LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn address her "condescending" attitude and Tweeting behind people's backs.

on Aug 1, 20110

It’s been a great season and I can’t believe it’s over! From beginning my relationship with Jacques, to our trip to Morocco, and singing with Natalie Cole, it’s been a very exciting year. Behind the scenes, our production crew worked tirelessly to make great entertainment and without all their hard work, this season wouldn’t have been possible. Thank you to Andy Cohen for his patience and good humor and to Bravo for allowing us to share our lives with you.

As a hostess, you try your best to please your guests, but sometimes it’s impossible to please everyone. I wanted the girls to experience the magic of Morocco, and I stepped up to do the coordination and planning needed to make this trip great. If the girls didn't want an RA they shouldn't have behaved like college students!

I don't understand how my expecting people to behave properly makes me a condescending person. I have high standards and I expect my friends to be considerate and kind. Using social networking to communicate their feelings about me rather than just saying these things to my face is so 2011. I don't talk behind my friend’s backs, and I wish they had the courtesy to do the same.

114 comments
lynn684
lynn684

I am over the pond . here in England  and let me tell you, your Countess title most certainly went with your dvorce.  Also, why would you take part in a reality show ? my guess and most of my friends is desperation !!  PS  leave Alex alone !

Monica
Monica

Love you and think you are great. Don't change and please keep your friendship with Jill and Kelly- they seemed sincere.

Jan Cantu
Jan Cantu

Happy Jill and Kelly are gone and am not looking forward to seeing Luann in her Holier than Thou attitude

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Dear Countess Fabulous, Your new blog is not up yet so I have to write to say that on Andy's show your rocked it doll. OMG!!!! You stole the show. I must say your outfit was so chic and I loved the belt. Your new hairstyle look great also . You are my favorite on any show on Bravo. Keep living your life sweet LuAnne.

Mary Ann
Mary Ann

I can't believe they kept you on the show. You are the most condescending person I have ever come across. You apparently don't know what class is. You treat people like they are beneath you. Who do you think you are? What have you done? I understand your ex now. Do you read these blogs? If you do you can see most people are against you. Arent you embarrassed? I guess every show needs a clown.

unreal 1 of 2
unreal 1 of 2

Can't you just go with Jill.....you are both vulgar...go...be happy....

olfat
olfat

hello i watch you show just becuse you are in it am from 3rd world from Syria i think you don t heard a bout it so am so happy cuse i found the website to tell you how much you are classy lady i wish some day we talk but i know even in my dream i can not talk with you and maybe you will not read my comment i wish you happy life you deserve it Olfat Abdulbaki

SOUTH AFRICA
SOUTH AFRICA

It has become very obvious how you operate. You add fuel to the fire and then step back while the explosion happens....... and act so shocked ! I find you to be a very calculating person with an agenda. I wish you luck because that wheel is round and will come back to get you!

GEToffYourHighHorse
GEToffYourHighHorse

You really need to get off your high horse LuAnn. The only "count" thing you should do is count the amount of time you've been a total nasty #### to the other housewives.

Eat some humble pie lady.

Humble Pie
Humble Pie

Luann, Part of being gracious is accepting others as they are. There is nothing wrong with educating people but you take it to a whole different level. You proclaim to be this person with manners but you are probably one of the rudest individuals I've ever witnessed in action. In my observation your trying to hard to create an image of yourself and it's back firing. Passive aggressive is probably the term that would best describe your behavior. You bully people and when that doesnt work in subduing your victim, you run. I'm sure your a very nice person on some level but you'd never make it in my circle due to your condescending mannerisms. Try humbling yourself once in a while instead of trying to impress your ego. Tacky behavior for a "Countess"

Josh Murray
Josh Murray

Luann, I sincerely worship the ground you walk on. I think you are graceful, elegant, and hilarious. I just got done reading your book, and I listen to your music everyday. You truly are authentic, and amazing. I wish you the best with your life, and the new season coming up.

