Jill Zarin

Jill addresses her and Ramona's issues.

on Jun 3, 20110

I hope everyone had a great holiday weekend. I certainly did!

Bobby's entire family came out to stay with us in the Hamptons, and it was cooking and eating all weekend long. My adorable nieces were there and I recorded some of the cutest videos. I will post one of them on my newsletter this week. To receive my newsletter you can sign up at jillzarin.com. I have been tweeting during the episodes so please follow me on Twitter @jillzarin if you don't already. If you do follow me, thank you!

The one thing I miss about filming is our organized play dates. It was great getting together with Cindy, Kelly and LuAnn last week. We all share true friendships, on and off camera.

Let's get straight to "Rameana."

Building up the courage to even talk to Ramona took a lot out of me. I have really tried to be a better listener and hoped to finally hear what I ever did to Ramona to make her act the way she does towards me. When she told me that she was holding on to a resentment about a sarcastic comment I made to someone at her renewal, honestly I was surprised. Ramona often says "I know I put my foot in my mouth sometimes," but yet she NEVER apologizes. I could bring up lots of petty things she has said about me and to me, but in life you need to let the small stuff go.

All I wanted from Ramona was an acknowledgement that she hurt me deeply and was sorry. That if she could redo that day on the island, she would have tried to help me make peace. I walked into the house that day holding Bobby's hand, with a smile on my face. What did they want me to do? Walk in screaming "I'm sorry! I'm sorry!"

I'd like to address a few of the things Ramona has said about me recently. I am sad to say, Ramona is truly mean and likes to put people down rather than build people up. (Look at the way she treated the young ladies she interviewed earlier this season) She is also a LIAR. She thinks if she says something people will automatically think it is true and sometimes they do. Honestly, I usually don't care about what she is talking about, nor do most of you, but recently she has questioned my honesty and integrity. That is where I draw the line and must respond.

One thing people know about me is that I tell the truth. Ramona is receiving a lot of negative attention due to her own actions and instead of listening and learning from watching herself behave so badly, she is striking back every chance she can. Not only at me, but towards LuAnn, Cindy, and Kelly as well. The difference between us? I do root for the underdog, and Ramona -- she likes to kick a dog when it's down. It's that simple. I used to think Ramona and I were just being brutally honest with each other but deep down, we respected each other. I never crossed the line by discussing things I knew about her and her family.

200 comments
Cathy B West Bend WI
Cathy B West Bend WI

I think Jill had changed for the better.

As for Ramona bringing her jewerly line and setting up like a shop, is bad press. She must have a problem selling it that she needed free air time.

Ramona has changed for the worse and is fake.

Brandon C.
Brandon C.

Ramona and Jill are the classic "frenemies" and I think it's safe to say they always will be.

Mintedroyalty
Mintedroyalty

Jill,

I am glad to hear about the Skweez thoughts for men. Sorry to say I have a little tummy and could use some help! Your such a mensch! Ramona is just a very nasty, negative person desperate for love and attention. It is obvious from the last show Mario is not giving it to her. Simon knew where his wife was and Mario, on camera, didn't care where his wife was and was eyeing the bar trash they were playing pool with. That fortune teller was on the mark!

Keep your head up, we all see the huge heart you have, your great sense of humor and ability to be dead honest. Team Jill all the way!

funD
funD

OK i love that you and Ramona made up - it almost made me cry a little! Love you all - keep getting along with everyone!

Ashley Fan
Ashley Fan

Very impressed by you last night! You made the show enjoyable to watch...but it was very hard to watch Luann & Kelly. I'm back on Team Jill!

TexTrace
TexTrace

Jill,

You're still my very favorite of all the HW shows!! You and Bethany are the best :( Praying that y'all are able to restore your friendship. You two need each other and I believe it's going to happen. I would just keep LuAnn out of your business.....I don't think she wanted/wants that to happen.

Many blessings for you and yours T

Mias
Mias

Even though it started with you and Romona...you stayed out of the rest of it. Good job! Crazy Kelly is back, totally does not make sense as usual. Someone needs to walk Kelly out of the room and put her in a corner. Luann is so way up on her high horse she is gonna get a nose bleed. These are the brunettes you are getting clumped in with...yikes!

Lauren R
Lauren R

JILL JILL JILL!!!!!!

i love you so much but you have to take your blinders off! You dont need enemies with a "friend" like LuAnn. How have you not seen that when you watch the play backs! You think Scary Island was your time with Betheny and you blame Ramona. The real opportunity was presented by Ramona and destroyed by LuAnn!!!

LuAnn also tried to play GOD this season with Ramona. Yes, Ramona is difficult, but LuAnn is NOT god and needs to stop manipulating you. She has no husband now, and apparently no life, i cant imagine another reason why she is so heavily involved in problems that dont concern her.

