina

The scene with Lauren was painful to watch. Sure, brothers tease but not fathers. Worst of all you all knew the cameras were on. It just became The Manzo Dog and Pony Shoe. You should have shut it down when your husband started in with the cousins statement. Lauren....you are a very pretty girl and I know you love your family but it had to hurt and I hurt for you, love.

Sien from Washington
Sien from Washington

Caroline, it was a very smart move of you to stay away from Teressa. You know she was never your true friend in fact, she was never your friend. You have given her so much and she's done nothing for you but destroy your relationship with your sister. you are a great role model. keep it up and dont worry what others are saying negatively about you.

cool fan
cool fan

If you're choosing sides, then stop giving advice cause it's clearly making things worse.

SweetPea2011
SweetPea2011

Caroline this one is for Lauren..... Can you please ask Lauren to start blogging? I think she would gain a whole lot of confidence from the support she would receive from all of us on the other side of the computer!!!! I cannot stress how much of a beautiful young lady she is; however, I understand what it is to feel uncomfortable in your own skin. She could be the most beautiful girl in the world to us but if she isn't happy with herself she will not see what we see. I just want to give her a big hug. As for your sons, they are handsome and yes brotherly and playful. Even though you see that they do not mean harm in joking with their sister the reality is anyway you cut it, it is very hurtful to Lauren. You could see it all over her face in that episode. Not to say that you encourage that type of talk but I would have a serious conversation with them. If that comment was made in the "privacy" of your own home it would still be as bad but not nearly as bad as the whole nation having to hear it to. It's like getting made fun of on the playground in front of all of your friends. You can laugh it off but the reality is you are still hurt and embarrassed. Albie & Christopher, please try to be more supportive of Lauren. She clearly loves you both so much and looks up to the both of you. Show her the support and don't make her the brunt of your jokes.

south jersey fan
south jersey fan

Caroline,

Getting old is not fun, and hormones can make many woman very angry . I will chalk up your new attitude and crazy comments to just this. I was very taken back by the comments your children make on air. I think of them as children, and this is an adult show. It is sad to have them take part in hurtful comments against other adults. I would not allow my 22 year old son or my 7 year old son to speak to anyone good or bad in such a way. I hope by the end of this season, we can see the good old Caroline, this one is just annoying to watch. Lauren is great how she is, wish her the best in her happiness, thin or not.

JMac7678
JMac7678

Caroline, When the show started you were the one I related to. We had much in common and it was fun to see someone dealing with many of the same issues I was dealing with. You were the one with common sense and that was a nice change from many of the other Housewives on all of the shows. Seeing you now is a let down. If you opt not to like Teresa any longer, fine. But to you bully her, gossip about her endlessly and trash talk her at every opportunity is a total 180 from the Caroline we were introduced to. In your blog you say you don't care what people think of you and I'm afraid that is obvious to us all now. What is most surprising to me is that you are falling for Melissa's act. You claim that you think Teresa is calculating, and perhaps she is, but seriously, Melissa is the MOST coniving person ever. You mentioned the fight in the parking lot ... rewatch it ... Melissa said that Joey came home crying the night Teresa said that to him.That confo took place PRE filming. BUT she told you and all of us that Joey JUST told her. They even staged him telling her and she pretended to be all hurt and shocked - all for the camera. Obviously, if he came home crying the night Teresa said that to him which was months before filming restarted, then what's with the play acting we all witnessed? Was that not "calculated". How did you miss that? How can you be such a sap?

Housewiveforever
Housewiveforever

Why does every housewife copy Teresa? Now people are posting on yours, and Melissa blogs as: "Love, Love, Love ...." If I were Teresa, I would get that copyrighted and legally sue anyone who used it without my permission.

Be creative. Stop stealing other peoples' ideas!

First of all
First of all

I love and admire you, please know that. I am a 51 year old woman, that works out every single day at the gym at work and I walk 4 miles 4 times a week. I have 2 grown beautiful sons, the are both 6 ft and one is 150 and the other is 250. It's genetic make up, we can't change it we can only change ourselves. With all that working out I have a belly, but whatever, my kids and family love me for me not for what I look like.

CalleyCreed
CalleyCreed

I would rather be Teresa's kind of Italian than yours.

my4lilloves
my4lilloves

How ironic that you would have the nerve to call anyone else a bully. Who are you to insert yourself in someone else's family drama and accuse someone of trying to destroy a family. Isn't your comment destructive in itself? Stay out of business that is not yours and worry about your own family. I find it sad that Lauren is most concern with "being rich". Why don't you work on encouraging her to count her blessings and work hard instead of focusing strictly on monetary gain. Fix your own family problems before you involve yourself in someone else's.

Jessica Jackson
Jessica Jackson

I watch all the housewives and I love Caroline Manzo!!! A terrific mother,wife and friend. For people to critize her for being concerned about her daughters weight is insane. By far Caroline Manzo is the most REAL woman on this show!!!Don't change a thing!!

espy
espy

Thank goodness for you and your family! You folks are the only bright spots in a very dark season (thanks to Teresa). How many families has she tried to ruin? Oh, yeah - ALL of them! I hope Dina is watching and seeing T for who and what she is. Blessings to you and yours. Stay strong!

HousewifeHysteria
HousewifeHysteria

The only one you are putting on a show for is yourself. Your true character is out...you are cruel to Lauren and you don't even speak to Dina!! WE LOVE DINA!!!! And you are the opposite of your lovely sister, you are one angry, angry mama. Don't blame it on menopause.

amorenomore
amorenomore

You need to follow your own advice...if you're not going to get involved then don't talk about Teresa every minute you can. Did you ever try to sit down one on one with Teresa & try to work out your friendship? If not, then let it go already. Teresa's "jokes" in her cookbook look rated "G" compared to the Manzo boy's jokes about their sister. If you call that loving someone than you all have the problem. Maybe Teresa should have had her jokes rated "R" for you all to be accepting. How is Dina by the way? Oh, sorry, let me go on Teresa's blog to find out!

