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Hi LuAnn,
My beleif is with manners comes the ability to let things go and sometimes you seem quite defensive on the show. When someone has confronted you with something you may need to change, such as your Nanny, Romona, or Bethany, you get defensive, you ignore them, brush them off, or defend yourself until you make the person feel badly in the first place for bringing it up. You make people feel small, or worthless with your attitude. It seems that you are no different that anyone else but you seem to make everyone feel like they aren't measuring up to you. I know you probably don't mean to be this way, but that is how it comes across. We all do it, don't get me wrong, but you just have this air about you, like you are looking down on others. It puts me off, and some viewers feel the same. Your children needed you and it seems you are always on the run, I could see it from watching the episodes. When they confront you, you again, seem to dismiss them and argue your way and you need to listen more and speak less, old Indian way.......

LuAnn! I absolutely love you! I'm only in high school, but I've gotten everyone to kiss both cheeks when we're meeting or saying goodbye, I think I've been the authority on class to everyone around me, and love watching how you bump it up to the next level! I have a quick question for you! I love wearing big rings to be the focal points of outfits, and I was wondering where you got all your fabulous rings?! I'm sure they were very expensive, but that doesn't really matter. If there's any way in heaven you can let me know, please do! Thanks so much!

countess,

I just wanted to say in the first season you really impress me. I was presantly surprised to see you do house work etc. I think you are a very classy lady and to say the least it's truly you ex lose. I'm sorry to hear about your divoice but believe me it will get better. Been there done that.

I hope you do come back for another season. If you don't I understand sometime it take time to heal and spend time with the children. for even through we as adult, to put it nicely, don't get along. It's best the children know its not their fault and we as parents still love and care for them no matter what happen.

I wish you and your family well and best wishes.

Dear Luan I saw in one of your show's that your father passed away from cancer, and that charity is one of your most important..I have a sister who has advanced lung cancer..that is bad enough, but her financial circumstances are horrible. I myself have not been able to work for several years due to a problem with my leg that was just operated on 6 months ago after much delay in diagnosis, so I am still not able to work, or I would be giving her money to help with expenses. Is there help out there for people like my sister? We donate to charities but when those we love need them, where are the funds? where is the help? there is so much need in the world, so many haves and have nots, it shows you life is a coin toss...if you are lucky enough to capture some wealth, you may get through life easier, but if not, life will be very hard for you, especially once an illness starts.....the problem for many is knowing how to find the resources....if I can ever get back to a better level of functioning, I would love to be an advocate to help those who have no idea where to turn for resources, finances or any other kind of service that can help a dying loved one...is there anyplace I can go for help for my sister?

Countess Luan,
Sounds great to me. You are a neat person.
You know how to address problems in a proper way.I think
you are the best lady on the show. I love the way you dress.Your a neat mother. You understand more about lifes'
problems than they give you credit for.I'm so sorry to hear about your divorce. I have gone thru one myself. It
sucks.But that in the past. I'm now looking towards the future. And I know you can have whatever you want in you
life if you control what going on around you.Life is what
ever you make it.Good or Bad. I wish for you Countess the
best that life can offer. I'm just a fan who love the show.And you are my favorite Lady.Hang in there.You have
lots of fan who love you.And I'm just one of them.

Just one in a million
Venus

LuAnn,

On the 12th episode, May 5, you had on a fabulous pair of boots. It was in the scene where Bethenny was visiting you and you were giving her runway tips....

The boots, can you share the designer?

HI, I love the Native American jewelry you wear. I am from the southwest and your jewelry is exquisite. Keep wearing the Native American jewelry on the show.

Countess,
I wanted to ask a question about charities, and how to start or even get involved with them. I lost my grandfather back in the beginning of Dec. 08' he was more than a grandfather to me, he was my dead. he has raised me off and on most of my life and at the age of 16 he and my grandmother adopted me. I want to do something in his memory. can you help or give any advise?

Thank You,
Chrissy

LuAnn you are my favorite housewife not because of your
status as a countess but because of your maturity and
composure. God knows it is needed at time. With your
new direction as a single mom I hope you find the peace
and love you deserve in a very brutal world.

i think your fabulous.Do these women want you to hide and not talk about the fact that your a Countess.You are one.It's part of who you are an who you were before the show.I'm positive if Bethanny was a countess she'd let Kelly know.But shes not,she's a chef.Clebrity chef.WHATEVER.I wish everyone all the sucess in the world whatever your good at,go for it.Just dont knock down others because your(not you)not as famous.Shes more famous(BETANNY)than being rude,not nice and a little mean,I use to like her and have always liked you and jill very much.I wish you(COUNTESS)all the happiness in the world.

