Bethenny Frankel NY

Bethenny reflects on her argument with Jill and thanks fans for their support!

on Apr 5, 20100

 

By the time you read this, I will actually be a housewife. Thanks for all of your support and well wishes. I'm so excited to be a married woman now, and we can't wait for the baby in June. Your comments, emails, tweets and Facebook messages get me through the back pain, swollen feet and sleepless nights. Thank you!

When I read the article in the Daily News, my reaction was: Here we go. I've been through this type of situation with Jill before when she discussed the Van Kempens to the New York Post during Season 2. Truthfully, I never care what ends up in the paper. There is so much nonsense, and I signed up for it. I will never act like some victim. Don't hate the player. Hate the game. I just didn't like feeling that a friend had discussed our private matters with everyone in the world besides me.

I've read rumors that I'm dating people that I've never met, bizarre plastic surgery stories etc. Truthfully, most of what ends up in print is true with some untrue surrounding details. In that case, I wasn't, in fact, invited to the Saks dinner, I was in conflict with some of the women and yes, Jill hosted the event and yes, LuAnn did host an Ungaro event. I didn't care about the item. I cared about how it got there.

Kelly and I had just started a season, and we didn't want a repeat of last season. If Kelly and I keep our distance, then there will be no drama.

 

162 comments
6/26/46
6/26/46

As much as everyone wants to keep seeing you, maybe it is time to

exit the show. Saw your interview w/billy bush. Just remember

s.j.p. when she chose to leave Sex & the City (tv) She was on top

of her game. Bethenny, you have everything you ever wanted. Think

about Jason - there are many things you can still accomplish, but

not being in the public eye constantly. Enjoy life.......

hwfan
hwfan

Bethany, I am so happy for you and Jason and little Bryn; you deserve all the happiness in the world. You were very right about Jill - if you had called Bobby or Gloria to find out what was going on you would have been wrong. Jill realized you weren't as needy as she needed you to be and so she was done with you. As Alex told her - she is a mean girl and she is in high school. She keeps score about everything and her needs outweigh anyone else's. She tries to outshine Alli at her college interview prep. I mean this woman needs some serious time out. Maybe her good friend Kelli will give her one. Bethany , YOU ROCK.

Claudine
Claudine

Bettheny and Alex are my favorite people on this show. They are very authentic and appreciate that after a long day of work.

Alaine
Alaine

Bethenny, You are the rock this year. I think everyone else has lost it. Except Alex. My heart goes out for you and know you will do great with everything you do. Good luck with your marriage, baby and new show. I loves you from Martha and I still think you are funny, witty and sensitive. You did nothing wrong. Stand tall! Best wishes,

dc
dc

If things aren't true then you have an outlet (your show, twitter, asking for a retraction) to verify what's real and not real. If they are true then you defend things tactfully. It's important who you surround yourself with and more than anything if Jill has proven herself untrustworthy that would be a good reason to leave her alone. Personally I'm glad you're leaving her alone because she had drama written all over her, in neon lights.

gina22
gina22

I never blog, and today I've written 3! Bethanny, I'm very happy for you and your new family, I wish you a long happily ever-after, with many blessings!! You are in my prayers for the loss of your father and the pain that caused you. Jill is toxic, you don't need people like that in your life. She wants you to look up to her. Notice how she was your BFF when you were down on your luck, then mad when your life and career took off. Then she moves on to LuAnn, who recently divorced, now LuAnn can worship her. And after many attempts on your part she was not willing to make-up, but now that your father has passed she wants to come to your rescue once again, so that you may bow down to her.........I say don't give in! You are better than that!!

babzd
babzd

I'm not into leaving comments to or about celebrities, and prior to a couple of months ago, my reality tv exposure was limited to Clean House. But then I stumbled onto an episode from the second season and sat and watched...so then I watched all of the re-runs of the second season and then the first (mostly because I was completely confused about WHY Jill was "done" with you and had to see if there was some semblance of a valid reason). So, now here we are with a new season and I've contemplated and watched the behavior of all the cast. Take some words of wisdom from someone who is older and has lived a varied life.

Jill is a friend of convenience and exposure. Suddenly you have weddings and births in your life and there is going to be a vast amount of exposure for you with everyone wanting to see how your life unfolds. The way I'm reading Jill is that she can't handle that she's not going to be a part of it, whether that's conscious or not I don't know. She may have been a true friend in the beginning if I understand the situation, and she may have have you through some serious issues; but didn't that go both ways? Were you not there for her whenever she needed you to be? I realize that she and her husband went through a serious medical crisis and you weren't in town during it. But did you not reach out? Would you not have flown back between responsibilities had you been needed? Whatever happened, her reaction was for drama's effect and she achieved it; but she let it go to far and get out of hand and now that you have so many happy events in your future, she realizes she's not going to be on camera for it. For that reason only, I believe she's now sorry, and that's actually the sorry part of it all.

