Teresa clearly knew what these articles were going to be about, because she told me about her "vow renewal" cover and what the topics were going to be in there which she said was clearing up all of the other rumors she put out there about herself. What did she think the "friends and family bullying" article would be about? I couldn't figure out why she would want to do that. I will say it again, it's one thing to put out articles about yourself, but when she would slip things in about her friends and family, that was crossing the line. I was thinking to myself, "I wish she would just tell them once and for all how she really felt instead of sending messages in magazines. Maybe then the healing could begin and she could let go of all of her resentment, forgive, and move forward." Talk about passive aggressive!
I guess I would have respected her more if instead of disregarding these articles and pretending they didn't exist, that she addressed her friends and family with some respect and apologized for the things printed and explain how they ended up in there. Why would she continue to do these covers knowing that they were mostly negative about her and her family? She allowed it.
Every other week I was reading new sob stories put out by Teresa that didn't seem to mesh with her lifestyle. I never saw her struggling and afraid of being poor. Everything was FINE! Her lifestyle never really changed. It actually got more extravagant. I was so confused as to what was really going on with her. Did she need help and was hurting or not? I couldn't tell, but when I read bad things about her, it would upset me. If you read those things about your best friend, wouldn't you be compelled to ask her how she is doing or wonder why she hasn't mentioned anything to you AT ALL about it? That is the kind of thing that me and my other best friends talk to each other about. Call me crazy, but I think anyone with a heart would be worried about their friend, if, in fact, they were a true friend.
Hi Jacqueline, I don't think you will ever know Teresa because she does not live in the real world, she is probably coming from a world where she was told every thing is her way only....Tre needs her husband to tell her the truth about life so that she can be honest to herself... You are such a lovely person and you are kind to everyone, don't change because of your bad choice in friendships but please leave your door open for Teresa... Tre might also have a learning disability cause I don't understand that she does not get it. .... Lots of love xxx
Jacqueline, I think you're such a sweet and honest woman!! Teresa is one wacky woman, it's best if you stay far from her and her drama!! She'll never see her flaws and will always be in denial about her phony ways. You don't need people like her in your life!
I'm so glad to see that you've dropped Teresa by the wayside. It was ruining the relationships with all of your other incredible friends. I'm not a violent person, but I truly don't see how you've kept your hands to yourself. I'm not even caught up on all of the programs yet, but I just saw that you and Teresa are on the outs!! Thank heaven!! She has used you for so long..."been there done that." You know the other women in the group are truthful and really care about you. Sometimes a person has to be left "alone" for awhile so that they can once again become humble, I think there is little chance for Teresa, you may still want to keep her in your prayers. I know when I've had to end relationships (including an ex husband) I've had to pray for them to keep the resentment from building in me...hey, it works! :-) God Bless you and all of your group..I think you're great. The common denominator in ALL of the "muck" is TERESA. Why don't they get her a show of her own, then she can argue with her family. Always remember, "WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND." You keep being a wonderful friend to your family and other girlfriends...let Teresa stew for awhile. God willing she'll someday get some help...heaven knows she needs it!! I love you Jacqueline..and all of your friends minue Teresa, and her bratty kids, and trashy mouthed husband!!
Thank you for always being so honest! I think you are great and I respect you for standing up for what is right!!
I feel your pain and frustration. Being a good friend can be work sometimes, especially when only one is working. Best of luck to you and yours!
Jaqueline, You and Teresa have been my favorites since the show began, I am sorry you feel the way you do. I have never really seen Teresa say anything bad about you behind your back; did you mean on the show? Now that the liar Melissa has admitted that she often vented to Danielle, someone she never met before, about negative Teresa things, don't you see her for a phony. I think she only admitted it because between the Daily News reporting" we will have to come up with a new way to take her down", and calling Teresa a liar she sees Teresa has taken the gloves off. I am sure she lives in fear of Danielle being produced with the correspondance with her. Would you not call someone who talked about you to your enemy a backstabber?
