Jill Zarin

Jill explains why she didn't invite Ramona and what "love scene" she thought was actually romantic.

on Jun 17, 20110

I love how Ramona continues to be insulted when she isn't invited to something, but in her life excludes people all the time with no explanation. Alex is delusional regarding what Ramona does for a living. Prior to Housewives she would refer to herself as the "closeout queen." She would buy distressed inventory from manufacturers and resell them to discounters and closeout stores as she showed in an earlier season. Alex is under the impression that Ramona was some kind of designer. Ramona can sell and certainly negotiate money. None of that has anything to do with why she wasn't invited. I lost a Kodak deal worth seven figures because of what Ramona said on the show. They told me such -- and in no uncertain words. As the old saying goes "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."

My partner knew our history and insisted she not come near anything for fear she would bad mouth it with no basis. Ramona is just too unpredictable. Maybe I should have told her in advance, but she would have either bullied me into inviting her or been pissed I didn't want to, so I didn't say anything. OK, I'm a wimp! Besides, it was Ramona who said in Season 1, "you can't invite everyone to everything."

When you didn't see any dinner but only coffee at Alex and LuAnn's meeting you knew it was going to be brief. I noticed there is a reoccurring theme with Alex. Much like when I had the talk with her, she seemed to be reiterating that LuAnn didn't listen to her. Alex seems to have a problem with thinking that she is not listened to. I think the reason for this is because Alex isn't coming to people with her own issues. She's fighting other people's battles instead. If people have a problem with someone sometimes it's best just to stay out of it and let people settle their own differences. I think LuAnn made it very clear what happens to the messenger. The ladies are standing up for themselves and not letting the backstabbing and mean words go by anymore. I've been called out on things plenty of times and I've handled it. Can she?

68 comments
Tacoma Queen
Tacoma Queen

You are very enduring. But I agree with some other veiwers, watch out for LuAnn, its like she peed around you to mark her territory and lashes out when anyone crosses over her line. And leave poor Alex alone, she does come from a good place. You look great and you are lucky to have a great man like your husband!!

sol2soul
sol2soul

Jill- Just love watching you and your family. You are so fortunate to have Bobby in your life! He is the man...LOL! I just wish- you would stop apologizing to some of these women about your actions. You are who you are- if they want to pick up only the negative, then so be it. One could analyze every single thing Alex/Ramona does- which is NOT appropriate by any means. I enjoy watching the show when you/Kelly/Luanne and Cindy are on- and simply cringe while the others are so incredibly fake. Peace!

ade
ade

I like your principal...and i think you are strong and outspoken,i salute you!

HOUSEandGARDEN
HOUSEandGARDEN

I AGREE with you that LuAnn's romantic scene was by far the best....just enough for everyone to know they are in love, they are sizzlin' hot, and we do not have to see LuAnn do a strip tease fashion show dancing around in her undies.

EMAY
EMAY

Jill, You are probably my favorite housewife......when you stay out of all the nasty stuff. You really are above it but it seems that you can be drawn in by others who are not as kind as you are. Watch out for LuAnn because she is a snake. She can be the cultured "Countess" and she can be the "Nasty Housewife." She LOVES to stir up trouble and she easily drags others in. She speaks out of both sides of her mouth. Be true to yourself and your friends. LA is not one of them. If you start saying "Darling" I will just cry. :)

dawn learsy
dawn learsy

You are my favorite.

Who is your dermatologist. Please tell me. I think you look great, natural, not not Jill.

Would really appreciate it.

In advance thank you.

Dawn

Viewer
Viewer

Jill:

You need to do a better job of choosing your friends. The so called Countess pulls your strings all the time. Choose wisely

Liz O.
Liz O.

Jill, I think you're a really great model for younger woman. You have it all--career, family, wealth, good fortune. Think about doing without LuAnn, though! She is just as bad as women you talk negatively about. You definitely don't need her, you're awesome all by yourself.

realatlhousewife
realatlhousewife

While I agree with you re. the "soft core porn" - esque scenes, I would never let my child of ANY age watch any portion of the Housewifes series, except as a cautionary tale. Though I think NYC, BH & DC aren't nearly as bad as the other two - Jersey is unwatchable now, y'all are a most def. guilty pleasure.

danieliza
danieliza

Jill- I can't believe, watching you now, that you used to be a favorite of mine. You are showing yourself to be a mean, nasty, catty woman. You used to be funny (with Bethenny)...... no more. You're NOT in high school!

