Melissa Gorga

Melissa explains why she was so hesitant to send Antonia to Teresa's house.

on Jun 2, 20130

I can't believe it’s been nearly a year since I last blogged. So much has happened. Miss us?

First and foremost, last October Hurricane Sandy battered New Jersey hard. I’ll never forget walking into our Toms River shore house and seeing the destruction. We were so lucky only to lose our second home. We can rebuild. That was nothing compared to what others went through. I was born and raised in Toms River. Places I knew as a child had been swept away by the storm. We felt horrible for the victims. Joe and I had to do something! We went to Target and filled carts with diapers, baby wipes, socks, children’s clothes, blankets and sweaters -- the stuff people really needed. We brought it all to Toms River Intermediate East, my old school, which was a hub for distributing supplies to displaced residents. Alongside the principal, teachers, and other volunteers, Joe and I packed boxes of food and clothes.  What became evident quickly was that the main resource that was needed was man power. They needed people to get out there, roll up their sleeves, and help their communities.

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lovehwnj1105
lovehwnj1105

as soon as Melissa wasn't there to whisper in Joes ear and start trouble, him and Teresa got along fine. It took five min alone for them to make up. but sadly Melissa will not let it last its more important to her stay on show and she knows with out the drama of her and Teresa she wouldn't even be on it.

lovehwnj1105
lovehwnj1105

why are you on the show? ou claim youdont want dal with drama and things have never been that great between all of you so why go on  in first place?!  you are so full of your self and if you look Teresa blog you can see she still wants things to get better but you have this passive aggressive way about you and seem so biter.

dlc@gjc
dlc@gjc

Melissa, don't let the negative nellies get you down. If the truth was known those posts are probably all from you know who and her sidekicks that love to stir the pot and then act innocent. I think you have given in to many times to that fake cry baby. Just leave her out of your conversations and don't let anyone tell you stuff tat gets said. Good luck girl you are way more forgiving than I would ever be.

roysgirl78
roysgirl78

"We were so lucky only to lose our second home." Need I say more?

azsunshine
azsunshine

Melissa, I hate to see all the fighting--it makes me cringe. Just let Joe deal with his family and refuse to do anything with them. If he wants to take the kids to see their grandparents, let him.  But you need to be out of the equation, that way anything that is said about you will false and you and Joe will know that you haven't participated in any of their drama. It's painful to watch Teresa's insanity, but I love the message you have of being a good wife and mother.

Nikki2389
Nikki2389

Have we been watching the same show?! No one on this show is innocent or perfect including Melissa. However, I feel she made the right choice by putting space between the two families. Watching Teresa husband dog Melissa out in front of their kids while Teresa doesn't check him is crazy to me. Where I come from as children we were not allowed in "grown folks" business, and if we did over hear something we knew better then to repeat anything. That way when we did get to hang out with cousins, we had no idea what was going on with the adults. My heart goes out to you, because the more you tried to fix things the worst Teresa and her "army" attacks against you got. I do think Caroline should have talked to you and Joe first about Teresa instead of just Joe, but if it helps reconcile things you shouldn't be worried about her butting in. Good luck!

Lcashley55
Lcashley55

I think it is incredibly obvious you have no good intentions of bringing peace between Joe and Theresa. You are a trouble-maker, a tattle-tale who can't hold her own. Grow a pair, and learn how to be an adult. Theresa and Joe will be family forever, but husbands come and go. You ain't all that girl, that's for sure. Stop with all the "boo hoo poor Melissa" and grow up!!!!!! I route for Theresa every time I watch the show, after all she has to put up with you gang of wolves, or maybe that's more like blood-sucking vampires!!!! Go Theresa!!!!!!

realretired
realretired

who cares...Teresa should have never ever trusted you!!!!!!!!!!!!

rosyposy
rosyposy

Melissa, what you have got to learn to do is to stop Teresa in her trouble making tracks.  When she starts on you (with that same crazy-eyed stare and grin).  Just say something like "Look, Teresa, I am simply not in the mood for your pot stirring and trouble causing lies.  Get out of my face and out of my business".  Then walk away and refuse to interact with her.  That is the only way to deal with a delusional, narcissic nut.