I think you are a very fortunate person. You lead a charmed life with a gorgeous husband and beautiful children. You appear to be a very nice lady. Please stop being manipulated by Gorgas. Stay out of the fray. Enjoy what you have. If you loved Teresa like you say you did, please sit her down and explain yourself to her instead of bickering like Caroline and company. Be a good friend. I would love to see you and Teresa have fun together again. I think you two can reconcile more so than any of the rest of them because I genuinely believe that you are not as cold and hateful as you are portrayed.
teresa didnt change she is the same shes been since we first seen her on season 1 you and caroline changed and for obvious reasons
Jacqueline you are one of the nicest housewives on this show, only a person like Teresa can make a nice person like you really upset. Teresa is playing her victim card very well which works for her to sell her books. She obviously knows how the magazines work because she has done so many, and it is so funny how she uses all of you to get paid, if anything she should be grateful to all of you for helping her getting her bills paid will throwing everyone else under a bus. She is crazy to think everyone is jealous of her when she is obviously not happy with her life. Yeahs smithy get more things , material things, but happines is just superficial. You and the other housewives have a better marriage, and family than Teresa does. I would be so embarrassed if my husband would treat me like Joe treats Teresa . She is obviously a fake person and she can only use that victim card for so long.
Jac, great blog. You have been very patient with Teresa and it is so obvious that everything she has done was with the intent of getting more money, probably to compensate for the position her juicy husband put them in. I miss the fun Teresa too. I believe deep down she has a good heart but just let the fame and greed overtake her. You have a great family, so just focus on them.
I am happy you are in a good place according to you. A few weeks ago though, you insisted in your blog that no matter what Teresa tries to say, she is pretending about being happy! That's the problem with you Jacqueline; you think you know everyone so well. Who are you to say she is not happy. Truth be told, I don't think you are very happy right now. Learn to mind your business. Live your life, and enjoy your family. You are obsessed with all things Teresa, and no I am not delusional or a Teresa kool aid drinker as some commenters love to say. Everyone just has an opinion based on how we see the show.
Friends come and go but family is forever. Now that she is out of your life and family stay out of hers. Do your vow renewal story, no one remembers what is in those magazines last week never mind last year.
Jacqueline, you are definitely trying to get Teresa to see how she is keeping the feud going. Oh, and her face when Caroline comes out during your fight is the best thing I've seen all season.
xoxo Caitlin in CT
Jaqueline, I do know and understand where you are coming from. Reading about your friendship with Teresa reminds me of me and and my best friend. Through the 4 1/2 years of our friendship both of us have had our good times and our bad times and through it all we have always stood by each other. One thing that has made our friendship strong is our abilty to call each other out on our wrongs, and also our ability to just know when to just grin and bear it. A great example of this, during our first year of being friends my ex-husband (my children's father) commited suicide. She was the first person I called and she watched me and my children go through a ton of emotions, but she never turned her back on us. Whenever I feel the need to question our friendship I always think about the day during that time when she had called me after I had a very, very bad day and I was screaming about my bad day to her at the top of my lungs, slamming my fist on my dashboard carrying on and on. Her response "Do you feel better now that you just yelled at me?" Which I replied "Well....now that you mention it YES!....LOL!!" we just laughed about it and still do. However, I have also been on the receiving end of feeling like I too had been there for her more than she had been for me. An example of this, after having lost someone that was like a grandmother to me after battling some horrible health conditions (I'm a first generation like Teresa, but my grandparents never joined my parents and I never meet them. This women filled in for them, and she also went to school with my grandfather). My friend had called me just the day after I had found out about her passing while I was still trying to take it all in. When I told her about her passing she responed with "Well her suffering is over now, quick get over it I need you!" do you think I let her get away with this? NO!! I promptly told her "I am entitled to my feelings" which put her in check and she understood that she was overstepping her boundries.
I think that Teresa herself is doing everything she can to try to face all the problems in her life, which can make it difficult for anyone to really be there for someonelse. It seems as though she does have daggers coming at her from multiple directions weather she put them there or not. Possibly, she may have been fearing that you would judge her about some of the issues she is facing. I know as close as I am with my best friend, there are things that I'm not comfortable talking to her about, but I know that it is my own hang up and that she would love me just the same. To make it short sometimes we don't repeat things that we don't want to admit to ourselves. For myself somethings just are not real until I tell someone close to me. Such as when I was in denial of my ex husbands death until I had to tell my family about it, that's when the impact set in.