Viewer
Viewer

I think you are real and honest from watching the show. The only observation is that your friendship with Bethenny was caused by LuAnn when she stopped you both from meeting at Ramona's. Now, she is doing the same to Ramona and you. What is a friend when all she wants is you to herself and being selfish. I would be careful to take her advice because it would not be for your benefit.

cgtynan
cgtynan

I agree with the romantic scenes of the houswives...ewe! Not necessary. I think you were making good strides and recovering from the Bethany debacle. However, there are little tidbits of the OLD jill ....you have to be able to forgive people. Ramona has been Ramona for years...but you think its less drama not to invite her?

Debbie
Debbie

Jill - You have become so low rent! I mean really - we can all see that you use LuAnn as your Yard Dog, too bad LuAnn hasn’t caught on yet! And your "business meeting" was a JOKE, you didn't WANT anyone's opinion, you were just looking for FACE time on Bravo for yet another venture that has already been done by someone else. If you were REALLY looking for a business venture in retail - Ramona IS the one you should be talking to, the rest of "your friends' are only consumers…. with the exception of this product. YOU are the only one that I can see, that needs such an undergarment in your RHONY group. The rest of them don’t seem to have a problem bearing it at the beach, except for you!

needles in my eyes
needles in my eyes

I wish you well with your Skweez couture. As far as Alex is concerned, I think her heart is in the right place. Unfortunately for an educated woman she has problems with voicing her opinion quickly and articulately. The "romance" thing....ewww. Ramona and Mario were so fake, it was ridiculous. Alex and Simon...hmmm. Simon truly loves Alex. We didn't need a fashion show!!! LOL

Donna Blech
Donna Blech

Jill, So happy to see the "old" Jill again. However, please be aware of LuAnn. She is always in everyone's business, as last season with you and Ramona. So, she needs to take a look in the mirror when accusing Alex. At least Alex has everyone's best interest at heart. LuAnn just wants "one on one's" with everyone, a one friend person. Anyway, keep being the real Jill, the one we all love and adore

Viewer 101
Viewer 101

Jill, when you always take the side of the same person (Luann), it gives your opinions no validity. Even though I understand you are defending a friend, ideally, one's opinion(s) should be based on one's own values/ethics.

Suszieq0414
Suszieq0414

Jill! I love love love your dress that you wear in the bravo summer camp video--can you tell me who the designer is or where it is from! xoxo -Susie

Suszieq0414
Suszieq0414

Jill! I would love to know where the dress is from that you wear in the bravo camp video. I love love love it!!!

Brandisue
Brandisue

Always have been...always will be...TEAM JILL !!!!

BravoErinFan
BravoErinFan

Jill, I am SO impressed with how much you have matured this season!! Don't let the others take your focus off the goal of moving forward! Keep it up, girl!

Midwest Viewer
Midwest Viewer

Jill, you are the best! I agree with a few of the comments about Luann. She and Kelly speak OVER Alex and it is very poor behavior. I don't agree at all with Alex but jeez! Allow her to speak as we can always learn from each other. Luann thinks she is the queen of proper behaviour but when challenged her propriety goes out the window. Good luck with skweez couture!

robin Anderson
robin Anderson

you are the best housewife and the funny thing is you are a house wife

Janet
Janet

Love u, love u! Be very careful of Alex! She is a snake!

Viewer10
Viewer10

What don't you consider yourself an aficionado of? Or did you say that as a precursor to your new book? All you do is hawk your products.

MaxMan16
MaxMan16

Team Jill!!! I think you and Luann are the most reasonable people on the show. You guys know how to hold your own in an argument and are just plain awesome. I totally agree with you on everything. Luann and Jacque's reunion was the most romantic and Alex does need to not put herself into every situation. Maybe then she'll be able to not be so overdramatic.

Plus with the focus group I don't blame you for inviting Ramona. Business is business is what I always say hahaha. Also I loved seeing you pick out Bobby's suit. And the whole thing about your initials monogrammed on it was hilarious. I can't wait till the next episode!

Viewer822
Viewer822

I think you went on too long in your explanation as to why you didn't invite Ramona, especially with her new BFF (Alex) in the group. All you needed to say is "I didn't invite her". You didn't need to dredge up the Kodak thing.

NYC ladies have a hard time of letting anything go. Stay classy, quit talking about stuff to other ladies that aren't involved. That's the problem, the people in the problem don't talk while everyone else that isn't involved gabs and does all of these "interventions". If everyone minded their own business, then maybe some of this petty stuff would end!

