Hello Bravo watchers! This is my first blog so let's get to it.
Firstly, dating/networking/flirting and sex are two different things! So if you see me out at a movie or dinner with a fine man, or hear me say I enjoy the company of men, don't assume we are more than friends (even if I am an incorrigible flirting drama queen who likes to get a rise!) Excuse the pun.
I have made a living for myself from my networking by endorsing restaurants, resorts, artists, films, assorted venture capital deals, because some people say I have good taste and know how to live. Hence the title "lifestyle expert." I guess gardening, charity work, good food, wine, yoga and animals just aren't as sensational for reality television. Come on folks! What am I the Lily von Schtupp of Blazing Saddles for the RHNYC? I guess I will just have to wear that lampshade because as long as my mouth runs on tape there will always be great edits to create a stir.
So episode 8, season 3.
How funny was the scene with Jill's dog, Ginger? Everyone out there in this kind of situation needs to have a bottle of Nature's Miracle. (Red and white bottle) I don't know how I lived without it and have had a slew of dogs, cats, horses, and other animal mishaps. It neutralizes odors, and removes yellow stains. Perfume will not. It's also amazing on baby stains. I will leave that up to your imagination.
Ramona was spot on with her daughter in trusting her to make the right decisions at this point. She has given Avery the upbringing to support that. I also thought Avery's hair was incredibly chic.
I felt LuAnn's pain. If I ever lose my townhouse I will be crushed. It's our main home and where my daughter feels secure. Divorce and moving are on the top ten stress list. However, LuAnn is handling it with class, and her sprawling Hampton place IS her family's main home, and that IS divine. She will have a ball decorating her new NY place and hopefully LuAnn will ask for my help. I adore creating a wonderful environment for people who have an aesthetic sense along with wholesome family values.
I have to say you are a much needed breath of fresh air on the show. I respect your outlook, your fun approach to life and the ability to stay out of the drama so far. You, Bethenney and Alex are my favs by far. I love that you own your sexuality as it is nothing to be ashamed of and Theresa (RHONJ)'s comments toward you were uncalled for and tacky.
keep being yourself! We already love watching you!
Love your townhouse - you seem to have good taste and good manners. Could do without all the sex discussions but we'll see where that goes. Are you ready for the fray???
I think you’re a great add to the show! you seem genuine, smart, sassy and most importantly fun! I was amused watching your dinner with LuAnn and Kelly, you seemed to have caught them off guard (as their conversation topics always seem to sound very rehearsed) you seem very natural and care free and most importantly Real and Refreshing!!! It’s nice to see a confident woman who knows she’s fabulous and doesn’t feel the need to advertise it!
Welcome aboard Sonja, you seem to be a breath of fresh air. Please understand that your new cast mate, JZ keeps a mead spiral notebook of all the kind things she does with all of her "friends" so that she can use it against you should you slight her by having a friend she is fighting with...yes, you are back in grade school. Here is some good advice, if you want to diet just poor your wine over your food...in a restaurant and poof, you won't eat that portion. You may have to explain your ill manners and disrespect to the chef, but you'll be skinny!
So far, love you! You add alot to the mix. Your confidence is contagious and makes us all want to think the best of ourselves.
Great blog! You show great character for letting Jill's nasty remark slide. If the shoe were on the foot, she wouldn't have been so magnanimous!
Sonja, I think you are divine! You are truly a breath of fresh air on a show with SO much drama! I think you are very charming and very beautiful, in a striking sort of way. You have a lovely personality and outlook, and I think you will be entertaining to watch! Keep up the great attitude.
Sonja, you are such a refreshing addition to the show. I'm looking forward to watching a self assured, beautiful, and intelligent individual that is not looking to cow tow to the other ladies. Welcome!
So far Sonja, I really like you.....PLEASE, PLEASE, STAY THE SAME! AND WATCH OUT FOR LUANN,KEEP IT REAL. IF YOU LIKE SEX, THEN HEY, IT'S NOTHING WRONG WITH IT!!! WE ALL DO IT!
