Ask Gloria

Jill Zarin's mother, Gloria, answers your questions.

Jul 21, 2009

I have  been with my boyfriend going on 5 years and everything is relatively great,  except for his family that seems to hate me. I can’t seem to do anything to  please these people and it’s starting to affect my relationship very  negatively. I don’t know what to do, they make my life impossible to deal  with, and my boyfriend is always caught in the middle. Can u help me?  Thank you.

Lost in California

Hi, Thank you for writing.  First of all, why do you allow a relationship to go on for so many years. Are you planning to spend the rest of your life with his man? If so, you should take on his family.  Otherwise it seems pointless.  If you care this deeply about him, I think you should confront this parents and find out exactly what is the problem, or at least try to make an effort.  Keep in touch.