Cast Blog: #RHONY

Peace and Love

Jill gives her honest opinion about Alex's truce and Ramona's behavior.

I normally don't like writing blogs that contain very little positivity. Throughout the season I know our blogs can get very catty toward each other but I always try to add the nice things as well. Bobby and I always say peace and love is the most important thing. I try really hard to stay on that path. When it comes to blogging about a Housewives reunion, unfortunately it's just not going to be filled with pleasantries. Bravo gets us together at the end of each season to talk about the controversies that went on throughout the season and the ensuing months. Needless to say there's not a lot of positivity to write about, so all I can give you is my honest opinion on a few of the situations discussed.

When Ramona and Alex set me up early in the season at the wedding I reacted to what they did and called Alex a name. But what did they expect? They did it to get a reaction. The only thing I regret about it is the language I used. Remember, this was before we made our truce. Alex used this to retract our truce. In the five months since we burned that paper I did not talk behind her back. Every chance she got, she took a shot at me. The things she said about me on camera this season were before she knew what I said about her at the wedding. Everything she said was after we had a so-called truce. I'm an honest person. When I made the truce with her, I meant it and I kept it. Yet, I watch the show and I hear her telling Simon that she never really liked me, etc. . .

Also in her blog this season, she never missed a chance to take a shot at me. So why forgive Sonja who never gave an apology, yet break our truce? Alex said something to the extent of "real friends fight and make up." If that was the case and Alex wanted to be my real friend she would have let that go like she did with Sonja. She realized she couldn't fight with everyone and so she chose Sonja's friendship. That's her choice, but she never should have led me to believe that she wanted to be my friend. It's obvious that she was playing on both sides of the fence. She was looking for a reason to fight with me and used something I said under my breath once over four months of the show against me.

It takes both people to make a friendship work. When Simon threatened me, I could have done the same thing she did, but I chose peace over pettiness. I wish Alex would have done the same. The truth is I did like Simon and Alex when I met them and I would have much preferred to spend the past four years building a friendship instead of tearing each other part. Sadly, I was not surprised to hear Alex condones aggressive behavior from her husband toward her friends or women in general. It was obvious all season as she never stepped up and spoke to Simon about the things he was doing and saying to any of the Housewives.

Did you happen to notice Ramona's body language when she doesn't want to talk about something? When it was brought up about Mario confronting me recently, Ramona just wanted to skip it instead of apologizing for Mario's inexcusable behavior. Andy wouldn't let it go. This was a party held by a mutual friend of ours and there is also another mutual friend of ours who was witness to Mario shoving me with his hand and getting in my face and saying "I want to talk to you." Ramona needed to acknowledge that it happened and ask her husband to apologize. She at least admitted that she didn't see the incident, which is different than what she said in the press after it happened. We choose what we say in our intros, and it's interesting to note how Ramona wanted to present herself: "If people can't handle the truth it's really not my problem." This reinforces her pattern of hurting peoples feelings and not caring about what people think and feel. We all say things sometimes in anger, and I'm as guilty as the next person but at least I'm adult enough to apologize.

I honestly got very upset that Ramona continued to bring up LuAnn's children. Before Season 1 we all agreed, no kids, keep the drama between us. Ramona crossed the line and went as low as she could go. Ramona has no boundaries for the emotional damage she causes. She can give it but she can't take it. For the past two seasons she has relentlessly talked about LuAnn's marriage. Yet when I commented, she thought it was the worst thing ever. She can dish it out but can't take it. It's obvious how uncomfortable she made LuAnn. Ramona wouldn't let it go -- she kept hammering her and I couldn't take it. Someone had to stand up and say "enough" and I literally did. I walked off the set. Ramona should check her own house before throwing stones.

I want to end by saying this: The blondes continue to think that just because they say things it makes them true. In answer to that philosophy I have this to say, "You stop lying about me, and I'll stop telling the truth about you."

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Kristen tells us how she really feels after not being invited to Bethenny's party.

Carole is so hilarious. I love that she met Adam, hit it off, and they are hanging having fun. You go, girl. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

I have to agree under 35/over 75 seems like a great way to go when dating. The Halloween puking in a pedicab thing is OMG, too funny! He held her hair back out of the way! #truelove

I actually didn’t know that Adam dated Lu’s niece. It seems to me that Carole just fell into this. The feeling is mutual, and I would have to agree it’s a bit awkward to tell Lu too soon. Carole doesn’t even know what’s happening at this point!

Bethenny's birthday dinner seemed like a lot of fun, LOL. I didn’t know that she shared the day with her mom, that seems like somewhat of a sore subject. I do remember hearing years ago that she hated birthdays. I love that Sonja is with her German boy. I think it's nuts how these women just keep inviting other men as guests--they clearly didn’t get the plus-one only invite. OMG, the young boy not knowing Jordache jeans?! How is that even possible?

Cheers to expecting the unexpected!

The phone call with Heather catching up and then finding out that I wasn’t invited was interesting, and very much what happens. Simple question: Gee, why wasn’t I invited? Listen, anytime you are in a group and you are not invited, I don't care what anyone says, it’s a bummer. I was last with all the girls in the Hamptons. I felt that we had a nice time at Bethenny’s brunch. Last I saw, Bethenny and Ramona had a huge fight.

When you do meet a new group of women, sometimes it’s nice to include them all, especially when random young dates get to tag along. 

Kristen Taekman

I was just surprised that Bethenny and Ramona made up so fast and were hanging out already? That’s all. I get it--B and I are not besties. When you do meet a new group of women, sometimes it’s nice to include them all, especially when random young dates get to tag along? The guest list was clearly not that tight. Oh well…there’s always next year’s birthday!

Dorinda and Hannah and Dorinda and John. This all seems very complicated, stressful, and a lot of work. Dorinda is really so lovely. It’s hard to believe that she leads a double life. How hard is that? Unless John is really not good for her, it seems that Hannah has to allow her mother to be happy.

Ramona and AOA.

This restaurant is in my ‘hood, just a few blocks away, great spot. It’s really funny that Ramona is an investor in a sports bar. WOW things really have changed!

It’s interesting how Ramona says that she did so much for Mario and didn’t realize how much work he was. It’s nice she is taking time for herself, she really deserves it. As she said, “Trying to look on the brighter side.”

Ramona and Peter are both very, very flirty…hmmm, more than just business??

Dorinda and John seem to love each other. But we are seeing so much fighting and bickering. I am betting that the making up for them is fun after the fighting. 

Rebranding death. I hear Bethenny, “late husband” does seem weird, but I think it’s better than the alternatives, that’s for sure. When I heard about Anthony’s ashes, I became sooo emotional. I can’t believe it, all that that must have stirred up in Carole all these years later. She told me that he would have gotten a kick out of it all, that’s the kind of personality he had.

I am not losing sleep over not being invited to Bethany’s birthday. I was just confused as to why everyone else was invited, and I wasn’t. The last time I saw her, things seemed good between us. She knows we all hang out together, you would think she would say, “Uh, well, now that everyone else is coming, what’s another two? I should invite Dorinda and Kristen.” Right? But no biggie, she didn’t even think of it, because we aren’t friends. Little side note… uh, that’s how you get to know people! I invite you to do things, you invite me…no harm, no loss. Heather is a great friend for having my back! All good. #staytuned

 

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