By the time you read this, I will actually be a housewife. Thanks for all of your support and well wishes. I'm so excited to be a married woman now, and we can't wait for the baby in June. Your comments, emails, tweets and Facebook messages get me through the back pain, swollen feet and sleepless nights. Thank you!
When I read the article in the Daily News, my reaction was: Here we go. I've been through this type of situation with Jill before when she discussed the Van Kempens to the New York Post during Season 2. Truthfully, I never care what ends up in the paper. There is so much nonsense, and I signed up for it. I will never act like some victim. Don't hate the player. Hate the game. I just didn't like feeling that a friend had discussed our private matters with everyone in the world besides me.
I've read rumors that I'm dating people that I've never met, bizarre plastic surgery stories etc. Truthfully, most of what ends up in print is true with some untrue surrounding details. In that case, I wasn't, in fact, invited to the Saks dinner, I was in conflict with some of the women and yes, Jill hosted the event and yes, LuAnn did host an Ungaro event. I didn't care about the item. I cared about how it got there.
Kelly and I had just started a season, and we didn't want a repeat of last season. If Kelly and I keep our distance, then there will be no drama.
Dear B: I totally understand your position in terms of being financially self-sufficient and having to make things for yourself happen.I truly believe that Jill should reflect on this. At the time you had no one to take care of you as she did.I have been close with 3 girls since middle school and three things we have always done is respected each,stayed empathetic, and accepted each other for being different.Not everyone handles situations the way you would and once you learn that friendships last forever. I will be praying for you any your new family. Take Care and God Bless, Mel
Unfortunately Jill being a fellow LIer and from Woodbury this is how 75% of LI operates. It is ingrained in her being. People always have their noses in other's stuff and need to be up each others buts to feel included. Like I said it is the soul of Long Island. Just steer clear of the drama find the true people who will really be your friend, who will cut you slack when you need it and be there when everyone else is not. You don't need the drama Bethenny. Once that baby is born your eyes will see things in a whole new light. Jill being a mother herself, having a child with medical issues and a husband who was sick, it shocks me how little she really values the importance of true friendship and what is really important in life. It is good you moved on and you will find such happiness in your new bundle of joy! CONGRATS!!! You have proven to a lot of us that women CAN have it all :)
B-you crack me up! You are always impeccably dressed yet you constantly say how little fashion means to you-wish I had that sense of style. So happy for you and your new family. My heart broke for you with the Jill "chat", move on, you deserve better. One question-as you ride the Ramonacoaster,do her sorries & that wasn't my intention really make things better b/w you two?
Bethenny, I am truly happy for your success. I think it's your personality that makes it. You are brutaly honest! Congratulations on your marriage and pregnancy. I believe you are better off without Jill. You man and your baby are your priorities now. Much love for you.
we love you bethenny you stay happy and I will saty watching the show and if jill dont care for you at the best times of your life she was never a freind to began with you are the best housewife hands down
Bethenny, Had to write in support of you. I loved Jill last season, thought she was as real as it gets. I've watched with great disappointment this season. I dont even understand really what your fight is about with Jill but I keep hearing, she said "Get a hobby" and find it insanely ridiculously that this is all she keeps repeating. Get over it. Putting you on speaker phone with Luann, sending Kelly an email to ask her who she is really friends with, telling everyone about your argument like a child, not even listening to you when you try to make amends. I am blown away. I do think the "Underdog" comment Ramona made was so right (Not that I see you as an underdog) but when you were single without a male influence in your life to kind of put Jill in her place - she loved it and now with Luann, the same thing. And the way she is all over Luann with the fake "You were born a countess" crap is nauseating. I can't take it anymore.
Best wishes to you and your new hubby and blessings with the baby!
hi Bethenny,i just had to say something as well after watching this weeks episode,you would really be better off staying away from Jill and Luann. these two are poison to your new life.congrats with the new baby and your new husband.believe me been there done that.had to move on.i felt real good after.Alex is a good friend.hang on to her.
