I hope everyone had a great holiday weekend. I certainly did!
Bobby's entire family came out to stay with us in the Hamptons, and it was cooking and eating all weekend long. My adorable nieces were there and I recorded some of the cutest videos. I will post one of them on my newsletter this week. To receive my newsletter you can sign up at jillzarin.com. I have been tweeting during the episodes so please follow me on Twitter @jillzarin if you don't already. If you do follow me, thank you!
The one thing I miss about filming is our organized play dates. It was great getting together with Cindy, Kelly and LuAnn last week. We all share true friendships, on and off camera.
Let's get straight to "Rameana."
Building up the courage to even talk to Ramona took a lot out of me. I have really tried to be a better listener and hoped to finally hear what I ever did to Ramona to make her act the way she does towards me. When she told me that she was holding on to a resentment about a sarcastic comment I made to someone at her renewal, honestly I was surprised. Ramona often says "I know I put my foot in my mouth sometimes," but yet she NEVER apologizes. I could bring up lots of petty things she has said about me and to me, but in life you need to let the small stuff go.
All I wanted from Ramona was an acknowledgement that she hurt me deeply and was sorry. That if she could redo that day on the island, she would have tried to help me make peace. I walked into the house that day holding Bobby's hand, with a smile on my face. What did they want me to do? Walk in screaming "I'm sorry! I'm sorry!"
I'd like to address a few of the things Ramona has said about me recently. I am sad to say, Ramona is truly mean and likes to put people down rather than build people up. (Look at the way she treated the young ladies she interviewed earlier this season) She is also a LIAR. She thinks if she says something people will automatically think it is true and sometimes they do. Honestly, I usually don't care about what she is talking about, nor do most of you, but recently she has questioned my honesty and integrity. That is where I draw the line and must respond.
One thing people know about me is that I tell the truth. Ramona is receiving a lot of negative attention due to her own actions and instead of listening and learning from watching herself behave so badly, she is striking back every chance she can. Not only at me, but towards LuAnn, Cindy, and Kelly as well. The difference between us? I do root for the underdog, and Ramona -- she likes to kick a dog when it's down. It's that simple. I used to think Ramona and I were just being brutally honest with each other but deep down, we respected each other. I never crossed the line by discussing things I knew about her and her family.
Jill, Ramona was the only one who went out of her way to try and help you make up with Bethenny! Remember the meeting at her apartment when LUANN took you away. You are mad at the wrong person.
You go girl! I'm glad someone finally called out Ramona. I certainly would not worry about having her as a "FRIEND". Who needs all that drama in their life anyway. Keep on being you and forget about Ramona.
I don't know how much of this drama is for entertainment' however, I feel that Ramona was immediately on the defensive and didn't even attempt to stop talking a listen to what you had to say. I think the other ladies give you bad advise too. I would have to say that Ramona and Sonja both are busybodies that thrive on creating drama with the other so called girlfriends. They are both so self absorbed and trying to make the show all about them. Cindy, LuAnn, and Kelly are much nicer. Man I would kill to have a friend like LuAnn that treated everyone to the most fabulous vacation trip ever!
Jill I love you! You are fan and entertaining... now, about the Ramona issue, yes she should apologize, but you have a lot of apologies to do also... Both of you need to think as adults in this entire situation.... And, maybe is time for you to talk to Bethany alway from the cameras? Try to at least patch the situation, because we all know that is way too late to fix it.
Love you Jill, but I would not blame anyone about what happened between you and Bethenny. Intense friendships some times fizzle....and I just love the new Jill who does listen and tries to hear the other side. Ramona has demonstrated time and time again that she has a different set of friendship rules for everyone else and another for herself. Stay true to yourself and your own personal growth and let the chips fall where they may.
Jill, I watched last night watching for the venom that Ramona kept saying you were demonstrating towards her, and it just wasn't there. You are not a great listener, and I can see how that fight got frustrating, since basically it looked like both of you were trying to get your points across, not listen to the other, but I didnt' see any true animosity from anyone but Ramona. She felt the need to control the situation, pure and simple and you weren't going for it. As for the fighting, at a certain point you have to realize that she doesn't care that she hurt you, and decide how to move on. It isn't fair to blame Ramona for not making up with Bethanny. Sometimes you have to take yoru licks and move on. I am not seeing much of a change in you this season, you seem like the same old Jill to me. Always ready to gossip and quip, but I have always liked you so I don't mind it one bit.....I just hope you realize that the general public liked you better when you were just being Jill, not trying to shape your persona so much. Its okay to just let life happen once in awhile. You've got a great life going, stay true to who you are.
jill, i really adore you! even when you do something wrong, i see myself in those mistakes! i do, or have done the same thing in the past. i can't help but like you! however i do have one question, why are you sooo upset with ramona for interferring with your chance to make up with bethany? she was the one who tried to put you two together in NY, when LUAN pulled you away just as you were making progress. why don't you hold a grudge against LUAN about that I see such a good person in you, even when you make mistakes it's usually not ill intended, but LUAN, she is just nasty and thinks by adding DARLING after or before it, makes it ok. I really don't like the effect she has on you. she seems to instigate alot of your not so nice moments.....