Hello Mrs. DeLesseps,
I have a question for you. You said that your (ex) husband's grandfather built/dug the Panama Canal and that was how his family received the title of Count. Mr. DeLesseps attempted to dig the Panama Canal, failed and went bankrupt. President Teddy Roosevelt took over the dig and was responsible for its completion. My question is: did you know that?

Countess Luann, I was wondering if you pal around with any of the nyc housewives during hiatus.I do love the show. I hope you and your children are doing well with your separation from your husband.I think the way he treated you was appalling.You will survive because you have smarts ,looks and class. Good luck to all of you.

COUNTESS LU ANNN , You are always a pleasure to watch. You are so gracious as and always there for all. As a person who has always been a giver-and have people who wanted to be me(I relate)-you need to be strong for yourself...You and Kelly are so misunderstood. You both have a "simple good taste about you". You both are peaceful warriors-you act on what you know-not what you feel. That is so refreshing-it is why you are interesting. Jill has this too-but she waffles and let's the negative overwhelm her-then gets back to normal. The three of you are lovely mom's. Live for the present-but learn from the past. It is ok to be a little selfish right now-you just had your world turned upside down.There is a better plan for you. Soar and restore. I didn't mention any others- they have too many issues and are draining and toxic to watch.I am not judging-I am just seeing them as the character-they show the public.Bethany is actually funny-sometimes. Alex is sweet. Ramona is...Ramona. You are why I tune in-I hope you will still help the battered woman and be able to work with your charities.Stay wise.

Countess, I'm sorry your husband left you. HIS LOSS. You are a wonderful person and I admire you. Keep your chin up sweetie, things will turn around for you.

LuAnn- I noticed that you were wearing more Native American designs (belt buckles, etc) and speaking more about you heritage since your split. Seems to me that you're thinking about your roots? anyway, you seem like a lovely person & I wish you all the best as you negotiate these changes for yourself and your family. Based on what a gracious person you are, I think you'll end up in a good place.

That being said, I am still curious about your background... What tribe is your family from and what kinds of traditions associated with it are important to you? How did you incorporate your identity as Native American into your role as countess? How did those identities impact each other? Lots of questions, right? I know this is an etiquette column, but I think women today need to wear lots of hats and struggle with personal identity, and that must figure into the rules...

Best,
Olivia

Dear Luan, great book very good for middle class americans which at times ar so

in a hurry that forget to teach their children manners. Sorry about your divorce but I

believe that one door closes and ten open. Best of luck. I will be very happy if your

next book would be a manual in how to pick up the pieces after 16 years of marriage,

please do it, there are millions of woman in your situation or a lot worst, and I know

you are a PHENIX,

Thankyou for the book, beset wishes.

Aurelia Maria de Rojas
Miami Beach Fla

Countess & all:

Does anyone know where Ms. Countess does her hair?? ANYONE????? Bumble & Bumble?, Frederic? Toni&Guy???? Anyone out there know?? I would very much appreciate it. Price is not an issue ~ I just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Ms. Countess' hairstyle.
Thanks much!
Anna S.
NYC

Dear Countess De Lesseps,

We wish you the best and hope you realize that we are all behind you 100%! You are a strong person for being able to keep your head up high and still act like the lady that you are. In all honesty, I would say good riddance to him. He doesn't know what he has in you, and whatever he is thinking is right for him, at this momment, it will come back on him some day. You worked very hard to get to where you are today. As for the other woman, her behavior doesn't say much for her upbringing or for her own self esteem either. Let her have her moment. She'll still be a nobody who had to lower themselves to get a man.

Loved the hobo bag you had when you went shopping with
your daughter. Simple but a great size. Where did you find it?

Countess LuAnn,

I adore you so much. But your husband is not a Count; he is a COWARD.

He led her to one of the private villas the hotel kept a bit down the beach. There was soft music wafting out from the inside, Huey Lewis maybe. Jay knocked on the door and, after a bit, Danielle heard a gruff, smoky voice say "Just a minute. Just a damn minute." Danielle suddenly felt knotted and nervous. Who was this scary-sounding person—scary in an old, familiar way. Finally, the door creaked open and standing there, all brown and dappled, grizzled and glorious, was a woman, about Danielle's age.