JILL - you are lucky to have some of your life on tape so you can see the way you and the "friends" in your life act in retrospect. I hope it opens your eyes about LuAnn.

MariaIC
MariaIC

Jill,

Just let it all go. No need to blame Ramona or anyone for the failed friendship with Bethenny.

Everything ends. Everything changes. Nothing is permanent. Buddhism and/or mediation might be good for you. Read some Thich Nhat Hahn -- maybe The Miracle of Mindfulness.

I want you to heal and to feel free. You deserve it.

--MariaIC

Hersheysmom
Hersheysmom

Jill--I love you AND you need to take resposibility for the end of your friendship with Bethenny and now maybe Ramona. Ramona tried to get you guys back together and you percieved it as an ambush. Its obvious you are sooo hurt and Im so sorry you are going thru this--espescially on tv-- this situation is exactly like the one w/Bethenny--when you are hurt you cant hear the other person that is hurting as well. Like I said, i really like you Jill and I hope you and Ramona can work things out. You BOTH need to listen to each other and acknowledge/apologize to each other. Lifes too short--youre a fabulous woman--- now go make up with your friends!!

cynthiz
cynthiz

Jill - I was disappointed in your behavior last season but you have really turned things around now. I see you trying to be patient with Ramona and trying to be a good listener. She has issues that have nothing to do with you and you should just accept that your friendship with her is tainted because of her issues. Stick with Kelly and Luann and keep having fun. Don't let toxic Ramona and ridiculous Sonja poison the well anymore.

ThisIsGood
ThisIsGood

Jill, I thought you and Ramona cleared the air regarding your arrival and quick departure at "scary" island. I was totally taken off guard when you lit into Ramona about what took place over a year ago. Hadn't that been resolved in last year's reunion? If you are as changed/evolved as you say your are, why bring the past to Morocco? Could it be that you had friends who'd have your back? This season is so juvenile, I have no desire to watch the outcome.

Gayleen
Gayleen

I must say, I was impressed at the end of the season with you, talk about alliances. I don't dislike you, but after listening to your husband tell you you should not have completely closed the door on your relationship with B. but you did and when I not wanted anymore by old friends and maybe some new. I will say this. Look at all the seasons, and you will see who needs who. Kelly, just as crazy as she was last season. LuAnn, although she has more money than me she, I can't put my finger on it, but shes not what she claims to be. The new chic cold or hot she don't know. I know that B has moved on and yes she may miss you but sweetie it was your nail in the coffin that ended that relationship (because the cameras was on you and you had your award moment) now B is a rich woman, (Skinny Girl M$$$$$$$) how much is she worth now, her own show, hosting talk shows, moving to LA and to my understanding she can buy her a home in the Hamptons now MRS B has choices and the thing about kicking someone when there down (up was the only thing she could do and I truly believe you would have been a big influence in her life had you not did her the way you did her on TV. I know you have friends, rich, house in the Hamptons and so much more. Guess what?????? It's killing you that your not a part of it all. B stands on her own, you are with a group of women and the one I think you should get together with is Ramona she really is your friend. I have a friend we cuss each other, don't talk from time to time and we do our own thing. She is still my friend and I could not let someone LuAnn & Kelly come in and mess it up. You and Ramona what a combination it's great. Think about it you two are the HW of NEW YORK all by yourselve. We'll call the new show Til Death do We Part or Friend for Life I Love you

Viewer in Tennessee
Viewer in Tennessee

Jill, the change both inside and out is very good. Your recent trip was an eye opener about you and the others. You would make a great travel companion no matter the location; loved the fanny pack and the low key attitude. Two of you travel companions were definitely the "ugly Americans". They should have stayed home and continued doing the same old stuff. As far as true friendship, someone once told me life is like a theather, you get to choose who sits in the front row and who sits in the balcony. Sometimes people are in your life for what sometimes seems like forever and somtimes not, you have to know when to let go. May you and your family have a blessed life and hopefully you will be grateful and continue to share your gratitude with your charities.

View4me
View4me

I am amazed that you blame Ramona for not having a relationship with Bethenny. How ridicuous can you be? OWN IT.

hulali
hulali

Sticks and stones may brake your bones, but words will never harm you!

NOT!! Gossiping about people is very hurtful and this is something you just can't stay way from. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!

Mary X.
Mary X.

Welcome back Jill! You had a really tough season last year and I am so happy you are back to your old self. I hope you and Bethenny can someday mend your relationship. :)

Lynda Duke
Lynda Duke

Jill, You really are a nice lady. Stick to the ones that you know are your "true" friends. Lynda

Houston
Houston

You really have grown and I so enjoy watching you and hearing your comments. Keep it up pretty lady!!!

