Kelly Killoren Bensimon

Kelly talks about her 'alleged' misdemeanor, lunch with Jill and LuAnn, and more!

on Mar 3, 20100

 

Welcome back to The Real Housewives of New York City Season 3. So much has happened over the summer. I had such a great time with my two girls in East Hampton. It is incredible to see how much they grow with sun, laughter, and love.

The first time you see me is when LuAnn, Jill, and I meet at Nichols, which is my favorite Hampton's haunt for lunch. I love the low key atmosphere and the delicious food. The three of us sat down to eat, and I was nervous to film with them. I haven't seen anyone since the Reunion show, or what I call the courtroom (the only lawyer present is the Google alert). The women were all very aggressive with me, and I was clearly bored by the nonsense. I will say anything to get someone off my back. I just talk about anything until they stop berating me with gossip and banter. I unfortunately have the Housewife police on me to tell you what they heard from a best friend's friend they met in high school. Please check out my blog at kellykillorenbensimon.com to see what I am really doing.

During our lunch Jill and LuAnn were filling me in on what had happened over the summer. We spoke of my 'alleged' misdemeanor, which was dismissed. If anyone touches you, call the police. It isn't a joke, and no one needs to go through what I went through. Let the authorities do their job. LuAnn seems to be acclimating well after her situation. Life changes for the good or the bad. Is it my job to judge what she does? No. Can I listen and learn from her experiences? Yes. Jill also has gone through a lot with Bobby and Bethenny. I am grateful to hear of Bobby's recovery. As for Bethenny, her job is to sensationalize anything for media attention. I feel for Jill, because she thought their relationship was real. Real for TV, that was obvious. I came back to the show for one reason. I am not an actor; if I wanted an improvisational class I would go to an amazing acting class, I would not go on a reality TV show. It's tough filming when some women are geared up for "filming their scenes." I am just having fun and enjoying the process. Wish me luck.

PS - Please tweet me @kikilet if you have any questions. It is important to me that you see the real me. I appreciate the criticism.

104 comments
Kelly, Kelly
Kelly, Kelly

I get you....so call me dumb.

"aly"....I liked your comment.

"RHONYC"....I liked yours too.

aly
aly

Kelly- I love your spirit. There is nothing wrong with living in La La Land, I have a vacation house there. I am shocked you "befriended" Jill and LuAnn. Hiding behind them does not keep you out of the line of fire. It is just a matter of time before you are their next target. Being "neutral" doesn't work when handling venomous snakes. Humans are jealous by nature; so I say let them choke on it! That's their deal. Regarding Bethenny, don't jump on the "we hate B bandwagon". She is actually not as mean as you think. She seems like a firecracker compared to Jill and LuAnn who are toxic bombs. You can handle a Sparkler right?

Viewer 1
Viewer 1

I agree with Fan in CA, spit it out girl.

Hope you have fun.

MA Team Jill
MA Team Jill

Kelly,

Just keep being you!! A smart, attractive, single working mother. Let all of the critics comments fall on deaf ears. You are great, fantastic and yes AMAZING!!! If the word fits, use it. All the best to you. Mary Ann

RHONYC
RHONYC

Kelly! You are my favorite housewife of all housewives show (it used to be Jill, but not anymore). You are confident, you look good, and you love your kids. I love that you love to have fun! Life is dead w/o fun, passion, and stimulation. So cheers!

Laura in Birmingham
Laura in Birmingham

You are definitely the coolest one. My friends and I would totally be your friend before the others ;)

SandyDee
SandyDee

The title is so funny when all you're doing is judging in the blog.

JoAnn C
JoAnn C

Kelly....You are one of my favorite housewives. I find your honesty and your "up front" attitude very refreshing. About 20 years ago I worked for NYNEX and had a general manager named Christine Killorin. I have noticed a strong resemblence between you & she and I was wondering if you were possibly related?....JoAnn C.

