Ask Gloria

Jill Zarin's mother, Gloria, answers your questions.

Jul 21, 2009

 

I'm 56 years old, at  5'7 inches tall and weigh 130 pounds. I have 3 sons and an adoring husband of  36 years and 2 beautiful granddaughters, ages 2 and 4. People tell me I'm  pretty and that my skin is gorgeous for my age, but I don't feel it. Every  time I see your daughter or Alex on the show, I get so depressed that I do not  have the clothes, shoes, hand-bags, the boundless energy, or the constant  stream of friends inviting me to fashion show's and luncheon's. I adore her  life style. It seems exciting. I realize that this is absolutely childish and  silly. I'm ashamed to even write it, considering the problems we face today.  Over the last several years I have battled fibromyalgia and R.A., and Lupus,  and had to quit my job. Now, I never have the energy to do anything, but hurt  and feel flu-ish and achy, much less feel pretty, or to wear nice clothes  anywhere or to put on make-up. So that causes depression, and I can't wait to  live through the housewives again. What can I do not to feel that way all  the time?

Victoria

Hi, Thank you for writing. I understand your depression. You can however, do some things to make yourself feel better temporarily. Your illnesses have made you feel despondent, But getting out and buying some new clothes, getting a new hairdo, etc will make a temporary difference. We all wish we were young, pretty, famous, rich, etc. The important thing to remember is that every day you and your husband and family get up in the morning healthy is another great day! I know — I have been there. Good luck.

Gloria