Jill Zarin

Jill shares what she'll remember most about the riad and her thoughts on Alex's entrance.

on Jun 10, 20110

Hi everyone!

It is 100 degrees outside! It is August? I am really loving my time off and trying to reconnect with friends I haven't seen all winter. Last weekend Bobby's sister Zina and her husband came to visit us from Florida. We had a great time and went to a few BBQs in the Hamptons. I went back to the city to see my friend Irina Dvorovenko in Lady of Camellias at the MET. This weekend I am hosting some of my girlfriends from Harpo/Oprah, who were so generous and invited me and my family to see one of Oprah's final shows. They have never been to the Hamptons so I am obsessing over what to show them. Allyson comes home this weekend from Africa. I will post some of her photos in next weeks newsletter, which you can sign up for at jillzarin.com.

Now onto the show!

I really wish I believed Ramona's feelings about our talk. She hits below the belt and thinks it's OK. I can't listen to her continue to say she sometimes puts her foot in her mouth and thinks that it is alright to do so -- only to then throw stones at me if I say something she doesn't like. I really don't know what to do about our relationship at this point. I guess we'll see what happens at the reunion.

The scene when Alex walked in on LuAnn was so funny. Alex said Ramona was vulnerable and sad, giving us the image of her crying upstairs and all the while Ramona and Sonja were laughing and sneaking out of the house. Ramona's pain over our fight didn't last long did it? 

Afterwards, I was really trying to be nice to Alex and see if we could have a friendship. I know she felt better after I walked over. I was happy.

The trip to Morocco was truly amazing -- the riad, the souk, the camel ride to the tent in the desert, just to name a few. I want to thank Luann for being the hostess. I know we're not the easiest group! It was also nice to meet up with my dear friend Brad in such an amazing place. In midst of all the drama, I have special memories that will live in my heart forever. I hope that all of you enjoyed watching these episodes and seeing the beauty and mystery of this exotic country.

I very recently hit 50,000 newsletter subscribers. Thank you all so much. That 50,000th person will be receiving a phone call from yours truly! Thank you all so much. The next goal is 55,000 and that person will receive a call as well, so sign up at jillzarin.com.

SkweezCouture.com is now up! Please check it out. Visit Skweez Couture on Facebook and Twitter as well. Jennifer Zarin has a new blog up that you can read on her Facebook page, The Birthmark Project. The blog is entitled "No Place For Hate," and it is amazing. My sister Lisa Wexler also has a great Facebook page, be sure to drop by.

Finally, thank you for all of the comments you have left on jillzarin.com. I read them all so please keep posting them.

Love,

Jill

108 comments
Fran Fanning
Fran Fanning

Hi Jill,This is the first time I have written to any TV or movie celebrity. I am doing so because I believe you are a fine gal and really and really love your true friends. (only u know who thet are) So sorry you are leaving the show. You, Bobby and your daughter, bring "real" class to the show. You will be misses.

KCCHiefs
KCCHiefs

Jill,

Love you on and off the show. I enjoy watching you wherever you "pop" up on TV! I am just tired of having to watch you on RHW with Jill. I think she is exactly what you are trying not to be. Even in the episode were you say you are not going to gossip… guess who was the first one to stir the pot. You just seem like someone that would be AWESOME to hand out with and Jill just stirs negative energy around acting like she cares when it is really none of her business. I know that you’re a smart lady and I’m guess you will spot this while watching the episodes.

Much Success in all you do!

KG

Mayflower19
Mayflower19

Jill, you have always been my favorite! I do miss you and Bethany but I know one day you will find each other again. Don't change who you are. I know I am not a therapist but if I had one piece of advice for you, it would be for you to not LuAnn and cookoo Kelly get in your head too much. I think they caused your relationship with B to demise. Good luck to you :)

kdb_fos
kdb_fos

Thank you for being appreciative in your blog regarding the lovley 3 week holiday. I cant beleive that the other women didn't even say "Thank you"! Truly NO CLASS!

kdb_fos
kdb_fos

Jill, You were my favorite by a long shot in season 1...you lost a bit of your charm, but htis season you have it all back! You look great & seem like a funny, "real" lady. Were I you, I would never waste another minute on Ramoana... I am happy that you have the class/sense around with Bobby, that is the sign that you have nothing to prove! Enjoy & Happy Summer!