PLHogan
PLHogan

Caroline, let's see more of your family, Rosie, the Gorga's and the Wakile's. Start inviting them over for a good time and the viewers will have a good time too. As much as a sister-in-law can, distance yourself from Jacqueline. She needs a time out. I wrote her that sometimes friends HAVE to make a choice - many disagree with me but I believe it is true. I said to her, pick a side and stick by it (them). I have had to pick sides with friends and I did. It takes a while but when the sides eventually come together, which they will, I was in the cat-bird seat just making a decision about the situation. No one likes, or trusts, a waffler.

Teri K
Teri K

Part of me was uncomfortable watching you & the boys tease Lauren and Vito, but I realize that's because of my own weight issues I've had since I was a child. I don't know your family dynamics - you say that's the way you've all spoken to each other, so I accept that. To those who are saying Lauren's beautiful (she is) and that everyone should leave her alone, let me point out that if she's this overweight while she's in her early 20s then she will have significant problems when she hits her 30's and older. There's a reason why weight charts have a column called "morbid" obseity. Insurance companies figured out long ago that excess weight will shorten your life.

Donna jordan
Donna jordan

I enjoy watching you every week. you truley inspire me as a mom. stay strong and please rember your fans love you

ohcaroline
ohcaroline

Caroline,

I don't know if you read these, but I hope you do. I am a fan of yours and in the past I believe that you have been the voice of reason on many things, but I hope you look in the mirror and can realize you can be a bully too. Some people in life just seem to be the type of person that people come to for advice. I think you are one of those people, but lately you have been stirring the pot. You have decided you do not like Teresa and are actively , ACTIVELY, trying to get people to agree with you. The advice you give is about getting people to join your army. You can deny it, but you know its true. Listen, I think you are a good person, with a good family, but bottom line at times you can be a bully and need to learn to keep your mouth shut. Sometimes you just need to pipe down and get off your soap box. You don't have all the answers and are not the expert on everything and yes you think you are even if you deny it.

duffyy
duffyy

Obviously she needs to write a cookbook. A cookbook about cooking italian style and the adjustments she made to accomodate her dieting family. How about, "Slimming Down Italian Style." The book could be complete with antecdotes about her fellow housewives. A follow up book could be "Manzotastic--Recipes from My Fambly", and finally "Manzotastic, Toned and Trim". Then her days will be filled with book signings and TV and radio appearances.

Age
Age

caroline, I am not saying what Teresa is doing is right,but what I am saying is she is in a bad place right now. When she needs friends support the most you go and stab her in the back over something silly. Also if you want to help your daughter lose weight than encourage and don't let your family tear her down.

ScoobyInEdmonds
ScoobyInEdmonds

Caroline, I love you! I too am what I am and completely own it. It is so refreshing to see you do the same thing. Theresa is completely insane and how things work in her brain, I just don't comprehend. I suppose that is a good thing or else it would mean I was insane as well. LOL. I just wanted to tell you to keep being true to yourself and you will come out fine on the other end of all this. You have a wonderful family and your kids have turned out so well because you and your husband love and support them completely. Don't worry too much about Lauren. She will find her way just as they boys have. More power to you Sweetie. From what I have seen so far this season, I think you will need it!

PAHousewife25
PAHousewife25

I'm so surprised at how you have changed since the first season...You were down to earth and level headed at the beginning...You were rough around the edges and talked a little like you grew up in the street...You defended your family and friends and believed in keeping your nose out of the business of others...I guess the show has made you think that you are now better than that...That you have all the answers and are the most moral and best person on the series and everyone should do as you see fit...You are putting on an act now trying to come across quite different than the you that used to be...This new you is irritating, hypocritical, two faced and back stabbing...Even trashing your own daughter to impress your sons...It is obvious that if Lauren has a body image issue it stems from you and your family...What happened to telling Jacqueline "rule with an iron hand"...Didn't you control your own family?....Telling Lauren that to be rich is up to her and her hard work while your sons are backed financially by your brother...And Christopher works in the family business so it certainly hasn't been him starting in a new company from the ground up...You favor your sons and put your daughter down and make her feel bad about herself...If she overeats maybe it's to feed the part of her that wishes she had her parents love and acceptance...The void you created in her by choosing your sons over your daughter...You certainly should be able to relate to her and know how it feels to be overweight...you should be supporting each other in your attempt to get in shape...Tend to your own family and keep your nose out of the business of others...

girlymom
girlymom

Maybe Bravo should invite some of the family members in your life your at odds with, without your permission, and see how that works out.

pink sweater
pink sweater

Please don't make menopuse your story line.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

You're NO bully, Caroline! People just can't handle anyone standing their ground against Teresa and her fans have to resort to name calling to feel better. (Hmmm...Sound familiar?) I adore you & your NORMAL, BEAUTIFUL family! You've done a great job raising those kids and that, after all, is the most important thing in life.

lovetherh
lovetherh

I have to say, I was SO DISAPPOINTED in you this week. I know you love your sons, and I get that. BUT, to hear the mean things they were saying to Lauren when you know how sensitive she is about her weight and for you to not say anything was just sad. Now, I know this is edited and maybe you told them to shut it, but it didn't make the show. I felt so bad for Lauren during that scene in the kitchen. Especially when she's already sensitive about it and you're talking about it in front of her boyfriend. I just thought the boys were being a little mean and ganging up on her about something very personal that she's struggling with. Wish you would have stepped in and told them they sounded like total aholes. Wonder what they're going to say to their future wives if they gain some weight???