HaL1975
HaL1975

Jill, You are loved by all of out here. Ramona is in need of some help I have always loved her and I am not sure what is going on with her. But I am sure but the time you went to St. John's that your friendship with B was over. You and her had time after time to fix it and for whatever reason you didn't. I think you are still upset over the lose of that. It is sad to see another friendship going down but I can see it being Ramona not you at all. Jill stay strong you friends, family and fans are behind you. Take care

mont30
mont30

Jill, i loved the camel seans!

susanw
susanw

Your great just the way you are, just be you!

Bonzi
Bonzi

Stick with the brunettes!

misha
misha

Jill

I'm so glad you stood up to Ramona. She is a real piece of work. Please keep serving her.

Kris M.
Kris M.

I am not a Ramona fan, but I still think you messed up big time with Betheny and you never ever should have shown up on the island. You have to own that. Never go anywhere you are not welcomed.

LAwoman
LAwoman

It was so like you to say in that annoying voice of yours, "Her husband is cheating on here that's what I hear in my circle". Really? I think you made up that lie, cause that is so you. Passive agressive liar all the way.

missgrits
missgrits

You did it again! Why wait and spoil a wonderful trip with a confrontation when you could work on your relationship in NY? Just like with Bethanny! You had plenty of chances to work things out with Her in NY, but de died to what until St. Johns . Not sensible!

Ms K
Ms K

Jill I have always loved you and I always will because you tell the truth! Honey I am so sick of this blond/brunette thing its ridiculous. But let me say this I am so proud of how you handled the situation with Alex. I applaud you for owning up to what you have said and done. But honey I alson wanted to tell you I loved you in the dark hair and ponytail that was FIERCE! I like the fact that you stepped out of your comfort zone girl and you looked HOT! Stay marvelous sweetie and be blessed!

jackiehi5
jackiehi5

Jill, please don't waste another minute on figuring out Ramona. It is what it is. I've always been a fan of yours. I think you truly do have the best intensions to keep your friendships but you can't control how people are going to react. Enjoy your family, your true friends will be there when you need them.

robin Anderson
robin Anderson

Jill you killed it keep it up or I will have a heart attack

Megan12
Megan12

Hey Jill,

I am on your team this season! I really think the "mean girls" made you a target last season. I don't know what went on behind the scenes but, If I had been thrown out of a friend's house I would be so hurt and I don't know if I would ever want to be in the same room with them again. I think you've done a really good job of trying to be civilized with Ramona and, it definately is true that everyone does (and should) sometimes hide their true feelings. Imagine the trouble you'd get in telling a difficult boss what you really thought about them. Ramona can dish it but, she sure can't take it! Hang in there!

Ms. Faye
Ms. Faye

I have to say Jill, I think you're back. The fun, honest personality is back. Not the one who was holding a childish grudge against her best friend. It's unfortunate that it went that far. But in retrospect, I'm sure you see what you did to cause that split with Bethenny. Anyway, I'm liking you again. I love your comedic attitude. You're funny, you remind me of Joy Behard (sp?). Keep up the good work, you are a good person and I hope the best for you and your family.

passent
passent

i love you! and think your very smart but how do you not see that luann is the one that stopped you and bethanny from making up!!!!!

Keesa
Keesa

Jill you're real and that's why I like you. You're not perfect you have your faults just like everyone else... If Ramona was any kind of friend to you, she would have taken you aside and spoken to you, instead of kicking you off the island. I'd like you and her to make up. I think you and Bobby are wonderful people. Jill I can see that you're trying to be a better woman...YOU ROCK!!

Blueribbon
Blueribbon

Jill

You rock.

Stand back - Ramona's world is about to implode. You are a good person and will be there for her but don't let your self become Ramona's collateral damage.

Keep being the warm wonderful person you are.

suzymagnolya
suzymagnolya

Jill, I wonder why no one has expressed the fact that Ramona did try to help you and Bethenny make up when she had you at her house with Luann. You weren't having it. Luann is the one who whisked you out. Why not blame her? She seemed gleeful about keeping the feud between you and Bethenny going. Just sayin'

HousewifeFan54
HousewifeFan54

Jill, I think most of us are in agreement that Ramona needs help. I can't describe what it is, but I've seen it in my own family actions like that. You have to know down deep that your arriving to "Scary Island" was not going to give you an opportunity to fix things up with Bethanny. It jsut wasn't going to happen. I believe you said "Just because you say something doesn't make it true!" I thik you are still grieving over the loss of Bethany.

khsimms
khsimms

Jill I'm so sorry that you are still hurt by the Bethanny situation and what went down in St. John. But if you are truly the changed person that you say you are, thenyou have to look at the situation more objectively. You initially didn't go because of Bethanny, then you show up anyway thinking that the gracing of you presence was enough to show good intentions. You do seem to have a little insight but you put Ramona in an awkward postion. You should have arranged to talk to Bethanny on your own. Ramona tried once before to get you together and that was a disaster. Now you blame her for not helping you with Bethanny on St. John? Does that make any sense to you? Ramona is a a little crazy to say the least but you seem to be more concerned about your feelings instead of hers or anyone elses' in that circumstance. Trips are not a way to quell the storms in relationships. You need to own up to the fact that you talked about her behind her back and apologize if that upset her. You discounted her feelings and inserted your own hurt feelings.