Ardelle
Ardelle

I do think you are trying to get along with everyone. Kudos to you! However, I don't think you have changed. You are who you are - nothing wrong with that. Can't understand why you are in awe over LuAnn.

flustered
flustered

You have grown this season. Mazel! But two things: 1. you should have called Ramona and explained why she wasn't invited to the focus group. 2. You should not have bombarded Sonja with the financial questions in front of everyone. It was mean.

arastell
arastell

I really believe that you should back off a bit in the friendship with Luanne.Find your own ground and stand on it.

Vicki1226
Vicki1226

I think you are great. You seem like the most honest and kind.

robin Anderson
robin Anderson

I loved the way you picked out Bobbys suit, he didn't have a chance too funny

Paulie in NJ
Paulie in NJ

Jill, I am sitting here catching up on my NY Housewives episodes, and while watching you in Morocco with Romona? I think you handled it really great. You have DEFINITELY become more grounded and more personable. I can say...you are my FAV on the show. :)

Drama4urmama
Drama4urmama

Good for you for going to Ramona and making amends at the end of the trip! I wish that would've happened with you and Bethenny!!!

Disappointing season
Disappointing season

Jill, I am so glad that you and Ramona have made up. However, I want to remind you that it was R amona who tried to bring you and Bethany together last season to end the fight and it was you who shut it down, claiming that you were ambushed. So why is it still Ramona's job to mediate a reconciliation between you and Bethany when she had tried and failed once before. Ramona is not the reason you and Bethany are not friends, you are. And you spend an entire season letting everyone know it. You can't play the victim now that the chips have fallenas they have. Own it, you abused yor relationship with a sincere, honest friend, and now you are stuck with the likes of Luann. Have fun with that!

mary stewart
mary stewart

You were one of my favorites but what you did to Bethenny really changed my mind. You Luann, and Kelly really deserve one another. You blame Ramona for not letting you speak to Bethenny when you showed up with Bobby but think back when she had you over to her place in hopes of getting you two to talk and you cried and said I can't do this and your shadow Luann ushered you out of there.

lhoughton
lhoughton

Team Jill!!

You ROCK this season ... Your daughter Ally is STUNNING. You have a wonderful family ~

the trip looked awesome - I look forward to Morocco myself one day.

Stillwaters12
Stillwaters12

Jill you have a peace and grace this year that is so wonderful to see. I would love to be your friend or a sister! Love your Mom too. You have the best marriage as I can see. You have class and style. I would ask you to watch out for LuAnne too and also, do any of you consider having an intervention for Romona? I'm serious. She is in dere need. Keep up your great style and class and peace be with you.

Vicki1226
Vicki1226

You are the best! You seem very real and very kind. Ramona comes across as a nutcase.

Julie
Julie

Jill, You would be so fun to hang out with. I love the way you were ready for anything. I died laughing when the camel ate your bracelet.

nubegris
nubegris

Jill,

you are not one of fav wives, but I must say this season, you have grown in me. I really love your new attitude about forgiveness and closure.

Best wishes in ALL your endeavors.

nube

scottsdaleviewer
scottsdaleviewer

Jill,

I have to admit it looks as if you are trying to change,but I also must agree with other posters who point out that Luann is causing the continued drama.. and she is repeatedly dragging you into it.. Sometimes you succeed it not joining in but sometimes you don't. But it would be nice if you would point out to Luann her "bad behavior" like you are always so ready to do to the others.

hulali
hulali

LuAnne is not the "lady" she claims to be. She manipulates people. She was pregnant when the Count married her, she supported you when you were destroying a beautiful friendship with B ( a good friend would have encouraged you to make up...Ramona) and she's right there cheering you on to make disparaging comments about the other housewives eventhough you claimed to not want to go there this season. I think she likes being the "Defender" because that makes you need her emotional support and validates her place in your life. A good friend would not act like this! Beware, people like that can turn on a dime.

Terre554
Terre554

Jill you won me back! I thought you were going to be nice this season and I really didn't want you to do that. Lies, tantrums, spoiling the fun of other, gossiping, two faced back stabbing - RHNY wouldn't be the same without you.

Keriann
Keriann

Jill, your kind, loving, forgiving behavior has made you so beautiful this season.

