One again, your article is very nice

Luann,

I love your style on the show. Especially your dresses and scarves, please tell us where you shop!

Thanks!

I have another comment. It's about the use of the word "class", that word is not generally used by people who have any. I think your description of what it is was spot on, it's about putting other people at ease. And everyone on the show has it excuding Romona, who I like (she is just a little rough around the edges) and Kelly (who is absolutely horrific, that is what people abroard mean when they say "Ugly American"). It's just an ugly word, I wish you could come up with another title for your book...

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Hi Luann, I love to watch you on the show. I hope you and your children are doing well. Keep up the good work and I love your hairstyle. I have tried to show a picture to my hairstylist but I am not too sure she knows exactly how to style the back of my hair. Would you mind telling me what is your beautiful hairstyle. Thanks

We had the pleasure of being at LuAnn's first book signing on Long Island last month. Not only was she personable, charming and funny, she also told us to be careful what to believe on the show because they edit it the way they see fit. For example, in the beginning of the show she is heard saying, "I don't feel guilty for being privalleged". What you didn't hear was the ending of that statement: "I feel lucky".
She spoke about everything, including her impending divorce with "the Count" with class. Give the woman a break and don't believe everything you see on t.v.

I have to agree with one of the comments made on this blog . . . your daughter is absolutely lovely. You have certainly done a wonderful job of rearing her to be a sensitive, kind person. I especially loved the episode when she came home from school and told you that she had gone shopping at Good Will. Kudos to her.

I want to send tremendous thanks and graditude out to all those great new friends that we meet during LuAnn's book signing in CT. LuAnn showed all those who attended that she is a down to earth, well balanced, natural all-american young lady and she truly loved all those who came out to see her. RJ Julia bookstore said that it was the first time ever that all of the books completely sold out and I was very impressed with her ability to speak so dearly to her audience and kept all of them on the edge of their seats with her discussion on her book. She did a tremendous job and I am so proud of her. We made many new friends and acquaintances at Cafe Allegre afterwards and she was able to show them all what a beautiful and truly fun-loving person we all knew she was. We are VERY proud of you for all that you have accomplished and you know you will always have your family behind you.

Being frivolous and flaunting your money is not classy.

Money doesn't buy taste or class!

I had the pleasure of meeting and spending time with Princess Diana several times, before her untimely death.

As you can imagine, she was always the picture of decorum and graciousness. Always friendly and warm. The first time we met, she introduced herself simply as "Diana". She never stood on ceremony and certainly did not allow anyone to call her Princess or Lady. Which were her rightful titles at the time.

You're an American (of native American decent as you like to point out), reared in a country that was founded on the LACK of aristocracy, class devision and royalty. And yet you insist people refer to you as Countess and correct anyone with a pulse.

Two things.

How is an archaic European title pushed on unwitting and uncaring Americans considered gracious and well mannered?

And what gives with the obsession?

Boulder, Co

Lose the title foolishness. Makes no difference to us lil Peeps and esp to lowly limo drivers.

Dear LuAnn: I absolutely love you on the show. I believe that you stand out, not because of your title, but because you truly "walk the walk" when it comes to class. I wanted to also say that I picked up your book yesterday, and it is absolutely DIVINE! I could not put it down last night, but it was getting late, so I had to force myself to go to sleep. I love the stories; they are very endearing. And I wholeheartedly agree that true class, refinement, and consideration seem to have been "thrown out with the plastic containers." I hope that you do a book tour and go all over the country!

i had to write today just to tell you what a wonderful daughter i think you have. It was amazing to see how much she had matured in the short time she was away. You are an excellent mother and it was really lovely to get an inside glimpse into your relationship with Victoria. Thank you for allowing us in.

I thought it was totally classless for you to haggle with the street vendor over the price of the necklaces you bought for you and your daughter. This man is out there trying to make a living and you have the nerve to haggle over $180; chump change to you! Then, not 5 minutes later, you go into a store and look at the price of a dress and comment that the price doesn't matter. What nerve! I don't have one quarter of the money that you obviously have but I would never be that classless. I certainly won't be buying your book!

Class with the Countess, what a joke. You are out shopping with your Daughter, haggle with a street vendor over the price of two neclaces then go to a store to buy clothes and tell your Daughter not to worry about how much it costs.
I guess the struggling vendor didnt need the extra $30.00. I knew the whole time how fake you are.

Your Highness, Mrs DeLesseps or whatever-

What did you do to earn/deserve so much respect? I know you married the Count, but reeeaaaally!! In this day and age of still so much segregation of races,classes,creeds,etc. and all,I would think you should be trying leessen the differences... like insisting you be called the Highness! "Me thinks" you like yourself too much!

I keep trying to like you and see you must have had a lack of confidence at some point to be so insistant about this recognition you seem to require!! I know at times you are wonderful to watch and then you dosomething that shoots it all to heck by making a snide remark to soemone.Try to look in the mirror for other things like your own actions... instead of beauty tips or again whatever!! I'll keep trying to see your side of things!

Cathy from Iowa

Before you buy the book, check reviews on Amazon and B&N!