Stay true to yourself, and take care. It was nice reading a blog from you that is more who you are. All the bashing blogs were mearly your anger talking, not your heart which is beautiful.
Jacqueline, I oftentimes do not like Teresa's behaviors.
Nevertheless, I was astonished that you and the others were too small to congratulate Teresa after she received the phone call to tell her that her third book was on the NY Times Best Seller List. That's not an accomplishment to be overlooked by friends. Not at all.
Why couldn't you have gone to her and given her a hug of congratulations at that moment?
Who cares that Caroline didn't like Teresa mentioning her or her sons in the cookbook. Teresa has explained all that, and it's over. There's no reason for Caroline to hold such a grudge. The publisher wouldn't have published Caroline' photo in that book without Caroline having signed a release to do so. The Manzos and the Lauritas need to learn to forgive and forget and move on, not dwell on past mistakes.
We also do not need to hear or read every single thought that ever entered your head about your relationship with Teresa. My God, woman, stifle thyself; learn to be concise when you write so as to get to the point.
I can see where you're coming from Jacqueline, your frustration with the friendship between you and Teresa. That being said, just because you think she may not have been the great friend to you that you were to her, does not mean you have to spend every waking second now trying to find ways to ruin her reputation and credibility. You do not need to work on "taking Teresa down." You are becoming very petty yourself, and as the viewer, it is getting harder and harder to like you with each week. That is just based on your blogs. You should focus on you, Teresa can focus on her and her family, and if she wants to bitch to her friends, that is her perogative, so long as they're still listening. Do you, you might get some fans back.
Jacqueline, thank you for posting and clearing up what is going on. I have always liked you and Caroline and I never thought you were mean or vendictive people. I always thought you were a very emotional person, and even after all that went on between you and Danielle, you still accepted and gave apologies for what happened. Thats a person with a good heart. I know a lot of people are fooled by Teresa and make excuses for her behaviour. I know she's been going through a rough time, but there is only so much she can excuse herself for. The things she has been doing for the past few years is why everyone is calling her out at the same time. People have been calling it bulling, but I say its just the chickens coming home to roost.
I read Theresa's blog first and thanked her for the explanation of how these magazines/tabloids worked. Thank you for the additional enlightenment. I was thinking of how much a publication could get away with by just saying, "a source informed us." I never once thought "the source" could be the person giving the interview who required anonymity. Wow.
I hope peace and right relating comes to all concerned - and soon!
Another looooong blog dedicated to your hatred of Teresa. Look, I don't like her one bit. I find her to be an unappealing shreiking lying narcissist. I'm still disgusted over her fake story about her "Jewish friends" so believe me, there is nothing about this woman I respect. But this isn't about her. This is YOUR blog. It's about you. And apparently, you are all about hating Teresa. Is this really what you want to be all about?
Come on. You were a fan favorite in the first two seasons. Now you're becoming one of the most dislike housewives of the franchise! Is this how you want to be remembered? Because your last impression is going to stick and stay.
The choice is yours. You can blog away about your anger toward a woman who most of us viewers don't even like anyway and you can spend hours writing your own fake fan posts here defending and praising you. Or you can mentally and emotionally walk away from this wreck and refocus and rebuild your life. Because where you are now is not a good place. No matter how many times you keep saying it is. All evidence to the contrary.
Jacqueline, keep your head up !! We all see what Teresa is doing. A person should never bad mouth their family in magazines, or "friends". She's become so delusional.
