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Jacqueline Laurita

Boundary Issues

Jacqueline thinks she may have gone too far with Gia, but was shocked by Teresa's comments about Ashlee.

May 23, 2012

I realized shortly after Gia ran up the stairs to get away from me that I may have overstepped my boundaries as a best friend/honorary aunt. I felt horrible instantly. I apologized many, many times. As familiar as we were with each other, like family, it really wasn't my place to teach Gia a lesson. I still feel horrible about it to this very day. I was surprised at the overwhelming amount of support I got for doing that. Thank you for understanding the situation, however, I learned to never cross that line again. That doesn't take away the fact that Gia was extremely rude and disrespectful to me in my home, and I hope that at some point Teresa had a talk with her about that. From what I am hearing on Twitter, most people would have been a lot more aggressive with her than I was. After I handed out the grand prize to the winning team, which was a giant block of provolone cheese, I read another Help Me Be Good book to the adults on cheating. Fair is fair, and that seemed to satisfy Gia.



One of the few times Teresa ever brought up Ashlee to me in the 10 years I knew her, most of the time only on camera, she told me that she felt sorry for me about what I had to go through with Ashlee. She said that she would never talk about or judge someone else's parenting, because she still had four daughters to raise. Now I clearly see that it was B.S.

When Teresa said in her interview to look at me, because maybe that's why Ashlee is so rebellious and is the way she is and that she felt sorry for Ashlee, I was confused and a little insulted as to what she meant by that. Does she mean that I should have used HER parenting techniques and never have disciplined Ashlee and just allow her run wild like she does with her children? I'm confused. Her children, as adorable as they are, call her a stunad, tell their siblings to bite their mother, and please don't even get me started on Milania's rebellious ways. Yet she wants to call MY child rebellious and put that on me? That was laughable. Buckle up, Teresa. Let's check back with each other in a few years when your children are teenagers. We will compare stories then.

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lesliann44 12 pts

Ever episode is always focused on Teresa drama.

 

Love the line "layers of truth and lies", you are all over the lying part! Get out of Tersa's business, get out from under Caroline's thumb and follow your husband's sage advice and mind your own business! Please go just away! Sorry I don't have a book to read to you.

I used to think Terresa was cool, but lately she is off the hook. I think Joe is trying to isolate Teresa from her family. Everyone is afraid to say anything to her. I think they should all sit Teresa down and tell her how they feel about Joe befor they all wash their hands of her.

This is the best blog for this week. You felt like you were doing the right thing because at the time you felt like family. Gia, although hurt was extremely disrespectful to you in your home. If I acted like that as a child, I would have been disciplined and made to apologize to you and Caroline. Keep your head up Jacqueline!

I used to be a huge fan of you, but have since changed my opinion. I understand the blogs are to talk about the episode, but you only continue on with talking about Teresa, her parenting, her kids, her brother, her issues, the ENTIRE BLOG. Its absolutely horrendous what you did to Gia. I have no issue with someone stepping in when a parent is around, but the manner which you did it, being that you are "like" family, but not actually family was disgusting. Your tone, Caroline's tone, just oozed with nastiness, not well meaning words. Kathy was the only one that seemed to handle Gia in a proper way (when a child is not yours). Get over yourself. As I said in my comments to Melissa, Joe is a liar too. What was the date of this text message? He never once mentioned anything the day after when he was at the gym with Richie (who seemed to actually make him think to do it), and it wasn't until days later that Joey, in the car with the camera's on) tell Melissa about the text and says "Look Look Look, i'm a good guy". Why didn't Melissa mention to you that Teresa had responded in a positive manner as you say above in your blog? Did you ever think Tre spoke to you before the message? You have lost me as a fan of yours. Hope you and Caroline leave the show. I'm so over you guys.

Amen! That woman is insane. You put up with her longer than most would, good to cut your losses and move on.

I'm sorry, but history is definitely repeating itself with you! You did the same thing with Danielle that your doing with Teresa and it really makes you seem insecure and desperate. You were so close with Danielle and then when you learned the truth about her (which is that she is a nut job) you became obsessed with her...dedicating entire pages in your blog to talking about her and explaining your feelings. Now, with Teresa.. here you go again. Is Teresa annoying with the family drama...yes! Is she jealous of Melissa for the relationship she has with her brother...yes! BUT.... get over it already and mind your own business. Either be her friend and accept her for who she is or move on and let the friendship go. Instead, what your doing is talking about her CONSTANTLY with Caroline and anyone else who will jump on the "I hate Teresa" bandwagon and going on and on in your blogs. Honestly, you need to focus more on your beautiful family and life and less on bringing Teresa down. If your such a positive and healthy-minded person, then stop talking about her and let it go already. You seem very fragile and sensitive and you pretend that your Teresa's friend when all you do is talk about her. Its very sad. Just accept that Teresa is not the person you thought she was and be happy in life. You should address issues in your blog.. but you go WAY over and beyond.