LuAnn and Jill you really do need to get a hobby!!! Bethenny best wishes with your baby it truly will be the best thing in your life, enjoy!!!!!!!
Yah Bethany!! We LOVE YOU and are sooo happy for you! You deserve nothing but the best! You and Jason will make great parents and we cannot wait to see your beautiful baby! Congrats! You are such a gorgous pregnate woman! Forget about Jill, there is no hope for her--she is a mean girl and you don't need that in your life. Plus think of the up side you won't constantly being getting "advise" about parenting from her! Telling you what she thinks you are doing wrong, ect! You are great-keep on keeping on!! Go girl!
People come and go in our lives to teach us lessons and allow us to grow. If you and Jill are healthier and happier without being in each other's lives, then that is the best for everyone. I do wish that petty fights would end (although why would be watch the show?? :) and everyone would stop pointing fingers because at the end of the day we are all human and mess up. No one is a perfect friend, wife, sister, or lover. It just doesn't happen! We are all human and have flaws. Grow and learn from this moment and from your recent blog it seems you already have.
I wish you happiness in your marriage, with your first born, and in life! xoxoxo
Betheny, Stay away from Jill and that narcistic LuAnn. They make a great pair. So glad you have found such happiness!! Alex really is a good person who cares for others. Ramona is too up and down. Kelli is an airhead!!
The most telling scene of last night's episode was the one where Jill and Luann were in bed together...that about sums it up. You are an inspiring woman...achieved so much on your own! Now all your hard work is paying off and (hopefully) you can sit back and enjoy all your accomplishments. In fact, that's probably one thing Jill and Luann don't like about you...YOU didn't have to marry to get your money! As for Ramona, I find her statement about you not having friends very hard to believe. You seem like someone who would energize a room and draw people to them.
Bethany, If there was not this fight between you and Jill what would be worth watching on the show (LUANN) hahaha! I agree with you she blew it way up and made a mountain out of a mole hill! I was suprised after you said that you loved her and her family and would never do anything to hurt any of them that she didn't want to make up! Also her language was terrible ( I came close to changing it severel times! I expect it from the NEW Jersey girls but not her! You Go Girl! Hope delivery is good to you!
Jill has really disappointed me this season..I know that we are seeing very little of your lives and the camera only shows bits and pieces, and ultimately what "we" want to see...but I am totally on your side Bethenny. I was so sad for you, crying myself, last night, knowing that you are a good person and would never do anything to harm a friendship. I think that Jill is all about keeping track of who does what in the friendship. Friends sometimes they forget birthdays, and sometimes they are wrong, but in the end they forgive, and REAL friends GET that we have lives and can't always be their #1 priority. So many amazing things are happening for you right now...so live it up and enjoy mama! xo
Bethany, You are my favorite housewife... These other women need to get a life, especially Jill and Louann.. Their friendship is so fake it is hard to watch.. Congratulations on your marridge and new baby.. Keep doing what you are doing and you will be fine ..
Bethenny, it broke my heart your dad refused to see you then you were pregnant and did not know it, that is one reason you were so emotionally upset and drained. Then the deal with Jill.WOW.. She is the worst. She use to be my favorite, but now she is just too unavailable everything is about her and what she wants.Very selfish. You use to be like that, you seem to have mellowed. One thing I can say I always loved your honesty even if it was a little disorted!!! Luann is phony as a three dollar bill and she needs to keep to herself she is saying it is everyone else which it is her that has an attitude. I am very happy for you married and new baby coming WOW is your life really going to change none of this crap will be important after the baby comes. You know that? None of it will mean anything!!! TC and get loss of rest. CONGRADULATIONS!!!! Jodee
Hi, I just wanted to say that I think the reason you and Jill can't or won't make up has a lot to do with LUANN. I think she has no one in her life and thinks that if you and Jill become BFF's again, then once again she will have no one....She is guarding Jill like a pitbull, be careful she will go for the throat... goodluck with your new baby and new hubby...and maybe its best to let old friends be just that..OLD FRIENDS..
