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Teresa's Blubber Comment

Caroline explains why Teresa's insults don't bother her.

Hey guys, so what did you think of RHONJ Reunion Part 1? Pretty intense, right?

First and foremost I want you all to understand how taxing the reunion taping process is. We are literally sitting rehashing what feels like every single moment of the season for nearly 12 hours. I think we experience every single emotion during that time, and when we are finished we are completely drained. I have to be honest, sitting here writing this blog isn’t exactly a blast either, but I suppose we each owe you the chance to read our take on things one last time.

I have so many thoughts running through my mind right now, and I don’t want to ramble, so I may keep this short and do a summary at the end of Part 3, let’s see where this goes.

Let’s talk about my nephew, Nicholas. Our beautiful, beautiful little man who happens to have autism. It took quite a while for Chris and Jacqueline to get a concrete diagnosis on Nick, and I fully understand and agree with their decision to keep it off the show until they had all the answers they needed. Everyone knew about Nick’s condition, and I respect and want to thank Bravo for their understanding in keeping it quiet until Chris and Jacqueline were ready to discuss it.

Having said that, watching that video was both heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time. I’m sorry for my outburst, but that was about Nicholas and I believe it was disrespectful and selfish of Teresa to infuse herself into that moment.

That’s all I’m going to say about it. I wish Chris and Jacqueline strength and patience on their journey to heal our beautiful little man, Nick. God knows he is surrounded by the love of his family near and far, and if love can heal, he’s going to be a winner.

The “old hag” and the “triple blubber” comment… I’m a big girl, and I’m very aware of my shortcomings. Yes, I am getting older, and yes, I do struggle with my weight and have a wrinkle here and there. I got a tummy tuck when I was 39, which was 12 years ago. I’ve never hidden it, but I don’t understand the relevance; in the spirit of full disclosure I had the chicken pox in 1970 and a hang nail about a month ago. Oh wait, I also get kidney stones, migraines, and have recently developed hypertension (I wonder why…).

All kidding aside, the comment didn’t hurt me, because I won’t allow it to. I have the power to not let it affect me. Maybe it’s just a basic maturity that we, as adults, should have. On the other hand, there are people in this world that struggle every single day with their self-image and sometimes they aren’t capable of brushing negative comments off, my daughter being one of them. I love her to death for sticking up for me, but I don’t like seeing my children dragging themselves into the mess. What Teresa said hit home for her, and she needed to let Teresa know how she felt about it. Sticks and stones.

At one point I really tried to talk to Teresa. I was sitting next to her on the couch, and I saw something in her eyes that I was hoping I could address and give her a little clarity on. I know many of you love to refer to me as a bully. Trust me, I’m not, I have a heart and I have feelings. I tried to make a point. There’s more to come on this, so next week, let’s watch and see what happens.

As far as the chaos that ensued between Kathy, Teresa, and Rosie shortly after, I tried to have a conversation with Teresa. I think we have to let that go for now to -- it got VERY deep and VERY emotional. SAD.

I’m rambling, even though I said I didn’t want to ramble. There’s so much more coming that ties into what you saw tonight, so I will just leave it off here and wish you all pleasant dreams.

See you next week.



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Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt. 

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