"Danielle," Jay grinned. "This is my sister. I'd like you to meet my sister."

The woman raised an eyebrow. She lit a cigarette. She chuckled.

"Nice to meet ya. The name's LuAnn."

Danielle shook her hand. "Nice to meet you too."

"Well?" LuAnn barked, clapping her hands. "We drinkin' or what?"

And so they did.

(http://gawker.com/5285924/real-housewives-of-new-jersey-the-gorge-betwee...)

This season it was mentioned that you were part Native American. I would like to know your tribal affiliation and degree of blood. Thanks.

Dear Countess,

In what shade of Chanel lipliner should I adorn myself before donning my adult bib?

Girl i almost died when you said men might be on a different level. Im not sure if it was taken the wrong way but always remember who you are and that Native American women are very important, appreciated and respected. I don't know if your proud of being Native American but you should be our people died and suffered a lot and it makes me sick when our people don't appreciate it. you might be half or less but the blood is still their, the blood of a strong powerful people not destroyed but refined by fire. you may not be a countess without your husband but you are a princess of chiefs and warriors. Plus you are way to beautiful and classy for your husband he should be thanking god that he gave him the opportunity to marry you. Money doesn't make you a better person or fame its what you do in the quiet places when you think know one is watching..STAY CLASSY! and ignore those haters because thats what they do HATE.

Who are you kidding?? A Countess????? Please! Dream on lady.

Luann, you say you just "has fun" with the Countess title and don't take it seriously, then make sure the pizza delivery guy knows you're a countess when you phone in your order.

Also, how can we take etiquette lessons from someone who begins a sentence with "her and her friend" when talking about your niece. Maybe you could use a refresher class in Grammar.

Saw you this week on that summer fashion design show and noticed your new cheekbones. They look very sharp!

I just wanted to say that going into that school (Inner city as you might say) I think that it was very wrong for you to attack the girl about her weight. You could have easily pulled her aside or even realized that her economic life wasn't on the same as yours and you could have used a bit more tact. That was downright horrible and I'm glad that Ramona put your business about your husband being twice your age out for your kids to see because you tore that young girls soul as well as those parents that can't send their kids to foreign countries. Maybe that's why he divorced you with an email. Yitch

Is it "full of grace" to attack someone's appearance (Ramona's) or to go on and on about how someone doesn't acknowledge you, a grown woman, at parties? Yikes.

Dear Countess,
Can you please instruct me as to the proper manner in which one should tie an adult bib?

LuAnn: Where can I get those aprons that were discussed on the lost footage episode? Please send the link.
dorth@vzavenue.net

By the way, I'm not a Ramona fan either - I don't even read her blog. I do post my opinions on how disrespectful and hurtful she is on her blog but she needs professional help.

You on the other hand, LuAnn are full of grace. I appreciate the quality person you are and hope to see more of you on the show.

Countess I really appreciate your demeanor on the show and the maturity and respect you show others. Its very refreshing in a world that has lost all respect for life and others.

As a child of divorce, I wanted to say never give up. My parents divorced after 25 years of marriage and while its hard, this too will pass. That which doth not kill us makes us stronger. You have so much going for you that your life is just beginning. I see even greater things and relationships ahead for you as you are a person worth knowing. Not because of your title or wealth but because of how nice you are.

My only question is my boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married, I'm scared of course but the things I'm scared of are not that we'll get divorced but rather of my family. Is it ok not to invite those who will ruin my day even though they are family?

If I'm not mistaken, the girl at the school asked Luann about her weight. Luann was telling her you can always take care of the weight. Like any of us is going to humilate a young girl, please. Ramona needs to just keep quiet and stop embarrassing herself. Luann said I overacted. Luann has even joked about "what is a Countess". She has fun with it. Luann people that say you married into it, true, but you have never acted like nor that you were better than anyone else. How do some have so much time on their hands they spend it with such stupid comments and hurtful things. When people go on and on "she's the fourth Countess", who cares, please. Get a life. Love you Luann, really think your beautiful in every way. People should strive everyday to carry on with such grace. Think all you ladies are great, well most.

There's something very new money about you Countess, and I don't mean to offend by offering that insight.

I appreciate your values and your strong energy in behaving like a lady and with great dignity. But I don't think you have to try so hard.

I doubt the Count will go public as to why he went 'outside' of the marriage but I quietly have been wondering if it has something to do with your choice in making your life so public and positioning yourself as an arbiter of grace and class.