Eric Hernandez
Eric Hernandez

Kelly i really didnt expect to see you back this season. you rubbed me off the wrong way the second season but it really seems like you are making an effort this year and i hope it works out.

housewivetoo
housewivetoo

kelly, I think you are a very exciting person. last year you seemed a little confused but this year you seem more together. you have an energy about you. you are very chic and sophisticated and i don't think alot of people relate to that but don't change who or what you are !!!! It is good not to be a cookie cutter housewive like the other ones on the show!! team kelly all the way !!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!!

Port Orange, Fl
Port Orange, Fl

Word of advice, don;t get caught up in the gossip and others' opinions. Get to know the other housewives one on one, accept them for their personalities, and form your own opinions.

Sharona
Sharona

Hey, Kelly, Love the bracelet that I brought from your line. I get many nice comments. It's so AMAZING!!

Thanks!!

Fan in CA
Fan in CA

You say in your blog that "I came back to the show for one reason". But, you didn't say what that reason was. Why are you doing the show? Because the show has gained so much popularity, I do think the Housewives are nicely compensated (I don't think that was the case in the 1st season of O.C.), so that could be the reason. Or to redeem yourself, because you weren't portrayed very well in the first season you were on. But, what is you 'one' reason? I also think you aren't very clear in your communication. I'm sure you know what you mean, but it doesn't come across very clear sometimes. Like LuAnn said in the first episode, I don't really get some of your analogies.

Demi1
Demi1

Kelly you are adorable!! I hope viewers start to see what you really are...great person! Not an opportunist who needs audience to sell!! I wish you the best =)

mismememe
mismememe

Kelly, even from last season I didn't dislike you. I know you are or were the underdog, but I can see good/bad in all the housewives, and in you I mostly see misunderstood.

Sure, nobody is perfect, we've all said, or acted in ways we wish we could take back wether our acts were big or small. I feel like you are a private person (like myself) and you say no when you want to and you were right to call Bethenny out at the charity that time for her smart comment.

I hope it's not true that you only say hi to men and not women, if it is then you can learn from it for next time. We are all growing all the time so we can all improve our faults.

I don't think you are stuck up or a b*tch or anything. I get the vibe you are genuiwine and maybe things don't come out right or people choose to take them the wrong way.

Sending you my good wishes.

MellowMama
MellowMama

Please.Can you choose another word besides "amazing" to describe all of your favy fav things? Let's make like a thesaurus for a moment and brainstorm some new choices....

stupendous miraculous inspirational fascinating impressive spectacular mind-boggling titillating staggeringly_____ (fill in the blank. Staggeringly poor word choice.) astonishingly _____ (fill in the blank. Astonishingly repetitive.) astounding

You get the idea.

We're begging you here. Please choose another word.

Loisvw
Loisvw

I think that it's really great that you're the only housewives who says something in her blog about Bobby's recovery. I can't stand it that most housewives accuse each other in their blogs, I mean come on... grown up much? Hope this season will give you the opportunity to show your heart.

JC
JC

Please Kelly, you don't have any right to judge Bethany and Jill's friendship, and whether it was real or for TV. It's so obvious, you want to attack Bethany, and as for Jill, it's just as obvious she is befriending you to hurt Bethany. Try worrying about yourself, since you are way up there, maybe you could show at little class and not get involved in a relationship that has nothing to do with you........

Viewer MG
Viewer MG

Kelly, I love that you're sort of quirky & bohemian. I know the others don't always get you but too bad. You're one of a kind.

As for Bethenny, she's no one's friend & it's boring watching her take out her insecurities & resulting anger out on the rest if you. While on Watch What Happens recently she even managed to be vicious to people who aren't even on Housewives (Padma from Top Chef & Rachel Zoe). She's a lunatic.

Really looking forward to seeing you in the new season of NY.

Kim in New Mexico
Kim in New Mexico

I enjoyed you in the first episode. I think that you are great. We all go through moments when we're misunderstood. Don't read the negative stuff.

