Six months later, now that all this nonsense and finger pointing has happened, yes, we do read it, along with a few other sites that blog reality TV. I don’t see everything -- there is way too much online to keep up with while maintaining life and work. The blog owner has now met and interviewed quite a few members of the Bravo family, and sometimes tweets us random questions about our show and pop culture in general. Sometimes I answer, though I won’t speak for anyone else because keeping a handle on my own Twitter feed is enough work. If I had a dollar for every blogger out there who hates me, my husband, or family. . .you know the answer. Reality TV spawns lively online content, and everyone has an opinion about the people on their favorite shows. With the advent of social media, everyone can also comment publicly. If you tweet nice things or garbage, at a Bravolebrity or anyone else in the public eye, chances are they or their fans will see it. I get tons of love and hate every week. Here’s what I DON’T do. I don’t assume that the negative stuff is written by, supported by, or controlled by my castmates. When you assume, you make an A-S-S out of U and ME.
Somewhere in there Cindy and I worked out. And her hoodie smelled funny.
Finally, Simon quit smoking. This week you see us welcome a hypnotherapist into our home, preparing while Simon went out into the remnants of a blizzard to have his last cigarette.
Simon wanted me present during the hypnotherapy, both as a supportive partner and a watchdog to make sure nothing untoward happened or was said. I’ll be perfectly honest that I was simultaneously trying not to laugh at the shouting of “You are a non-smoker” over and over, and also crossing my fingers and hoping somehow it would work. Did it? You’ll have to wait and see.
While we wait to find out, please add our Facebook page. Would love it if you follow Simon and me on twitter, and definitely check out ThuginaCocktailDress.com for our t-shirt partnership with Housing Works. And of course, Simon’s song "I Am Real," and the Thug in a Club Mix!
Alex, you are a breath of fresh air. I also visit the website mentioned, it has a lot of info on a lot of shows and is a fun read. I believe if that site had Ramona's name on it Jill would be logging on everyday...and contributing! I hope Simon has been able to stop smoking, I myself decided today that I am going to so I look forward to seeing if he had success! Hope you are enjoying summer with the chums!
Alex, I really appreciate your and Simon's relationship. You both have each other's backs but when someone has a beef with Simon, you tell them to take it up with him. That's as it should be. Keep up the good work!
Finally, this year you r doing great about time someone heard you?! I feel for u Alex, your the most real gal on this show! You go girl.....we've come a long way baby lol!
Bravo Alex, I think you are doing great trying to communicate with the ladies. It's not your fault they are so prideful that they don't want to be called out on anything. Advice, maybe call them out after you can move the emotion out of it so they don't get the opportunity to turn it all around on you like in the episode of you coming down the steps kind of frantically. Maybe over time they'll learn a thing or two from you about how to have successful relationships with people.
Girl you know how to handle some crazy stuff. Let them go to Simon if they have a problem with him. Now that you broke it down, Simon's outfit makes sence. That is funny. glad you made it to both parties. The filming made it look like Luann's daughter's party was great and ramona's daughter did not even have a loy of people. I love, even when you are cranky. Love to you and your family.
Alex ~ hoping the hypnotism worked ... but if not, tell Simon I just quit after (gulp) 25 years with the help of medication
Alex, you are my favorite. Love that you explained Simon's outfit. I liked it and thought it was very original.
I think that perhaps Bobby Zarin should have explained to Simon what he was talking about and then given Simon a chance to say if he wrote the blog or not. Yes, that was a very Jill move.
I don't blame Simon wanting you there with that hypnotist. You never know. :)
Go Alex! I think that you handle your relationships -and the inevitable bumps and snafus-so maturely. Openly asking a friend to talk about real feelings and real issues so that you can move past them is adult and reasonable. I am sorry that you are spending time with mean girls who have no sense of friendship, maturity, or avante garde fashion!
