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Leave 'Em Laughing

Sonja shares why she had the burlesque party and what she thought of Jill's commentary.

This is a really fun and meaningful episode for me. Almost everyone on my "team" is in this episode. I couldn't do all that I do without the support team. The social media and shooting the show, while taking care of my daughter, home, and businesses. Plus my charity work takes up a lot of our time. All of us!

Cesar Gaviria is easy to spend time with and easy to look at! The people I spend time with are the most important to me at the end of the week. Of course we have a goal, and it is work -- but I need to be comfortable, and I need those around me to understand me.

Cesar is fun, caring, and sensitive. We met when I did a high fashion shoot with award winning photographer Franck Glenisson from Paris. I was impressed with Cesar's professionalism. He takes inventory, treats the clothes with respect, puts everything back where he found it, and has a way with the team that makes him a pleasure to have styling me. He also does so much more by making sure everything goes smoothly, and I get in and out safely.

How much fun was our shopping trip downtown, Ramona? Can't believe I went downtown. LOL. You know me and geographic challenges. I really am a housewife. I am married to my house and really prefer to walk everywhere and get back home to save time. Ramona looks outrageously good in the bustier. And she's 54 years old! There I said it! Her daughter outs her this episode anyhow. I find her inspirational. She really has it all.

Oh my this man from the eyelashers basement was my twin. He was a girl, or a girl who was a man, I get so confused. But, anyone that knows me, knows I don't care really, nor do I care if you have teeth, or bill collectors calling, or are balding, I just want real.

Jill getting her bagel, newspapers, and catching the train is such a NY slice of life. And the Metro allows dogs. Yippee! Amtrak doesn't allow dogs. Bummer! Ally is such a good kid. I enjoy any time I get to see her, and now that she's a sexpert we will have so much to giggle about!

I love when Ally brings up her sex class. Jill grabs the bread and does what every nervous mom does. . .eats! Ally definitely trumped her mom in that scene. Jill's face was priceless.

I dread the driving lessons. LuAnn is very cool and collected. I won't be, for sure. I'm Chicken Little and always imagine the worse. I would have lost it! Especially when the rear tire was on ice! I don't have the constitution. Save that for the Dads, along with the vaccinations. Remember going to the pediatrician for those?

I love when Avery says her parents are never home. This means they went from dinner five nights a week to three because! I happen to know they spend a lot of time together. My daughter will be just like that for sure. I was very touched when she read the poem. My daughter wrote me a poem as well that I will share on my Facebook page.

Chris March is hilarious when he says "What did I do to deserve this punishment?” LOL Just my hair is punishment! What's up with that every episode? I should have kept the wig!

You didn’t get to see my practice with Jo "Boobs" Weldon! We rehearsed how to take the gloves off and other tips for burlesque. She is so good. Best tip? Take it slooooow. Check out her school. Also her The Burlesque Handbook is very helpful if you want to spice things up a bit. Who doesn't? It also has some history of burlesque. FYI I loved the movie with Cher. Catch it if you can.

My friend Tina Hillstrom from Beverly Hills came in to help me with the skit. She never misses a party, wherever I have one. She is great fun and makes a fabulous Black Swan, She is very creative and used to do make up for Christian Dior, so she did her own. She also made her own costume and is the owner of Wanna Wear by Tina OLisa Vanderpump has been rumored to wear her dresses as well. But ask Tina!

Rebecca my intern is so good. She does so much for me. Young kids today are genius on the computer, the net, and with Photoshop. How funny is Chris again? I told him "You weren't sharing your ruffle panties with me for my masquerade party!" I love when I can be myself and have a good laugh with a real friend who doesn't judge me. With humor you have to put yourself out on a limb. Sometimes it falls flat, but sometimes it makes people laugh. That’s what I like to do, make people happy!

"Where are my glasses?" What Burlesque girl needs glasses? I really am getting too old for this! But I will go out trying.

Michael my live-in intern from France is so funny! He doesn't know what to do with the pee accident. First he dabs it, then he moves the pad and looks at the still apparent spot, then covers it -- but elegantly so. He got a great reference, we had so much fun, and as a dancer he was happy to have some film time. I wish him the best. His mother did a fine job!