You mentioned names for babies - keep it in the family. Jason, or Jason's middle name, Jason's father or grandfather. Your middle name, your grandmother's name. Please don't go for trendy names or cutie names - kids grow up!!!
Bethenny, LOVE YA. You keep your head high. I am so glad you found someone and am starting a new life and family. Jill needs to get off your 'high' horse and realize what a friendship is. Romana - stay away from her Alex - she seems open enough. Kelly - watch your back. She is like the wind. Up here and then down here.
You're my favorite! The smartest, the funniest, I love your dry and wicked wit, your authenticity, and your heart. You're just so darn likeable. And when you speak, you're actually saying something and it's pretty insightful. An eye-opener to see the whole mean-girl thing in middling-aged women. Jill and Luann?! Ech. didn't you know these two by type in high school. I'm disappointed in Jill, because I have liked her, too, in the past. Luann just wafts with the prevailing winds. Congrats on Jason and the baby, the two who really count.
I just wanted to wish you and your new family the best of luck you deserve it. I have to say out of all the housewife's you are my favorite. I hope this whole thing with Jill works out but if it does not than maybe you are better off without friends like that in your life. You have made all efforts to repair this relationship and that just shows who the "Bigger Person" is best of wishes
Bethenny, Out with the old and in with new! Are you the only "Normal" person on the show? Jill is such a "ME" person, who could stand to be around her for any amount of time, a real friend can and WILL roll with the flow, life is not a bowl of cherries and even a best friend can sometimes not see what her friend wants or needs, she needs to learn how to forgive and forget (but of course there is nothing that you did that needs forgiving). Your so much better off without the drama. And Luann! Is she for real?? What a nut case! She is probably 95% of the real problem! She is sooooo full of herself, she has no manners at all but thinks she is the cream! Luann if you can here me MIND YOUR ON BUSINESS! I can see why your husband wants to move on! And Bethenny CONGRATS! It's kind of a shame that you live in NY, you have no idea how differnt people are in the Midwest. Down to earth. Anyway keep your sanity and forget about Jill, she will figure it all out when its to late for her.
Betheny - I have only watched the show several times, but I believe Jill and Luann have a enabling relationship. Jill is fake and acting like a spoiled child. It is time to walk away from her without going back to her again. She is TOXIC to you - not the other way around. And what about Luann walking in to stop the conversation between you and Jill? Luann does not want the two of you to work it out - she has a hidden agenda (herself!). They both deserve each other - neither no the meaning of FRIENDSHIP or SISTERHOOD. WALK AWAY, BETHENY!
Bethanny congratulations on your Wedding and your Baby. I wish you nothing but good luck. I have to admit I was sorry to see you and Jill at odds you guys really did seem like good friends. I can understand Jill feeling hurt that you weren't there when she needed you when Bobby was ill but she has voiced this and you explained yourself. You have also made many attempts to try to fix this situation and she keeps closing the door. It's on her. Now she has needy LuAnn to fill the void. You are no longer the needy friend -- you have gotten your life on track and instead of being happy for you she seems to resent this. I don't understand she has a good husband a good relationship with her daughter. . .what's the problem. Oh well, enough negativity, good luck Bethanny and may you enjoy continued success in all you do.
BTW, I married late and had my first, a daughter, at 36 and a son at 38. You'll be blown away by how much you love this baby...the best kept secret on the planet, as in, the absolute depth of that emotion. Mine are grown now (daughter graduated harvard two years ago, son still at university) but they continue to own my heart and a random thought of them still passes through my brain on a daily (hourly??) basis. Have a blast with your new little family!
I just want to tell you that the best thing you can do in your life is stay away from Jill. She is not a true friend if she throws up in your face all the things she has ever done for you any chance she gets. Friends are suppose to make you feel good, bring you up and not judge. She is a bitter woman and I think you are just so hurt because you really loved her. I am not sure if she ever felt that way about you. And I believe that if Luann wasnt pissing in her ear you guys would have salvaged the friendship. But you dont need any of them Congratulations on your wedding and that beautiful baby on the way. We all love you here in Brooklyn. Maybe you should make some friends here the woman are much nicer. look at alex she is the only one that cares about you.