I READ THE ARTICLES, WHAT WAS SO BAD WHAT SHE SAID THAT DID NOT COME OUT OF EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU ON TV?? I DO THINK YOU ARE JEALOUS OF TERESA...ALONG WITH THE OTHER LADIES AND CAROLINE IS A BIG INFLUENCE ON YOU AND WHAT YOU SAY AND THINK WHEN IT COMES TO TERESA. ON THE LAST SHOW CAROLINE WAS SO NASTY WHEN SHE SPOKE ABOUT TERESA...SHE CAME ACROSS SO BAD. YOU, SHOULD THINK FOR YOURSELF. I GIVE TERESA A LOT OF CREDIT SHE IS TRYING TO HOLD HER FAMILY TOGETHER, SHE HAS SO MUCH PRESSURE ON HER. SHE IS DOING WHAT'S IMPORTANT FOR HER AND HER FAMILY DON'T YOU SEE THAT...SHE IS SMILING BECAUSE IF SHE DOESN'T SHE WILL CRY...I DON'T KNOW WHY YOU DON'T SEE THAT. BE HAPPY SHE IS NOT CRYING ON YOUR SHOULDER AND COME ON JAC, DON'T TELL US THAT YOU DON'T BRING UP THEM TO HER AS SOON AS YOU SEE HER. THAT'S ALL YOU TALK ABOUT TO HER. TELLING HER TO GO TO THEROPY, WHAT GOOD DID IT DO YOU?? YOU COULD NOT WAIT TO GET HER OUT OF YOUR HOUSE.
No one believes your in a better place with all the jabs you take on twitter... also no one believes that you can control what goes in those magazines... they will write whatever they want whenever they want to sell magazines.. nice doesnt sell... which is why you and caroline changed... you realized if you kept being nice people you would be shipped off this show in a heartbeat... EVERYTHING each one of you does is calculated and for your own self preservation... no one would hate you for owning that... just own it for crying out loud.. i feel like you but the reason people hate on you is because everything that comes out of your mouth is garbage... yes i used that word cause it smells and is gross. you said it not us... BRAVO who operates this show has centered everything around Teresa... so why do you all sit back and complain she thinks its her show.. is basically it... it should be called teresa and the people that talk about her show... there is nothing else going on. Two episodes of people fake dancing at the Gorga's shore house would be canceled before it even aired.. without her none of you are relevant anymore... so stop drinking the haterade and if you want to be made at anyone be mad at the direction of the show not the actors that have gone along with it....
Well said AGAIN Jac....anyone with 1/2 a brain can see what is going on here. Teresa is a total narcissist....she doesn't get, and she won't get it. I just feel sorry for all of the people around her. Maybe one day she will see the light, but I sincerely doubt it.....
Don't understand why everyone doesn't just wash their hands of Teresa and her vulgar husband. Get rid of the cancer in your lives.
Not Teresa here. No cyber bully. No ignorant person just because I don't agree with you. Okay to write now? Are we allowed to state our opinion without you going into victim mode? Thanks, I'm doing it anyway.
Jac, I used to be your biggest fan and I have no idea what happened to you. Well, actually that's not true...I have my own ideas but I'm not THAT mean so, I'll let you and your life coach figure it out.
Teresa's brother went on national tv to try and bash his sister. Teresa's sis in law and brother begged to get on a show that Teresa was on because they were jealous that she was getting attention. Teresa's lovely sis in law contacted Danielle. You remember her right, she's the chick Teresa stopped talking to because YOU and YOUR family didn't like her. You forgot...I'm not surprised.
You keep mentioning how sweet Joe and Melissa are...what kind of people do what they have done just to get on a damn show? Do you not think of his poor parents and how they feel right now? He sold out his family for 15 minutes...well, lets hope it's more like 5 mins of fame. They are NOT good people and the fact that you can't see that......i'm shocked.
Why are you so mad about the magazine? Did you read the whole article? It uses quotes of Caroline that we all heard her say on the show. They DID NOT put words in her mouth. If you say something to a camera, you should be able to face the music.
If you don't want to do magazine...then don't. Why the need to constantly bash her for it? If you think your magazine would have sold more...then try it out. I'm betting it wouldn't. That's not a knock on you Jac, not many people have that spark that Teresa does. I know that bothers all of your castmates but it shouldn't. You all are blessed with beautiful familes, why isn't that enough for you.
You are or were her friend and you're damn right you listen when she needs you. What you DON'T EVER do is constantly look for ways to undermine her which is what you've been doing since the start of this season. STOP IT. You're in the "middle" because you put yourself there. IF you didn't want to hear it anymore, tell her. No, you choose to pretend you were her friend and talk about her behind her back. Not cool!
