Aviva Drescher

Aviva thanks the fans and all of her fellow RHONY ladies for a great experience.

on Oct 1, 20120

The finale. . .finally!

I must start with a huge thank you to Bravo for giving me this extraordinary opportunity to have such a tremendous platform to reach others. You have allowed me to connect in such a personal and meaningful way with amputees and physically challenged people who found inspiration in the day-to-day life of a middle-aged, nutty housewife doing her thing. Thank you, Bravo, for giving voice to the struggles and triumphs of amputees and for helping so many of us.

Viewers, I am deeply grateful to you for watching! Thank you for your love, laughter, tears, and anger. You are all amazing, and I appreciate all your comments good and bad, hopeful and harsh, constructive and castigating. I promise, I am listening and learning.

298 comments
pontes1013
pontes1013

Aviva, I loved getting to know you Carole and Heather for your first season. I am honestly shocked at how many viewers took Ramona and Sonja's side during the show. I found them to be horrible, two faced friends to you and I was so happy that someone finally stood up to them. It's kind of sad that so many viewers attacked you, it really makes me question what society has come to.

atomic_m
atomic_m

I found it incredibly rude for you father to call Ramona an animal at a charity for abused women. Absolutely disgusting. 

lovenyc
lovenyc

It is so wonderful watching the reunion show and seeing the ladies finally be able to tell you exactly what they think of you. Hopefully Bravo will be listening and reading this blog enough to realize that most of us will not watch the show next season if you are on it. Who really cares if you went to Vassar. What have you done to further your education since then? That was a long time ago. After watching the last few episodes it's now obvious that one of your main problems is your usage of words-black and white, black and white, black and white, yes or no, yes or no, yes or no,and there's a third but I can't remember it. Yelling the whole time! And always said three times. I have never heard anyone talk like that; thank goodness!:) Well Aviva that is your problem. Things aren't always black and white and the sooner you learn that the happier we'll all be. Most of our lives are living in that gray area. Please listen to us Bravo!!

santabarbaralady
santabarbaralady

 

Aviva, it’s clear from watching your reaction to simple, everyday events, that you have trouble seeing joy, humor and fun in life. The anger and judgment that explodes as reactions to the most insignificant thing is quite disturbing to watch. I find myself looking away from the TV, not wanting to witness these outbursts of red-hot anger. Not interesting, not entertaining, not amusing; just sad. You can’t continue yelling at people, and passing judgment, as you displayed to the world to witness. How embarrassing that must be for you to see yourself on TV, acting like that.

During the end of the season, you became a mean spirited, angry little girl, yelling at the world. Aviva, take a deep breathe, try to enjoy the moment and your life. You are a beautiful woman, however, your inner ugliness overshadows your beauty at times. Be grateful for your gifts, your health, your family and your life. Celebrate each day. Look for the good in people, and you will find it. I hope you find peace and don't regret, at the end of your life, that you wasted it all, by being so damn angry.

 

DangleParticiple
DangleParticiple

I get that you're upset at Ramonja, but there was no excuse for dismissing Heather like that at her own charity event. She explained to you several times that you needed to wear the jacket. If you were so self-conscious about your leg (the thing you don't want defining you), you shouldn't have agreed to walk the runway in the first place. You started off the season as a nice person and by the end, by golly it was all about whatever you wanted and the rest of the world can just kiss off.

marionrose
marionrose

I think Aviva,s father is a sexual PERVERT and watching him on the show was frightening and scary and the worse part that Aviva thinks it is funny and normal!! If my father acted that way, I would be embarrassed and ashamed and would cut Dad out of my life. I cannot forget that he said Aviva if you were not my daughter, I would be interested in you.   so creepy so scary!

snowflakegirl66@gmail.com
snowflakegirl66@gmail.com

phobias are real and they are debilitating. many people suffer from them and others use it as an excuse. sorry, but if your phobias were "real" with as many as you have (small spaces, heights, flying, being social, having a good time, laughing with friends, enjoying your life) you would never leave the house. Ramona is correct, the only problem (besides being narcisstic) is that you can't leave Reed. You are blaming your disgusting behavior on phobias, thats a bunch of crap

dutchbat
dutchbat

lets face it Aviva no one would want your Father at a women's fund raiser he is creepy.  In the reunion all I head was I or me......Lets face it, its not all about you.