I was raised in an odd world, 1/2 the family big old money, the other half, check to check. I was with the poor part but spent a great deal of time with the other half. I learned to murmur with the best of them and all the social graces and perhaps because I would go in and out of 'high society' and 'low society' it gave me a gift to understand both.

Through the show's lense and editing, you appear a nice woman who had a vision of a life similar to where you are yet not fully reconciled to the sacrifices it cost you.

I wish you great peace and a new love LuAnne, with someone who will bring out that little girl who grew up in Conneccticut(?) and is genuinely kind.

Luann,
Love you on the show.I think it was maybe episode 2;season 2;your son was off to school and his hair was a mess;no one even combed or brushed it.Now in all fairness if you are going to write a book about manners and etiquette at least look out for the little guy on his way to school instead of talking to Rosie about concert tickets.Practice what you preach.Hope to hear back from you.I don't ever miss an episode.Also sorry for your break-up.You are a strong independant woman;stay that way.

I was furious with the other housewives when they went after you for not being honest about the dissolving of your marriage on the show. Honestly, it was none of our (the viewers especially) business that your marriage was ending. But! Your children's feelings are the most important and I applaud you, LuAnne, for protecting their feelings by not talking about your marriage while the kids were in the room. There's a time and place for that and on camera is not the place! Good for you.

Hope you have an excellent summer. Something tells me you'll have a new man on your arm if you choose to. ;-)

To-Susan Grier
It's "Etiquette" not Ettiquitte. I'm not surprised you
want to write a book with LuAnn, you both know so much
about Ettiquitte (whatever that is!?)

OMG Countess, you called Ramona crazy eyes!!!! I was on the floor in hysterics. By far the funniest moment of the entire season! I love you now *muah*

Ramona does have wild eyes......

lu ann i think your husband is a fool i think you need a man a younger man to make you feel like the lady you are

LuAnn,

Recently in watching previously aired episodes I came across a show where you went into a school and talked with young girls. I just wanted to say how horrified I was to see your interaction with these children. You asked these minority girls what they wanted to be when they grew up. One girl responded a model. You told her she was a pretty girl with good bone structure and not to worry because she could always loose weight. Do you really think that was an appropriate response? That you would tell a young, impressionable girl, who by the way was in an underprivileged minority school, that she could possible reach her dream if only she loose weight infuriated me! All women and girls in this country see is how they must be perfect to be someone of value. Can you even comprehend what an opportunity that was for you to help this child see she can be anything she desires if only she works hard enough? A complement from you, who she already knew was a model, would have had more power on her than all the other negative comments from the naysayers in her life. Instead you became one of them. I pray this young girl finds someone to help her learn she is enough, just like she is. And I hope the boarding school your daughter attends does a better job at instilling self confidence than you do.

Hollie McHugh

CAN A MAN WEIGH IN HERE? (Without Getting Scratched?)
No one should be “voted off the island.” You are all terrific NYC ladies that represent the best, albeit, at times, perplexing and complex women in America. But that’s what makes you so special!

A lady friend of mine finds this show particularly entertaining, so I must endure it if I am to pluck the most delicate rose from its thorny stem. (Personally, for the record, I prefer “Army Wives”).
Whether scripted or unscripted, it is very evident that you ladies took (and presumably, will continue to take this series seriously). You came, you hollered, you vented.

FROM A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE:

KELLEY

Completely, misunderstood. Kelly is a single mother only struggling with attempting to look after her own herd. Yes, her beauty carried her so far, yet she now finds herself on her own. She apparently, is navigating herself alone in a fishbowl of sharks (and by that I mean the mean streets of NY not the other cast members). I find it intriguing that some (blogs) accuse her of being jealous of others in the cast. Yet, isn’t she the one with all the “resources” as evidenced by Jill’s comment that Kelly has the “big beach house” in the Hampton’s and the “most expensive condo in Manhattan.” (Hmmmm?)