Great first blog. It seems as though all the ladies like you, that says a lot about you! Jill makes snarky remarks because she can, she doesn't need to KNOW you.
Alex likes you, so I like you! Welcome to the show!
I like you. Yes, I do. You might actually be the classiest of the bunch. Straight talker. Keep them on their toes next season. You are off to a good start.
You seem to be a breath of fresh air for this season. It seems that a few of the "housewives" take themselves a little too seriously. I'm interested to see how and if you blend in with them...
I think you'll be a great addition to the show. You have alot of spice and a great attitude on how to savor the good things in life............I like you already.
Welcome to the jungle, Sonja! Just stay above it and have fun as you always seem to do. Jill's mean to everybody these days. Glad to see you say nice things about Bethenny. Watch your back with Kelly and LuAnne.You seem to have a positive effect on Ramona.Have you met Alex yet? She's cool.
It appears you don't know Jill that well.It also appears you have not watched past seasons or this current season. Jill made the nasty comment about you because she is Jill. Jill does not need a reason. You were getting the attention and she did not like that. You better wise up quick or you are really in for one rough ride. Since it appears you have not watched this show before, let me give you another little warning. LuAnn is a lot worse than a snake, you might want to watch your back with that one too. If you truly are good friends with LuAnn, I have to question your character
I am not sure what to think just yet? It is nice to see someone who is a little more controlled and refined on the show, but that comment about cheating husbands to Kelly seemed like it could have been a clever trap. Kelly is a simpleton, it is true, but not mean. When you say "I'm just looking for a husband who won't cheat" It is fair to assume your last one did so for you to turn it quickly around when Kelly asked you seemed sinister. I could be wrong. You certainly are the modern woman in the group. You have a good sense of who you are, what you have to offer the world and what you ask of it in return. Are you here to replace Bethany? Someone will have to or the show isn't going to hold up. I think the main reason I might question your character is because you are long time friends with LuAnn. LuAnn has yet to show true integrity or authenticity, just a lot of pretense and snobbery. You are a gardener though and that says a lot. I will keep an open mind when I see around the neighborhood.
I love Sonia. You are just what the show needed to get the emphasis off Jill and Bethanny, who I loved last year. You are fabulous and I'm 54 and if I had the money, I'd get all the help I could to look younger so go girl.
Hi Sonja! Confidence is sexy... but seems you need to reel it back in a little w/the sex sex sex sex. We all love it, we all know it exists, but durn girl - too much is borderlining on sounding desperate! Ease your way into the group and with the fans. If not, you'll have what happened to Kelly last year happen. She made such a stinky stance from the jump - she was automatically disliked. So welcome to the show! Although this doesn't sound like a very nice welcome does it? Hope to hear more about your OTHER interests.
As long as you aren't mean to Bethenny, we're cool. So far I really like you, you seem like you'll bring much-needed levity to the show, but I just can't bear to watch B cry anymore.
Sonja, NOW you know EXACTLY all you need to know about Jill Zarin. "All he has to do is stick his tongue down your throat..." about says it all. What a piece of work. I'd LOVE to see some of HER skeletons! I'd stay pretty busy if I were you too, Bobby!
Thank you for being so authentic, you are sensational. What a pleasure it is to see you interact with the other RHONY ladies. It is amazing to see you mingle with this great cast!
Jill wasn't joking when she said that about you. If you are happy in life Jill will try to bring you down. Watch this season from the beginning and you will see what I mean. The way she treated Bethenny all season was painful to watch. I knew as soon as I saw you that Jill wasn't going to like you. I like you Sonja. You are witty and honest. You will spice up the show now that Bethenny will be getting her own show. Stick around.
Thank goodness you've entered this show. What a breath of fresh air and honesty you bring to the table without the pretentiousness that follow some. Actually it's really the only kick I get out of the show this year. Everyone is so catty and fighting and the remark Jill made about you was so low class.