1Corinthians 13
1Corinthians 13

I don't know why I like you,but I do. You seem authentic,but control the pettiness of your character. Of course I know the conflicts are manufactured to keep us embroiled emotionally. I am ashamed of watching this show. At your character's age she should have a little more self control and polish emotionally. I feel like you probably do,but have toportray an an emotional basket case at times to spike the ratings.

Mountain Momma
Mountain Momma

I have to agree with LONGTIME VIEWER---I wish you could recognize LuAnn's Bad Behavior! It is nice to see you back to your old self. I'm glad that you are in a better place this season.

Elayna
Elayna

This was a GREAT BLOG, JILL. I agree with your reasoning in not inviting Ramona to the focus group meeting on Skweeze. And thank you for reminding us that Ramona DID SAY "YOU CAN'T INVITE EVERYONE TO EVERYTHING". I do remember that line! As for Alex the Messenger...I AGREE...you said it so well in this blog. She likes to fight everyone else's battle, to no avail she screws things up. I continue to believe after all these years that EVERYONE listens to Alex, she just does not have anything pertinent or relevant to say...so she gets frustrated. Oh well. I agree about LuAnn's romance scene being the most authentic and sincere in feeling.

martag
martag

Jill - watching you and Bobby shopping was like a comedy routine. Bobby just sat there and you shopped!!! So funny - so very very funny. The line that Alex gave was just plan rude. We all see that she can't get "face time" so she has to come up with things - she will never be anything like you - her mouth runs and runs, but nothing comes out. You and just so good at everything you do - books, business, marriage - Alex and RoMEANA - they can't do it like you do, Jill. I can never see you having to worry about your Bobby, that love is so complete and real. As others have said, having you on "my side" would be all that is necessary. Not having RoMEANA was truly a very wise idea. She opens her mouth and the only purpose is usually to insert her foot. You know business, you do what you have to do. And on another note, your daughter is sweet, adorable and delightful. My best to you and your family.

LuvsU
LuvsU

Jill , I adore you and think it's time you STOP telling and explaining to those women. For God's sake they are past grade school and well off enough to hire someone to listen to their darn feelings if it's that important to them to tell HOW THEY FEEL! Dang I'm sick to death of hearing how they feel for one. And sick of hearing them say that yet not once shutting up long enough to listen to how you feel for a second. It's your focus group. You shouldn't have to explain to a soul as a grown woman why you didn't want someone there. If it offends one you did invite they could always leave. Right? They should see they are lucky to be included with the likes of you. Start leaving that nasty mouthed drunk Ramona and I wanna be Alex out as much as possible. I pick up on you like Sonja but all us poor folks can see right through her and now the rest of the world is seeing it too. She is fake and always has been.

Winston
Winston

I have watched your show from day 1 and always liked you. I just happened to be channel surfing and came across you on Fox News (which is distrubing in its self) but you made a very uninformed comment.

You said that people who are on unemployment should give back to the community while drawing. I guess you would not know this but you only draw a percentage of your last wage. You have to look for and put applications in for jobs every week. With that you still have to live on a portion of what you did make. Buying gas, driving around in this day and time, is very expensive.

You really need to walk in someone's shoes that has major financial problems. Since I heard you say that I have no respect for you. Rememeber we are not all as fortune to have accomplished our dreams.

Viewer
Viewer

Jill,

I haven't always been able to agree with you or your actions, but I think your feet are firmly planted on the ground as you say, "for better or worse". Keep up the great entertainment. XO

KristyAL
KristyAL

Jill- You are truly my favorite of all housewives. It would be so fun to hang out with you for a wknd:) Your taste in cloths and style is wonderful. I also love that you don't have to have alcohol to be social. Up for hosting a shopping trip??

JillMac
JillMac

Jill, best of luck with your new venture. I get your perspective on not inviting Ramona, but I also see her's about you promising to be honest and open with each other. You knew she would hear of the "focus group" (I hope you also had a focus group with "real women" and not just your friends) and that she would be hurt to be left out. I wish you would have kept that promise.