Viewerhousewife55
Viewerhousewife55

I thnk out of all the housewifes you are the only one who is really down to earth. Iam so happy for you and your family.After u have your baby your really going to see whats important ,at the end of the day.And it sure as hell not the ones that what to do nothing but jump on the basting betheny wagon.GOD Bless.wishing you n yours the very best.

Mary Mroz
Mary Mroz

It is hard to know what happened on her end, you only know what you do or say. I sympathize with your losing a very close friend. When I was married by best friend agreed to be the maid-of-honor (my 2nd). She was all for it; a few weeks to go she backed out. Her excuse: dress/shoes were expensive (under $200) and car repairs. She said but I will come and do your hair. The day of my wedding, she NEVER showed up, never called. I came back from the honeymoon and found her necklace (that matched the dress)in an envelope in the mail. Note saying didn't feel she should keep it as she wasn't in the wedding. No explanation/apology on her not showing. We never spoke again. Years later I found out she died. My fault not for pushing the issue? or hers? I waited for her to seek me out. Didn't happen. No idea if she regretted it. We were best friends for more than 10 years. Sad. Hope yours works out better!

6/26/46
6/26/46

God is going to bless you with a 7lb. baby girl. He wants to let

you share everything you missed growning up with your family.

Don't forget to wear that girdle as soon as the baby is born.

Joann  Cape May NJ
Joann Cape May NJ

I have watched all 4 seasons and all I can say is you are the only Lady on the show they all need to take a few lessons from you. You are a Class Act none of them have what you have. Love Yea Beth best of luck with life,love and mommy hood! Joann

barb from nj
barb from nj

Bethenny, At 59, I'm old enough to be your mother and I want to scream over all the "noise" and say just focus on that precious life inside of you and your relationship with your lovely Jason. That's what's important. Good luck and here's wishing you a healthy baby and happy life!

kelleybaby
kelleybaby

Hi Bethany,

u r my favorite housewife, u r blessed. Keep doing what your doing and forget the rest. Take care of Jason and the bay-boo on the way.

Best Wishes,

partab1
partab1

congratulation on marriage and baby to come

Yvonne - Montana
Yvonne - Montana

I am so impressed with how you have conducted yourself during this season. Being pregnant and keeping your cool when people are attacking you is SOOOO hard.

You are doing great! Best wishes for the exciting next chapter of your life.

Barbara Goodridge
Barbara Goodridge

Glad you fopuund happiness. I do think that youshould forgive and forget when it comes to Jill. I think you should consider this, if Jason gjot cancer and had surgery and your best friend sent flowers and didn't call, you would be extemely hurt. With your tongue ,I have one too, it wouldn't have been pretty. Understand her hurt, you should have been there for her like she had been for you. People are people and they will let you down, but you were wrong. I still like you but have lost some respect. You don't usually play the victim.

beckers
beckers

You are loved Bethany, I would quess by half the world now. Dont le the turkeys get you down.

susan424
susan424

Enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and new baby. I am the Mom of twins who will turn 18 on 4/24. They were born when I was 41 and are my miracles. Time is fleeting. Do everything with the baby....take (him...I think its a boy!) everywhere you possibly can! You will both learn so much about each other and your new world. Its amazing how your life will change and all for the positive. You will not only be in love with the baby but with life in general. Just enjoy it all...even the dirty diapers because who knows if you will have another opportunity to do this again. How I envy you...my 18 years with my babies really did go by in a heartbeat. Love to you and your wonderful new husband

Brigiite
Brigiite

Bethanny,

Stay true to yourself and NEVER change. You're authentic and that's rare. Love you!

JES Md
JES Md

congratulations on marriage and baby to come. Love yor character, my favorite housewife of New York. I wish u much success.

Love NYC Housewives (Waiting on Chi-Town)
Love NYC Housewives (Waiting on Chi-Town)

So I read a few comments about Bethenny being too cocky, strong-minded, assertive...give the girl a break and lighten up! She doesn't fit some mold that society wants her to be quiet and submissive? She speaks her mind and isn't scared of it. If she was a man how many of you would be whining about her "trashy" mouth? Here's the irony of it, how many complain about a woman saying it but turn their head when a husband says the same? She just scares the hell out of us and we embrace her! Love this girl!!!