I watch mainly the re runs everyday at noon here in Tx. I just wanted to say the way you & Simon met, & how y'all are best friends gives me (a single 30yr old) hope that I'll find the same one day- you both are my favorite. The other ladies can act so silly sometimes but you never engage in an immature fashion despite the drama.
Best wishes to you & your family!!
Glad to see an episode where you are drama free, time for the other women to attack eacother and not all of them attacking you. :)
Alex, I only have the utmost of respect for you. I have seen you in such a different light in the last few episodes, and I have to say that I appreciate you more and more for being real, being true, and just being yourself. Of course, people never agree on certain points, but that's just the way that life goes. As you enter friendships at an older age, you start to realize that they don't agree with everything they have to say. However, that doesn't diminish friendships...unless these friends of yours are always trying to put you down. That's when you just need to distance yourself and keep things at a positive relationship...or as positive as you can as possible.
I admire you for sticking up for Ramona in Morroco. Plus, you DID ask to speak to LuAnn during their henna session, and they insisted that you stick around and talk about. So when you did, they attacked you. C'mon, now! Don't invite someone to talk to you and then attack them for it later! But at the same time, I wouldn't ever say anything negative against the other ladies. Everyone is just the way that they are. That's just trying to keep up with life.
Here's my advice to Simon about quitting smoking, which I know he's done many times before. Me too. I quit many times over the years, but then would find an excuse to have "just one." Trouble at work, fight with a boyfriend, having a drink in a bar, a vacation -- always would find an excuse. The "just one" became a pack, then a carton, in the blink of an eye. So the last time I quit smoking (hopefully forever), over five years ago now, I approached it honestly, dropped the b.s., and admitted that it was an addiction as serious as heroin, more deadly probably, and I needed to stop laughing it off when I talked about quitting. It had to be very serious: I've decided to save my own life. I know it's going to be awful, like withdrawal from heroin, I will be sneaky and I will lie and deceive myself to come up with some b.s. excuse to have just one more, but I'm tired of my own lies. I know I'm going to gain weight, and I'm willing to live with that, will not use that as an excuse to start up again. Trust me: I was completely miserable for the first 6 months, very shaky for the first year, still unsteady two years in, but after that it got more and more solid. This is not a joke, it cannot be done as a prank, it will make him miserable, it will bring out the most vicious and manipulative side of him, he will probably yell at everyone, be regularly in a rage at the world, and blow up like a macys day balloon for the parade. But if he deals with it honestly, acknowledges that this is a brutal campaign, one step at a time, sometimes 5 minutes at a time, that he's going to feel miserable and be angry for a long time, but he needs to go through that long withdrawal to save his own life -- then he can do it. Or keep smoking and probably not see his 60th birthday.
You are my absolute favorite on the show and watching Simon is a plus. I love both of your sense of fashion. You, Sonja and Ramona are a hoot and I really enjoy watching the three of you. I laughed so hard when Ramona pretended to be Jill at Jill's party. "Bobby my diamonds aren't big enough!", hilarious and right on.
As usual, almost giving the back-up details that an edited TV show does not. Love you! And sooooo glad to see you're writing for NY's Metro Online Paper. Loved your article on Weiner. And was glad to see you didn't discuss the scandal. That's so like you.
If Bravo were to do a poll, you know you'd be the favorite NYC housewife. When Bethenny was a housewife, she was always first and you were consistently second. I really do hope Bravo is seeking all new housewives, you being the exception.
Best of luck to Simon. I smoked for 20+ years, I tried to quit a few times, no luck I quit when I became pregnant and was sure I woud start after my son was born. I choose not to, every day is a fight but then I think about how much I want to be around for my son, who is now 21/2 and that is definitely the best smoking cessation method I've ever used. It is doable Simon, I wish you the best!
I stopped smoking after 45 years with the Nicotrol Inhaler. It's quite expensive and you need a prescription for it. But, it is now over a year and a half that I stopped. I stopped using the inhaler before the six months' supply was up, so I have alot left. If you would like them, I would be only too happy to send them to you. I believe you can get my email address from Bravo as they must be privy top it. Alex, you have truly grown on me. I believe in my heart of hearts that you are not only the most intelligent of the group, but the kindest also. You have a wonderful, creative heart of gold and I wish I had seen it sooner. Not a mean bone in your body...unlike most of the others. Be well, my friend.