NorthernViewer
NorthernViewer

I have to side with Aviva on the "Harry issue.". Was Sonja saying that she was more of a partner in her marriage because she worked? I think that women who opt to stay home to raise children or opt to stay home are just as much partners in their marriages as Sonja was. Why ignite this age old battle between career women and 'housewives?'. Why not just support your fellow woman.

methinks
methinks

I so don't ever want to hear your annoying voice,  judgments, comments, sob stories, phobias, etc., etc., etc. You're too much damn work. You make me tired. I bet you suck the life out of every room you walk into.  You're an energy vampire!

HousewifeNorCali
HousewifeNorCali

Don't listen to the haters Aviva, maybe they're as mean and ugly as Ramona and Sonja!  I know what it's like to have anxiety and phobias and the best thing I can tell you is to not react to the broken people around you when you're feeling down.

 

Romona and Sonja don't deserve an apology because they are the NY Mean Girls.  You don't need toxic people in your life to bring you down.  Narcism in it's finest form.  They have an agenda and that's to be the queen bees of the show and those ugly witches will do whatever it takes to be in the spotlight.  That includes taking you down to get it! 

 

Stay strong and stay away from that hot mess!

Kirbrannan
Kirbrannan

Aviva, after watching the reunion tonight it's clear you have been made aware, no doubt from these comments, that your behavior was certainly not well received by us viewers. That said, I do think you are at heart a good person with a good heart. I can't stand Ramona but I had to side with her on your debacle in and after St. Barths. I do hope to see you next season, well....a "new" you. Hang in there and do some soul searching. Some of us will be happy to have you back if you indulge in a slice on humble pie. Best wishes, girlie!

jodiynn
jodiynn

Aviva I so hope you read this... No one understands what you have been thr or how to react unless you have been through it.. You have been  thr  soooo much.. you lost a leg.. I understand why you have phobias ... I understand why you expected to be cheered when you made it to the the vaca spot.  I just want you to know I am praying for you and understand... I have been thr some thing.. and the blessing of that? You try to understand what you don't know.  You aren't getting a lot of support right now.. but many have no clue;.... but focus on those that support you and love you.. and are praying for you

maskedblogger
maskedblogger

You are extremely shallow and you are only apologizing because the viewers let you know just how badly you behaved on the show.  It's quite apparent, you are not well liked by the fans, so now you are sooooooooooooooooooooo sorry.   I'm with Ramona, I'm not buying it.

lalalaur123
lalalaur123

I'm sorry,Aviva, you were too wrapped up in your issues to see your Father's behavior as many of us did during the show. It was poor judgement to send your Dad to Ramona's charity event and he should've behaved differently to earn your defense. A gentleman would've avoided controversy and, seeing he was the only man there and uninvited, made his exit. By no means was it appropriate for him to flirt and act like he does in Miami. So, while Ramona is always loud and blunt, this was not the time nor place....nor was it for you to make a scene and confront her at Carole's party, rather than toasting her success. Frankly, Heather was on the same page with me...she was tired of hearing you harp on your issues every time she had a conversation with you and I was tired of watching it. I do hope a mirror was held up to you,because you could use this time and publicity for good. Your accident was traumatic and a terrible tragedy;  however, there are many terrible events that occur in many people's lives and yet,some are able to use it as a step forward rather than wearing it.

lisa.flowerbiz@sbcglobal.net
lisa.flowerbiz@sbcglobal.net

Aviva,

The St' Barths thing was so sad to me. You were'nt received by Ramona or Sonia, who appeared to be pretty drunk. They cornered you and I think anyone In your position would have fired back at them. I personally enjoyed the White Trash comment. They both show themselves to be completely self centered, and Ramona has not self control whatsoever. I would have said the same thing. You have shown yourself humble and quite a lady.

Kudos.

Lisa

natasha.vane.7
natasha.vane.7

Aviva  I just wanted to tell you you are my fave housewive on New York. Im sorry about what happened to you when you were a child, and it makes sense you would have those phobias. I can not fathom what that would be like to go thru such a tramactic experiance, but I do understand the acrophibia ( fear of heights) I have that phobia really bad I cant even go on any thhing over 3 feet high with out freaking out.It hurt me when the ladies were laughing at you. I just want you to know I wish you all the best and I am here for you !!!

