Cindy Barshop

Cindy discusses her neutral stance in the Alex/LuAnn fight and her need for assistance.

on Jun 9, 20110

Who knew vacation could be so stressful?

Just when I thought things were calming down, Jill and Ramona were back at it again and the group stuck to our usual split of blondes on one side and brunettes on the other. Even though the other girls were set on “staying neutral,” they couldn’t help but get involved and stir up more trouble! I decided to just sit back and not let it ruin a beautiful trip. The girls have known each other a lot longer than I have, and it’s not my place to weigh in on every argument. Besides, I was too busy having fun!

I was so excited when Kelly, LuAnn, and I got to have authentic Moroccan henna tattoos applied. The beautiful designs are the inspiration behind my own completely bare henna tattoos, a piece of Morocco I knew I had to bring home. Of course nothing was peaceful for too long and Alex had to come in and cause drama. She was so fired up she could barely get a sentence out. I actually started to feel sorry for her by the end of the trip -- another reason why I didn’t want to be confrontational or join any arguments.

We had so many incredible meals in Morocco, but I was a little thrown off when we had to cook our own on the last day. I totally don’t get the point of cooking. You take all this time to prepare the food, and then it’s gone! Luckily, I got the staff to help out with my tangine, which the girls found hilarious. What can I say? I find an assistant everywhere I go.

83 comments
ValerieinPA
ValerieinPA

Cindy,

You're a great addition to the show. Try to lighten up a little. Not everything is so personal and directed towards you.

Chestnut217
Chestnut217

Get out while you atoll have your sanity...you don't want to end up like Kelly or Luann

happylady58
happylady58

You're the only sane woman on the show. Love you!

Cat Q.
Cat Q.

Cindy, you ROCK! I love you, girl! You're the only one on that show I can stomach.

JCD
JCD

Keep being yourself ~ you are doing wonderful just the way you are ~ love to you , LuAnn & Kelly... the only ladies I see that don't take their lives for granted. I appreciate how truly grateful you were to LuAnn for having the experience of Morocco. It is something many of us dream of.

Homegrown"
Homegrown"

You know whay Cindy? keep doing what your doing. Your the only sane one out of this bunch. Stop 2nd guessing yourself----- you have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself. Finally a housewife with CLASS!!!!!! LOVE YA!!!

Because I'm the Mom
Because I'm the Mom

How funny that you accuse Alex of creating 'drama' while you freaked out over coat hangars and saving seats!! Give me a break! Will you own up to how ridiculous that was?? Seriously!

Carol w
Carol w

So sad that you fell right into Luann 's spell , she is a trouble maker that loves to talk about everyone behind their backs its usually the ones that resist her bossiness.

nfazed
nfazed

Cindy you are too sane to hang around these crazy women. Run while you still can. They are acting like high school girls with couture clothes. So sad.

pot-kettle
pot-kettle

Best to be Switzerland! Keep up the good, but difficult, job!

ewitt
ewitt

You are a great addition. The fact you stay out of the drama and aren't always trying to make everyone else look bad by talking trash is great. I love you! Don't let the other girls bad behavior taint you! Lol

Laurie Reti
Laurie Reti

Cindy, you are a breath of fresh air. Finally some one that behaves appropriately with class and dignity.

Stay who you are because you are the example of what women should be looking up too!!

Laura Kellap
Laura Kellap

I think it's amazing you can stay neutral and not lose your cool. The whole Alex/Luann deal and then dinner, wow. Nice job.

housewife624
housewife624

You are such a great addition this season. I love how you stand up for yourself and struggle to remain neutral with a group of raving lunatics. Thanks for staying authentic.

cindyloudo
cindyloudo

Thank you for just being yourself! It is refreshing because the drama is enough to give anyone an ulcer!

MariaIC
MariaIC

You've got the most gorgeous legs of any NY housewife! Keep rockin' it!

paula luskin
paula luskin

Cindy, you are the only housewife on the show that is mature. So glad you are on this year. Please think long and hard about doing a 2nd season. Get out now before too much of the negativity rubs off on you. You have a beautiful family.