In any event, without Kelly, how could Bravo continue the (regrettable) feud between Bethenny (B) and Kelly? I would only tune in to see that outcome. A previous blog profoundly observed that it was B that arrived with an attitude because of B’s perceived slight that Kelly tried to steal her man in a prior circumstance. It is equally understandable how Kelly felt defensive about B’s attitude towards her (perhaps knowingly or unknowingly, the facts are unclear) when Kelly attended Jill’s charity event and called her “Madonna.”
I
n regards to the subsequent visit at the Bar (and yes, Kelly, you did look like you might have had a little too much to drink when you met with B – might this account for your frequent memory lapses?), I’m not sure why you did not let B speak, she was only there (and waited over half an hour!) with a sincere apology which you never gave her an opportunity to present... (Yikes! I cringe at that film – which is evidence in a court of law)…

But as an attorney, (which Kelly likes to point out that her Father was/is?), I would have expected better behavior. When confronted with an angry individual, I always aspire to find out why? Yes, Kelly should have handled that and other situations with B better. I would certainly hope that my daughter would do so. That being said, being bereft of social skills does not make you a monster nor does it make you eligible for disqualification. It makes you conducive of a candidate that needs to remain and learn from the process. I know that Bravo producers see this and none of the ladies will “be fired.”

Excuse me now, but a rerun of Army Wives is coming on and I need to wrestle my lady friend for the remote!

PS: Aside from my semi-defense of Kelly, Countess, keep up the good work in mentoring America on good nature and good manners. I too, was married to a euro (German), and it was not easy. Thank God we Rule! God Bless America! Keep them all in line next season, and, more importantly, keep up that graceful upper lip! There will be another for you!

I just hink your great and i purchased your book I truly love your composure!

Hi LuAnn,

You are beautiful and classy and I love you. I do have a question. I viewed a small movie last week and I was suprised to see you in it. Hotel Friendship. I thought you were very good in it and wondered why I never heard you speak of it on the show. I live near Friendship and have a cabin close to the town of Friendship so I wanted to watch and see places I know. I saw you and wondered if anyone had asked you about this before. Thank You for your reply. Hope you do season 3??????

As an astrologer I am enjoying the show immensely. You represent the best of what a Taurus is. Good luck with your book. As far as manners go...it looks like the world is going to hell in a hand basket. I think your book will do a great deal to help turn the tide.

i JUST LOVE YOU ITS SO NICE TO SEE TRADITION AT THIS POINT IN THE WORLD WITH MORALES AND RESPECT BECAUSE ITS JUST SAD HOW THE WORLD IS TO DAY NO MANNERS CHIN UP AND YOU HANDLE YOUR SELF LOVELY I HOPE ONE DAY YOULL MEET TH RIGHT PRINCE I ALSO PURCHASED YOU BOOK I LOVE IT YOUR MY FAVORITE GOOD LUCK

What a hoot. No wonder your husband left you. You will never live up to the Countess name that you think it stands for in your mind. Who would listen to your advice? You must have been schooled ( not quite finished yet!) so why not go to the real experts first hand?

What a bimbo

Wow!

I think you are one of the most beautiful women on television today. You remind me of my mother...

Are you aware that the Auditory Oral School of New York promotes the oppression and abuse of young deaf children? I was so disappointed to see that you support this school. They deny children a language that is truly accessible to them (sign language), and instead force them to go through an embarrassing and risky process of surgeries and hours of speech training that may never work. Though it is possible that these children will learn to speak, it is also possible that these children may never learn to speak, and if they can't, they will suffer serious cognitive delays. Taking these kinds of risks with children's lives seems unfitting for such a dignified, and conscientious person as yourself.

Countess - you embody all the grace and joy that should come with that title. Have thoroughly enjoyed your presence on the show. Love your warmth, the care you show to your children, and your appreciation of the beautiful things life has offered you.

You'll carry wonderful stories with you to pass onto your grandkids. Love lost, love won. It happens.

I suppose you are off to the Hamptons for Memorial day weekend and the start of summer social activities. Are you going to see Kelly? Ignore her if she is rude to you.
Have a wonderful time!

You are a true Countess
The challenges you have in your personal life will pass.
Shame on Him to throw away one as beautiful as you

Your Great

Hi sweetheart! I think you are a beautiful woman inside and out! Don't ever change! You are a Very Loving, Caring Mom, and that is all that matters!! You are a Lady, and a great woman! Good luck on your book! Angel

I love you luann! You are an amazing women! I aspire to be as classy as you!

LuAnn, I've never been a big fan of yours, but you were hilarioius on the Reunion shows. You were great calling out Ramona & Kelly, and your one-liners were hysterical. Can't wait to see you next season.