I do not think it is "classy" to go to the boys and girls club, listen to the girls hopes and dreams, and when one says she wants to be a model, you tell her she has times to lose weight and grow taller. And this was supposed to be a talk on self-esteem??? I am puzzled.

You owe her an apology.

I must say I agree with Catherine Cole, you need to step back and take a very long look at how you treat people and your own manners. It was very disturbing to watch you on TV telling a young beautiful girl that she needs to lose weight. Obviously a title does not teach you manners!

Lulu, the point of the meeting with the girls was to promote self esteem. How do you think that girl felt when you humiliated her in front of her friends?

One thing I wish bravo would do is to compile a montage of you talking with your mouth full. Now that isn't proper etiquette, yet you do so in public and in your family life continuously.

Get over yourself. I am the direct 39th great grand daughter of Henry I of England. I don't feel the necessity to announce that fact to everyone I meet. I only mention it here to show how silly it is, and it means nothing in American Society.

You recycle?? OR you leave old, decripit, cheap pizza boxes for Rosie to address when she comes home from vacation??

I teach etiquette, manners and decorum in CT to children and adults. I would love to meet you one day. Perhaps you could host a luncheon for etiquette consultants like myself in NYC. I would be honored to attend. Karen A CT

You are so wonderful and beautiful and timeless. I love everything about you. Please do not leave the show. You are awesome.

YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Luann - You are my inspiration!

http://classlesscommoner.blogspot.com/

I think you should shun Mario and Ramona.
His comment about your family life is uncalled for.
The two of them are angry, jealous fools.
I can't imagine they even read books...How Avery is
their daugher is beyond me. Your children are
poised and lovely...because of you!!!
Keep smiling.

Hi Luann, I love to watch you on the show. I hope you and your children are doing well. Keep up the good work and I love your hairstyle. I have tried to show a picture to my hairstylist but I am not too sure she knows exactly how to style the back of my hair. Would you mind telling me what is your beautiful hairstyle. Thanks

Ann, I love watching you on Housewives of New York, you are definitely classy, well spoken, stylish, and a woman who cares deeply for younger females of not so forunate circumstances. Thanks, for reaching out and giving of yourself to such a worthy cause. You will be remembered! I can't wait to read your book. It's never to late to learn proper matters and etiquette, which will enchance one's confidence and well being. Continue doing what you are doing.

I don't believe that you meant to tell the little girl that she was fat because it doesn't seem like something you would say. Normally if someone would say something tactless on one of these shows the music would scratch to a halt and the expressions on the other people's face would be of shock and mortification. I thought it was cute what you did for those girls. No they may not have been interested in being you being a Countess but seriously they loved having someone pay so much attention to them and she you seemed down to Earth and real. Hats off to you.

I watched the preview clip of your daughter returning home from school. She is becoming absolutely beautiful as she matures. She is so naturally pretty.. She will never need make-up, expensive clothes, etc. to look good.. I thought it was really sweet when she talked about getting the clothes at Goodwill. Believe it or not, that's a big trend with the teens now! I think it's great that they can see that they can have fun shopping for unusual, cool things without spending tons of money on designer clothes.. Nice to see Rosie in this clip, also. We love Rosie!!!

You are grace and elelgance personified. All the best to you and your children.

I cannot stand the way you insist that the "little people" call you Mrs. + last name. Heaven forbid a "lower class" person call you LuAnn! Tsk Tsk

Dear Luann,
There are people in all stations of life that have class. Money, titles, fame, etc. are not prerequisites.

People with true class do not feel the need discuss how classy they are,do not judge other people, and do not consider themselves above anyone else.

During the incident in the car when you explained to Bethanny that you should be introduced to the driver as "Countess" or "Mrs" simply because you considered him as a person of the service industry and as such, below your status, is a perfect example. He showed far more class than you by ignoring your judgemental and pretentious attitude.

A book on etiquette is wonderful, as I also believe manners are becoming something of the distant past, however perhaps you should do a bit more research on the subject you have chosen to write on.

I have seen you act in ways that are absolutely lacking in manners and class very often on the show.

Find people with true class, perhaps a mentor for yourself,and when you have learned enough about the subject and can perhaps live it as well, you may have the true knowledge to write a book on it.

Truly, think about the way you act and treat other people and understand that viewers who have watched your behavior on the show are as amused about your book as they are on Alex and Simon writing a book on parenting.

Sincerely,
Cathleen Cole

I got the last copy of your book from our local bookseller who is promising to order more. She was raving about how its about time someone wrote an etiquette book that was entertaining without beind demeaning or boring. Well Done!

A book such as yours is needed in this world of technology. It seems the technology used to communicate with people so often detracts from the communication.

How often do you take a call, even when inconvenienced, only to be put on hold because the caller has another call coming in? I mean, how rude! I hope the book addresses "call waiting".

I can think of so many instances that show a lack of civility, let alone manners in this techy world; rude emails hastily composed but sent anyway, being in the company of someone who takes every call that comes in on their cell, totally absenting themselves, on and on.

I will buy your book and I'm tempted to give it to some of the worst offenders that I know! Would that be rude? : )

You are elegant and classy. I appreciate how you handle yourself in difficult situations. I look forward to your book.