cajun-mommy
cajun-mommy

Melissa, I have been in your shoes. My husband's stepmother is a lying, vindictive woman. She has written me nasty letters, spread lies about me to the family, and screamed at me in my own home. They live 2 miles from us (joy...). They had not been to our house in over 5 months to see our son and she wrote me the nastiest of her letters yet. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. She was taken off of the daycare pickup list; she was no longer allowed to speak with his doctor, and I even changed our keypad code on the door to our house. I do not trust someone who has so much hate for me to spend any time unsupervised with the one thing that is most important to my life. I felt your pain when you didn't want to send Antonia to her house by herself. You were totally justified. Maybe it's hard for people with "perfect" non-disfunctional families to understand.

donna1124nyc
donna1124nyc

Melissa, seems like you are obsessed with Theresa.....Get over her and stop coming between a "brother and sister! " You are nothing but a trouble maker and a brat. Why would you call your husband to come down at Posh when that bald headed guy said hello to you? IMO, You are just a instigator !

Shonalee
Shonalee

I've had such a great time drinking my coffee reading all these posts. Please don't try & take up acting because your really not good at it!!!

nida614
nida614

So you have not seen or spoke to Tre in over a year, So why move? You are such a fake phony person. I'm so happy people are seeing your true colors. Keep talking you doing this all to yourself. I've read all the comments on YOUR blog and it seems the majority of the people here do not care for you. I think your !5 are OVER... See ya

 

northernazmom
northernazmom

As a mother who has had issues with sister-in laws, you have gone above and beyond to destroy not only the relationship between the children, but the relationship between a sister and brother. Grow up !

 

Salinaf
Salinaf

I can't believe all the posts that I'm reading against Melissa. Melissa has been nothing BUT the bigger person in all of this.  She has forgiven and moved on so many times, that enough is enough.  She is allowed to stop being a doormat for Teresa and actually stand up for herself, and if that means not talking to them then that's what it means.  I'm so tired of hearing "but they're family", well you know what...family needs to be loyal, loving, and honest.  Teresa is none of those.  How can you not see how crazy Teresa is?  If my sister-in-law started spreading rumors about me, calling me names to her kids, and basically being disrespectful all around, then of course I would want nothing to do with her.  No self-respecting woman would!

jenmcn
jenmcn

Hi Melissa, I think most people can agree that Theresa is not the sharpest knife in the drawer.  In dealing with her I think it would behove you to be completely and utterly honest and simple in your words.  The playdate texts are a perfect example.  Next time just write, Theresa we both know there is a lot of history between us so why don't we both meet at a neutral place for the playdate so everyone is comfortable.  It would eliminate any problems with her misinterpretations.  Best of luck, you have a long road ahead of you but as long as you speak to her like you would a child I think it will all work out.

Chocolisa
Chocolisa

Teresa keeps Melissa relevant--period, point blank with an exclamation point.

JessyM01
JessyM01

Just keep fighting and making up its what fuels the craving to keep watching, flip the tables, keep the mics on while on the phone, just carry on the disfunction like every other family in Amerca... no family is free of crazy!

kimmy2009
kimmy2009

Melissa you always try to play the victim you are just as guilty as Teresa!!!!!!!!  Why move from your home just to get away from your sister in law that is so stupid you act like she is threatening your life I just believe you are very sneeky and not trustworthy I wish you would have never been on the show!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lil_dia
lil_dia

Melissa, why are you staying with Joe if there is just SO MUCH DRAMA? Seriously, your kids are going to learn that the things Teresa and her kids AND husband does and says about YOU on CAMERA for the world to hear, is normal. To talk about family members like that is normal. The hatred is normal. The jealousy is normal. You really need to grow a pair, I'm losing faith in you, stop being a "Praise God" victim and stand up for yourself once and for all. Otherwise, it looks like you're tolerating this for the wealth of Joe, and not the love and union of your husband.

 

Nobody is their right mind would put up this crap.

