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The Big C

Alex discusses the "c-word" and why she wouldn't do LuAnn's video.

Hey everyone; can you believe next week is this season's finale? Time flies.

Shortly after we left Morocco, LuAnn asked everyone to appear in her music video. Although her request came after she and I had words, and, of course a thug in a cocktail dress, my answer would have been the same regardless.

My entire life, I've been of the mind that the "C-word" is one you don't say. To use it about yourself is to prove it doesn't apply to you. Using that word about someone else makes you seem aspirational, that the person to whom you refer has something you wish you had, etc. Not good either way. Would I go so far as to say using the  "C-word" is thuggish? Not sure. At any rate, I don’t want to be attached to a song about "cl--s" lying within the soul. When she's ready to stop with the pretension and have fun doing Kurt Weill or Foxy Brown, great.

Moving onto the family barbeque. . .just this week we got around to decorating our backyard and you can see the pictures here! Dean is the brother of Adam's wife (our brother-in-law once removed? Sort of?) I like to call Adam and Simon twins five years apart. As one of our friends said, "hoo-boy, there are two of them!" People who don't know him sometimes think Adam is gay as well, but he's married with two kids, and he and his wife adore each other as much if not more than Simon and I do. There you have it.

It was interesting that Simon brought up my own background when we spoke about why I wouldn't do LuAnn's video. Both sides of my family are from Texas, though I was born in D.C. as my father was working with the government on the energy crisis. He was a petroleum engineer by trade and worked all over the world, in the Persian Gulf, Paris, Sydney, etc. He remarried late in life and had me, and some time after noticed oil fields for sale in southeast Kansas. At the time, it was thought that they were some of the shallowest oil wells in the world, and he and his partners in Antibes and Dallas wanted to write a book comparing extraction methods from the deepest to the shallowest. It was to be Dad's retirement project, though he and Mom still had homes in Texas and the Virgin Islands, and we went there when I wasn't in school. I took it all in stride -- I didn't realize as a kid that the guy playing cards in the living room would later run for president, and that everyone didn't have their business partner's kids spend the summer with us to learn English. My Dad would take those kids from the Cote d'Azur and Highland Park, stick them in a station wagon and drive them to the Grand Canyon. National Lampoon's Vacation hadn't come out yet; I don't know whether he was being ironic. I do know we had a great time. I had THE BEST of both worlds going between down-to-earth small town life and the glamour that lay beyond. I love New York City, but I loved Fort Scott, KS, too. Small town or big city; no in-between for me. Sorry suburbs, I said it in season one.

It’s been surprising to me that on this show, I've sometimes been called the pretentious one. I often wish the other ladies would take a breath and let things go, particularly about Brooklyn. Later this episode Ramona denounced Cindy's behavior at Sonja's, saying that as Sonja opened her home to Cindy, Cindy should have respected her and behaved better. Mario and Ramona should have respected Simon and me at our home. That night, they did not.

Simon and I threw the kickoff party for New York Foundation for the Arts' 40th Anniversary Gala, honoring Andres Serrano and others. All our artwork was temporarily replaced by the work of NYFA fellows, and we opened up our home the next day as a gallery to raise additional funds for the organization. Though our friends made much of the fact that we were in Brooklyn, most of the non-cast guests were patrons of the arts from Park Avenue. I found it curious that at the very least Brian didn’t know everyone in the room, or the honoree. Andres has even been on Bravo! Many of the faces you see at our home also attended the gala in April.

Wire hangers? Yes, I have a ton. My mom used to dry-clean her bathing suits to get more. Then you don't have to bother buying them! I also keep the plastic on my cocktail dresses so the beading doesn't scratch the back of the next dress. I always thought the wire hanger aversion was for people whom "G-d is their witness, will never be hungry again." Oh well!

LOVED the dance lesson. I don’t know what possessed me to wear jeans. I had a meeting afterward and didn't think about bringing yoga pants. There I was, huffing and puffing away in skinny jeans. Definitely not fresh. . .

Oh, and that phone call. If you have breakfast with a friend and a conference call, you can't do both. Switch the time, have brunch on a Saturday, do the call in the car on the way there -- something. What Cindy did was disrespectful and rude. Was she trying to show Sonja she's busy? Nothing she said on the call sounded urgent. Yikes.