Keep being you Jill! You are a great gal and I for one am tired of everyone expecting you should apologize for every breath you take, when they themselves can rip people apart in the apparent name of truth. Don't listen to all the negative comments. You are very self aware and owe your faults. Our faults are what make us unique. If everyone were perfect, this world would be a boring place.
Adore you - stay strong.
Jill, you have always been my favorite. I think you are very loyal to your friends and sometimes that loyality is taken for granted. Don't ever change who you are.
What a nice blog - sharing about your family and discussing the R. incident intelligently and with facts...that is why you will make it through this rubbish just fine and with the knowledge that you don't need a friend like R. You are great the way are and you own it! ;)
You have shown yourself to be dishonest throughout the seasons of the show. It's time to look at your own actions and let Ramona deal with her own issues. Liar and Jill Zarin are synonymous. You missed every chance you were given to make amends with Jill and trying to blame Ramona for anything related to you and Jill just shows how delusional you are.
I WOULD ENJOY READING YOUR BLOG AND HAVING IT BE ABOUT YOU AND YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS/ NOT FOCUSING ON OTHERS AND THEIR WEAKNESSES. RESPECT YOURSELF AND SHARE ALL THE AMAZING THINGS THAT MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE. THERE IS NO NEED TO POINT OUT OTHERS INADEQUACIES. THIS BLOG IS YOUR CHANCE TO SHINE, WHY PUT ALL THAT ENERGY IN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AVOUT OTHERS? YOU DON'T NEED TO EXPLAIN SITUATIONS, ACTIONS SPEEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
Keep your head up Jill! Romeana will never change...I am glad you are calling her on her bad behavior!! You are the better person...God Bless!!
Hi Jill, You were awesome last night. You let Ramona speak, you admitted you said what you said, but were not sorry. Ramona needs to lighten up. She drove me crazy that she didn't listen to a word that you had to say. It isn't you - it is Ramona, you are awesome! Love you!
You are doing yourself a favor and a blessing by working on letting things go and holding to your integrity and honesty. Your blessings will continue grow.
Jill, If Ramona can't handle "your truth", that's really not your problem. (isn't that HER tag line?)
Jill, From day-one Ramona has always enjoyed putting the screws to you. It's good for you to finally start seeing this. Who needs a friend like that?!?
I have always been TEAM JILL - and you are the reason I watch the show - however I have to say it is becoming VERY uncomfortable to watch you on the show - the way you no longer look at any of the girls when you are interacting with them. Your eyes keep diverting to the "crew" or the "camera" PLEASE Jill just be Jill and quite worrying about what the camera catches or what someone will think! You were loveable on Season 1 because you were not "playing" to the cameras. I miss that Jill!!!!!!!!!!!
Jill, I thought that you and Ramona had spoken since the island incident, and things seemed to be alright between you two. Unfortunately, due to editing we do not see everything that is said and they just piece things together to make it exciting for us viewers to follow the drama.
This show and it's drama has become tiresome. The ONLY highlight of the last episode was when you saw the tent in the desert and said, "where's Bobby?". He is your greatest asset, along with your daughter. Enjoy your family, as I think you do, and leave these housewives behind. That is what I intend to do. Good Luck to you and yours.
Jill you lived two blocks from Bethany, you could have made up with her at any time on your own, or when Ramona brought you and Bethany together in her apartment. You choose not to accept her apologize then or try to make it right. Now it's Ramona's fault. You only believe your own reality, and choose not to see others. Ramona is not the bad guy here. You made your choice's now accept what you created.
I was very impressed by you in this episode. This episode portrayed you in a different light. Everything from your fannie pack to your camera shots, you could honestly tell you wanted to have a wondeful experience and truly take advantage of the opportunity. I was also happy to see you spoke with Ramona. You can tell how much you have changed over the past year. It was completely apparent that Ramona refused to listen to you once you gave her the courtesy of listening to her side. Ramona looked irrational and honestly very low class.
Love you Jill you are favorite housewife!
I am so sad that you can't get past your friendship with Bethenny. For someone who didn't want to have anything to do with her, you won't let her go. If Bethenny hadn't become so successful, I don't think you would be giving her the time of day. Let it go because your drama isn't helping the show or the dynamics among the women that remain. Frankly, it's getting really boring!
I just adore you, Jill! Good for you for working so hard to be a better listener. It was very obvious during your conversation with Ramona that you really were trying to hear everything she had to say. I don't blame you a bit for holding a grudge for what she did to you on 'Scary Island'. She should be ashamed of herself. Friends do not kick other friends out of their homes. I can't imagine how hurtful that was for you. You are more than right to expect an apology. Don't let the mean trio get to you. I would have never thought you, LuAnn, and Kelly would make such a fun group to watch. But it is nice to see all of you able to hang out and joke around without the drama.