I comment on the other RH blog sites you mentioned often, as they don't edit out ones they don't like, (ahem, BRAVO!) so I was glad to hear that you do read them. I enjoy your normalcy - the only one on the current show!
I love you, Alex. Your blogs are insightful, witty and charming. Thanks for adding intelligence into the mix. :)
Alex, you are one of my favs. I just wanted to pass on something to Simon that may help him if he hasn't quit yet. I just stopped smoking 3 weeks ago without one single problem. I switched to the E-cigarette. You can have high, medium, or zero nicotine content. It's simply steam with a cigarette flavor - none of the bad stuff that cigarettes contain. I plan on gradually going down to zero nicotine. If I have to continue with the E-cig, I will without guilt. My boyfriend who doesn't smoke doesn't even know when I'm smoking one as there is no scent to others. There is no cigarette smell in my hair, on my clothes or in my house or car. I don't know if I would have quit without it and would recommend to anyone who is struggling with quitting. Another great thing is one of the commenters talked about how he will get full of rage - that doesn't happen so it will save your marriage also. Good luck! Looking forward to the rest of the season and the reunion - glad you all lived through that!
Even if Simon isn't any active blogger at the hate site he admitted he has blogged on the hate site. You know what these people were when you met them and admit reading the hate blog. That is sad from an adult, but I forgot Simon walks on water.
Alex, just a thought here but why don't you Sonja and Ramona just ignore the others and just let them stab each in the back. This show would be so much better if they got rid of the mean girls and brought in some fresh faces or dump Cindy and bring in Cat. Love Love Love you
Alex I don't like you. I think you try to hard, you think people care what you have to say, when honestly, nobody cares. You and your husband are weird, to put it nicely. You're Ramona's friend, enough said!
I apologize: I was very critical of you and Simon during the first season. Since then, I have realized your good and genuine intentions.
Best of luck to Simon with his continued journey of remaining smoke-free: it is not an easy one. Also, best of luck to you both, to remaining true to your values and your shared interests of love, family, travel and everything else you both enjoy.
I used to like you, but do not like what you are turning out to be, a social climber!!! using every trick in the book to gain attention and to remain a cast member. I will give you this; you understand early on that if you stir enough pots, and create enough drama, it will bring attention to you and help push your agenda and social status, bravo!!! you are there, I just hope that throwing selectively your fellow castrates in the garbage on your way up is allowing you to sleep at night. Y'all remember that at the beginning of the franchise, your now best friend Ramona could not stand the side of you and Simon, had said all kind of ugly things about you...but it's all forgotten, because you valued her alliance, your ticket to the social latter, this season, Sonja even throw you out of her party, yet you are still sucking up to her, why?? again another ticket to the social circle. Some claimed you are real, I say, naive. Good for you for fooling your fan base.
Alex, from our interview to all the craziness, you and Simon have grown to be the fan favorites. One's true colors have a way of always showing through. Though we are all different, our diversity is what makes this world a fun and exciting place! Watching now from the sidelines, I miss the "fun" times :) Hope to catch up with you and Simon very soon!
Have Simon try the new electric cigarette. Looks like a cigarette, acts like a ciggie but nothing but vapor. 40% quit rate for smoking cessation. That is quite high stats. Sure he knows about it but I figured I'd mention it just in case. They sell them at 7-11 and Gristedes now. You can use them while you drink even inside which is a big trigger - that and coffee. I'm using it now.
Good luck to Simon in his quest to quit smoking. He will prevail, and when he does, you will be so happy to look him in his face and have all the puffiness gone.