Olivia66
Olivia66

I felt really bad for you being thrown into a lot of the drama. Stay the neutral person you are or you will be the subject of their sharp barbs.

Lierd2u
Lierd2u

Cindy, you tend to be a bit of a stick in the mud but you are definitely the most grown up of the group! Although, you may be a princess at times, you are clearly the most grounded of the group. I respect your dedication and focus of your children. The other ladies should be as dedicated to their kids. You showed a lot of class by minding your business during Alex's outburst! The other ladies need to take a lesson from you in that area...

mp83
mp83

Cindy, you seem like a really nice person - get out while you still can and before they all corrupt you.

melindak
melindak

Refreshing to see that you did in fact not get involved in the drama. When I watched the henna tattoo scene, I did wonder if you would bring this idea back to your own business, nice to hear that you did. Glad you had a good time.

greatfallsfan
greatfallsfan

You are the breath of fresh air on this show. You seem light years ahead of the other women on this show in terms of maturity. I feel embarrassed for the other women when you witness their emotional tirades. I think your mind is on your babies and not much else and that's very healthy for you right now. Why be involved in such immaturity? I think this group is not suitable for you and you are better off to find more open minded and mature women.

ProudlyIndependent
ProudlyIndependent

Cindy;

I like you, on this season... well sort of. You and Alex seem to be the only two with your heads screwed on straight.

I just wish that at LuAnn's secret dinner, when Alex was being gossiped about and walked in, and was attacked AGAIN by LuAnn, that you would have stepped up to the plate and stood up for her, your not doing so just wasn't right.

Jenny B
Jenny B

Cindy, you are the only one on the show this season that seems like a normal person. I hate using the word 'normal' because what does it really mean? Let me be more specific...you are the only one that seems mentally stable and whose behavior and actions I both understand and relate to. So pleaaasseee do not stoop to the typical housewives shade of crazy at the reunion or next season to ensure you stay on the show. I've seen a few housewives do that in their second season and it's really off-putting. After the cameras leave and the checks are cashed, you're left with yourself at the end of the day. That's what I don't understand about these women! Is the money and "all the opportunities" worth the awful reputation they have worldwide?

Truth be told...
Truth be told...

Cindy,

You are the sanest of all these women and the smartest for not getting involved in the constant drama that goes on.

Question for you...what is the name of the restaurant you went to for the last night in Morocco?

Thanks!

babs0001
babs0001

Enjoyed watching you this season. You stand out from the other housewives. You are not out to impress anyone. Looking forward to getting to know more about you next season.

Cakelli
Cakelli

Enjoy your daughters and don't take parenting advice from Luanne. Enjoyed watching you this season you are a great addition. Much happiness.

plumskiter
plumskiter

1. you seem like the only normal person in the group 2. thank you, thank you for your cooking comments. i love to eat, but i have always felt EXACTLY the same way about cooking. Hours and hours spent, and people schlepp it up in ten minutes and it is all gone. What is the point?

Kipi
Kipi

RUN like the wind Cindy, and don't look back!!!!! Do it before they ruin you too.

Dianewe
Dianewe

Cindy, Your Becoming my favorite, I like your down to earth atitude. As far as Sonia is concerned she seems so desperate and nasty...... not attactive at all. Be you your'e very likable and spend as much time with the babies and their dad a sacrifice but later will be a Great Blessing and Later will be worth more than millions.Children spell LOVE TIME..... your beautiful and noticed.

MadgePadge
MadgePadge

I didn't know neutral meant talking about someone when they live the room. As soon as Alex left the dinner table, you were saying how "rude" she was. She wasn't rude ~ she was confused.

RHW La Jolla
RHW La Jolla

You should dye your hair blonde and start hanging with the likable group.

Takinitez
Takinitez

I would love to see more of you and your children. Hopefully this will happen either later this season or the next. You do seem to be real. I don't always understand some of your problems with some of the others but when you are in new situations and trying to find your way I'm sure that it is easy to get frustrated. And Sonia can frustrate the best of them. I don't like the blonde/brunette split. I hope that things can get better! Good luck.

bostonviewerRHONJ
bostonviewerRHONJ

Sonja, I think you're great! You are a down-to-earth person and should never change! Bravo, to you!