Hi Bethenny and Jason! I'm so happy for you both! Your wedding photos in US magazine were fantastic! I know your baby is due in June, and want to congratulate you. When I first saw Jason on the Housewives, I knew you two were perfect for each other. He energy is steady, gentile and thoughtful. Your energy is high amp, strong emotions and always on the go. You are a beautiful couple, and your love for one another radiates from the TV. How blessed you both are to be expecting your first baby! Bethenny, I read your comment about swollen hands, feet, and face. I'm sure you are getting great prenatal care. Remember to rest and take care of each other. Tell each other you love each other every day, and every night wish your love sweet dreams. I hope you have settled some of your trauma from the mean girl. Good luck to you all, God Bless, and I'll keep you all in my prayers.
Bethenny, I relate to so much of what has happened to you! I also didn't have a relationship with my father. When he passed away I wasn't told for almost 2 years! A very good friend disappointed and hurt me..just like Jill did to you. My advice: Remove the toxic people from your life. Don't blame yourself for any of this. One person can't make a relationship work. If the other individual can't even meet you half way, then they truly don't want to resolve the conflict. Be happy, Bethenny! Being a Mom is one of the deepest, most fulfilling roles in a woman's life. Jason seems like a rock solid man...you have it all, Girlfriend! And you deserve all this happiness finally coming your way! Good Luck!
I'm glad to read that you moved on from that toxic moment of your life and able to move on without this season's mean girls. I do hope that you continue your friendship and emotional connection with Alex. She has the wisdom, maturity, calmness and caring that these other housewives don't have.
Best of luck to you and Jason, your marriage and your growing family.
Oh yeah, Congrats on Jason and your new baby! I am not saying this but I bet you are going to be an incredible mom! Going through pain makes us very self aware and honest. I think there is good that will come from a damaged past. And Alex is so right when she said, all people are damaged. Again, keep her and treasure her as a friend.
One of the things I find interesting about watching this show is the interaction of personalities among a group of friends and people. I am starting to find it very difficult to watch the show lately most especially because of Luanne. She is so insecure and is doing anything and everything to secure her position with Jill. Yes, you can come off a little strong, but being your friend, a true friend, one would know that's how you are and would accept that. Apparently Jill does go for the "underdog" and that's why she's equally adhering to Luanne. Her need to do that can be fine. It shows compassion. However, she does not need to cut off her other close relationships and can be there for her other friends. I think she's afraid to make amends with you because she's afraid of how Luanne will react. It just shows that some of us never really graduate from high school. I realize that there's so much more to this situation as with all the situations shown. We can't see everything. However, from what I see, there are two sides and you have tried to do the right thing and you can walk away with a clean conscience and enjoy all the great things that are happening for you.
Hi Bethany- I am really sorry that you and Jill are having such issues and it’s unfortunate the Jill does not seem to want a resolution. It’s very evident that you are willing to discuss all the “good” and “bad” that has happened- and try to move on. I think you both really love each other as friends and I really hope that Jill comes around. She is being very hard on you “even it admitted herself” – no one is perfect and given the fact that “All” of you are much busier and also trying to grow your careers from the shows exposure “which is perfectly acceptable”- should not be forgotten. Jill should try to understand that sometimes friendships take small breaks when one person “gets a new love interest” or “gets a new job or book deal”- and maybe for a while you don’t talk 4 times a day. I feel for you- and really like both of your personalities and loved it when you were such good friends. Hopefully if you two take a small break things will become more clear. You were a very good friend to Jill and vice versa- there is nothing that has happened between you two that can’t be resolved and forgiven Sorry you both seem to be in such pain- there is an answer though- Talk to each other and keep trying until you are heard
I am so tired of listening to Luann and Jill gang up on you. The world does not revolve around them. You are your own person and you certainly do not need them for anything. Your friendship to Jill was genuine...you tried your best to correct the problems that Jill had. She is a very mean person...if she had been a true friend she should realize that if you do not talk to someone for the summer...when you reconnect LIFE should just pick up like there was no lost time. Why do they need to be so MEAN? People shoud not be mean. Your not mean and go below the belt. They do not like the forward approach to things. THAT is all you are doing.