Have a great weekend! Simon and I will be out east with Dan's Two Forks and then off to Egypt on Monday. If you’re in the New York area, come join us at Dan’s on Saturday. If not, please join Simon and me on Twitter, Facebook and our website. Simon’s song "I Am Real" and the Thug in a Club Mix are. . .WAIT. . .should he do a video? Should we ask Jill to direct it????

Enjoy the week and stay cool!

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Ramona and Dorinda meeting for dinner:

It's nice to see the history and friendship Ramona and Dorinda have and the fact that Dorinda can be that reliable friend for Ramona while she is going through this transition in her life. I think with all that Dorinda has been through in her life, she is extremely understanding and can provide good advice and support. It's refreshing to hear Ramona speak so openly about her situation and so unlike Ramona to be so vulnerable, but I think it is a healthy way for her to process through it all. Typical man fashion is once the woman is done and ready to move on the guy wants you back, and “word on the street” is Mario wants her back! WOW...

I was so impressed with Carole holding court at her fav little restaurant LEFT Bank and having a board meeting for her building. It made me think of her being this big corporate executive and working her angles to get the support she needed...GO Carole…however, if you ever lived in NYC, you hear all the stories of these co-op building and condos and how much power and control the board of the building has on controlling your building and essentially your living conditions in the building to the point they can control who you even sell your apartment to and who they let live in the building. I am really loving how serious and passionate Carole is about getting on the board, and she is such a good people person and reasonable I think she would do a fabulous job. BTW, who wouldn’t want a PRINCESS on the board? #DOORGATE

Bethenny’s therapy session was really hard to watch, because it makes you realize what type of childhood she had and how much drama and probably emotional trauma she was exposed to at such an early age. I can only imagine how hard it was for Bethenny to hear the therapist trying to rehash those days and memories and how difficult it must be for her to have to talk about it. I really felt bad for her and thinking about what she went through, and it all makes sense to me on why she is probably so guarded and why it's hard for her to trust people. I really wanted to just give her a hug and tell her how much I respect her for having to go through all that.

Sonja's big event and cover party:

One thing for sure about Sonja Morgan is she knows how to bring it, and she looked so stunning and beautiful on the cover! WOW! I am still trying to figure out the connection with Sonja Morgan, born and raised in the US, and a connection to a Latin magazine/lifestyle, but what the heck, it is Sonja Morgan, and she is the ultimate chameleon! It was funny, because I was speaking to the editor of the magazine, and the editor made the point that Sonja was wearing the dress of a Latin designer, so maybe that was the necessary criteria to be on the cover? Either way, good for Sonja Morgan. She is always good at doing the unexpected.

This party was a turning point for me with Sonja. Sonja was in her element hosting this fabulous party, and she had all her friends and TEAM there to support her, and even better, she was not drinking and was totally on point. I actually also met the same team Bethenny met who were running her Fashion Collection, and they actually had a lot of the answers to Bethenny’s and Heather's questions about her line and the retailers they were going out to. They also pointed out in the magazine she was wearing her collection, so hey, maybe there is a real Sonja Morgan Collection about to hit the retail doors, and we can go and buy it. I forgot to ask if the Saudi Prince or the Nigerian soccer team were the financial backers, but in all seriousness, I am happy to see her making progress, and maybe she has been working really hard behind the scenes and going to WOW us all. At the end of the day, she is a positive and talented person, and I only want the best for her, and I will support her.

Carole’s election results were in and the drum roll, please...SHE WON! I really felt she would win, but you never know with all the different personalities and politics involved, but I am so happy she won, and I think she was relived as well. How about those pigs in a blanket! I am a CT girl, and I always loved pigs in a blanket, but the smell of them taking over her whole apartment was probably not for everyone. I was dying when she said they had been in the freezer for three years. I don’t think pigs in a blanket are like fine wines and get better with time, but oh well. I ate them and loved them, and I am still here to write about it!
For a long time I wanted to speak with Sonja and let her know I meant no disrespect when I called her delusional, and I really do like and support her. I feel like after her Latin event magazine and her clothing line actually coming, this is going to be Sonja’s moment and the truth is I think everyone will be there to cheer her along to success!

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