Beth Donahue-Weedman
Beth Donahue-Weedman

The reason Alex is the dark horse is because she always answers her fans personally. So does Simon. Of the 20 or 30 Real Housewives, she is the only one who does this. It's a very simple lesson really. If you answer a fan, they love you forever. Other HW should learn this lesson.

lynbrook, ny
lynbrook, ny

Why would you be doing community service if the charge was dropped? Did you plead to a lesser charge and were sentenced to community service? That is not having a charge dropped... that is cutting a deal to keep your name out of the press. I am curious about the inconsistency of the comment.

BethennySTOP
BethennySTOP

Kelly, PLEASE learn a new word besides "amazing." Weren't you a journalism major at Columbia Extension?

Jany
Jany

Kelly... you are the nuttiest housewife...I do think you could use some intervention on how crazy you sound

femflower
femflower

You know Kelly, the bottom line is that you are a gorgeous woman and we all know that other women are very threatened by beautiful women. Unfortunately, this puts you in a position to have to try harder to convince other women that you are not a threat and sometimes you do come off as not really giving a damn about these women...but you are on a show called the "Real Housewives of New York" and now you have to try to get along. Or...you could branch off with a show titled "Kelly the Real Chick of New York". Truly, I like all of the women and think that perhaps the cameras bring out the worst at moments.

Cynthia C.
Cynthia C.

Team Kelly! Kelly, I am so pleased you have returned again for this season. I'm especially happy we will hopefully get to see more of the "human side of your personality". Bethanny attacked you all last season, reasons have yet to be validated by her. But, this falling out with Jill, will hopefully bring light on the side of Bethanny that was somehow overlooked by millions of viewers last season. Bethanny last season inquired if you (Kelly) had close girlfriend relationships. Yet when Bobby Zarin is diagnosed with cancer, she sends her best-est (BFF) friend a gift basket? LOVE Jills line "and so did the mailman". And sees her when filming begins for this season? Clearly the lines of the definition of a friend are blurred with Bethanny-since she attempted to call you out. Give em' hell this season girl, YOU are amazing.

Cynthia C.
Cynthia C.

Team Kelly! Kelly, I am so pleased you have returned again for this season. I'm especially happy we will hopefully get to see more of the "human side of your personality". Bethanny attacked you all last season, reasons have yet to be validated by her. But, this falling out with Jill, will hopefully bring light on the side of Bethanny that was somehow overlooked by millions of viewers last season. Bethanny last season inquired if you (Kelly) had close girlfriend relationships. Yet when Bobby Zarin is diagnosed with cancer, she sends her best-est (BFF) friend a gift basket? LOVE Jills line "and so did the mailman". And sees her when filming begins for this season? Clearly the lines of the definition of a friend are blurred with Bethanny-since she attempted to call you out. Give em' hell this season girl, YOU are amazing.

Kia
Kia

Very well put! I wasn't a huge fan last season but I am liking how you are coming across thus far! Best!

Avery Claiborne
Avery Claiborne

Why such a goofy color combination for your cover? I understand that you & your ex worked together on this shoot. And you stated it was a first for both of you, but your choice of red & yellow makes it looks like an ad for a street hotdog vendor.

Kristee
Kristee

Kelly you need to communicate more clearly - you make no sense. You say you were clearly bored...you aren't bringing a whole lot to the table with your conversation.

JoRoMa
JoRoMa

You're the most misunderstood housewife but I do get you. As you say, you have created a good life and love living it but unfortunately you didn't realize that others may think and wish differently for you.

Don't let that recent unfortunate event make you too cynical, just keep it in your mind that those people exist and continue to enjoy your life.

Sugahbee
Sugahbee

You were right to be bored while those women were attacking you in the reunion show.

Why waste emotions on someone's whose opinion you don't care anything about? If someone I didn't like/respect were attacking me-and it's happened before-I'd do just what you did-Ignore them. Who cares what they think?? Your opinion of yourself and your daughters love and respect:that should be your focus.