Who cares that Jill allowed LuAnn to listen to your conversation. You both knew the camera's were rolling and millions of tv viewers would be privy. Luann hearing it then or now makes no difference.
Bethenny, Congratulations on your wedding and becoming a new momma. I'm sorry your relationship with Jill has ended but I am very proud of you that you had tried to reconcile with her. I am also glad that you are now moving on. I wish the best for you.
However, I would like for you to review past episodes and realize that you are very hard on others and sometimes you reap what you sow. I'm hoping mother-hood will soften you. Also, now that your a momma PLEASE WATCH THE POTTY MOUTH!!!!! I don't mean to sound negative, just trying to be helpful.
Bethenny, I just love your outlook on life. You are so witty and fun. I think you laid it out on the table for Jill and you apologized and owned up to what you did! I respect that and think you did the right thing. She just wants to keep dwelling on it and making it bigger than it is. You are right in all this and I think the world agrees with you. You don't keep score!
first off, congratulations on the baby, marriage, and your new life. i think a baby changes everything. you learn to be more patient. i think it's sad how things have escalated between you and jill. i don't know how busy you have to be to visit a friend at the hospital for at least a couple of hours, especially when you live in the same state! i think you should have made the effort especially since it was bobby. in that, i can see why jill has been so upset. on the other hand, i think if you had been such a good friend to jill, she should have gotten over it by now. i'm blown away by jills behavior and i think you have done more than enough to try and talk to her and now you have to concentrate on your new life and enjoy it. i think you have found a man that truly loves you and will make you a wonderful husband. i think he is perfect for you because he calms you down. i also think you are right about Luann, she does need a hobby!!!! she's catty and she thinks that when she makes a rude remark it's ok as long as she adds a laugh after it. she is countLESS, she flames the fire between you and jill and benefits from the two of you being on the outs. i love how you told her off, she is a snake and not just any snake, a poisonous, venomous snake!!! i wonder how people that knows the count really thinks of her. she tries too hard to fit the countess title, but she's just a country girl playing dress up. good luck with the baby, enjoy the moment and you will have to watch your colorful language now. forget about jill, she'll come around again when luann finally gets a hobby.
I'm so happy for all of your recent joy and success. Thanks for writing Naturally Thin. I am now naturally thin. Best wishes in the future. Oh, and thanks for skinny girl margaritas. I've often wondered why there were no healthier alternatives for many mixed drinks.
Kudos to you Bethenny for reaching out to Jill and attempting to patch things up. If she can't see your genuine nature, then you are better off starting fresh with your new husband and baby. Find people more like yourself. My heart went out to you last night as you pleaded with Jill for 5 minutes of her time. LuAnn was completely ridiculous and doesn't want things to get better so she can have her beloved Jill. Can't wait to see when LuAnn screws up and Jill moves on from her, too. Hopefully, it will be on film! You are my fave housewife of all the seasons. Keep up the good work and can't wait to see the beautiful baby!
Bethany, I really think you are the class act on this show. I don't know the whole story of course, but Jill, has, from the beginning come across as shallow, mean spirited and two faced and as a woman who has four very close friends, whom i have had for many years, I cannot imagine the level of unforgiveness Jill expressed even while she was in the wrong. I think you are a compassionate, tough person and you inspired me to lose 15 pounds and I continuing to lose so thank you. You deserve happiness and the one thing i would like to say about that conversation with Jill is this: I believe everybody in Jills life, meaning her social cirlce, not her daughter or husband, would be better off without her. she is a friend for the season that it suits her and Luann is her perfect pet, a follower, grossly insecure and mean and childish. you know i cant say it here but i would love to tell her when to stick all her "darlings" so fake. You are the real deal, enjoy your husband and that beautiful new baby. children are an amazing gift and you will be an excellent mother, Good luck to you and continue to thrive!
