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The Countess answers your questions about baptism attire and graduation announcements.

May 5, 2009

Hi Countess,
We are busy planning a wedding (one of us is getting married and the other is the maid of honor) and we have an important wedding etiquette question. What is the protocol for inviting friends to the wedding whom the bride has had intimate relations with in the past? The bride has several friends with whom she has had intimate relations but has remained close friends with, thus she would like to extend invitations to them. Is this inappropriate? Please inform us!
Thank you and best wishes,
Julia and Angela

Hi Julia and Angela,
If you feel your friends will be discreet about your past relations then go ahead and invite them. Have fun!
The Countess

Hi Countess!
My boss is always inviting me and other employees out for drinks after work. I appreciate the offer, but I'd just rather not socialize with coworkers outside of the office. How to I politely decline without it affecting my professional standing?

If you keep saying no, it might affect your relationship with your boss. It would be best to pull him aside and let him know you appreciate his offers, but you like the relationship with your co-workers the way it is. Cheers!
The Countess