Hi Sonja. You're a welcomed breath of freah air! I love that you tell it like it is and I have a feeling that you will soon be my favorite housewife. Thank you for admitting that it's okay for women our age to have sex and to enjoy it!
Your confidence is refreshing and Yes, men do find it sexy. I like that you have your opinion yet you can also agree to disagree - without judgements.
Good luck... you may need it!
Wow, a class act. I really like your blog. Can you show this stay at home mom how to decorate my ugly home and how to make money for my family? You seem like you would be a great life coach. I can't wait to see more of you on tv. Sweet, smart and beautiful...good job BRAVO.
Welcome Sonja! You are a breath of fresh air, and I adore you already! Don't apologize for those "sexual" comments you make, they are so funny, so real, and to be honest, just the sort of comments that I would make when out with friends. I love to make people laugh, and I do really believe that most people love to hear sexual comments, but are too afraid to just open up and let themselves say what they are truly thinking. Unfortunately, people worry too much about what others may think of them and how they might be judged, but life is too short, who cares? And if they are too "stuck up" to hear what is just a natural part of life, let them not hang out with people like us! And your townhouse Sonja, GORGEOUS! I would do anything to come over and have tea with you! It is just beautiful, like you! I live on the northshore of Long Island, but if I win lotto, that would be the first purchase I'd make and I would be honored to have you come and be my decorator! We could all dream, right! Looking forward to seeing more of you, you have a friend in Northport!
You're my kind of woman, Sonja. You don't seem to be taking much of this too seriously but you are inciting fresh, new conversations that I think many viewers want the women to have. Your jocular frankness about sex and being single makes you quite radical among this old guard. Your inclusion brings another dimension (and I hope it won't be the only dimension) to the Wives. I'm curious about your thoughts on gender roles and norms, specifically how these roles/norms influence relationships. Where do you fit in? Do you consider yourself a feminist? If no, why not? I know this show isn't the ideal venue for "Sonja: Living Life and Experiencing Love, Sex, and Relationships" but I think I smell a book cooking.
It's unfortunate that less-informed, crass, yet supposedly demure women from the Old Country think that a woman and her body are merely shelved props for a man, her husband. In his absence both she and her body should be ignored or neglected (unless she's on the prowl hoping to snag a hubby). Physiological responses and psychological and emotional needs are null. If it ain't your husband, you're a hoooorah!
We've still got a long way to go, baby.
when and why is there a new house wife? Is one of the originals leaving?
Sonia, you look like Tracy Pollen who is a real house wife, married to Michael J. Fox.
Why all the drama? Good for ratings?
need to do a show from chicago..... bye
Very nice blog. Reading your blog and your portrayal on the show are two different things. Thanks for showing me that the editing really does have a huge impact on the portrayal of these people. Happy venturing in the field of reality TV.
hi sonja,welcome to the blogs. please be careful with friendship with jill .it goes her way or the highway and she tries to blackball anyone who doesn't go her way with everything.Just be careful. I hope you had a great time with this venture, I can't wait to see more of you.
Sonja, Yes, it's shallow, but help me out... Wonder why it seems that when women get to a certain age, they stop wearing lip color? I got the memo that less makeup overall makes us look younger but clear gloss??
At first I wasn't sure if I was going to like you but you have brought a fun energy and a breath of fresh air to the show. I am really looking forward to watching the next episode. You provide a wonderful balance to the negative vibes from Jill. Watch out for her. I love the interactions you have with Luanne, Ramona and Kelly.
Thank you Sonja for bringing some fun back to the show! NYC is one of the most fabulous cities in the world, there are so many fabulous women living there... and unfortunately this season has been nothing but constant, annoying bickering! You're a perfect city girl full of style, confidence, and glam - I love it!
When Jill is around...watch your back! When Jill and Luann are together...watch your back. You will see a whole new side of Luann when Jill is around!!
I love you on this show! I really agree with a lot of the points you make about sex, love and life! I wish more people were as honest and open as you are with themselves!