Pam48
Pam48

Jill, so glad to see you less confrontational this season. You and Ramona go way back and I hope you will both be able to repair your friendship. There is definitely a strong bond between the you both. Don't lose another great friend like you lost Bethanney. Yes Ramona can be off the wall sometimes, but in the end she adores you. If you think about it, who is been the person that came between you and Bethanney AND Ramona. LuAnn, that's who. She wants you for herself and will turn any little comment or action into vicious gossip. She truly is a devious person and won't be happy until you and Ramona split just like Bethanney. Watch out for her. The only one she is looking out for is herself.

Margo_WI
Margo_WI

Jill,

You seem a lot nicer this season, I like that we get to see a more level-headed side of you. Everyone makes mistakes in life, and you seem to keep your cool even when certain showmates bring the crazy!

Panna
Panna

Dear Gil, Please look for another friend. Ramona DOES NOT deserve you, neither Bethenny (have you seen her lately ? she needs real therapy. That girl is a whack job). You are better thaqn to be friends with a person like Ramona who does NOT appreciate your friendship!My grandma used to say "you can tell a type of bird by it's feather, and the type of person by the friends that you have" Love you !

Shannin
Shannin

Jill, I love love love you this season. I was a fan of your before. But last season I was like what happened to her. No Jill! But this season you are back.. Thank the Heavens. B/c Kelly is still crazy. and Luann has the biggest head I have ever seen on a housewive. Please keep being you.

Aqua 8
Aqua 8

Jill like it when you reconnect with Ramona. I was tearry eyed. Just listened to everybody to just keep your distance from Luann. I'm still looking forward for you and B to get back together. I'm glad you make peace with Alex too. Just make your own judgement for the rest of the cast.

emme5
emme5

Jill I think it was very poor taste of you to comment to the ladies that you had heard in your circle that Mario was cheating on Ramona.

Melody B.
Melody B.

Well Ladies, I just finished reading all the comments posted here ! I would bet the farm that not one of you follow Jill and Ramona on Twitter !!!! It is all there in black and white. Go back and read their tweets for the past month or so. Jill shows her TRUE colors !!!! Plain to see that SHE is the vendictive, vicious one. Go read for yourselves !!! Glad to see Romona rise above Jill's gutter.

Viewer4449
Viewer4449

Still disappointed in your behavior...why are you always playing the victim when you so clearly are the aggressor? You were my favorite housewife until your ridiculously childish grudge with Bethanny. I thought you were really going to work at your relationships with the housewives but I see it's still Jill's way or the highway. I don't think I'm going to watch RHONY any more because it's just so disappointing to see grown women act like mean school girls.

sharij57
sharij57

Jill a great change from last season and all good! Please dont let Luann and Kelly be your best friends...Watch out for the thugs!

Viewer #2733
Viewer #2733

Jill, I always liked you, you seem so approachable. You need to wake up about Luann though. She is an instigator. I think you would have worked things out with Bethanny if LuAnn wasn't always stirring things up.

franzi
franzi

Jill I love you, you are amazing! You are my favourite of all the housewives, you always say exactly what I'm thinking, I hope one day I will be like you because you are an inspiration to me. Love, Franzi

dilyntn
dilyntn

I think your relationship with LuAnn is toxic. Watch your back, because she isn't.

mamapasta
mamapasta

Please think seriously about not coming back forr another season; and take the "Countess," Cindy, and cookie Kelly with you.

pot-kettle
pot-kettle

New Jill? Hmmm, no, I don't think so. Still playing the victim when you are far from it. That comment about people in your circle talking about Mario having an affair really didn't need to be made, now did it? It was mean and hurtful. Even if Ramona didn't hear it that night, she surely has by now. I'm guessing it was edited in out of context just like the comments at the wedding...but you still said it and it was hurtful gossip about a "friend's" husband. Did you not learn after last year to discuss your problems with someone one on one without having to bring anyone else into it. Especially LuAnn. That woman stirs the pot to come between you and anyone else she thinks is competition for your friendship.

Viewer23
Viewer23

Jill, I don't know how you missed all the clues that were laid out for you -but scary island was the last place you could have resolved your problems with Bethenny. To us as viewers, it appeared like you wanted to make a grand entrance and get some camera time with the shock and awe appearance. And I can't imagine that Bethenny would have seen it any differently, so I don't see how you can blame Ramona for that complete disaster, on your part.

As for Bethenny, I would be more cautious with all the digs at the Housewives in your interview time etc. She will see that as your true self shining through-nothing changed.