One last thing, didn't Teresa say sorry to Caroline about the so called insult in the cookbook? Caroline said she was over it but yet she's still mad about it? I guess her word doesn't mean much. I'm not surprised. For the record, if my friend wrote a book and it was on the NYTimes best seller list...I'd be jumping up and down with her. Not pissed because she mentioned it at a wedding. Get over yourself already.
What blows my mind is that you can't see what her family has done to her. Melissa just admitted that she spoke to Danielle about her relationship with Teresa. Melissa "planted a seed" in Danielle head. When Danielle used that seed at the S2 reunion, it sprouted the opportunity for Melissa to be asked as a housewife. If you don't consider this as a malicious calculated move on Melissa's part than I will sell you some beachfront property in Arizona.
I really like you Jacqueline. You are reserved yet engaging. You speak well and I totally get whay you are saying. Theresa was my fav in the beginning but she is nothing but a shell of that person now. Your relationship with Chris is something to aspire to, and as for your daughter Ashley, she is who she is and you're obviously a good mother and it will shine as Ashley gets older. You Go Girl. Keep on keepin on......................
Hi Jacqueline- I think that your tolerance for Teresa is commendable. I'm not sure that I would be able to listen to her excuses and rants all the time. How long will you be able to take her nonsense!?
Jacqueline: I know you wanted Teresa to be real with you but maybe she held back because she was afraid you would air all dirty laundry on national tv. That has to be hard to go through financial problems and keep it to yourself because of being afraid that the details will be included in the show. Also Teresa's relationship with her family is her business and she is entitled to feel anyway she wants about it....regardless if its unhealthy or not.
What I can't understand about you and Caroline is your own families have internal turmoil but the difference is that you don't have those family members on as cast mates. I am not saying Teresa is right in all of this but maybe you two need to turn around the mirror and take a look at yourselves and put your self in the situation that Teresa is in. I think that they should bring back Dina and lets see how that would play out or how you and Caroline would handle that situation. I have read blogs calling you both bullies I have one word and it is "Karma"
I was so disappointed when they didn't show how you do your ponytails. When you were waiting for Teresa to come to your room to get ready and you talked about wearing a ponytail cause it was so hot out...I was ready to PAY ATTENTION to your technique! I try to get my hair up like yours and I'm not getting it right.
Once again...this blog does not explain what Teresa did to YOU. If this is it, then you are being silly.
I think it's interesting how Jacqueline says she would never go to a magazine and talk about family for money, yet she is on the show and it has shown us all about her relationship with her daughter and the rest of the family. This blog atleast made more sense than the last one that rambled on and on like a crazy person. It's clear that Caroline has control over Jacqueline and has for a long time now. That's probably where all the stress is really coming from. And regarding Teresa bringing up her book in the limo- she had every right.
Jacqueline, I don't care what anyone says, I still love you and you are my favorite! Are you sometimes too sensitive? - yes. Are you sometimes too worried about others? - yes. But all in all you come across as a true person and someone who cares a great deal about others. Just realize that you are who you are...you have a terrifice husband...beautiful kids...and you are a kind person. Who cares what anyone else thinks?!!!! Stay true!
Love love love you! I hope everything works out between you and Theresa as well as all the other ladies and Theresa. It would be such a fun show....
Teresa is out of her mind. Narcissistic is the right word to describe Teresa. I agree with everything you wrote and believe you 100%. She's out of her mind and I just want her to go away. She is so far gone that she will probably never be the same. Don't waste your time on such a despicable monster. RUN RUN RUN and keep on RUNNING away from this beast!
Can you just let Teresa be who she is or what she wants to be, you be how you want to be,lets get off the let's hate Teresa wagon is old already.Live your life enough with trying to put her down with the viewers.
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love,love,love you!!!!!! T. is a liar. or like we say in germany: wer schreit der luegt!!!! who yelling, who lies!!! and that is what T. is doing all the time and i'm wondering why T. has so many fans, their stupidity can not be surpassed even.