FYI I use Nature's Miracle on dog spots. It has saved my rugs for the last 15 years or more. When you have a lot of pets you need it. First, with puppies who are training, and then when they get old like Millou, who can't hold it sometimes. He is 16 years. old and I could have put him to sleep, but I opted to spring for the operation when he had a liver tumor. This dog has been through so much with me, and I don't know what I would have done without him all these years. Then I promised my daughter a dog when she turned 10 and voila! Two dogs, twice the work, if you get my drift. We also have a rescue kitty, so our house can be a little Dr. Doolittle at times. We have had our share of hamsters, as well.

How hot is Brian? I love the costume he came up with. So many of my friends had amazing costumes.

Jill, I am loaded with parties! I was a restaurant consultant, and I am invited to guest my clientele at these venues. I usually have them Fashion Week or Contemporary Art Week when everyone is in town. Sometimes they are for charity. Everyone wins, and it's good to celebrate love and life.

I love Jill’s costume for the burlesque. I was mad though because she took me aside from my friends as soon as I got off stage to tell me how seriously amazing my act was, and then I learn she was making all these snarky comments while I performed the skit I wrote for everyone from my heart. She can't help it sometimes. She was very nice to say she was "a little jealous" and that everyone should have a friend like me. That made me feel good. I pride myself on my relationships above all. I agree you can't have zero tolerance for people to quote Jill. Glad she let the fight go with Simon. I didn't want to see it fester.

You can find Betina and Veronica (who's dance you didn't see) at the New York School of Burlesque through Jo "Boobs" Weldon. Everyone had such a great time, and it went on forever. The Empire Rooftop was so gracious and generous. Food and drink was delish! Dita Von Teese would have been proud.

Oh! And now we see what the pasties at Patricia Fields were for. . .

And. . .I am posting my full unedited burlesque skit on my fanpage after the show airs. So check it out!

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Dorinda: I Was Surprised to See How Open Bethenny Was

Dorinda weighs in on the Luann/Carole drama and discusses Bethenny's willingness to open up about her past.

So we’re back from Atlantic Titty, as I like to call it. Strangely, that trip left me feeling more connected with the women. It’s not easy making friends—especially at my age and after the life I’ve lived—but I’m starting to feel “familiar” around them, if that makes any sense. The sheen of being a “NY Housewife” isn’t entirely there anymore, because I’m one of them, you know? During and after the Atlantic City trip, I started to feel more comfortable, more at ease, and more like “one of the girls.” Considering how they carry on sometimes, I’m not quite sure if that is a positive or a negative just yet. Maybe a little of both? I don’t know…It’s always interesting to put eight women together for a few days, that’s for sure. You see the politeness slip a bit, the “veneer” get a little cloudy, and you really see them in all their glory—and in all their realness. All and all, it was a fun trip…and a bit of a learning experience.
The good news is this: Never a dull moment! For example, Ramona is great about having the never-ending birthday that never ends (redundancy intended). In reality, her birthday is November 18, but the celebrations start shortly after Halloween and continue throughout the month of November, Thanksgiving be damned. It’s like Ramona Heritage Month. Our next stop on the birthday train was at Fishtail with ALL of her friends. And I mean ALL of them. These girls run the Upper East Side with an iron fist. They basically buy out every season at Bergdorf’s before it makes it to the floor. They’re a fun crowd—colorful characters—and Bethenny was right: It’s like the Cantina’s greatest hits from Star Wars. Of course, they’re all jockeying to be Princess Leia, though c’mon, Ramona’s the birthday girl. We know she’s the princess in our midst. After all, it is November…
I don’t typically run with these girls, but over the years of living in this ‘hood and being one of those “ladies who lunch,” I guess I can comfortably say I’ve claimed my seat at the table, so to speak. Seeing Heather, Carole, and Bethenny there was like spotting animals that wandered into the wrong habitat. Not really their “downtown diva” scene, but the effort is all that matters. Carole, babe, I know you're coming back up “here,” but I think that hat needs to stay downtown. “Hobo chic” doesn't really play well north of 57th Street. I do like how Heather is versatile and adapts to any and all situations and just knows how to turn it on (though “mama” and “holla” are as out of place as Carole’s beanie, in all honesty). Watching Bethenny was the most entertaining for me: She just wants nods and smiles and gets out as fast as possible. Kinda wish she would’ve taken me with her…there’s only so much chat about personal shoppers, the traffic on Fifth Ave., and what a disaster DiBlasio is that one can take before they start obsessing over fine lines and poodles.
By the way, I wish I had been invited to the boxing match! I love boxing! It’s such a rush and makes you feel alive. You saw that first-hand. Boxing takes the meekest of beings and makes them want to see blood (ahem…Kristen). Wow, girl, you got into it! Don’t let that “pretty” thing fool you; she was ready to jump in and knock some teeth out. I was very impressed. Last time I saw her this excited, it was when another box of Manolos just popped up out of nowhere. I like this side of you, KT. It shows what I’ve seen in you all along: real passion is your super power.