Tracy lee
Tracy lee

Luann i love you i think you are fabulous but you do need to come down to earth a bit. Not everyone is as fortunate as you and the airs and graces you pull out sometimes come across as you are royalty and other people are pesants!!! I think Ramona is a horrible horrible person for bringing up your marriage and children, she totally contradicted herself there. You have done nothing but support her but saw how she was diving the group in Morocco and you had enough i was with you all the way. Well Alex let what can i say, she is def a wannabe housewife trying to get into the limelight she comes across as sweetness and light but is a wolf wearing sheeps clothing. Ignore her!! I think the friends you have in Kelly and Gill are fabulous. So nice to see you happy with your Frenchman :)

hershey59
hershey59

I am shocked at the way you have treated Alex. All she wanted to do was talk to you in Morroco, privately, when you had a moment. YOU are the one that made a big stink about, and madea mountain out of a molehill. Then the lunch you had with her was even worse. I could not believe the way you spoke to her. How dare she think of even asking to speak to you about Jill. You like to say you don't take sides and tell people to stay out of other's business, but you are right in there like a dirty shirt. You were rude and more than condescending to Alex, who has never said a mean thing about you. I can't stand the way you all treat her.

class2011
class2011

you are a real lady and Classy.

Elaine in the U.K.
Elaine in the U.K.

I agree with those viewers who state that people with real class do not speak about it. Nor would a truly 'classy' person participate in this type of show. There is an expression sometimes used to describe the Luanns of this world, it is 'all fur coat and no knickers'. Incidentally, the duet with Natalie Cole shows that not only does Luann have no class but she can't sing.

minis stairs
minis stairs

I love the show! The mix of all the different personalities really is what creates the drama that goes on...lol You are the most classy i have to say, darling! just don't think you have to talk about it so much. With that being said luann you seem like such a smart and intelligent woman, why associate with someone like Kelly? I am sorry she is a beautiful woman but that is all see! You being as classy and intelligent as you are i can't understand how you could be friends with such a brainless person. I take my hat to all of you for being able to deal with Kelly! I would have ripped my hair by now...lol

London, England
London, England

In the UK we tend to regard constant references to one's title (whether an accident of birth or through marriage) as vulgar. The "Countess' " attempts to impress would be looked on with derision and she would find herself ridiculed should she mingle with the upper echelons of polite society here. Her acquired title may provide her with imagined status, but obviously has not provided her with class to carry it successfully.

nanapokua
nanapokua

i have not been a big fan of you guys but the first time i watched the new york housewives, LuAnn you just caught my eyes, you are wonderful and very respectful, i think you have great things ahead of you, maybe you should give the producers an idea about doing a real real housewives of some immigrant women who come here to try and live the dream, i am one and we get to gothrough all the hardships and living the american way, just an idea, i am nana

London, England
London, England

Here in the UK we tend to regard constant references to one's nobility as slightly vulgar. It behoves one to remember that an accident of birth, or indeed of marriage, may provide status, but it certainly does not bestow class.

Viewerkatslater48
Viewerkatslater48

i dont think u have any class at all and are very rude to people who dont share ur veiw

English viewer
English viewer

Luane you are a beautiful woman, but your constant references to class and manners are mundane. Truly classy people dont need to discuss it as is is a way of life. I think you have a good heart but are busy trying to impress your friends. The episode surrounding your daughters sweet 16 party was a glimpse of the real you; there was no effort to impress others, just your daughter and when you kissed her... the love shone through.Be authentic, the class and dont expect others to live up to your ideals, your class will show through.

Brit Viewer
Brit Viewer

I agree with the other Brit, the fact that you keep on going on about Class is so not classy! You are putting on your big 'countess' act and this does not make you a better person.. I have personally known European princes who show more humility and better natural manners without constantly pointing out, as you do, that you have good manners and are above all this.. You should really learn from them. You were really not as fair and impartial with Alex as you think you were.

PaulineM
PaulineM

LuAnn you are the only reason I watch this show! Your friendship with Jill and Kelly is very honest a nice to see, especially given the attention seeking attitudes from some of the blonde 'ladies'. Keep it up!