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Love you Kelly and love your blog

Geea7
Geea7

Kelly, I love you. You are so right about Bethenny. I just hope that Jill actually IS done with Bethenny. I am proud of LuAnn for standing up to her. Anyway, you looked great as always. I only hope more viewers start to see through Bethenny and then start to give you a chance. Hang in there!

linny
linny

i just think,Kelly, that u are a little confusing in the things you say and at the end of the day, you come off as jealous of Bethany.

Slaen
Slaen

Kelly, you did seem somewhat softer and nicer on the season premiere. I didn't like you at all last season, after that "you're down here, I'm up here" statement, but maybe you learned from it. I look forward to watching how you progress over the season. God Bless!

NewJersey
NewJersey

KELLY. I just found out on the premiere that you were 41. IS THAT TRUE? I always thought u were 29 - 31 the most. how the heck do you do it.

cmerc
cmerc

Kelly, bravo. A well written blog. I get bored listening to the other housewife's gossip and banter!It gets gross. I feel for you. You're interesting to watch unfold. Christine

Southern Charm
Southern Charm

Kelly:

I think you have the right attitude. Have fun, and enjoy life. I cannot believe these "high class" ladies think it is appropriate to yell, insult, bicker and just be nasty in general to each other. Stay out of it. They look so ugly.

LauriefromOH
LauriefromOH

Kelly ... just stop already! Stop, stop, stop...

Viewer FL
Viewer FL

Kelly, I believe there is much to you than what was shown last season. You are a nice person and you will do anything to difuse an argument even take the blame for yourself. I think you are great and I hope they show more of you this season. Much love!

Tracirk3
Tracirk3

Kelly, if the charges were "dismissed" then why were you doing community service? Kellyworld must be a very strange place to be.

Bev m.
Bev m.

kelly.your my fav on new york.you were my fav last year and glad to see you back.i understood your batman and robin.i have been married to my batman husband for 28 years and i am 45 he 46.i will be watching,

huh?
huh?

If all charges were "dismissed" then why did you perform the court ordered community service?

annroelm
annroelm

Kelly= You are so right, it isn't your place to judge. Then how come you are so quick to judge Bethenny? There is no need to issue an opinion about what she does, just be polite and say nothing. It's no secret that the two of you aren't friends. Try taking the high road and remain polite and civil, nothing more.

km82
km82

Kelly:

I just don't buy you as an reliable person. You are not honest about who you really are. I saw you on HLN and wanted to scream. When asked if you had some jealousy towards Bethenny's success, all three of you deny it, and say you are all successful woman in your own right. What you leave out is that unlike Bethenny, Alex and Ramona, you married to obtain the monetary success you have experienced in your lives. Yes, you were a model. But that ends at some point, and with you troubles I think it would have been nearly impossible for you to obtain the kind of monetary success you seem to have. Jill certainly married into Zarin fabrics, as did LouAnn marry into Alex's money. It is fine to marry money, but just own it. It's not owning your true motives that drives people nuts about you. You are a pretty woman from a physical point of view, but I am not so sure the same can be said from an emotional standpoint. In your interview on HLN you also said that Bethenny attacked you, and you put her in her place. It was you who asked for the meeting, and it was you who ran around screaming and flustered at the meeting all the while Bethenny stayed calm and coherent. I think your best bet is to indeed stay away from Bethenny, because you are simply outmatched, and end up with your mouth open and speechless after each meeting. I don't know what it is about you, but I am not a fan. But I do wish you well, and certainly hold out hope that some day you will act more honestly in your life.

Pamela B
Pamela B

You are the fakest person I have ever seen. Of course you want to capitalize on what Bethany and Jill are going through. To say that Bethany's job is to sensationalize anything for the media is so hypocritical of you. Thats exactly what you do. Why are you on the show, leave go away.

BarbinGa
BarbinGa

Kelly,

Please be honest and answer a question for me. How can you get community service if the charges were dismissed?