Jan in Florida
Jan in Florida

Cindy, You're new to the show so a bit of advice. Next year this time it could be YOU that Luanne, Jill and Kelly are attacking. Don't get too close to anyone.

lovelyjs
lovelyjs

Good choice at staying out of it all. If you get involved they will probably treat you like they did Kelly last season. Keep your class and your assistants haha. Good on you if you've got it like that.

Mckilney
Mckilney

Cindy, where did you get those fab dresses and super fab necklace you wore in Morracco?

gro
gro

Stay the way you are....the voice of reason.

pmarble
pmarble

You really were the voice of reason last night. I had to have a drink and walk away from the screen it was so stressful, and I wasn't even there.

STL88
STL88

I love you. Thanks for being on the show !!

LindaT
LindaT

I enjoy your maturity and neutrality, but you're not a doormat. I think LuAnn and Kelly have become the bullies of the group - shutting down whoever they don't like. Ramonna & Sonja act like drunken teenagers. Jill's working on it but still gets pulled in. Alex seems a little lost, insecure maybe. Hang in there!!!

pia234
pia234

Cindy, Continue to take the high road and stay out of all the petty fighting. I felt so sorry for you when you couldn't get a word in edge wise. It's hard when all the others are trying to get camera time (Jill).

Heather Marsallo
Heather Marsallo

Cindy, you are by far my favorite housewife. You seem to be a normal person who is surrounded by crazies. I love your style. Please come back next season.

BBAnnie
BBAnnie

Cindy, props to you for seeing what they were doing to Alex. You were the only member of the group to get that.

EJP
EJP

At least you enough sense to realize that calling Alex back at the henna time was a mistake. I agree that this was a nutty vacation, but it is all too typical of a Bravo TV va-kay.

Goldikova
Goldikova

Cindy; Cooking is the best therapy. When you cook for other people they are so appreciative; every time my grandma brings me cookies she is telling me how much she loves me. When you cook for yourself you are taking time out of your busy day to nurture and please yourself. You are saying, "Yes, I deserve to treat myself well." Maybe you are not a "foodie", but yes, taking a day and cooking your favorite foods for your own enjoyment is the culinary equivalent of a day at the spa.

Hopeful...
Hopeful...

I am hopeful that you won't get sucked in by all the drama and continue to stay the voice of reason... Alex used to be that voice but she unfortunately caved in... The pressure was too great for her... Her expressions and camera interviews used to be brilliant, hysterical and right on the money! (Thug in a cocktail dress? Excellent!) ... Unfortunately she started playing to the camera... Stay strong, Stay Neutral! :)The audience needs a barometer.... Otherwise RHONY will turn into RHOOC, where no one really, truly cares for each other anymore and sadly all of the women have become very selfish, self centered and shallow :( This season is just as entertaining as ever. I thought what with Bethenny leaving perhaps the series would suffer and there wouldn't be much of a plot line because the bond between her and Bethenny was so appealing and intriguing but I'm glad to see that didn't happen... Ultimately what keeps us viewers coming back isn't just the drama but the REAL relationships you all have with one another. How you interact and how you truly care or don't care for one another. And, of course, how you resolve your differences...That's why it's called a "Reality" TV. Believe me we can sense insincerity, phoniness and pandering on the screen and that's what causes us to lose interest. Seven women shouting over one another at one time does not make for great TV... We want to hear all of your voices because you are all special and deserved to be heard. Good luck to you in life and of course on RHONY... Enjoy your summer!

eve4ever
eve4ever

Way to go Cindy, stay out of it. You did have a moment about the seating arrangement in the van that was uncall for, the hanger thing no. After that you kind of mellowed out good for you. Kellie on the other hand went in deep.

KYFan
KYFan

Cindy - The drama on your trip was all rooted in LuAnn's behavior. She isn't the Queen of Morroco the last time I looked. You seem to see things as they really are so I hope you stick to your guns.

LuAnn is a mean girl. She and Jill are power brokers. Ramona was pulling the same kind of stunt/behavior on you at lunch.

We can tell you're above this. Good luck! Life (and vacations) are NOT supposed to be this stressful.