Manya
Manya

I love Bethanny.I passed your book onto my relatives who suffer from bad eating habits.I'm a real skinny girl.Forget Jill and LouAnn,they deserve each other.Just remember that you have survived worse and will continue to beat the odds.Congrats on your marriage and the new baby to come.My dad past in 1990 and I had no real relationship with him.I did go to see him and stated my feelings regarding his absence in my life.It really made me feel better.It also helped me not to carry that disfunction into my family life.Bless you and stay strong.Your Biggest Fan.

momma of three
momma of three

Jill is exactly like my mom. She always liked the "under-dog". She felt better about herself that way. When I got married and had my kids she wanted nothing to do with it. I've been married almost 11yrs and have 3 great kids. I haven't seen my mom for a couple years. I made out on the deal. Keep smiling, it's hard to go through but one day you will be happy its over and in the past.

Tillie A.
Tillie A.

HI BETHENNY,

YOU ARE SO SPECIAL AND REAL. YOU MAKE ME LAUGH ON MY BAD DAYS AND THAT'S PRICLESS. I LOVE YOUR QUOTES, I ALWAYS TRY TO REMEMBER THEM. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP KIDDO. BEST WISHES WITH YOUR HUBBY AND BABY. YOU DESERVE EVERY HAPPINESS. THANKS FOR A GLIMPSE INTO YOUR LIFE.

LisaBDA
LisaBDA

Bethany,

You rock!!!

Paula - Maine
Paula - Maine

Hey Bethany -- good job! Baby, marriage, staying away from the toxic Jill. I always look forward to whatyou will say and do. Your funny and pretty darn original. Wishing you much success and a happy healthy baby. paula

6/26/46
6/26/46

It's good that your organizing & editing. When you visually clean

around you - it also clears up inside. That's why they call it

"Spring Cleaning". Take time to smell the flowers.

1Supporter
1Supporter

I'm impressed with you. Keep your head up and stay focused. Jill doesn't deserve you as a friend honestly. She acts as though she is holier than thou and has never done anything that she needed to apologize for. She knows she's wrong, she just doesn't want to admit it in front of the cameras-but we all know. Just have fun and enjoy your life! You can forgive but you don't have to let her back into your life and heart the the way you had in the past. Congrats to you and your new family-you deserve it!

Viewer Lynne
Viewer Lynne

Bethenny, Well, I guess Romona hit the nail on the head when she said that Jill only likes the underdog! I feel for you so much watching the episodes this season as do many other fans. It is great that you are being so blessed. You deserve it! Unfortunately your situation is showing the viewers that there are people who cannot be happy when their "friends" succeed. No matter what the she-devil thinks, you deserve your happiness and try not to let her ruin it. TEAM BETHENNY! Best of luck with all of your endeavors!

mommamaven
mommamaven

You are, and always have been my favorite housewife! I like the way you deal with these women. I always get the sense that you are exactly how you are on the show. Alex seems to be there for you this year, which is great. Jill is a lost cause because you don't need to be "rescued" anymore. Sometimes we outgrow friendships and need to move on and in Jill's case I say RUN!!! G-d bless you and your family.

Monye
Monye

Bethany: You are a beautiful woman. You truly have it all. You are way above those toxic women. Jill definitely needs a colonic cleanse and LuLu needs to get off her high horse and go back on the rickshaw where she belongs. If you need two new best friends Alexis and I are here for you. Don't waste another bad moment on them.

anghiari
anghiari

I am always a little confused about Bethanny and her supporters. This woman has the roughest mouth going. She will cut an opponent to threads and she has no hesitancy to talk about how stupid they are meaning look how smart I am. And she is smart, but she uses it in a very arrogant way. Everybody has gotten all mushy about her marriage and pregnancy ...so all bad behavior is forgiven?

I think Bethanny used to be jealous of Jill. Jill had the family that Bethanny would never have. She was married to a man who seems very tolerant, loving and highly capable of supporting Jill in a great lifestyle. Less we forget when Bethanny was having a tough time making a living and holding on to a relationship. While she was enjoying Jill's hospitality...you can be sure she was also just a bit jealous.