Undone101
Undone101

That was an apology.........?????

MidwestMama
MidwestMama

I just watched the reunion show part one.  Although, sometimes you got a little carried away, I did agree with you in regards to Ramona's antics and most of your situations with her.  It is blatant hypocrisy on her part to act as if she is a victim. You simply stood up for yourself and gave her a little dose of what she's been spewing to cast mates in previous seasons on this show. I do feel she should have welcomed you and your husband in St. Barts instead of plotting to move you from their hotel and even making back up plans for she and Sonja to move to another location. There's nothing wrong with partying with your girlfriends, but acting like out of control, spring break, party girls, with morals of an alley cat, at their age.... is trashy. They need to own their behavior and they don't. I don't think your dad should have argued with Ramona at her fundraiser. He probably should have just made a brief appearance, presented the check and left. I think you and Ramona got a little carried away with that. I'm surprised that you are receiving any flack about your treatment of Ramona, especially given her continual rude behavior to her cast mates on this season, as well as past seasons.  It's quite hilarious to watch her pull the victim card. I thought your apology on the show was genuine and I wouldn't give her the attention of speaking negatively about her in any fashion in the future. Thank you for sharing the story behind your accident. I applaud you for sharing your phobias and I didn't think they were over blown. I also agree with you on the ladies talking about your ex. If you guys were carrying on about past liaisons with Sonya's ex, she wouldn't have liked it either. It was sad to watch her try to dismiss your view on this. I hope to see you next season.... looking forward to it!

Gvmeserenitynow
Gvmeserenitynow

Well I know this likely won't be a popular comment but I do think you somewhat redeemed yourself on the reunion show. You apologized. Yes maybe too much damage is done, and yes you likely did so after absorbing the fan backlash, but still you did it. I think like you said, you are learning. You come off a bit elitist and judgmental and those traits die hard. It won't happen over night that they will just go away as evidenced by your continuance to bash Ramona about having your father escorted out. Again, that whole scenario was your bad. I feel bad for you though because while you may have deserved a reality check, I feel badly for anyone who becomes as you said a human piñata, especially when they are admitting fault and trying. Continue with your mea culpas....you need them and it is only those apologies and humility that will pull you out of this.

valcin24
valcin24

I really like Aviva I just think you should relax a bit more and not let the ladies like Ramona get under your skin.

nomi
nomi

It is spot on to say that you have no serious apologies within your being. It is quite notable that during these last few months you have continued to behave worse on your blogs, tweets, ect. than anytime on the show. You are Godless. 99% of fans of RHONY do not like you, do not like your behavior, and no we don't believe your "apology" either. I do wish you well, but I do wish you gone from RHONY. 

Viv444555
Viv444555

Hope to see you in the next season!!! You certainly didn't owe crazy Ramona an apology, she was definitely out of line in Miami!!! I LOVE the way you stood up to Ramona, and just kept drilling her, FINALLY, someone puts her in her place!!! Thank you Aviva!!!!  Ramona owes you an apology and your father!!!!  And you were completely right, they were acting like white trash for grown women, you called it correctly!!!!  Although, I do like Sonja, she was out of control.  But Ramona bully's her, hopefully in one of these seasons, Sonja will tell her off (maybe when she gets a huge settlement from her ex).  And I am so looking forward to seeing you in the next housewives of NYC. 

bravo12
bravo12

Aviva - You came into a show full of middle aged, drunks acting more like jr. high students than classy, adult, graceful women.  Although you seemed a bit serious at times, I can only imgain how difficult it would be to be around the embarassing, unfiltered, loud mouthed Ramona.  She is beyond inappropraite for a woman in her 40's let alone her 50's!!  I personally appreciated the class, tolerance and blance that you, Heather and Carole brought to this season.

ashlyrc
ashlyrc

REALLY!!!! Do you people not know that ths is a TV show?!! These girls do not really know each other. And which one of you wants to be friends with Ramona. Maybe for the 2 seconds she is friends with you but what about after? Aviva was not that bad. Maybe she said something she didn't mean but who doesn't when they are that upset. This is TV PEOPLE. The nicest person could be turned into a serial killer. BUT after 5 seasons and Ramona is still portrayed the same, you have to question that. Probbly not someone I would trust. Just saying. Especially in my 40's when I have more important things to worry about like my kids or husband.

sheltypar
sheltypar

Aviva,  some people do not know what it is like to have phobia's, so they can not  make true remarks about it.  I hope you come back next season, it was fun to watch you, especially when you could see right through Ramona.  Don't you dare say your sorry, you did say anything that didn't deserve to be said to Ramona and Sonya.