CONGRATS WIFEY MOMMA! Girl...your hormones are going crazy the way I've been seeing it! You've been tearing into everyone! See your doctor, he/she may be able to perscribe something to take the edge off. As for Jill, hurting people hurt other people, you just happened to be the next one standing in her line. I'm sorry she didnt accept your olive branch of peace. Oh well...it's her loss (apparently you didn't need that kind of a "friend" anymore). As for LuAnn, I really like her but if being a "countess" takes such class-less actions, she can keep her self proclaimed "privledged life"! I sure don't need any of that! At any rate...good luck with everything and I can't wait to see how the "skinny girl" bounces back after the baby! Enjoy!
I really think that the saying you made your bed so lye in it is what you did Betthany. I think that surprising Jill was not the way to go about it. I really think that Jill is not a good person anyway so your not really losing much of a friend. Goodluck with your marriage. I think it is to soon. But if you think it is right good for you.
Congrats on your new life. I was so happy to learn that things have really turned around for you. You are my favorite on the show. You really call it like you see it and that's a good thing. At least everyone knows where they stand with you. As for you and Jill, I do hope you make up, but now I would wait for her to make the next move. You honestly tried and if LuAnn hadn't been there, I think the two of you would have worked things out. Good luck with your new husband and your new baby. Be happy, you deserve it.
Love you! Congrats! Same things (marriage, baby and a Jill type friend issue) happened to me over 09' into this year. My wedding is 10/22/10. Baby came 9/9/09. Jill really wasn't your friend. True friends can pick up where they left off. You have your own life to live and build. TD Jakes said it best - "Everybody ain't happy about your happy". I live by that now - you should too.
I have now watched this last episode 3 times, and I have to tell you that Luann needs some growung up pills. What a loser. I haven't seen displays like hers since I was in high school. The Countess is countless, added with no classness and will probably wind up friendless dolling.
I just watched last nights episoded of the "ambush" and couldn't stop yelling at the TV. Jill is absolutely jealous of your relationship with Jason and the fact that you have someone that you are close to in your life other than her. I really hope that you have let go of that situation and have some peace knowing that you definitely tried to go to her on numberous occasions and talk woman to woman.....And as for LuAnn she is such a hater and instigator in your whole situation. If you will notice all of the other housewives are trying to bring you and Jill back together and she is always there trying to drag Jill away. Honestly I think the only reason she and Jill are so tight this season is because she is the single one now...once she gets a man that'll be sure to change. I understand your determination cause its not easy to walk away from someone you love..but hopefully in watching back you realize that your relationship with Jill isn't healthy and just like in any relationship it won't work if one person is doing all the work for both of the people. Congratulations on your baby and marriage!
Bethenny! I love your book, "Naturally Thin." I got it from the library. (My husband lost his job a few months ago so that's where I shop!) It is a wonderful book and I think, "well, duh" a lot while I read it because it's all so obvious and I feel like an idiot. It full of so much common sense and I know it's going to work for me! Thanks for your work.
Congrats on your marriage and your baby. You deserve to be happy and have a family. I am not saying that you have been a nice person because you have said some very mean things. However, since you have been in love, you have grown to be a better person. Don't let Jill side track you. Jill is totally naroatic and immature. LuAnn is a snake. Jill only likes to be around people when they are down. Jill needs to grow-up, get a life, a hobby and focus on her husband.
You continue to mature and grow. Enjoy being a successful wife and mother. You deserve it.
PS: Don't cry another tear behind Jill.... Period..
Sometimes you talk too fast. Did you say your Father did not want
to talk to you? Remember, it's not you - he's never been happy
with himself & his life - Unfortunately, took it out on you.
I just got hooked on the show this season and I feel for you. Jill has shown her true colors to you and can't be happy for you and your success. A true friend would be there by your side to celebrate your triumphs and also to support you through you low points. She is obviously envious of you and you are so smart to notice. You say what is on your mind and you are a strong woman who has nothing to hide with a whole lot of class. I admire you and I know that this experience will show you who really is important in your life. You worked vey hard to get where you are and you have someone special to share it with. Congratulations.