Not all things you do for a friend and they do for you carry equal weight. Jill allowing Bethanny to spend the summer at her home ...is huge...talking someone through a business deal is less so. I think Jill could pick and choose those times she was there for Bethanny as very personal friendship things...different in many ways from the things Bethanny brought to the table. Bethanny likes to play I can trash you faster and with more big words than you can trash me. She doesn't win this with Jill. And sorry Jill wins when she tells Bethanny, she didn call Jill's husband directly when he was in the hospital. That said more about Bethanny than most things. And when she argues she was busy with her second book...I think she dug herself a hole. Her nasty --get yourself a hobby--was what started this or at least cemented. It was such a nasty thing to say to someone who welcomed you into their home and family. And please people, there is no way that Jill doesn't telegraph what you are getting into if you decide to be her best bud. We all set our parameters of what it means to be our friend. My is that I am not high maintenance and that if we are good friends, I don't have to hear from you every day and our friend ship will remain the same unless you do something to defile it. My point is that we all have expectations of one sort or another and unless we are blind and stupid we know that when we begin a new friendship. So Bethanny is not telling the truth about Jill's friendship demands, she accepted them when she stayed at her home on the Hamptons...please

Suzanne Maxey
Suzanne Maxey

When I watch you and Jill it reminds me very much of a friendship that ended in a similar way. I was in a bad relationship and made a bad choice that my friend (one of my best I thought) could not forgive me. I did many of the same things you did. Tried to talk face to face, etc but she never forgave me. There are days I still miss her but you have to just move on. And quite honestly Jill (at least what has been shown) has been very toxic and immature. You deserve better and if you really aren't coming back to the show I'll be sad.

JazzZee
JazzZee

Bethany, You are a very beautiful lady. I've been a fan of yours from day 1. I love your spunk! I have never posted anything online before, but after watching last nights show, I couldn't resist. I felt so sorry for the way you were treated. I couldn't believe how angry I became at Jill and LuAnn for totally disrespecting you! Keep moving forward. Congratulations on your pregnancy and marriage. I wish you all the best!

devonna
devonna

Bethany, You are the greatest you have a way with words and a knack for people of all kind and I love it. Jill was so wrong the way she handled the meeting and Luanne what was up with her. Get a life Luanne...I'm so glad for you that everything is on track and good luck in your marriage and new birth I think this is the perfect guy for you from what I see on the show. And i think Ramona is a good friend for you also a little crazy but real. Try and weed through all the craziness if possible. You expressed yourself well at Ramona's with Jill and I can't wait to see her drop kick Luanne to the curb. lol

Take care.

DEBBIE S.
DEBBIE S.

You go girl! oh and gotta agree with pkm 04/13/2010 ~ 6:23pm

jillisdisgusting
jillisdisgusting

Bethenny,

You are so beautiful on the inside and the outside. Jill, on the otherhand is ugly on the outside and the inside. Friends have a way of showing their true colors and Jill really wasn't your friend. LuAnne is just using Jill and in the end Jill will be alone. I feel sorry for Jill's husband, Bobby.

Enjoy your great new life and your upcoming baby. I hate to think of you not being on the show but you have more important people in your life now. Most of these woman except Alex are not normal. Sometimes you have to have the courage to do what is right for YOU. I believe Jill is the TOXIC one!

Ronda
Ronda

Hi Bethenny,

I have been following your show since the first season. I feel when I am watching you I see myself. I understand a lot of your struggles and your pain. I too don't have a relationship with my father. I do not have much family either. I met my husband ( I thought I would never find such a wonderful person) and I don't feel lonely anymore. I am so so happy. That makes people so Jealious. I get strength when I watch your show. It just proves to me how jealious people can be when one is happy. I watch Jill and I think she with held the fact that her husband had cancer so she could use it against you. The reason I feel that way is because it seems she has to be number one in her BF life and when your career took off and you met your husband she got jealious and I believe that is the real problem in the situaion. Good luck and I am truly happy for you.

Ronda

rinyc
rinyc

Bethany, I'm not sure if we are seeing real life as it happens, so reflecting on what I am watching, well maybe it isn't "real", but that said, any time that I have really wanted to make up with some one, whether it was their fault or my own, I apologize and accept responsibility...that's it...you do not go thru why you did whatever you did...it doesn't matter, you say you are sorry, you tell them you love them, and you let them talk to get over their hurt feelings.

Indiana Viewer
Indiana Viewer

I think Jill is like Ragina George in "Mean Girls." The greatest blessing of your life will soon be here. After a child, everything will pale in comparison.....you just wait. Life has only begun as you know it. Go Team Bethany!