Addie184
Addie184

Hi Aviva, I actually really like you. Ramona is a big, loud mouth bully and deserves everything she receives. Why is it OK for Ramona to defend herself and you get criticized the moment you decide to fight fire with fire. I applaud you. I heard you on the reunion when you discussed that you we're disappointed with your behavior, I give you a huge pat on the back for defending yourself. Ramona needs to stop crying and complaining and learn how to take what she gives. Until next season Aviva. Keep your head up and don't let frick and frack dictate your behavior. They embarrass themselves all on their own.

tike
tike

I love You Aviva I think some of these bloggers are Ramona's friends sorry!!!! I think Ramina and Sonia are two ridiculous women that need to act their age!

50closecanyon
50closecanyon

You guys are all being very harsh with Aviva.  She was on the show and she has a right to express herself whether you like it or not... just as you are expressing your opinions on her blog.

frances_ce
frances_ce

I am one of - no doubt - many, many people who watch RHONY as a guilty pleasure due to the myriad train wrecks that occur regularly - namely Ramona. So I merely lurk on the blogs/boards. Aviva, you are smart, lovely and so interesting on the show. Loved your presence in Heather's runway show - but Heather was right, you should have left that jacket on. Anywho, Ramona is a hot mess and you handle her well - as well as you can handle that sort of personality. You nailed it when you used the word "trash". You, Carole and Heather bring a new spark back this season. 

CharityColville
CharityColville

Aviva,I have to say that I have enjoyed watching you. I understand your phobias, but I agree with some of the other housewives, you have beaten a dead horse to death. Ramona was wrong to have your father removed from her event, you were equally wrong to send him. I know that we don't see everything. Calling anyone "white trash" was harsh. I find Ramona discusting, but I hope you will be less self absorbed as we see more.

HotPinkNails
HotPinkNails

Thanks to the Fans,   What fans  -  Not sure if Aviva is in touch with reality.   I would love to hear what Aviva thinks after she watches herself and realize how delusional she is.   excited to watch the reunion tonight.       Oh and when you have a girls trip-  yup , ya drink  , you have fun,  you laugh  and then you go home back to a more normal life.   If you can't have fun with the girls then you should have never gone, not everyone knows how to have fun,  Aviva you brought the drama and became a mean girl.

Comfortableinmyskin
Comfortableinmyskin

Ramona's behavior towards your father was rude and chldlike. However, you used extremely poor judgement in sending him. Heck a courier would have been a better plan. You are very aware that he is revels in behaving inappropriatly, especially with women. So to send him to a ladies benefit, you were was asking for a scene.  I am not sure which one of the three of you, your father,you or Ramona need therapy more. 

Princessdaisy
Princessdaisy

It's one thing to have personal issues, everybody does. But the way you attack other women , and you know who, is wrong on so many levels. What were you thinking? You need a stiff drink and a benzo. Why doesn't Reid tell you to chill out?

lnsocialz
lnsocialz

Ramona and Sonja are reliving their youth.  Whether R&S are right or wrong, it's not your decision. Other people are out of your control, no matter what names you call them. We are just beings on a spinning rock in the universe, and we all enjoy life differently.  If we don't hurt others, we get to do what we want.  Your obsession with R&S's behavior matching their age comes from your mother's alcoholism/death and your father doing the exact same thing R&S are doing. In acting out on R&S, you are trying to control your mother so she wouldn't die, and you are angry at your father for his wild behavior.  R&S have nothing to do with your storyline, they're just triggers for your unresolved feelings toward your parents. And when you get triggered, I have a feeling you know you seriously go off the rails.

LynnfromMN
LynnfromMN

I don't believe you found being on the show a great experience.  I bet you were mortified to see how you looks to the viewer of the show.  Also, Sonya may be a legend in her own mind but that is part of the reason we love her!  She doesn't take herself too seriously unlike you.