You and Luann do not bring out the best in each other and Bethenny would certainly high tail it if she saw that kind of energy coming her way. You may have made some improvements, but at the end of the day, we can still see jillousy in the Ramona's pinot grigio etc . We all know deep down, you would hate to see Ramona have a successful liquor line like Bethenny, so you are doing your best to paint her as an alcoholic. Bethenny is pretty smart- I am sure she can see it too. But maybe you don't really care about making up with Bethenny- maybe that's just another act for the cameras.

You're an awesome woman Jill
You're an awesome woman Jill

Jill, I know you've heard it over a thousand times before, but I believe that you and Bethenny will be friends again. It's VERY OBVIOUS that you really miss her and I know she misses you as well. It doesn't matter what ladies you're around and it doesn't matter what ladies she's around, NONE OF THEM can compare to the uniqueness of the friendship that the both of you shared. You may not be friends today, and you may not be friends tomorrow, but I KNOW you guys will be friends again! When it happens, I would recommend that you don't share ANY INFORMATION with anyone, especially Luann! I love you and wish you nothing but peace and blessings!

Cheryl Lee
Cheryl Lee

Jill, you have always been my favorite cast member on the show.You are the most relatable and genuine, even in your less than stellar moments, your reactions real. I wish you and your family the best success and happiness.

jaxtrina
jaxtrina

Hi,

You would be so much better without Luann around. Please realize that she is the source of all of your problems with the girls. First with Bethany, then with Alex, now with Ramona. If you keep Luann around, you won't have anyone else.

viewer
viewer

Jill I have loved you since day one! You have class and are a wonderful lady. I love your humor and respect the fact that you hold your marriage very close to you! I think you have been more then kind to Ramona! Wow I would have pulled her hair out years ago! She treats you like dirt but I did love the fact that you two cleared the air on the last day of the trip!

Laurie Reti
Laurie Reti

Jill, I applaud you in speaking up and being responsible for your actions and what you say. You have definitely grown from last year and I wish that your behavior would rub of on the rest of the housewives from everywhere!!

Greatness
Greatness

Jill, I've always liked you. Even during your rough patch last year, I still liked you. I think you are the most down to earth housewife and you always seem authentic to me. Everyone puts their foot in their mouth at some point or another and I don't think that makes you a bad person. Love ya =)

BajagirlMB
BajagirlMB

Jill, congratulations on the hard work you've clearly done over the last year. You set aside the arrogance that so many of us disliked and opened yourself up to being an authentic person, with imperfections like everyone but good intentions (not like everyone). Your transformation is remarkable.

I didn't get to see all the episodes so I don't know if you directly addressed the things Ramona was told you said at the wedding. I believe your denial, but had to wonder why that woman said those upsetting things to Ramona.

Ramona appears to be irredeemably nutso, and I hope you always bear that in mind when you deal with her. It seems she really has no idea what she has said or how hateful/hurtful it may be. The best reaction from those around her would then be to ignore her - not in the sense of allowing her bad behavior, but in the sense of "oh, that is beneath my notice so I refuse to allow it to upset me." A little laugh goes well with this attitude.

chloemae MI
chloemae MI

Jill, you are such a wonderful person and friend to those around you. I felt so bad for you during the fight with Ramona. She obviously wasn't listen and won't listen. I would have felt the same way. You have truly bettered yourself and it is beautiful to see. Were you have become more level headed and less consceded, Ramona has turned into a psycho with her ego. I love you this season-you have grown into such a classy lady it is beautiful to see. And you can see it-inside and out!!!! You are a great mother, wife, daughter and friend-NEVER FORGE IT!!

MBTrodden
MBTrodden

I am really liking you this season. You seem to be more level-headed then Kelly and Luann who just really want to start trouble.

jps
jps

Jill, I think the You conducted yourself like a Classy Lady This season and did not lower yourself to the gutter like the "Blonde Girls" and for that I say....Bravo!!!

Tomary
Tomary

I like you SO much this season! I adore Bethenny, but I really do think that you've been through a grief process over the loss of your friendship, and that you have grown and blossomed as a result. Not many people use such a painful experience to soul-search and change. I admire you and respect you for doing that.

Maribeth D.
Maribeth D.

Jill, I'm back to loving you again. Last season was very tough. I am saddened by the disconnect between you and B. In either case, I agree with many others here - Luann is the one to watch out for. When you are trying to build or rebuild friendships with others, keep her at a distance. Her 'support' isn't what it seems.