7. I found it hypocritical that Teresa mentioned I was wishy-washy and wouldn't commit to picking a side when Danielle was fighting with my family. Forgive me for being my own person and waiting to judge people from my own experiences with them. Did Teresa forget that she herself didn't pick a side either? She also continued to be Danielle's friend along with me even while her best friend, Dina, disliked her until Danielle did something personally to her. Teresa also tried saying hello, just to be friendly, to Danielle at the Posche fashion show at a time when Dina and I were both having issues with Danielle. I never faulted her for that. My battle with Danielle was my own to deal with. Teresa also remains friendly with Kim D. who clearly has an issue with her sister-in-law Melissa. But that is all OK for Teresa to befriend who she wants. Is that how she defines loyalty? It upsets me, and I feel it's unfair that I am expected to follow Teresa's rules that she doesn't even apply to herself.
8. When I asked Teresa why she would say something like that about Melissa to her brother, she told me that she just "struck her as that type of girl" and that "her friends were telling her that if she started singing in clubs that she might cheat on her brother and leave him for a richer man." She never had any other explanation other than that. It really wasn't for me to try to understand. That was between her and her brother and Melissa, but when Teresa asked me for my opinion, I gave it to her.
9. My feeling is that Teresa was upset with her brother's text to her husband, that she had unfortunately and accidentally saw, which threatened Joe that if he didn't stop threatening him, he would tell Teresa that he had cheated on her. This was a fight that was supposed to stay between the men and wasn't meant for her eyes. He never intentionally tried to hurt his sister. Joey didn't go to Teresa and say that to try and cause a problem in their marriage. He was upset with Joe's actions. It wasn't a warning of something that may or may not happen. The difference in what Joey did and what Teresa did was that Teresa reached out to intentionally warn her brother of something that had no plausibility, and which could cause problems unnecessarily.