Townee
Townee

By now you must realize that 98% of all these fans comments cant all be RamonJa fans. Your two friends Carole and Heather tried to tell you that you were way over the top with your "white trash" comments. They asked you to apologize, but you refused because you thought it was OK to call people that. At the time, I did not think you were elitist. But after watching all the shows and seems like everyone agrees that you are so self righteous. This is why people are so incensed by you and your father. Btw, all the negativity is spreading toward him since you dragged him into the fray. I cant wait to see if you will be apologizing to RamonJa at the reunion. You seemed to be so smart and nice at the beginning of the show, what happened?

NYApple
NYApple

Reading all these posts you seem to be fanless.  Your short blog is well, "YAWN".  Your dad deserved to be kicked out of Ramona's charity event.  He went there demanding Ramona give you an apology.  I don't care if he's 180 years old.  Bah Bye.  

bravofan600
bravofan600

I have begun to wonder if Aviva’s father is suffering from some form of dementia. It is not normal for an eighty year old man to be so unaware of how he is being perceived by the women he is so inappropriately approaching. Of course, he could simply be as delusional as his daughter who has no self-awareness as to her offensive behavior, but his behavior seems more pathological. Perhaps it is the beginning of some form of dementia that causes him to be unable to act appropriately. I have heard that people who drink excessively are more prone to this type of dementia. Nursing homes are not unfamiliar with this type of. Aviva – get your dad checked out… something is wrong.

JuanitaDBK
JuanitaDBK

 @pontes1013 For me , its not so much about sides. Its more the fact, that she is yelling at them and treating them like hell on a diliberate misinformation.The one you got the information fom was trying to head off her own demise, by pointing the finger at Sonja and Ramona. That's what deplore, that's what i cant stand. And obviously you saw the truth, and you still stand by your critique and name calling.

lovenyc
lovenyc

@atomic_m Watched it yet again-for God's sakes get over your phobias. As you would say-"you wimp". Your behavior was disgusting. Please do not return.

Acarey73
Acarey73

 @lisa.flowerbiz@sbcglobal.net This is a joke, right?? They cornered her? Oh my, I must be watching a different show, and it is called reality!!!! And if you "enjoyed the white trash comment", you must as big of a (blind) elitist as Adiva. And, just for the record, a "lady" wouldn't call anyone names! 

lovenyc
lovenyc

@50closecanyon The people that are writing in are being "harsh to Aviva" because she is being harsh to many of the women. She can't be friends with Carole because Carole smokes?? And the list goes on and on. I have never seen such a judgmental, shallow, narcissistic, mean, cruel, unfeeling, loathsome woman in my life-worse than Kelly and that is saying something. She may have "gone to Vassar, and can speak several languages, and understands everything"-whoopy crap. So have a lot of us and we don't trot out those facts in public. Very unclassy. Unfortunately that was the one lesson she didn't learn in her pricy college. Thankfully Kelly went off to the wayside and hopefully so will Aviva.

ritajonz
ritajonz

 @Comfortableinmyskin  Aviva Father was out of line and she asked him to leave and he should have after she asked him to and then he refused, he and Aviva are both ignorant.

lawgirl2sassy
lawgirl2sassy

 @Townee   You are spot on here Townee1!!   I am BETTING she doesnt apologize for anything and IF she does, its because all of the fans of the show is coming down on her and I for one and know many others, will not watch the show if she is on for another season.

marian.lockwood
marian.lockwood

@bravofan600 Perhaps you are correct. It's difficult to believe he could be so crude and not have something going on, but his daughter should know if this is new behavior or if has always been inappropriate. The dinner party was a disaster. Who sits down with ladies he's just met and talks about giving her a squirting orgasm? Actually, who says that to anyone? You can't take him anywhere!

deanne_jackson
deanne_jackson

 @bravofan600Oh please -- he's no doddering fool and completely in control of his actions.  He clearly enjoys being inappropriate and the reaction he gets.  He's just a creepy guy who hides behind his age because it allows him to have his perverseness unchallenged.

 

jbenny
jbenny

 @marian.lockwood  @bravofan600 The first symptom we noticed before my mother was diagnosed with dementia was her inappropriate behavior.  Aviva, take care of your father.  You yourself have said that he was not always like this.

BravoRavo
BravoRavo

@deanne_jackson @bravofan600 Well said!