I agree with Kelly that you need to stay out of the problems and issues that others are having. Let them work it out and you keep out of the whole mess. By putting yourself into each problem that others are having, you are doing what you wanted Jill to STOP doing for the last two years. You stated before that there were times that issues had nothing to do with Jill and she should have stayed out of it rather than throw her comments into the mix and that is exactly what you are doing. Just let everyone be adult and work out their own problem and just be there to listen when people need to vent and be there for a hug. That's it!
Alex, I think you butt in to the others business too much! Especially Luann's! She invites everyone to experience Morocco, and you angrily stomp down the stairs and impose on her in the salon! Ramona can definitely speak up for herself! She needs to put her big girl pants on and deal with her own problems, which she creates! How ungrateful of you! Then you invite Luann to coffee and start in on her again! Luann handles herself very well, like a real lady, but you just blast her! I would think you have enough to deal with having Simon as a husband and Ramona as your friend! I am very disappointed in the way you act and behave! Mind your own business! You should be on soap opera, that fits your style better!
I'm glad that you finally found your voice. I'm sick and tired of some of the other women talking and walking all over you. Keep it up!!!
I quit smoking for 5-6 years and started back up again. But I'm working on it. Good luck Simon.
Alex, You seem to have found your own voice with the ladies, some don't act like ladies though. You get edited a little twisted, like your crazy or unable to form words. I know your a fighter and can stand up for yourself. Also, Simon is a big boy and can do his own speaking so I'm glad Bobby went to him. I'm happy to get the back story since I wasn't sure what had happened, I'm sure others had no clue either. Love the way you two support each other and how you love living your lives to the most. Can't wait to see what the mean girls do next episode.
Alex, Maybe Kelly got involved to help Avery the same way you got involved to "help" Bethenny and Ramona.
It's all too complicated, Alex. Your explanations in defense of your house-husband's cyber connections to Jill are all too complicated. However, for the sake of you and the boys, I do hope Simon quits smoking. You and he looked so sad in the scene with the hypnotist, especially when Simon went out for one last cigarette. I am sorry you both were brought to tears, it is a tough thing to quit. Good luck!
you just don't fit in with this show nor does your husband.. you both try so hard to fit in.. and it doesn't work, sorry to say this but Im sure you & Simon will be history before long .
I think you are probably the brightest housewife in the group. I am so tired of hearing the "Countess" and Ramona using incorrect grammar! However, I don't understand all your arguing this year. I don't know if it's a ploy for more camera time or you're newly awakened ego, but it's just not becoming. Orange County got so unpleasant that I quit watching it and I'm about there with New York. I have a group of friends that travel every few years together and we never have any drama. It's really not your place to be inserting yourself in everyones quarrels and if you don't like LuAnne, just be civil and ignore her. I guess I don't understand this need to express every emotion you have. It doesn't come off as genuine.
Please Alex, just give up on explaining to Luann and or Jill how they make you or Simon feel! They do not care, their entire world revolves around themselves, they are always right, you are they only one who can offend, because it is impossible for them to ever be the offender! You are absolutely correct in your analiysis of their actions, but they have to be correct! Ignore you will never get any where with wither of them! Take care!
You are the best Alex! The only lady who makes any sense on this ridiculous show! The others, well all this 'fame' has gone to their heads, and you are the classiest and I would love to be your friend, and run fast from the other nutjobs. Keep it real as always! You seem like a very loyal person, and that scares the rest of them.
Alex i love you! That blotchy thing is so unfortunate it happens to me too im like a tomato when i get agitated lol! OK WHO CARES if Simon is talking smack online who cares not saying he did, he probley did everyone does look i am now. Why does she care why does she pay attention? The worse thing that would Ever happen to Jill is if he quit talking about her. Shes on this victim kick right now. Do you know how happy id be if someone devoted a whole site to hateing me?
Love you Alex!!! dont' let the other ladies get you down. To be they act as a group of bullies! keep finding your voice!
Great show this week Alex. You are the smartest and wittiest of the cast. I think your show down with Luann was a good attempt but she is so in her own world, she'll never self reflect on all her double standards... Dahling really!? Anyway, you look great!