KMT
KMT

Love your insight Jill. Can't wait for your new line! Truly, my body can't wait! haha! I'm noticing a theme too with Alex...and will say so as much on her blog comments. I think she is very well-spoken...but about her problems regarding other people. I thought last season that she "got herself involved" in the mess with Bethenny...and is doing the same now. None of you need a protector. Every lady on this show can stand on their own two feet...whether in business, marriage, or the personal sector. Alex is a success as are all of you...and she needs to stop becoming so emotionally wrapped up in other people's issues. Her talents are better served on causes...The reason she feels as tho she is not heard is because she is shut-down when trying to "mediate" another person's issue. It is also just as two-faced to meet with someone else who was not invited to a party you were...and immediately say, guess where I just was? I asked why you weren't invited. You probably should have called Ramona ahead of time since you two are "trying" a new path...but at the same time, only you know the path you are taking. We don't need all the reasons. And Ramona should hnot have been offended she was not there. It was the way in which it was presented to her...the other girls and I were there, you were not :P Anyway, hold your own, Jill, as you always do! I have alot of respect for you. You aren't perfect, and none of us are. Many of us see this crap for what it is...good television and alot of pettiness.

Nma
Nma

Its pretty amazing how life is,Its unexpalinable to me, Jill i love you so much Just keep being whom you are.

VanP
VanP

You're great, Jill. Your focus group attendees were minus one person for a good reason. Perhaps if you have another one, Alex shouldn't be included! They are certainly true to form as tactless yentas and you are right to want to be around other positive people. Your Skweez Couture line is very nice - by a woman for women! Continued success in everything, Jill!

Mildynwtg
Mildynwtg

Love ya. You have really made steps to change and it shows! I am glad you feel the same way I did while watching this episode. Way more than you should see! I can understand your not inviting Ramona.. Good business decision.

Patrick McGrath
Patrick McGrath

Jill, you are still the classiest of them all - from Season1 until now. I love watching you and make no mistake, Ramona is no where near as authentic as you.

VdeNY
VdeNY

Team Jill!

Jill, I think you are very intelligent and sophisticated; I also love that your knowledge extends to many fields, and it shows. Alex was the one that brough up Sonja's financial issues at the focus group. I though your advice was fantastic and on target. I think your sister, Lisa, will be on the show next week to offer some advice to sonja. That demonstrates that you are truly a giving person and a wonderful friend; you try to educate them.

As for Ramona, I do like her too. I did see your point of view by not inviting her to your focus group. She really needs to filter that mout of hers; quite honestly, you do not need her ridiculous comments to come out during the meeting; it's unnecessary.

Ramona can dish it, but she can't take it. She didn't invite you to her cooking party during RHONY season 1. She claimed that she needed to invite for people in order to balance the group with your invited presence. Is she serious? She has done it numerous times to you, and I think she must realize the erroneous ways. That's how we learn to treat one another in our own personal lives.

You are a wonderful person, with a big heart!

TEAM JILL

Longtime Viewer
Longtime Viewer

Tacky? Maybe. Soft porn? No. I thought too you were coming from a good place when talking to Sonja about her issues -- trying to help explain. I wish you would recognize Luann's bad behavior, though.

ViewerCarrie
ViewerCarrie

Soft porn...hilarious! Bravo did this with the Orange County ladies too. Now, that was soft porn. I got a real kick out of the gals and the hubby's. Mario looked a little dumb struck like he isn't used to being pampered by Ramona. Simon was showing the world how he feels about Alex while she looked a little nervous. Alex looked great in that outfit BTW

Cecilia2468
Cecilia2468

I didn't see anything porn about it. It really wasn't that big of a deal. As for not inviting Ramona, if she was your friend you would have given her a heads up even by text message as to why you weren't inviting her.

karentc
karentc

You should not have to explain to anyone why you didn't invite Ramona to your focus group.

rynrad
rynrad

If the chips were down...............I would want Jill in my corner!

Vivy
Vivy

I agree.. Ramona is unpredictable and you don't want to mix unpredictable with business.. It would not be wise. You are smart girl..

Yinder
Yinder

Love you on the show, and loved your blog. You are spot on about Ramona. Thank you for reminding us that Ramona did not invite you to her dinner party- totally forget about that. Ramona is so rude and has absolutely no tact.

It is so obvious that Alex is trying to stir up drama for more tv time. Her bad acting is horrible. She's so long winded and off topic, no wonder you guys don't want to listen to her.

I must agree, Luann's "love" scene was more authentic and more fitting for tv.

JacksWife
JacksWife

Jill...So glad to see you are keeping a level head about things. I had to dvr the show this week, and have to admit... I fast forwarded thru the "soft porn" part of the show. Not a fan... some things are meant to be kept private and between you and your partner.