British viewer
British viewer

As a British viewer, the most hilarious thing is your constant mentions of class.

Anyone with any class doesn't mention class. It's just so rude to do so.

flobe
flobe

LuAnn, Better watch yourself this upcoming season. Your buddies, Jill and "out there" Kelly are history. Your next. Who's going to be your buddy now?

valerie webb
valerie webb

You have class like we expect from a Countess but how can you have friends like you have, true friends never talk behind each others backs, I would rather shaked hands with the devil than have them as friends

wtgbravo
wtgbravo

Looking forward to seeing you without JZ around to drag you down! TIP..NO more class or etiquette books...PLEASEEE~ Viewers need more up beat and fun episodes.

espy
espy

How you didn't get cut from the show is beyond me! What will you do without Jill to get her hands dirty for you and no Alex and Simon to mock? All your brunettes are gone; good luck with the blondes cuz they're on to you.

Viewer of RHONJ
Viewer of RHONJ

"I don't understand how my expecting people to behave properly makes me a condescending person. I have high standards and I expect my friends to be considerate and kind.". Your expectations don't make you a condescending person, what comes out of your mouth does! Anne m.

Swiss viewer
Swiss viewer

hello,

i am a successful 27 year old female living in geneva, switzerland. Ive watched your show, read your blogs, and listened to your music. i think you are absolutely wonderful and i agree with everything that has ever come out of your mouth. your thoughts, opinions, choices for humor, discussions, wardrobe, and jewelry.

I truly feel the exact same about your friend, miss sonja morgan.

thanks for existing :))

Jennifer J. Smith
Jennifer J. Smith

Someone gave me this clip today: Class by Ann Landers Class never runs scard. It is sure-footed and condient. It can handle whatever comes alon. Class has a sense of humour. it knows that a good laugh is the best lubricant for oiling the machinery of human relations. Clas never makes excuses. It takes its lumps and learns fro past mistakes. Class knows that good manners are nothing more thana series of petty secarifices. Class bespeaks an aristocracy that has nothing to do with money. Some extremely wealthy people have no class at all while others who are struggling to make ends meet are loaded with it. Class is real. You can't fake it. The person with class makes every-one feel comfortable because he is comfortable with himhimself. If you have class you've got it made. If you don't have, it doesn't make any difference.

JessieAnn
JessieAnn

LuAnn u r a real lady!!! I have a stressful job and see so much sadness at work that i relax watching ur show. Keep up the grt work as a mom, community member and singer! U have ur life, Ramona and Sonja have theirs and that is enough revenge for u , i bet. Ramona could use a month at the Betty Ford Ctr.

CAviewer3
CAviewer3

Luann,

As far as class goes...you are the model.

As far as singers go...you rock the house.

As far a being a true friend....none better.

Joe Beth
Joe Beth

Luann I really do like you. However you made a comment on your trip to Morocco while you were riding on the camel when it was acting up that deeply offended me. That your camel was having a epileptic seizure. I am not a person that offends easily however considering I do have epilepsy. Didn't appreciate the statement you made.

Viv
Viv

Madame, Or Countess,

Never mind the Blondes. They r hopeless ego-centrics. As long as you are happy, that's all it matters. Who cares what those shallow girls think of you or any others for that matter.

Bravo to your life & ours & God Bless us all. --Viv

kimmi2011
kimmi2011

Not that you care, but its sad to see you behaving so classless. You used to nice. I will say, you have a wonderful daughter and the two of you together seem to really have a great relationship. you need to get away from bullies though.