Luann... out of all the housewives I like you the best. I appreciate your need for a lady to remain a lady in a day and age where women want to wear the pants. You have class, elegance and taste. And lets not forget you are an awesome mom. I found it a bit awkward during that time when you and Bethany had that run about the "airbrushing issue"...lolol omg get over it. You were being factual and she took it to a whole other level. You handled that gracefully. I hope your book is a huge success!!

LuAnn..it's great to see you spend so much time mentoring. However, I think the weight comment you made was very insensitive. She was tell you her dream and you basically tore her down. Do you know how many plus size models are out there? Girls from the inner city are told on a daily basis what they can not accomplish and I'm sure you did not help her self esteem at all. Shame on You.

you're a sweet lady, but you're just the slightest bit pompous, and shrouded within a mist of this French fantasy that you've manifested in your wildest dreams. you're Native American honey, your ancestors were here harvesting the land,(we're talking pre-Columbus, pre-Mayflower),while his were building the Suez en France. People don't come anymore American than that. Represent who YOU are, not who you're ex-husband is, it's very demonstrative as to what kind of personal views you have on who you are, and where you came from. As a sidebar, YES, they do have the zone diet in the Phillipines.

Hello beautiful Lulu!
YOU ARE ELEGANE PERSONIFIED! FROM THE INCEPTION OF THIS REAL HOUSEWIVES I WAS ABSOLUTELY TERRIFIED NEW YORK WOMEN WITH MEANS WOULD BE PORTRAYED IN A BAD LIGHT!

THANK THE HEAVENS FOR YOU!

You have done us all proud! No matter the situation, your phrasealogy's on people, topics, events are always
consistant with your ladylike approach to life. You are strong, yet know when to be soft! You are a fabulous mother to your children, especially with having a partner who is often abroad.

From those of us watching who KNOW...THANK YOU MY DARLING!
YOU ARE DOING US PROUD!

As far as the Society angle goes, these girls are not Society. An expensive apartment, a limo and a house in the Hamptons does not society make. Those accoutrement won’t hurt if that’s what you’re looking for; but they also won’t help. These girls are all spawns of the subPrime world that is now imploding around us.

I found this quote on the sight: David Patrick Columbias NY Social Diary.

Just goes to show ya. Never thought for one minute this crew was "Society", No one ever heard of them til RHONY, RIGHT?????

You need to google the Suez Canal, and read about its history w/regard to the deLesseps. Old Ferdinand used over 30,000 Egyptian slave laborers etc etc. read it, was very interesting.....not something I would have been proud of(well, the years were 1854 and 1856) The deLesseps family did not single handedly build the Suez Canal old ferdie formed a company to do it.

LuAnne,
You are the only member of RHWNYC that has her head on straight. Seems that people forget that there are cameras watching and editors editing. It is a show, after all, and they are creating personas according to what Bravo perceives as achieving the best ratings. You are one classy and beautiful lady. What an interesting life you have been living and will continue to live. God Bless you in all you do. B.

Etiquette!! What is classy about the gossip you pull away the other housewives to engage in? And wOw, you worked on the book ALL LAST FALL!! Did you know people work on books for months and even years?? Class and etiquette would be a Barbara Walters, Jackie Kennedy, or someone like Ellen or Oprah, people who wouldn't be caught dead bashing someone, or talking behind their backs or in an unkind, demeaning way. Start with the basics and rewrite the book, countess. Or better yet, don't even bother.

A real housewive from New York (upstate, that is)

The book is outstanding.

LuAnn,

I appreciate your effort to write a book outlining proper etiquette. It is definetly a lost art. However, I have to agree with 'Renee' as I too have seen your obvious lack of etiquette many times throughout the show. Example: Ramona's comment on the Counts age. Yes Ramona should not of said that, but your tantrum in front of your daughter and the Breast Cancer survivors was inappropriate.

Secondly, I understand that your a Countess and are living the fabulous life, but when you met with the Boys/Girls Club pre-teens, I felt that you didn't need to tell the young ladies about your 'position' in society. How can you expect to relate to these young people when your discussion is about how fabulous your life is? This too is another example of poor etiquette.

Well I for one am GLAD you told the young girl to lose weight! It was very clear that she had a weight problem and apparently no one cares enough about her to address this issue in her home. Model indeed.

Obesity is a serious public health issue and young people are very much affected by it.
Good for you for finding a way to say what needed to be said!

LuAnne,
I can't wait to read your book when it comes out! I loved the choice in title, and am excited to read some of your personal stories and experiences you've weaved in.

I wish you had made an appearance at the A-list awards...everyone knows you're going through some personal family turmoil but now is the perfect time to hold your head up high and continue living your life girl!

Live it up Countess b/c you're fabulous!

Luann- I really enjoy your scenes and am looking forward to buying your book. Keep your head up and keep enjoying those two beautiful kids. If I didn't think you were so classy, I'd tell you to high -tail it over to Merry-o's house and kick his snotty, spiteful ass. But I won't.

LuAnn,

We get it....you're important. Now please stop reminding us every episode. We love you without the title, and the book.