Jac- i do believe Tre when she said that Joe texted her AFTER she talked to you. He even said to Melissa in the car: ' i texted her last night' and you had talked to her earlier that day. Read Tre's blog

I think when you say you read your twitter comments, you only read the ones that are positive to you and validate your behavior. Plain and simple, you had no right to do what you did. You looked like a wreck trying to read a book to a kid to teach a lesson. I know Gia was wrong in the way she spoke and behaved... I will say that.

To point out the last piece you wrote on T and the good place she is in (or not really). I happen to think Teresa is in a very good place. Although she is not the brightest (you and the Manzo's continously ridicule her for that) she is a very smart business woman and is acheiving success that you WILL NEVER EVER acheive. You just dont have it, and that is not a dig to you, you just don't have that star quality that Teresa has (with all her looniness and all) you just dont have it. So you can talk about your little projects all that you want but don't ever expect them to catapult the way T's have.

Jacqueline,

I am so glad that you said that you did overstep your boundaries and took responsibility for it. Though, like you said, she was disrespectful and needed to be repremanded, kids are always meant to be taken care of by there adults. It did not seem like you meant harm but i think it takes more to admit your wrong then to to try and defend it. I thought it was so great and underappreciated that you took all that time to put together the field day for everyone. I know that had to take alot of time and money to put that together and to do that for family and friends, and even "New" friends is just amazing. I think your a wonderful woman, mother, and example. Keep your ahead up, smile everyday, and just keep looking up and saying thank you god for helping me get through this day. I do that everyday, even when it feels like you weren't going to make it.

P.S.- I LOVE YOUR HUSBAND!! I think chris and Al are just the funniest husbands, but they also stay out of all the drama and protect you and caroline so much! also my husbands name is chris :)

Jacqueline..I understand you saying you may have over stepped your bounds but sweetheart you did not go far enough. Gia's behavior of telling ADULTS to leave her alone, walking and stomping off, disrespectful. It use to be a time where the whole neighborhood stepped in to parent and children listened simply becaue you were an adult. I agree with carolines daughter have family day with FAMILY, who respect one another. Her husband Joe is just as demented as Teresa, he told her he would divorce her and put her parents out if Joe Gorga's name is mentioned....Pattern...lack of respect. Jacqueline you did not overstep your bounds; you stayed within them and then some.

Too bad Dina wont be on the show so EVERY episode can be about your family drama huh? You say you feel bad yet you are trying to justify why you and Caroline bullyied a 10 year old. Sad.

Shame on you and Caroline for the way you treated Gia. Do you think we viewers don't know it's because of your issues with Teresa? Can you say, "Bully"? You complain about Teresa's comment about Ashley, but you and Caroline continue to stir the pot about Teresa. Shame, shame on both of you.

Jodibelle 1584 pts

Gia was a guest's of Jacqueline's and was acting like a  spoiled brat.  Jacqueline was nice. I'd have told her to get out of the house.

Glad you clarified things a bit. I sort expected Caroline to take the same approach but have to admit, a little disappointed. Of course no one expected Teresa to reflect honestly on the situation so no surprise there. On a side note, I too have an 18 year old who has given us a run for our money. We too have had to make some very difficult decisions and often times, sit on the sidelines (praying) that something sunk in.

Dear Bravo,

Please take Jacqueline off the air she is not the same person we used to love.

Her heart is bitter and cold. She has invovled herself in Teresa's family drama so much and has even picked a side!

Please remove her and maybe one more cast mate and add 2 new people to the mix...hmm I wonder what it would be if Bravo removd Jacqueline and Melissa and added two new uninvolved parties.

Dear Jacqueline did Caroline help you write this blog? It sure sounds like she did, you used most of her silly cliché quotes. Why are you all competing in "who is the best mother"? There is no reward and guess what there is no best mum in the world. Being a mother is the hardest job of all, and when you do the hardest job mistakes are often and acceptable... so what if Teresa or anyone felt bad for Ashley at some point?

You are so crazy lady! You seriously need help! You have your own perspective on things, but you think anyone with a different perspective is lying! You were so out if line with that child it is unbelievable! You were immature and condescending! Try and take some advice from your husband and stay out of other people's life! Please go back into some sort of intensive therapy! Maybe even check yourself in for a while! You need it! Then maybe you will see how fake and wrong you really are!! By the way just because you put a "LOL" after something does not mean that it wasn't a rude b*tchy comment!!

