Burning Questions

Dr. V talks about what it was like to walk into the middle of the RHONJ drama.

on Jul 19, 20130

Bravotv.com: What was it like sitting at the table in the middle of this family dispute? What were you thinking?

Dr. V: It felt more like Shark Week than Real Housewives... only I didn't have the protection of a cage. I wanted to feel slightly removed and clinical so I could be most effective at being the cool, calm third party who was going to help these folks resolve some problems. But it's hard not to get swept up in the frenzy when you're sitting in the middle of it. I couldn't help but feel slightly anxious being surrounded by upset, angry people. On the upside nobody tried to bite any limbs off like on Shark Week.

Bravotv.com: Were you expecting Joe to say that he wasn't ready to make things work with Teresa? Did you suspect that he actually was ready?

Dr. V: No, I totally thought a golden rainbow would appear in the sky and we'd join hands and sing "We Are The World". C'mon?! If Joe was ready to make things work I'd be at home watching this on TV instead of in the middle of it trying to help. When Joe told me he wasn't ready to try and repair his relationship with his sister, I feel like what he was really saying wasn't that he wasn't ready, but that he was scared. Because to try and resolve this stuff probably means having the courage and strength to be vulnerable again.

148 comments
dholmes
dholmes

Teresa hangs out with haters that is the problem

SusanLBeyer
SusanLBeyer

I know no one from the show ever reads these but I have to say, the emperor is not wearing clothes!  When will anyone see Teresa is a narcissist sociopath? How about it Dr look at my V?

Jex
Jex

I don't understand why the stripper thing is an issue.  Who cares?  That is between Joe & Melissa.  I do hope, for Joe's sake that Melissa isn't or hasn't had an affar, but only she knows the truth.  Look, I cannot stand my sister-in-law and I see her for what she is.  Fact is, it's not my buisiness.  My little brother is a big boy and needs to handle his own family issues.

Cora38
Cora38

One session and they're cured?!   OMG How did Dr, V get to be rich if she can resolve conflict in one session!  Dang the cost of that session must have broke the bank and it was less than the hour episode.  AMAZING

chattyone
chattyone

Dr. Phil's first words to this family would be , HOW'S this working for you ?

Christinaa1301@aol.com
Christinaa1301@aol.com

But one has to wonder if Melissa is having an affair....When she hid her computer under the bed...looked real suspicious. 

Ldenver
Ldenver

I felt Dr. V. was anything but professional....telling Teresa it was o.k. to look at her Vagina was just creepy. Dr. V looks like she has 10 years of anger pent up inside her. Her and her Dad have a very very strange relationship that boarders on completely inappropriate....I was kinda shocked to see that it was her there..They needed Dr. Phil...

tina.cummins.58
tina.cummins.58

I think Dr V knows that Teresa isn't the sharpest knife in the drawer.  However, in this family squabble, it's a two-edged sword.  Everything they all blame Teresa for, goes both ways.  Teresa may have a lower IQ, but she shines brighter because she's honest.  Clearly none of them want to take any responsibility for their actions, especially Melissa Gorga.  She is a twisted kind of evil.

djb10
djb10

Sounds like Dr. V needs to let Melissa and Joe know that they to played a part in the mess. Melissa and Joe let there friend talk trash about Teresa. Dr. V come on now....

Tkellie
Tkellie

I dont know about that Dr.V seemed like to me she wanted teresa to take the blame for everything that has been going on with all the so called rumors regarding melissa undercover activities...Dr.V form the beginiing looked like when she first got there that shw as not going to be on teresa side at all...a little suspicious I think...

macnmac
macnmac

You are right about families and drama. And I seen it all coming from a big family. I think this dynamic is because males are uplifted in many families and I think Teresa was raised to care for her brother and do for him and as any spoiled child that Joe Gorga became they grow to feel they are entitled. The only hope is that the love is there and more important. Teresa has to demand respect from her brother now they are adults and he needs to give and not just want to take. Their parents made Teresa the parent to her brother. She deserves better from him.