Lizbaby
Lizbaby

My 22 year old daughter stayed home today with a bad cold so she watched the last few episodes of last season and her not be partial to any one housewife i asked her opinion of the " setup " at posh fashion show. Her words were I hate that Melissa she seems like a trouble maker and WANTED Teresa to be a part of the set up to make her look bad to her brother. She thinks Jac set it up along with the posh owner. Lol that's from a 22 year old who has not watched season after season and is not a bit emotionally attached to anyone. Melissa you are rediculous. The smart viewers got your number girl. Give it up already. Your pathetic and so jealous of Teresa. Ciao

cbennett1
cbennett1

I use to feel sorry for you because you came across as the victim, but now I see another side of you and it's not pretty.  I got a feeling your truth's will be exposed very soon.

Jo-Ro
Jo-Ro

Theresa tries...but damned if you do and damned if you don't.  Nothing is good enough for Melissa and Jacqueline who call themselves VICTIMS.

 

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

I just watched the video of Melissa and Joe with their real estate agent.  Melissa says "after the play date with Tre it's obvious we need to move".  Why's that?  The play date might have been a little awkward, but it was a step in the right direction.  Melissa is going to take any opportunity to trash Tre.   

Betsy704
Betsy704

Take a seat like Nene said!!!!!!  You are a joke!!!! You are the one that is nutty not Teresa!!! You are so OCD on Teresa and you just wanna be this grand star but hate to burst your bubble ,,,, you will never be!!!!! Arent you really blowing this stripper thing up???? So what if you were a stripper,, whats the deal??? You do chirp in Teresas brothers ear and you got him whipped and whats so bad is you know it!!!!!!! You made this bed and whatever happens from here on is on you,,, she hasnt tried to hurt you and I can see threw you,, you are really into getting Teresa for some reason and the clip I seen where you get on your knees begging Teresa to stop hurting everybody is really drama , you go full speed when it comes to Teresa , just calm down ,,, You need to take that seat, and you could never be better than Nene , she is way better than you and a star,,, Cannot be a threat to Nene at all, I bet she laughed at you haha like I do, drama queen!!!!! stop it and leave it alone, Teresa is family so get over it!!!!!

Shonalee
Shonalee

Wah wah wah your such a victim!!!!!

Pepper2101
Pepper2101

Melissa - three words - GET OVER YOURSELF.  You truly are one of the biggest problems to the relationship between Joe and Teresa.  Saying that you were moving so your kids wouldn't have to go to school with Teresa's was terrible.  I'm sure her children heard that so don't say you don't say mean things about her.  To keep your little girl that loves and adores Teresa's little girl is terrible.  Worse that terrible and you are a big if not bigger problem that the rest.  Sell your songs and books and whatever they are so much more important that mending the family you help to break up in the first place.

jerseygirlygirl
jerseygirlygirl

M, you mentioned all of Joes comments, except for the one when he said he would have brought you and your family a generator if he knew you might have needed one. We all have issues w certain people in our families. You can't CONTROL anyones actions!...BUT, your own!That even includes how a child wants to create their own bracelet! hopefully you will get it soon. 

dazedmargaritagirl
dazedmargaritagirl

To answer your question as a mother... I would never let my child go and play, spend the night or whatever at someone's house who has repeatedly said nasty things about myself. 

I commend you for thinking ahead of knowing that eventually these girls will go to school with your kids.  Being a teacher... I can look at personalities and tell you exactly difficulties will occur.

alma13
alma13

You were one of my all-time favorite housewives.  Sometimes you confused me, please get your facts straight and stop LYING.

BravoGirl90
BravoGirl90

All you like to do is talk crap about Teresa and try to make yourself look better.  Everyone can see it.  Get of Teresa's show and go play victim somewhere else. 

Rayanna1975
Rayanna1975

It's funny that you accused Teresa of waiting for the cameras to be around to reach out to you. So, are saying the scene with you telling Joe about Antonia's, and than having Antonia writing the address and putting the letter in the envelop never happened on the camera. Also, you are such a liar. I remember seeing you tweeting that Antonia decided to not have a birthday party because she wanted o go to Great Adventure instead. Your such a liar and a hypocrite. You need to get your stories straight.

gregjolinn
gregjolinn

All I can say is WOW!  I feel sorry for the people that think that Tre is the innocent one here.  Tre is so jealous of Mel - it just spills over.  Tre has a lot of anger, bitterness and so much more.  I am not saying that Mel is the innocent one here either - but Tre thinks this is her show - NOT!  Get a grip people - all the hate that you dish out here - go somewhere else - you all are clearly as blind as Tre is - you never seek the truth - you hide the truth - you only see what you want to see - an don't look at all of what was said or done.