Well hopefully your not afraid to show up for the reunion this time because your "too stressed".

Well hopefully your not afraid to show up for the reunion this time because your "too stressed".

I think you handled the situation appropriately, and with a great deal more patience than I would have. In my opinion, I would NEVER let a child of mine speak to an adult in the manner she did to you and Caroline.

Those of us with intellingence see Teresa for what she is. I think the Teresa followers have been drinking the "koolaide"

I respect you and Caroline and also admire Melissa for how much she has had to endure at the hands of Teresa. Her conversation with Joe in the car speaks volumes about their "so called wonderful marriage."

Wow you stooped that low to read Joe's text message to Teresa? Who does that?? That's is beyond being nosey, it's downright wrong & RUDE!!! How dare you? Keep drinking the Caroline Kool-Aid, it's definitely working you into a HOLE!!!

Love you, love your family. So glad you have finally seen the light where Theresa is concerned!

What about Lauren's meltdown in the kitchen? No mention of that? I think Teresa is lucky to be rid of friends like you and Bozo. She still doesn't back talk you guys yet all of you dissect each and everything she does. The story line is all about Teresa because none of you have anything else interesting going on. You made hurtful comments about Gia. Teresa felt awful her daughter was bullied by two "friends" when at the time she didn't even know how badly you were all talking behind her backs- like cowards. She got the text from her brother after she spoke to you. She already clarified it so shut up. You guys are all so jealous and I think it is the best revenge for Teresa.

You were wrong and way out of line.

If you don't want things discussed then don't air them on national tv. Your actions and reactions are part of your problems with Ashley. I agree with what Teresa said and thought that while watching your and Caroline's treatment of Gia. There are ways of correcting children without being mean and you were mean.

I think your blog is very rude, ALL of you are guilty of NOT MOVING ON!!! Every one of you talk trash about each other, it is comical!!! I guess it is all for show! Everyone is done with the drama, but yet you get on the blogs and stir the pot! Happy Ratings!

Jacqueline, you just have to turn it around again to Teresa. This is all getting very tiring. You were wrong to attack Gia the way you did. And believe me, it was an attack that you and Caroline perpetrated. There is no excuse.

Jacqueline, You have talked behind Teresa's back regarding EVERY single aspect of her life for almost 2 seasons now. I have watched every episode of the series and I have never heard Teresa say anything means/critical/judgmental about any of the other children yet Caroline's brood says horrible things about Teresa's children all the time. She even wrote in her blog that Joey sent the text after you talked with Teresa, why not believe that? WHY do you spend ALL of your time talking about her??? Teresa has never said a mean thing about you or your family but you've been gossiping behind her back and throwing in passive agressive digs to her face. Everyone knows you don't have the guts to say anything, you just tip toe around it and hope the other person can perceive what you are trying to say. Get a life. She doesn't have to apologize or change or anything for you. Maybe SHE doesn't want YOU in HER life, have you thought about that? I sure as hell wouldn't.

Jacueline. I have to be serious here, you used to be my favorite. BUT not any more. You are so desperately trying to hang onto whatever thread of the show that you can, its truely sickning. It's time to leave ! Your NOT helping yourself by siding with Caroline, she is one of the most transparent HW's there is ! To bad your not smart enough to think for yourself and follow what you truely feel. It seems like you have to follow someone at all times, trying to be seen. In the past seasons, it was Tre. Ha, you should have stayed with her, Caroline will never help you in any way, she can't help herself. All Caroline knows how to say is, my daughter is fat and Tre, this and that.

Sorry, Maybe its time to really think about what your doing !!

I think your blog is very rude. You ALL say the worst things about each other! EVERY ONE of you say you are moving on and are tired of the drama?? You keep stirring the pot in the blogs... All for show I guess. Happy Ratings

Oh. My. God. Your blog is, again, WRONG on so many levels. I find it "laughable" that you just can't help yourself but to CONTINUE to tear down at Teresa week after week in an effort to expose how "fake" she is to the viewers. Also, if Teresa is doing sh-- behind the scenes and doesn't "leave a trail to her and her true feelings" then for Heaven's sake, take some pointers from her on how to do that because I, for one, am SO SICK OF YOUR DRIVEL!

What happened to you? I used to be one of your biggest fans. Now, now I just wish you would go away and get the help you need or focus on your two beautiful little boys and hubby.

What you did to Gia was awful, there are no excuses for it. You are in no position to be telling people how to raise their kids. Please stop. You say you know it was wrong then write a paragraph about why it wasn't soooo wrong. Or how other people told you they would have been harsher. Really, Jac?