 

Dr. V you now have a new job--fixing families. 

piperbeau
piperbeau

Unfortunately Dr. V I don't think you got through to Melissa at all... instead I think you just fed her already inflated ego!! She was held accountable for nothing! This rift between family will never end unless Melissa knocks it off!! She can't hold Teresa accountable for every rumor out there!! and believe me their are a lot of them!! 

BarrioBabe
BarrioBabe

joe and teresa miss each other. that's it. melissa should stay outta their relationship. let them be with their folks. done.

bluesky
bluesky

I really, REALLY wish Caroline would just stay out of this!??!?!?!? She's not some secret weapon, magical healer. Her advice is NO different than anyones, blah, blah..... Who's with me?

OriginElle
OriginElle

I don't get it, why would Teresa make all these set ups?  What would it solve when her and her brother and SIL were getting along? I don't believe all the lies everyone says about teresa

MountainMomma64
MountainMomma64

Melissa got on her knees and begged for them to stop it all.. I hope you can get thru to them all and help them to see they each have a role in making or breaking the family.  The kids are the ones who suffer in the long run and their aging parents.  Good Luck!

donna627lee
donna627lee

Dr. V truly has the right idea that Joe and Teresa need to break away from the people they married and just spend time together even with their children.  However, I don't ever see Melissa allowing that so this is just a waste of time for Bravo to put it out there!

momo159
momo159

I hope credit is also being given to Rich for trying to get Teresa and Joe together after the fight. Hopefully, you will be able to help them resolve their issues.

maria89
maria89

These people are going to need more than a weekend of therapy to heal, I hope there's plans for them to continue therapy!

smedly151
smedly151

I hope you call the Gorgas out for their hostile behavior.  Really they just talk about her and talk about her.  Teresa is on a show.  People mention her sister-in-law.  Why would Melissa's friend say things about her and why should Teresa think she ever would?  The girl who ran and told Melissa, really....what a mess but its a high-school mess girls.  get over it.  i have four sisters, things get said, rumors have to be undone, much worse than this,  we handle it and have Christmas.  end of story.  

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

 @Ldenver

 Dr. Phil?  Now he would not have passed the Melissa test.  Dr. V is awesome.

Sarrina
Sarrina

 @D-AnnLMAO I agree I'm Italian and they remind me of the family I don't speak to!!

 

Mila1
Mila1

 @Tkellie Dr. V was being a therapist.  Joe was coming on like gang busters, so Dr. V validated Joe.  If Dr. V would have validated Theresa instead, Joe would have walked out - Joe could not hear anything at that time  Theresa was more tolerant and hurt, so validating Joe also forced Theresa to break down and reveal to her brother that she loves and wants the best for him.  And THAT showed Joe, without anyone telling him what to think, that his sister was suffering.  Joe was then able to respond to Theresa's suffering.  Dr. V was perfection :)

Barb1957
Barb1957

 @Tkellie She was not blaming it all on Teresa. Even though most of it is HER fault because she NEVER admits anything shes does..

zoeyandzacksmom
zoeyandzacksmom

 @Tkellie

 At some point you do have assemble the facts before you start a discussion.  I don't think she wanted Teresa to "take the blame for everything" as much as she wanted Teresa to acknowledge her guilt by association.  Teresa should have deduced, Penny (the salon owner who hired the bald guy for one day) and Kim D. (who despises her SIL) probably had an agenda that would be anything but flattering to Melissa.  Dr. V. put it best, "Teresa your a dumbass. . . . "

 

On the other side of that coin is Joe Gorga's insistence that Joe Guidice is the one who has caused the alleged estrangement between he and his parents.  Joe needs to form his own relationship with his parents--they will need him when their favorite gets shipped off to prison. 

mommom1015
mommom1015

 @Tkellie

 I think she is being objective.  If she has watched the preceding seasons she knows no one is faultless, and Teresa certainly has culpability. 

asante
asante

As usual you are spot on!