Mel - be the bigger person and don't listen to the haters - no matter what you say or do - they will always have something negative to say - they do not live a day in your shoes and until they do - then they can say something - they just have blinders on just like Tre does.

U go girl - continue what you do - you know the truth and that is all that matters!

bravofan12
bravofan12

 @Chocolisa

 she keeps all of them relevant.  Look at Caro...getting involved AGAIN

 

imarelic100
imarelic100

 @lil_dia

Life's too short for that kind of jealousy, hatred and dysfunction. It only begets more and in my opinion is ABNORMAL.

cajun-mommy
cajun-mommy

 @ESinAZ I haven't agreed with a lot of this Melissa-bashing, but I will agree with this one. It was awkward, as anyone with half a brain would know it would be. They hadn't spoken in a year and ended on very bad terms. It's not like the playdate ended with screaming and hair-pulling. Moving won't make the girls miss each other any less.

littlemsdivadiva
littlemsdivadiva

 @BravoGirl90 i know, it's getting old...she has no storyline if it's not her playing victim...I actually liked her at first, but her victim role is too much!

ilcntrygrl
ilcntrygrl

 @BravoGirl90

 I know, right?  I just about choked when I saw her say that Teresa was pretending too be nice, but saying she puts drama in front of the kids.  While she was criticizing her for "being nice".  Messed up in the head, that is what Melissa is.

dobnerk
dobnerk

 @gregjolinn Exactly!  Teresa is so manipulative.  It's a sad testament to our society that so many people actually think that she's innocent.  Did they not read the horrible things she wrote in her cookbook?  The list of hurtful things she's done goes on and on and on.  Are they watching the same show?

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

 @gregjolinn

The first show with Mel and Joe was the christening where Joe called Tre "trash".  I could never understand that.  I think Melissa came on the show thinking she could out shine Teresa. 

So last season she had everyone against T, but T is still here, and viewers are seeing through Mel.

Teresa is in no way perfect, but IMO she is far less coniving than the Gorga's.

ilcntrygrl
ilcntrygrl

 @gregjolinn

 Nothing to be jealous of......really there isn't.

Melissa joined the show Theresa was on, so which one is the imitator and jealous?!

Rayanna1975
Rayanna1975

 @gregjolinn

 You need to open your eyes. Teresa has caused some of the problems, but Melissa is guilty as well. She needs to take responsibility for her part in this mess. She is not the victim and neither is Teresa. They are both at fault.

tborio
tborio

 @dobnerk  @gregjolinn

 What did T write in cookbook that was so bad. The olive garden comment was from both T and Caro  horsing around on Rachel Rae and Carollne knows that.  Nothing was bad enough to warrant what transpired.  Now since we cant get over that event,  how about Melissa providing Danielle info on Teresa prior to getting on show.  Even Danielle had the class to back off that one.  Oh of course that was in past and T should get over it.  Y does Teresa have to abide a set of rules no one else has to. 

Kelliann1
Kelliann1

 @Rayanna1975  @gregjolinn 

Melissa has no problem taking responsibility she answered a private message that Danielle sent to her on facebook and when she was asked about it she admitted it to Teresa  that yes she did it.  Teresa is the one that has the problem taking responsibility.  Melissa is a victim of lies spread about her being set up called names.  Teresa and her husband  continue to behave reckless where Melissa and Joey are concerned.  

 

cajun-mommy
cajun-mommy

 @tborio There were several low blows in that cookbook introduction, though. Not just the Olive Garden comment. And it could've been phrased better to avoid misunderstanding. (i.e.: "As Caroline said on Rachel Ray....) That intro should've been used to share about her family, where the recipes came from, etc. Not a chance to bash her cast mates.

bravofan12
bravofan12

 @tborio

 1/16 Italian is an insult? Being Sicilian I've been called quite a few things from other Italians...I laugh it off...it's a joke!!