LUANN YOU ARE GRACEFUL, PROPER, INTELLIGENT, BEAUTIFUL, AND A WELL ROUNDED WOMAN. IT'S YOU HUSBAND LOST, NOT YOURS, YOU WILL BE SINGLE AS LONG AS YOU WISH. I KNOW ANY MAN WITH GOOD TASTE WILL BE HAPPY TO BE WITH YOU. YOUR TASTE IN STYLE IS ABOVE THE NORM. I WISH THE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN. DIVORCE IS HARD ON ANYONE ESPECIALLY THE KIDS. HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH AND STAY THE WAY YOU ARE, GOD BLESS YOU IN YOUR TIME OF NEED. UNTIL NEXT SEASON GO OUT AND DATE. PLEASE TAKE YOUR EX FOR EVERY PENNY YOU CAN GET, REMEMBER HE HAS TO KEEP YOU IN THE LIFE STYLE YOU ARE LIVING NOW. LET HIM HAVE HIS PRINCENESS, JUST WITH LESS MONEY. GOOD LUCK IN THE FUTURE.

I have and am living your life. As a child we dressed for dinner, never crossed our legs in public, extended our hand to a gentleman if we chose to shake the gentlemans hand..Never appled lipstick at the table.. I could go on an on. I have been made fun of and even left out of certain circles because I "knew what to do"... I hate to tell you..but your are living my life. At 58 years old I can tell you that because women do not know the "real ettiquitste" they will hold that hard against you.. Good news.. I rasied four sons and one of them and i want to write an ettiquitte book together...Ettiquitte lives it is just hard to find...I know your rules..how many others do..Prescious few where I am...Should all four of us unite in an effort to educate?? The sin of it is currently..knowing hwat to do and not doing it is one thing thing.. Total ignorance is an entire different dialogue..Susn Rutledge Grier...JuneCleaver7@cox.net

Countess,
I have been so impressed with you on the program. I am a man that really liked the advice you gave Bethany about how to deal with her date.
I disagree with the women that said you had a "thing" with your title. I thought you have behaved as a total lady. Ramona has made a fool of herself with her rediculous behavior.
I am READY to buy your book. I resented that they said you painted yourself into a perfect corner. They should NOT have attacked you like that. I felt that was behaving like traitors. I was offended. However, I believe you deserve the best.
You do a great job with your kids and how you handle yourself. I wish there were more women interested in being feminine in my city!
Best wishes!

You won't be single long, Countess (except if you want to be)since you are BEAUTIFUL inside and out! Your grace and style is wonderful to see! I am looking forward to reading your book.

Oh please give me a break ... she's a countess through marriage and it shows. I don't believe having watched the show that there's much class there if anything she's really let herself down - ranting at Ramona for saying that her husband looks old - he does, then telling a teenage that she'd need to close weight if she wanted to be a model ... oh please in this day and age when we're so counscious of children having eating disorders she helps them along ... I thought it was irresponsible to say the least especially as she's a mom herself of a teenager.

As for the finale - her comments about Ramona 'crazy eyes' was childish. She's the fourth Countess de Lesseps by marriage and gawd knows how many more there'll be by the time her husband finishes!!

LuAnn,

I was very disappointd with your behavior at the Reunuion Show. Anyone with "class" or simply sensitivity would NEVER comment on someone's body. Don't you understand, a person can change their hair color, clothing, weight, job, husband, car (you get it) but can NOT change a body part. You owe Ramona an apology.

You are NOT a class act. You are an ACT with little class.

You are a beautiful woman inside and out! I love the way you dress..stylish but proper for your age. Not like Ramona who still thinks she is 18 but acts 8!
I have not seen you loose your "cool" once in all the screaming and yelling and really admire that.

your X husband seemed pretty boring compared to you. He shows that a title cannot give you class, where as you bring class to your title.

I would love to have a title ! just think others are jealous...
Best wishes and prayers to you and your family! Hope you gets tons of $$$$$$$$$$$ from "the cad".

I think you were the most lady-like person there and decent.
I deserve a nice man to be with.

3 divorces before you for your ex is a huge red flag.

Luann,

I find your class refreshing! You seem very down to earth, kind, fun, and good natured. I wish more people would learn to have the emotional maturity and class that you have. There is nothing old fashioned or snobby about etiquette, since it is about showing respect for everyone around us. Having manners shows that we hold those around us to be of as much value as ourselves, so I find it strange that you so often get accused of feeling, "above everyone" just because you have class and a title. If I met someone like you in my life, I would very much want to befriend them. You are a countess and there is nothing wrong with saying it just like there is nothing wrong with doctors calling themselves by their title, or Reverends by theirs. So, I don't understand the big deal about you going by the title of who you are, a countess. It's not something you are pretending to be, after all, but it is who you are.