Jill- you say that you've never brought up anything that you've heard about Ramona's family yet on this episode you say that you've heard within your circle that Ramona's husband is seeing another woman so that is not true, you have brought up hurtful things you have heard. Also, I cannot believe that you would blame Ramona for the end of your friendship with Bethenney.. that one was all you and you had ample opportunity to make up with her before St. John, you just didn't want to at the time and now realize your mistake. The end of your friendship is on you, not Ramona. I really do not like who you've become these past 2 seasons. You have a lot more changing to do.
Jill, girl you put Romona in her place last night.. I am so proud of you Jill... keep up the good work and God bless...
Good for you, trying to sort things out with her. I see you trying this season.........my hat is off to you. God bless you, Jill.
Team Jill all the way!!! You don't need a friend like Ramona. I'm sure you have many more friends than she does and your life would be more peaceful if you just cut her loose.
you know, you were both wrong. you have hurt each other. I think at the root is you are still upset over losing your friendship with Bethanny and blame Ramona. You & Ramona need to just let it go. Tell each other Ok, you hurt me, I hurt you, lets move on. Best of luck.
Jill, hold your head high and let the downers drown themselves. I think you've given everyone a very long rope, now let them do whatever they want, and you move on. It's great to see you and Kelly in particular keeping it real. Enjoy life.
I didn't like the way you acted last year. This year you are a different woman than all of the previous seasons. You appear as one does after they have done some deep soul searching and came out realizing what is important in life and what is not. I can say for the first time that the "Superficial" Jill is gone, and now your heart is bigger than your personality. God Bless
Jill- I think you handled everything perfectly last night! I love that you dressed the part when you were shopping (especially with the fanny pack). Maybe Sonja would've felt more safe if she would've followed what you did.
I love when couples can act normal and not have to try and show everyone how in love they are...you and Bobby are obviously very in love.
I love you this season and am happy that you seem to be much happier too! Xoxo
I am really disappointed to see you once again shift blame. It was your trusty friend Kelli that created the fiasco on Scary Island had she not intentionally gone out of her way to try and beat down bethany you might have been welcomed to the Island and not felt like an intruder. YOu showed up unannounced, not only bad manners but clearly a bad time. I think it took a lot of courage for Ramona to ask you to leave which was the right thing to do. You were not the victim in this scenario. Get over it already. Your the one that killed your friendship with bethany out of pure jealousy.
Jill, we all know that Ramona called you the night before you went to St Johns to ask you to meet Kelly at the airport as she was worried about her....WHY WHY WHY didn't you TELL Ramona you would be in St Johns the NEXT DAY? I think you knew that this was not such a good idea , but you went anyway.
Jill, you are really showing a great side of yourself this season! You seem much more down to earth and reasonable. Keep it up love!
Jill I think you are a wonderful person. It has become clear that Ramona only hears what she says and stops listening to what others say if she doesn't like what they say, Please Jill, you do not need this stress in your life. You have many nice and wonderful friends who can enjoy your company, please drop her, Your faithful supporter, Sue
seriously... heed your advice to alex. move on... she did apologize 3 times about you feeling bad in st. john only you cannot let it go... Rameana... listen to you??? that is a dig. if you are better and bigger person you need to act like it!
Jill I know you have a big heart but you also have a mean streak a mile wide and that comment you made about Mario's infedilities being known amongst your "crowd" was reprehensible. You can try to spin things all you want and minimize everything you have done and said as "small stuff" but the viewers can see what's going on. Ramona is no better but she was tyring to work things out with you and you lost your temper. I understand that your feelings were deeply hurt and you are angry, but blaming Ramona for you not reconciling with Bethenny? Get real. You are grasping.
I'm not sure why you continue to fight ramona and call her names. Just get over it and move on like a new person would.
Jill, did you recently lose your mom? I'm so sorry if you did! I lost mine 4 years ago and miss her every.single.day. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Ramona....is just one of a kind. I'm really glad I don't have to deal with her!
Love you Jill -- but you do need to forgive and move on. To have such a black cloud (anger & venom) hanging over your head is very stressful. Admittedly it would be hard to be friends with Ramona. She lacks socialization. Please acknowledge this fact and move on.
Ramona is just the type of friend you keep around for entertainment. You just never know what is going to come out of her mouth!
Not everyone is two faced...really. Perhaps everyone you know...
Forgive Ramona because I have a feeling she is going to need a good friend within the next year. She is so tense and wired to the point I think she is going to explode. She would like to think she has the perfect life but deep down inside she knows she does not. She acts like a person who is about to have their world crumble before them.
You were treated very badly in St Johns and true friends would have forgiven you and appreciated your effort to mend those fences. It was not easy for you to walk into that lion's den and I never would have sent you away. Bobby is so kind and I never would have hurt someone that way.
You are more enjoyable to watch this season.
Take Care and Have a Fabulous Summer!
I think you should be proud of yourself. You made the effort to repair a fragile relationship, and there's alot to be said for that. It is not your fault that Ramona refused to hear you. She COULDN'T have heard you - she never stopped talking. That seems to be what she does with everyone.....she yip, yip, yips her way over everyone, and hears NOTHING! Congratulations for trying to mend the broken link between you, but I doubt very seriously that Ramona is worth the effort.