AutumnLeevz
AutumnLeevz

LuAnn, while I am a bit embarrassed to admit I watch a reality TV show, I am in no way embarrassed to say that I find you to be a model of sophistication and class (yes, Alex - class!). I admire the way you maintain your dignity in the midst of so much cattiness (Alex, Ramona, Sonja), and I am delighted by your ability to put others in their place without debasing yourself to their levels. I have read many comments accusing you of being snooty and holier-than-thou, and my impression is that the people making those comments are, like 3 other women on your show, people who would like to think they possess a certain level of sophistication and character, but who sadly do not. Knowing this, they attack the one person who they are most threatened by - you; it's called jealousy, plain and simple. You are a lovely woman, and I, for one, believe you to be the show's biggest assett. I look forward to watching you next season, as well as Jill, Cindy and Kelly. Enjoy your summer!

stlouisms
stlouisms

I think it's time you leave the show. You act like your a class above everyone else. Tired of you and all the fighting.

viewer 90210
viewer 90210

Hi LuAnn ... you are a classy and sassy ... and I love you so please stay the way you are.

Viewer
Viewer

I truly do not know how you can maintain your grace and dignity in the face of such puerile behaviour on the part of some of your castmates. Kudos for doing so. :)

Mrs. Rachelle Padgett
Mrs. Rachelle Padgett

Hello Countess, I just thought I'd tell you of all the NY ladies, you and madam Sonja are the mist articulate and poised. Although you seem to go about this as polar opposites. ;)

I am actually writing this because I thought I would go straight to the source, seeings how I don't find much when I google : "the countess luann's outfit". I need to know where you shop! I love your style, from the everyday to evening spectacular! Please please please tell me. I especially lived the full jumper/romper pant outfit (white) you wore in Morocco. Also the dress for the reunion show! Classic lovely feminine! I would love to raid your closer. If you ever need to get rid of something, throw it my way--- now accepting donations lol, jk.

Proud2bBrooklyn
Proud2bBrooklyn

I concur with most of the comments here. I love you on the show. I do think that viewers and even Bravo holds you to a higher standard, which is unfair. Just because you are smarter, classier, and more sophisticated than the other women does not mean that you have to be perfect 24-7. I noticed that Bravo allowed some posts of you that were critical, but they do not do this with some of the other blogs, in particular, Alex's blog. I posted a critique of her behavior, did not use any derogatory words, and Bravo did not post it.

I think you are truly beautiful- in manner and in physical appearance, your countenance is awesome. I think your daughter is lovely and you are a role model for women and girls alike. My daughter (who is 10) and I (I'm 40) both love you! Keep doing what your doing and thanks for representing the "smart and classy" women everywhere. And remember a classy woman can be assertive and speak her mind. There is NOTHING wrong with it.

earlene
earlene

Luann - loved watching you this season. Don't pay too much attention to what the blondes say, especially Alex and her "thug t-shirts." Why she thinks class is a bad word is perplexing, but then again, consider the source when one believes her husband can do no wrong. I admire your relationship with your kids. I'm happy you have the love and respect of Jacques, your kids and the brunettes. Keep on with your music and don't settle for anything less!

flustered
flustered

True class is making someone feel comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. You sometimes don't do that. Please work on it.

lizzy s
lizzy s

Lu Ann, you are an amazing lady, and a true lady, and their are not many women out their that get that title. I love watching you slay those blondes in the true lady fashion they just don't get what hit them , stay true!!

Sharon Myhre
Sharon Myhre

Countess: You are amazing and I get furious listening to Sonja, Ramona and Alex and all their criticism of the brunnettes. The blondes all live in what I call "A blonde moment". They don't have a clue on what true friendship is. I see the real friendship with you, Jill and Kelly. You go girls!! Blondes need to find another reality show to be on. I love this one too much to give it up,but could certainly do without the blonde ones!!!

Look forward to another season. Good luck with your relationship and yoru beautiful children!!

expatineurope
expatineurope

@lynn684 Amen, Lynn. This is humiliating! You're an embarassment to every single US expat woman living in Europe. The episode where you referred to yourself as "Countess" as you ordered pizza on the telephone was the final straw. Are you kidding me?!! Are you really so insecure that you need to tell a child on the telephone that you're a Countess? I'm a successful executive who travels all over Europe and I really don't need to wannabe likes of you projecting an image of Americans that doesn't exist in the real world. I have had live-in help for the past 12 years and I will tell you that I have never, and will never, refer to them as the "Help."