Wishing you a long life of love and classiness!
Michele S.

luann,
while i admire your poise and beauty, you act as if being a countess means you are above others. not in america. we do not bestow royal titles. it creates division in a country where we value equality. you were most unkind to the teen who asked about cutting chicken. her parents should have taught her that years ago, but you talked down to her and made a poor attempt at a joke. when you are the author of a book on manners, you need to be more careful or you will continue to set yourself up for criticism. it is pretentious to refer to yourself in the third person...'the countess doesn't drink beer from a bottle'...as kelly would say, 'stop, stop,stop.'

NOTED; TO ALL THE READERS , HEARERS , AND COUNTESS! THE RULES ARE WHAT YOU MAKE IT !!!!SO DON'T BE HATEN ON ME CAUSE I AM A ADORABLE COUNTESS!!!THESE ARE THE COUNTESS WAY TO RULE THE WORLD!!!!!!

i just wanna say that LUANN RULES
you know, i pretty much disagree on everything you say and do but i totally love you because you do them all sincerely. stay where you're happy mama :)

Dear Countess,
I just saw an interview you gave regarding your book and your being blindsided by your husband. I just want you to know that I am so sorry that you are going through this difficult time. I hope you will continue to align yourself with Bethenny and Jill. They seem to be true souls and true friends.

Even in this painful time, you've carried yourself with grace, strength, and yes, enviable class. I look forward to learning from you as I read your book. The nobility of your heart and mind is not lost on anyone, and there is not a person alive who can take that away from you, Countess. I wish you luck and love, with warmest regards.

Luann, I can't believe that some of those woman talk to you the way they do. I love your personality, you always seem to keep your self respect in tact. I couldnt close my eyes and imagine a more beautiful woman. I have never seen you in one scene where you didnt look drop dead gorgeous. Thank You for alowing us to get soom insight into your life. Nathan

Countess, could you show the others how to sit properly, cross legs or not to cross legs, and how to get up w/o showing their panties?
Thank you,
LadyLawyer

can I just say that you look stunning in hot pink!

Hi, LuAnn
I asked a question and never had it answered. I wonder am I going to the wrong Blog? It was concerning a wedding in the South of France. My son is getting married and I am wondering if I should invite people who I do know will not be able to travel that far. However he is getting married and maybe I should just send an annoucement. I don't want people to think that they are looking for a gift. I know the younger people today don't expect that, but the older ones think that. Please let me know what I should do. Thank you

LuAnne, I was amazed at how well you handled yourself at the reunion taping considering all that is going on in your life. You are truly and amazing woman. I have been in your shoes and it's a really hard place to be. Through all you diversity and drama you are still able to hold your head up high and know that you have done the right things for yourself and your family. Shame on the Count for being such a "JERK"...

love you and contiue to be yourself don't change for anybody

I am sorry but I do not get nor do I care about the title. It was used as a way for the upper class to distinguish themselves as above the rest. And while that may be the case for the original count earning his title all these years later its unimpressive. What is more impressive about you is when you are being Luann. Just plain Luann. Somebody others would want to know. The title became the priority not you in this last season. And Luann while all those rules on how to act may be essential in the upcrust they mean nothing to middle America. Being kind and polite is all that is required. How one cuts there chicken is not. It breeds 'I am better than you'. And you are no more important in this world than the driver who picked up you and Bethenny. If it is so important than you should not have called him by his first name but addressed him as Mr. so and so. Try to be Luann and not the countess. She is a much more real person.

Is it just me? I know that being a Countess is a 24 hour job. You are not just a person but have a title that means something. You represent the people of the country where you have the title. It would be an honor to meet a Countess and I would elevate them above myself because of the title for which I would have respect. Just because an a person doesn't have titles in their country (as in ours of the usa unless you are congressman etc) does not mean you can't understand and show a little respect at least google where they are from and what it means. As an Ambassidor of your country I think you showed your commitment to the title and it's meaning. I for one don't know which fork to use for what and if corrected by someone who knows ettiquette I would take it as well deserved advice. I also would like to say I'm sorry that your marriage isn't going well. I knew you would not be the kind of woman to put up with shenagigans. Your husband is a nut and ramona does have crazy eyes and a big mouth.
I knew you were too nice to say such things but could smile when you heard them :)
I wish you and your family well Countess

I loved watching this show, and you were one of my favorites. Thank you for letting us into your life. However, I am very sad to read and hear of what you are going through. Not surprisingly, you are handling it with grace.