Oh…and then there’s the Carole/Luann situation getting some more meat on its bones. This one is a hard one, because I get the way Luann feels: She’s a mom, and it’s her niece at the center of this issue. At the same time, I also get Carole’s perspective. She's never been a mom, of course, but she lives a very youthful life, downtown, surrounded with young people. I believe her and Adam really do have some sort of connection—no doubt about that. Is it love? I don’t know, but obviously it is something. I hate to get involved with people’s private lives—it is so personal and really private. At least to me. I draw the line at critiquing one’s decisions. As long as they’re happy and the person they’re with is happy and they’re not hurting anyone by being together, then I’m fine with it. The details of the Carole/Adam tryst and the family connection to Luann is still a bit cloudy to me, so I don’t know. I just hope they work it out, because it’s gotten pretty heated and tense. Let’s face it, they were great friends, and I hope they find a way to rekindle that friendship. Listen, I’m just trying to figure out my life and my relationships again, and I’m trying to keep it simple. Naturally, that means keeping other people out of it. Am I right? You're welcome.
Speaking of private lives…I was so surprised to see how open Bethenny was about her past and her family. In may ways, she and I grew up around the same people. My grandfather loved race horses, being around the track and all those characters—some of which were colorful, to say the least. Evel Knievel was one of them, so that might give you a sense…
But despite how I could relate to some aspects of her childhood, it was a tough scene to watch at the end of this episode. Listen, we’re all looking for love. Some of us are looking for a love we once knew, others for a love we see others enjoy, and some are just trying to find what love means to them. In the end, we all want to be needed, wanted, and desired. But there’s nothing that completes that quest quite like a mother’s love. One can “suck at relationships” till they’re blue in the face, but not finding love or a mate to love you or make you feel loved is, at its core, entirely conditional. It truly depends on the who, what, when, where, and why…and all of those rely on you. They are yours to determine. A mother’s love, however, is unconditional. It’s a given. It’s something that gives those of us blessed to have it, an accelerator, a momentum in life. Knowing you have a “home” in someone’s heart because they are part of you and you are part of them is sometimes all you need to go take on the world. Without that mother’s love and affection, it’s got to be difficult to not feel lost. That said, not having that in your life really makes you appreciate it so much more, right? You come to value how priceless and profound an unconditional, immovable love can be. This is why Bethenny is such an amazing mother. So devoted, so compassionate, so unconditionally in love with her daughter…it’s inspiring to see and moving to a fellow mom. As you’ve come to see, Bethenny’s a titan through and through. She found it in herself to foster that momentum and catapult herself into the big leagues. Would she have had the same drive and determination had she not experienced that kind of pain? Is that where she gets that hardcore, no-nonsense attitude to petty crap? Is that why a clash with Bethenny is like clashing with no other titan?
It’s all fascinating to me. And now that I finally feel like “one of the girls,” it’s some of the best popcorn drama I’ve ever seen. I almost can’t wait to watch what happens next. It’s all so…yummie.

Till next week, xx!

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