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Marking Territory

Jacqueline Laurita offers her take on the vineyard hookup.

The trip continues, and despite what some of our campers are complaining about, I think they are having a pretty good time over all. I heard a LOT of laughing. I know they enjoyed camping together (even though they may not admit it), but I could tell everyone got a little more excited when we reached the Lancaster Estate and Vineyard. It was so freakin' beautiful! The owners of Lancaster Estates were very generous to allow us all to stay there, and they were so gracious. I wanted to move in! They were such warm and kind people. Their wine is excellent too!

Although we were having fun, the main reason we went there was for business and everyone knew that ahead of time. We hoped to have fun along the way while sharing this experience with our friends. My husband and nephews were meeting with Levendi about the possibility of expanding their brand into different territories around the country, starting in the North East. My family has been drinking Levendi's wine for years, but it was very hard to find. Levendi has great wines at a reasonable price. Their chardonnay is delicious. I think you all should try it.
 
I was disappointed to see how clearly Joe Giudice was trying to get the viewers to see how much he was not enjoying the wine tasting and how he was ready to leave mid presentation. I would have thought he might have wanted to support his friend a little more than that. That's OK though, Levendi is doing great, even without Joe Giudice's approval.

I'm all for being silly and having fun, but there is a time and a place for everything. Joey Gorga making the Lancaster lion look like his Tarzan package probably wasn't done at an appropriate time, but you know what...I couldn't help but laugh my ass off when he did that. Hello, California! Jersey has arrived! It's OK, honestly, we love Joey anyway. Everyone was drinking. We've all had those moments. I felt bad for Kathy on this trip, because I could tell that she must have been feeling a little left out of the family bonding that was going on between the Giudices and the Gorgas, although she was happy for them. After Teresa and Kathy talked, Kathy had thought that they had resolved their differences and were moving forward, but she still felt the tension and distance between them. I felt bad that Kathy was left out of Teresa's toast, because I could see the hurt in her face. Rich was using his normal sarcastic, witty sense of humor, but I think he felt bad for his wife, so he was lashing out on Teresa a little more than usual. This only starts the vicious cycle all over again. I think Kathy was just getting frustrated with making an effort and not feeling like it was sincerely being reciprocated or appreciated. I understand why she was feeling that way.



Why can't everyone just learn to communicate properly, forgive, and move on? It takes two to resolve a conflict. Sometimes you'll find that when you talk to the person you are having conflict with, you will realize that your perception of what happened was not intended to hurt you in the way you originally thought. Sometimes, if you can admit your own wrong doings, explain your actions, and apologize for them, it makes it easier for others to understand why you did what you did and helps them to forgive and move forward. Sometimes people are just too stubborn to see another person's view point, so they can't forgive or move forward. Sometimes you can forgive someone so many times that you are so fed up that you don't want to move forward. I think all of the above could be going on here in our group.I was glad that Teresa finally somewhat admitted in the RV to Melissa that she did in fact do more than just pose for pictures in those articles in the tabloids and that she did say things about her family and friends after she had been denying it for so long. Teresa finally admitted that she said what she said in the articles, because it was how she felt at the time. I can respect that, but I just wish she would have been this honest and upfront to everyone (including Caroline) and just admitted this in the first place instead of denying it the way she did originally. Caroline may have been more forgiving at that point. It was Teresa's denying and not taking responsibility by owning up to what she said and how she really felt at the time that was partially the reason she was upsetting everyone. Nobody thought she was being sincere. Melissa told Teresa not to trash talk her family and friends again in the tabloids and then gave her a pass for it. Melissa just wanted to move forward. Like Teresa said, "Once the article is out there, you can't take it back! There's no use crying over spilt milk." Once in a while though, people like to hear you admit to doing what you did and give an apology for it. That was my point anyway. I thought Teresa just should have come out with it and said, "Yes, Caroline, Kathy, and Melissa, I did write that stuff that was not nice about you in the book and in the tabloids because I was upset with you all at the time for X,Y and Z. I am really sorry for doing it and offending you, but I would love to move forward now, and I won't be doing that again." I think most would have respected that answer or would have thought she was being more sincere with wanting to move forward. Instead, everybody was watching their back waiting for the next hit.

Melissa made a good point that I kept trying to make myself. Once Teresa decided to put her business on the cover of a magazine and answer all of their questions, it no longer made it just her and her husband’s business. She opened it up to the world. If I decide to do a cover for a magazine, the same rules would apply to me, and I know that. If I put it out there, you can bet I've discussed it with my family and friends. What hurt me was that Teresa opened up to a tabloid but never opened up to me, one of her best friends. It hurt a little. That's all.I am happy that we celebrated Caroline's birthday together in such a beautiful place. I was very touched by what her kids said about her in their toasts. They have a really strong bond. Definitely something to admire.

I'm not going to comment on what came out on this episode regarding Joe Giudice, because I feel that it is such a sensitive matter to talk about, and I am sure it was very hurtful for Teresa and her family to see. Despite our fighting, my heart hurt for her. That is all I will say on that matter.

As far as the sex they had in the vineyard, I think I understand more now why she chose such a time to make a scene. I was wrong thinking that it was entirely about her trying to take the spotlight away from Caroline. I think somewhere in her mind, she was marking her territory. In my opinion, she should have just peed on him, kicked up some dirt, and walked away.

Next week looks like all hell breaks loose. You can watch what happens. I may have to shut my eyes through it all again. That all was just a little too much for me to handle at the time. The drama in Jersey never ends.


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While you're at it, check out the pictures and video Ashlee made about our families’ stay down at the shore: http://ashleeholmes-themanzosthelauritas.buzznet.com/m/user/photos/.

I hope everyone is enjoying the rest of the summer. Best wishes to you all! XOXO!

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Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo

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