Jacqueline, GREAT blog, as usual!! I'm so glad that you dismiss all the ridiculous comments you get from "Team Tre" and continue to do what everyone is supposed to be doing on these blogs, which is writing about the episode at hand. I love hearing your perspective on what was going on at the time because after all, you were there. I'm also glad that you addressed the "comment that won't die", "Why are all your blogs about Teresa??????" Every time I read that I want to scream at the computer screen that that is what the whole show is about! The entire theme of Season 4 so far is "Crazy Teresa is losing all her friends, family, and money!" What else are you suppose to talk about?
There are friends who will suck the life out of you with their problems and not give anything in return when you're in need. I wrote off one of my best friends years ago because of it and it has brought me peace after listening to alllllll of her problems day in and day out with little effort on her part to try and resolve her problems. Some people just like to complain. You don't need friends like that, so you're better off just not associating with her so much.
Jac, you turned the magazine cover/articles down because you can, you have a husband that supports you and only one small child at home. Tre needs the money that receives from this stuff, even if the job isn't a big paying job, it is all advertising for her. She is a TV star, she needs the press. How luck for you that you don't have to subject yourself to all the crap that comes a long with it, Tre does. The puppy on her lap - this is entertainment Jac! What you said about Tre having to approve every article/comment - are you serious? All the crap that is on line, in magazines, about all of the stars and you really believe that people approve this stuff? like Tre said, she can either go along with it or not, but it will be printed. The things she said in her cook book or when she was on the cover, they were not that bad! Why are you all so sensitive? You signed up to have your life played out in front of everyone? Magazines twist things to make them sound good, just like Bravo when they show you in either a good or bad light, c'mon, you really think Tre can control all of it! She shouldn't have to apologize, it comes with the territory. I believe it would get tiring of listening to all of her family issues. Tre bad mouths them to you because you are her BF and that is what we do with our BFs, we complain and say things that we would never say/tell anyone else. Of course Gorga's don't bad mouth Tre to you, SHE IS YOUR BF! Wow Jac! Tre should listen to you, I agree, it goes both ways, she is a little consumed with herself, however, I am not sure most people wouldn't be as famous as she has gotten. She works hard, loves her family, puts up with Joe, please don't be a sour puss like Caroline, you can be so sweet, please stay that way!
I think Teresa is the same person as she was when we first met her on the show. She was always over the top with her and her children's clothing, her notorious furniture shopping sprees and so forth. If anything, she seems less like that now that she's had financial trouble and her family is on the show. The ONLY reason her family was brought on the show was to cause trouble. I am so not a fan of Teresa, but I can totally empathize with her. This has not happened to anyone else on any of the shows. She didn't sign up for it. It was totally uncool and unfair and a lose/lose situation for her from the get go. She was forced to deal with her family squabbles on tv. If they had issues before, you can only imagine how their coming onto the show to settle them without her knowledge only added fuel to the fire. A true friend would have empathized, not taken sides, and just plain stayed out of it. One thing I do feel about Teresa is that she does NOT get in the middle of anybody else's family issues. Give the girl a break.
I love your blogs Jac.! It always gives us the TRUTH! It gives us the other side, the "jealousy" crap Teresa keeps spewing, is BEYOND old!!! Keep telling the truth and being real Jacqueline, you always have been and always will be!! xoxoxo
You speak the truth, Jaqueline. I especially agree with you saying Teresa always wants to be better than (insert name here). She needs to have the best home, have the best sex life, the best career, the most money, the best dressed children, the most toys, yadda, yadda, yadda. She cannot stand for anyone, especially Melissa, to be better or have more than her. Simply drives her mad. When someone tries THAT hard to convince the world, you KNOW there's someting seriously wrong there.
The funny thing is, Melissa never competed with Teresa. Melissa is hotter, has a better marriage, a nicer home AND cuter kids. She's SECURE with herself and her life, so there's no need for her to compete. Too bad Teresa doesn't get it. We all do, though. She lost a good friend in you, Jaqueline. Perhaps some day she'll realize it. Glad you've moved on. She's not worth the time.