Dolly
Dolly

Bethany...Im impressed you handled yourself the way you did when Jill and Luanne and Ramona attackd you.I agree you and Alex are the only two authentic ones. I was disgusted with the way Jill acted. You stay true!

Eunice
Eunice

Bethenny, I am so glad that you finally are one of those lucky ladies who has everything! Jill created the "toxicity" that she keeps referring to. It's crystal clear. You have nothing to apologize for, in my mind. A true friend will have fights and in the end will always forgive and be back together again. You stated there was a lot more that happened that we do not know. That is fine. From what I've seen already, and what my vibes tell me, you are in a wonderful place now. The other stuff, well, it's all in the past, now. Enjoy your new life! You go, girl!

cyndilu
cyndilu

Bethenny, How long will we have to wait before Jill kicks Luanne to the curb? Jill is useless and I can't stand to watch the show because of her....Your better off without her. Good luck !

Megg
Megg

Hi Bethany - I just want you to know how great you are. You are the only "real" deal out of all the housewives. To be perfectly honest, your presence on the show is the only reason my husband and I continue to watch. You're adorable, and I know you've had a lot going on recently, but try to stay true to who you are. Don't change. It really is a shame that you and Jill can't work things out, but it's her loss. I feel sorry for her. There is obviously something going on with her. I think it speaks volumes for a person's character when they extend themselves the way you did for her. And yet, what did she do? How did she respond? .....yeah....sorry Jill, but you're a Class "less" act. Bethany, take care of yourself, your hubby AND that baby!!! Enjoy this time...really savor every minute of your pregnancy. This is the best time in your life! God Bless you....xo

Marie v
Marie v

I think bethany is better off. I am the same type of person. I will try to apologize if I make a mistake with a friend, but if they don't accept it there is not reason to beg. I think Bethany tried her best to fix the problem, but Jill has issues. It wasn't that serious! I have in the past been very insensitive to a friend, but came to her with an authentic apology and we moved passed it. I am so glad that Bethany is finally happy and should continue to keep drama filled people like Jill away!

Phyllis Cambria
Phyllis Cambria

Bethenny,I've been where you are and I'm sure you already realize that as sad as you must have been from the loss of your friendship with Jill, it really was one of the best things that could have happened. People like her tend to take more than give.

I went through a similar relationship with someone. For many years, when I could be someone she felt she could "teach," or that I was her "project," we had a relationship that was virtually identical to your relationship with Jill. But the moment I started to come into my own and experienced my own success, rather than cheering me on, she systematically tried to destroy me. And, for a short time, she did destroy me emotionally. But like you, I'm resilient and I came to realize that that was not a true friendship. And eventually Jill and "The Countess" will also have a falling out when Luann no longer "needs" her.

But I will say, the thing I'll miss most about your relationship with Jill is your spot-on impression of her. They always made me laugh.

Much happiness to you in your marriage, your career and may you have a very happy and healthy baby.

Stop wasting your tears. To paraphrase an old expression, with friends like Jill, who needs enemies?

You deserve much better and I'm so proud of you for going out and getting everything you want and should have.

Staci Green
Staci Green

You Rock, I'm going through the same thing with my best friend and you do all you can but in the end your happiness is the only thing that matters. Good Luck with the baby, I hope you are in the next seasons as well, your my favorite!!!!

jmaz
jmaz

Bethenny you are authentic. Stay that way. Its refreshing to watch both you and Alex the only two real adults on the show.

A Girl Friend
A Girl Friend

Hey so is what we saw last season real. Cause I really felt that you and Jill had a great love and respect for each other. I am hoping for the two of you to make peace and this is why. Bethanny you mentioned on the show your lack of family. I also very much have delt with this my whole life. My father was not around from 4 yrs old and my mother was young. I was moved around from Manhattan, NJ, Hawaii. Makes you grow up fast but lonely. Even now as I have a loving husband, two sons and his family, there is always something missing. I saw that the two of you (jill and you) where like family. You will need this in your life with a child and husband. I hope you have it with other friends. I cherish it in my life. I am sad for your loss of her friendship and think she should have had some grace when you approached her. I think you are a wonderfully transparent person and if you were my girlfriend I would not have thrown it away. You made a good team. Blessings to you, your husband and baby.

Patty from Atlanta
Patty from Atlanta

Bethany, you have so much more class than Jill and Luann. You don't need them high schoolers. I cannot believe these grown women act this way. My 14 yr old daughter is more mature than they are. Well enough of them, they are not worth it. I want to congratulate you and Jason and cannot wait on your bundle of joy this June.