There was one episode when I sensed something was a little off, when you told your cook you had an extra ticket to the Celine Dion concert and would've taken her (I wish you had, or maybe even taken your daughter). I hope you stay close to your daughter through all of this. Thinking of her at boarding school leaves me uncomfortable. I have one daughter; and it's knowing what I have to teach her that gets me through the tough times.

I guess loser is a hard label to stick to a Count; maybe cad is better. Either way, you're an amazing person, with or without him. I know good things are in store for you.

I admire you! I will keep you in my prayers for strength and peace during this difficult time. I am on my way out tomorrow to purchase your book! Can't wait to see you next season! Good Luck and God Bless you.

SO CLASSY, SO BEAUTIFL, SO WELL SPOKEN.. I admire your strength and success.. I wish you would have thrown out your book on etiquette and slapped those crazy eyes out Ramona's head :-) Just goes to show you how unintelligent, immature and rude people can be. She should be ashamed of herself and you should continue to walk with your head held high because you truly are an amazing human being.. Countess or not :-)

LuAnn,
You held your head up during the reunion and are very classy. You were not born with a title - but you earned it! you were raised or taught that manners, grace and dignity are all you need. Drop the title, you really do not need it. It is just fodder for others. Maybe in NYC or Europe a title matters - but in dumb duck IA nobody cares - they do care that you say please and thank you.
I really wanted to dislike you because you seemed so pretentious - Countess this - countess that - but watching you on so many levels - it was hard to hate you. I have to admit I enjoyed the scrappy little fighter you became against Ramona - way to hold your own!

dear luan, you are truely the only one that is real, and the only one who is worth watching, and i hope you all the best, you ex did not deserve a beauiful lady like you, his lost, he should end up with someone like RAMORE,i know i did not spell her name right, but you and everone will know who i am talking about. right, i hope they do not even use your name in the same log as youd;s, a fan alway;s sandra cunningham

Luann,

I am sure that happiness will be right around the corner for you. You deserve it. Hang in there.

Luann,

I just wanted you to know that I think you are wonderful. On paper, you and I could not be more opposite but where we meet in the center is at compassion. You were the only one of your cast that actually listened and seemed to be really concerned about the others. I am trully sorry for the challenges you are facing in your personal life at the moment but I believe of anyone you will be okay. I can tell that you care about your family and friends. You are interesting and that shows. Don't let the other women tear you down. It has to be difficult to have watch true grace under fire and know that they themselves do not possess it.

Luann...
I think all the ladies are interesting, but you show the most class. You are compassionate, supportive, and try to be diplomatic, most of the time! It is hard not to get drawn into some of the other cast members' viciousness. You try to cut to the chase and decipher what they are really trying to say. Sometimes their deliver is just plain mean. I don't buy into that Ramona thinks she has stopped the cycle of child abuse. She is consistently verbally abusive in a very passive-aggressive manner. Her daughter is obviously very traumatized by her mother's antics.

Hi LuAnn,
Love the show! I have a question for you. Who does your hair? It always looks great. Our hair appears to be similar, thick with some wave? Mine is hard to layer because of the wave, and I am tired of constantly straightening. Any tips would be appreciated.

Countess, I do you like you for the most part. And find that you carry yourself with grace and beauty. But I do feel that you were VERY CONDESCENDING to your daughters friend at the pink luncheon. The very young lady that asked about cutting chicken. Just answer her question, you really belittled her when you spoke about cutting the chicken for a ten year old. Did you look at her face when you were answering her question? She was actually listening and taking you seriously and you condecsending and flip with her. You owe that young lady a heart felt appology.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU, You said it for all of us watching when you said to Ramona about her "crazy eyes" we ALL think it so thank you for saying it for us....

LuAnn, you are a true lady. I think our society has long lost the grace and manners of generations ago. You however have not. You show that a woman can be classy without being snobby and pretentious. You should be proud of your title and use it whenever you can. I find your life very facinating and those who feel using your title is barbaric are just jelous. Now you go and find yourself your prince charming. I know he's out there waiting for you.

Countess LuAnn , next time your in Miami , id love to invite you and your family to spend the day on Fisher Island.