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @BarrioBabe  LOL this post reminded me of something Rosie would say!!! Love that!

MissMisty99
MissMisty99

 @MountainMomma64

 That "begging" scene was just that - a scene. Like from a bad movie - - - it was put on for show - so that Melissa could say, "I was even on my knees begging her....."  Melissa - go and watch an old movie called the Bad Seed - - - you remind me of that horrid little girl in it, named Rhoda. 

tina.cummins.58
tina.cummins.58

 @momo159 It is a step in the right direction that Rich did that.  Perhaps if he'd stop with the nasty remarks about Teresa and everybody, he might actually do some good.  His agenda is not to have people hate him.  After all, he's a business man and he knows when he's walking a thin line.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@momo159 , all Rich needs is to disappear and go eat fish or something? He's a HUGE EWWWWWW!

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@Trippin-it ,I agree. The way we've seen MeHo whisper in his ear all this crap I bet she's the one who didn't like how her in-laws love Juicy. So she probably started planting her seeds of doubt in her husbands head. Being the insecure person Little Joe is I'm sure that's all it took. And

Robinlynn
Robinlynn

 @Trippin-it

 What!  Do you know them personally to make such an assumption about Joey's parents!  What things have Joey and Melissa done to them?  I'm sure the parents are not happy how both of them are treating each other.  Teresa is far from a saint in any of this mess!  Good parents don't choose sides.  They should treat each child equally. 

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@smedly151 , 4 sisters! Wow! That would be so wonderful girl. We sisters hurt with our words but when or if one of us needs the other nothing can stop us from getting to her.

macnmac
macnmac

 @zoeyandzacksmom  @Tkellie Joe Gorga is playing blame games because he does not want to take any ownership for being anything but right and perfect so if he cannot blame Teresa to Dr. V then he will switch to her husband--that indirectly is aimed at Teresa.  

 

 

Sharadale
Sharadale

@zoeyandzacksmom I think the dumbass comment was taken out of context in the coming attractions. I don't think a professional would say that

TheDriveler
TheDriveler

 @D-Ann  @OriginElle 

Patriarch Gorga doesn't even have a relationship with his own sister, Kathy and Rosie's mom though, right?

tina.cummins.58
tina.cummins.58

 @D-Ann  @OriginElle My dad wouldn't take crap from anyone.  If someone wants to talk to him, he's willing to talk.  If not, he's OK with that.  He is truly a patriarch and stands his ground.  If there are problems with Joe Gorga and his parents, perhaps he needs to address that with them and ask why?

mommom1015
mommom1015

 @OriginElle  @MountainMomma64

 It was for drama, just as Teresa storming out of the room to get Joe Gu. saying, "My brother called me Scum".  As if Teresa has never called or been called a not very nice name.  She gives as good as she gets.  As if calling her brother P-whipped is not the same sort of thing.

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@OriginElle, LOL sure was and I'm a super star!

mommom1015
mommom1015

 @Robinlynn  @Trippin-it

 Some of Teresa's devotees must get the same prescription as Teresa from the eye Dr.  I'd say they wear rose colored glasses that are about two feet thick.

macnmac
macnmac

 @Robinlynn  @Trippin-it   If you had watched all the show then you would know that Joe and Melissa did not see his parents on holidays and only went to Melissa's house with her family. Joe Gorga's father is ill with heart trouble and when he was in intensive care when the father was getting better and it was the 4th day and he was asking for to see the grandkids of Joe and Melissa so finally Melissa did taker her kids to see him and he was so happy.  Andy Cohen asked Melissa about that incident and she finally admitted to him it was the 4th day. Teresa was upset about that cause her dad could have died and she is is trying everythng for her parents so they don't die with with Joe feuding with his parents. Teresa did say that her mother is very quiet person and very good to Melissa anytime she comes around and would never be unkind to her in any way. 

 

I do not believe for one minute Teresa is fighting for herself but her parents.