"Getting support"...I call b.s. You block anyone on twitter that says something you don't like. Of course all you're going to get is support when you do that! Melissa does the same thing. If all you want is a love feast...enjoy it. Just don't act like you allow anyone to make an honest comment you don't like because you don't.

A question for you, why do you care so much about other families problems when your own family is a mess? Shouldn't you focus on fixing your own house first? Just a thought. Teresa will be smiling and living her life with or without you. Perhaps you should do the same.

jac...i always liked you...but you bullied that child! I'm glad you apologized. Which is more than Caroline did. It's OBVIOUS you don't like Theresa...but enough already. Quit being so mean. It's not pretty on you!

What a freaking cop out. You taunted a child, following after her reading that book and laughing. You are not someone I would want in my life and especially my daughter's life. Wise up, you and your sister-in-law are being called on the carpet by a majority of the posts on her blog. I think you avoided posting your blog to see what people were saying. I can't stand the show anymore and you are a HUGE part of it!!! ALL YOU EVER DO IS TALK ABOUT IS HOW BAD TERESA IS...leave it alone already. We all get it, you cant stand Teresa or her husband. I wish you and Caroline and Melissa would get fired! On no, better yet...I hope housewives gets cancelled and Teresa gets her own show on another network. I bet Bravo won't post this...

Jacqueline, dont be upset with the way you handled Gia , she was being rude and disrespectful. Teresa obviously felt the need to backlash but making those comments about Ashlee, knowing how much that would hurt, was wrong and yet again she didnt care. I really used to like Teresa but she has def changed. I dont know why , nor do I want to at this point . Your hubby has a great attitude, stick with him and be done with a friendship with Teresa you have done all you can. If you remain friends with the Gorga's, and Whakile's, which I hope you do , make a pact to all that there will be no Teresa talk at all - good or bad. I am glad to know Ashlee and you are in a better place and I hope that continues in the future. I have a feeling Teresa will know all to soon how you felt, dealing with her 4 daughters !!! I am sure Teresa didnt repremand Gia for the dunk tank cheating either !!!

I thought you handled the Gia situation well. You did not overstep any boundary and the way she was acting, was very disrespectful. You kept it light hearted and playful, yet got your point across. For Teresa to reprimand you and Caroline in front of everyone, including a ten year old, shows her true colors. Regardless of the situation, Teresa should have heard both sides and pointed out the obvious that is no way to speak to an adult. Pertaining to Teresa, you can't argue with stupid. Hopefully as the season plays out, we will see the situation for what it is with her. She showed her true colors on last season's reunion. What a shame.

Well Jacqueline, it seems you are just consumed with negative Teresa comments aren't you? None of you would be on that show without her, she is the show. I hope she quits soon and you will see, no one is gonna watch. As for the Gia situation, I can see that you probably did mean it to go as you said, but you should NEVER team up with Godmother Caroline, she made you look BAD!!! You were coming from one angle and she was coming from another. She overpowered you and was a huge bully to Gia which made you appear that way too! It seems you want to be all tit for tat about who has the worse kid you or Teresa! Yes her girls need some discipline, and I happen to think she sees that. I think its a shame you and Teresa have parted ways, I thought you were good together. I believe if both of your nasty sister in laws (Caroline and Melissa) weren't on the scene, you would still be good friends.

Really??? The way you and Caroline acted with gia was way out of line! Your first paragraph in your blog says a lot.... You have all these great things going on! Theresa has had great things going on for some time now. I honestly feel you and Caroline are jealous. While I don't condone how Joe Giudice speaks to his wife, your Chris is no prize either. The way he speaks to and about Ashley is horrendous too! I'm really disappointed in the person you have become. It seems like you are always seeking ever ones approval. Theresa doesn't do that. She is what she is , love her or hate her. Take a real good look in the more Jacqueline. Theresa has made a brand for herself, good luck endorsing acne medicine.

In season 4 Jacqueline, you and Caroline have been nothing but bullies and trouble makers.... You family and the Manzo are such hypocrites... You are no friend or better yet good loyal person. You love to see other fail like you have.. Both you and Caroline need to get off your high horse and realize there are more important things to talk about then Teresa and her family mishaps.. Remember you and Caroline have plenty of skeletons in your closets that have never been brought to light.. If you do not like Teresa then leave her alone and stop talking about her business. If you love Gia and her sisters you would not bad mouth their mom every chance you get.