NatalieR
NatalieR

Jill, I love the New York Housewives and loved the friendship that you and Bethanny shared. You blame Ramona for not allowing you time to make amends with Bethany. However, I believe that LuAnn is the one to blame. Last season, Bethanny tried to reach out to you in the apartment and LuAnn would not let Bethanny approach you. I truly believe that if Bethanny had been able to break through the LuAnn barrier, you two would have been able to reconcile. By the time the island trip came around, it seemed that it was too late. Much luck to you! I hope you get the chance to be a positive part of Bethanny's life once again.

Georgia K.
Georgia K.

I had the honor of meeting Jill and her husband Bobby this weekend in the Hamptons at Trata Restaurant and she definitely had to be the sweetest celebrity I have ever met. Very down to earth and gorgeous! Thanks for allowing us to take a photograph with you it definitely was a highlight to our bachelorette bash :)

1986
1986

Jill, I understand that you are hurt by things that were said or done by Ramona. However, I do not think you are taking responsiblity for the part you played in damaging the relationship you had with Bethany. You shut Bethany out and when you were open to communicate and repair your relationship with her she was no longer ready. The only people at fault for that damaged relationship is you and Bethany. What I don't understand is it appeared that Ramona was trying to repair and apologize but you were already defensive from the get go your facial expressions your arms were crossed and neither of you were willing to listen to eachother. If you both learn to shut your mouths for a moment I think you both can repair your friendship. You are still angry and not ready to listen. Don't do what you did to Bethany and shut out a friend because you are being stubborn and closed minded and then when you want to open up it will be too late again for this friendship!!!

bravo fan 2
bravo fan 2

I like Jill and Ramona. If Jill is not friends with Bethany and Ramona it is because Jill slams the door closed abruptly ending all possibility of reconciliation. Bethany and Ramona gave Jill plenty of opportunity to repair her relationship with them. As for Ramona..she has told everyone how she is( and she is too busy to conform to what everyone else wants her to be). Good for her! If these women were indeed Ramona's friends, one of them could have discreetly pulled her aside at the auction and clarified that the wine was to be placed up for bid and not served. Jill should have called ahead to Scary Island. Ramona could then have had time to prepare for her arrival. Each woman brings something to the mix. However, it is really difficult to watch Jill right now. I keep waiting for the "change" in her.

Livermore lady
Livermore lady

#1 - What do you mean you were trying to hide the fact that you sold your house in the Hamptons?? Last season you mentioned how fortunate you were to have sold it before the market had dropped. #2- Who would WANT to be friends with Ramona? She is toxic to everyone she comes near her.

Ga viewer
Ga viewer

I am no huge Ramona fan, but I am disgusted by you...Ramona tried to get you and Bethenny back to being friends, but you would not have it. Why should she try to help you on scary island????why??????

You showed up thinking everyone would be happy to see you and CLEARLY they were not...Ramona owed you NOT ONE THING..and she should NOT apologize.

However, in this new Bethenny like grudge you have against Ramona, you refuse to be her friend unless SHE apologizes to YOU!!! What!!!! You did not even listen to Ramona. She was being upfront about something CURRENT..you talked about her at that wedding--as you did Alex...as if you were so ABOVE them...You and your buddies-Kelly (who still needs serious help), Countess darling (snotty) and new buddy Hangergate...move on...you will self destruct on each other eventually...

Thank God Bravo has the sense to give Bethenny her own show...she is the only show worth watching...I will not make the mistake of tuning in again.

djdonnag
djdonnag

OMG! Please post this!!! Ramona did apologize to you several times while you sat in the SUV on the island. YOU probably weren't listening and don't remember. SO go look at the video again! She owes you nothing now. She apologized to you over and over but you wouldn't shut your mouth enough to listen. She shouldn't have to apologize again just because you demand it, again and again. SHE ALREADY DID while you whined and whined about everyone's cold reception to you on the island. You want someone to blame for your loss of Bethenney's friendship. Ramona did try to get you to reconcile at her home, BUT stubborn and prideful Jill wasn't having it. THAT was your chance. AND You should probably thank Ramona for tyring when she did. She was waaaay ahead of you. She owes you nothing now in terms of Bethenney!! OWN IT, YOU messed up all on your own. Bethenney has moved on. YOU should too. ..... It is you...Ramona tried to calmly discuss with you and all you did was get defensive and angrily attack her in Morocco. You haven't learned to listen or remember a damn thing.