I think you may be delusional thinking that people agree with what you did. Why dont you look at the comments people left on Caroline's blog? An overwhelming number of them disagree with what you and Caroline did and think you handled the situation TERRIBLY. I think you know that too. And the way you came after Teresa in your blog, as usual, is exactly what I expected you to do. Maybe every episode is about Teresa and her family because the Manzo/Laurita clan is simply BORING! You have nothing going on of interest in your lives!! Its a snooze fest over at your place... SORRY!

I completely agree with everything you have stated above and have felt that way myself just from the video footage we see as the viewing public. While all children are beautiful, we have to teach them boundaries, respect, and above-all that they are not in charge. I also think it is funny that people are so against Caroline and yourself for what you guys supposedly did to Gia in the basement. If I was not in the room and another adult saw my child or children acting that way, I would hope they would put my child in their place and then come tell me about it so I could handle it further. You and Caroline absolutely 100% did nothing wrong and I don't care what anyone says about it. I also find it crazy that people call Caroline a bully, but she is and has always been from season one the same person. I can smell Teresa's BS from Texas, and believe me, there is not enough air freshener to get rid of it. Keep being true to who you are. Don't let the haters get you down. The truth will always come out in the wash! I think you are amazing. And in regards to Ashlee, what Teresa obviously did not comment on is that you guys are in a better place now which shows that you did plant the seed in Ashlee about getting her priorities in line and that even though mother/daughter relationships are not always smooth, if you don't give up or give in, the relationship will come together naturally. The same thing happened with me and my mom. Again, I love the Laurita/Manzo family and I stand by you guys completely!!!!

Teresa, Teresa , Teresa You all owe her everything you gained on the show. Because without her you would not have a story line. You would be a the diner, having coffee with the local thuggs as Danielle did her last season on the show.

I am so glad to hear that you have let Teresa go from your life. She is toxic at this point in her life. She is living in a land all of her own. The way that she lets Joe (her husband) speak to hear is horrible. If any man, let alone my husband EVER spoke to me that way I would have pulled that car over and rolled his ass out. He has some nerve speaking to anyone that way. Hold your head high. Parenting is not easy! Keep your family close.

Jac, What happened to "live and let live?" Leave Teresa alone! Clearly you and Caroline are not fans of her so stop talking about her! She doesn't hardly ever say a bad thing about you and continue spewing venom nonstop!

Whether or not Teresa is in the wrong or not, I still have more respect for her because of it. Friendships fall apart all of the time and people stay mad at former friends for long periods of time. But does that mean you have to BASH her? No, because she doesn't do that to you. She has to defend herself for crying out loud!

I hope you can regain focus on what's importance and stop with these 100 page blogs that attack her left and right. XOXO

I've recently rewatched season 1 and 2 of RHONJ and I would just like to say that I think it is so sad the way things have turned out between you all. You and Caroline were so close to Teresa and tbh everything that you don't like about her now you found hilarious and cute back then. I dont know what changed.

Let her cry it out and go get her mother. Then after the storm has passed then calmly pull out the book. The Joy Berry series is my favorite for teaching kids but you have to know when to use it. When you are upset the last thing you want someone to do is read a Help me be good book. Whats wrong with you! If sarcasm, poking fun and being condescending is your idea of caring for someones feelings than you are the child. If you don't like how the little girl acts don't worry about it your fighting with her mother so you don't have to deal with them if you don't want to.

Jacqueline,

I think you are a good mom and I think you have a good heart. I wish you were a little bit more confident in the decisions you make and don't let others influence you so much. This includes Caroline....especially Caroline.

You just stepped out of line talking about Teresas kids like that. Shame on you!

I would suggest to you and Caroline to never discipline someone else s child. You should have gone to get her period you two look like nothing but bullies. This is something any woman with half a brain knows. Another suggestion is to quit butting your nose in where it doesn't belong. It is none of your business what transpires between two people who aren't even your relatives. At the time you were back stabbing Teresa so why were you so concerned? Then the way you run to big mamma Caroline, your hubby, and your guests to gossip all before your friend gets there is priceless. If you would have put as much energy into your kid as you do into Teresa's family maybe your daughter wouldn't have gotten into the situation she is in. You spent a large part of your blog bashing a 10 year old way to go! It shows you have the mental attitude of a ten year old so no wonder you picked on Gia you see her at your own level.

Maybe you should distance yourself from all of them. Caroline isn't helping you. Maybe you should remember why you didn't like her to begin with. Love your husband he seems like the most reasonable person on the show. Use to like you but not anymore. You just do the same thing over and over. First Danielle is your friend then Caroline butts in and she is no longer. Then Kim G Now Teresa. Make your own life better maybe it is time to listen to your husband and take care of your children;