Aviva Drescher

Aviva apologies for her bad behavior in St. Barths.

on Sep 10, 20120

I was a jerk. It was a pretty tough week for me in St. Barths. I own all of my behavior and I am not going to blame anything on editing or some other BS excuse. I do want to give a little more background and rationale for some of my outbursts.

I heard that one of the women might ask Reid to leave when he arrived. So when I heard Reid, who I was so grateful to for making this trip, was potentially going to be mistreated, combined with the fact that my nerves were frayed from the plane ride, I lost it. Additionally, attacking my husband is like attacking my children. The mama bear came out in me.

I am a little sick of hearing myself say that the world should have thrown a party for me getting to St. Barths. My problems are certainly no worse than anyone else's, and I have no right to impose them on anyone. I get that I sometimes get a little dramatic and sarcastic. The point I was trying to make (that I wished my friends were happier to see me than upset that they would catch a glimpse of Reid here and there) has been long lost. I found myself annoying to watch through the last two episodes!! Cringeworthy. I own it! I own it! I own it!

673 comments
vertabeary
vertabeary

How about aviva moves on. What has she offered except me, mine, I. We are tired of it enough already...go away.

Aliecakes
Aliecakes

I am glad you own it, I thought it was extremely self centered of all three of you . I was shocked Carole never said anything. So rude! You also should apologize to Heather. Who are you to demand that she invite anyone everywhere? Unbelievable!

bonnie1980
bonnie1980

Aviva, you most definitely DID in fact ruin the "Girls" trip. Get over yourself! Only you are wrong in this, nobody else, you!

bonnie1980
bonnie1980

Here's the thing, when u say your sorry, u have to have ur actions follow ur apology as well. U said ur sorry, BUT, has constantly went on & on & on about a situation that u have dramatically brought to life much much larger than it was, u have turned the entire situation around & made yourself o be the victim, which your absolutely not, your the creator of a fictional drama infused situation that you have made to grow larger & larger everytime you bring it up, your adding more drama each time. You are not the Aviva that was originally brought to the show, you are a completely different women who seeks attention by creating huge dramatic events out of small unintentional moments. You seem o bully everyone & want to take front & center of every moment, even if getting that attention is by saying you have phobias of every possible thing. You say you don't want to make a big deal of your phobias, but that's exactly what you do, each & everytime. The new Aviva is repetitive, boring, bossy, mean, annoying & nobody wants a friend like you. Honestly, I don't think you fit in on the show & I truly hope you are no longer going to be on the show for next season. Try a therapist, it seems like you have major issues within yourself.

marian.lockwood
marian.lockwood

Aviva, did you ever hear the expression "you can't un-ring a bell"? You can't take your hateful words back. You can own them but Sonja and Ramona will not forget.

gypsybell
gypsybell

I find your apology hollow and insincere, I thought you were a great addition at first,but now I'm so over you and just about over the show,when you come on now I mute. You are so stuck on you and your Vassar education and all your accomplishment. And you look your nose at ppl who arent as priviliged as you. 

dexterduglas
dexterduglas

You recognized and apologized for your actions. Only time will tell if you meant it. 

 

camik92
camik92

An apology is just that .. saying one is sorry and actually being sorry for hurting someone else. If you were truely sorry you would stop trying to defend yourself... I am not a huge Ramona fan however I am no longer an Aviva fan. I agree with Heather.. for someone that claimed to have the worst time of her life you sure went on and on reliving it. A girls trip is just that... a girls trip!Reid being there surely would change the dynamics..You should have thanked him and tucked him into a hotel and made it was it was meant to be. A girls trip!

 

Zoeygirl2
Zoeygirl2

Aviva I truly feel that your apology on your blog is sincere; trying to find where you fit with all these working women , as a stay at home mom , can generate stress, and the need for some validation,especially when on tv. You have acknowledged your shortcomings; unfortunately the machine has a drive of it"s own. it's hard to pull back the monster of misunderstanding. You are okay - we are all learning as we continue to move forward. PS - the older definition of "class' -school of the 1940's -1950's -1060's New York does not include calling people out or gossiping..a [very déclassé'), per my mom- a New York woman in her 80's.). Old school,. Let Luanne know.

NotSoSweetCaroline
NotSoSweetCaroline

What about your husband referring to the other women as "fat cougars.'" Shouldn't that merit an apology? 

colfaxkoop@yahoo.com
colfaxkoop@yahoo.com

OWN YOUR RUDE BEHAVIOR THEY WERE HAVING  FUN  UNTIL YOUR RUDENESS  MESSED  UP THE VACATION. BY THE WAY AVYIA U WERE THERE 2  DAYS AND RUINED THE GIRLS VACATION. ALSO I SEE NO APOLOGY AND REID OWES  THE WOMAN AN APOLOGY YOU HEARD WHAT MR. FANTSTIC SAID.

Dj2fan
Dj2fan

Aviva, this trip was not about you. It was not about your husband taking the time to hold your hand and be an enabler and get you to the island. It was not about Sonja. It was not about Ramona. It was about CAROLE!! She finished her book and she was going to be with and support her boyfriend. And, hence, she planned rhismtripmand (made a huge mistake) and invited all you ladies along It was insanely RUDE of you to throw a tantrum and ask Carole to choose between you and the other girls. Talk about ungracious. I guess they don't teach manners at Vassar. And, furthermore, for Ramona to take all the heat for not wanting a man in the house when there was only women there already was very, was very judgemental of you. I hope you saw the clips of the others also talking about it.

a_pear_tree
a_pear_tree

Aviva ragging on about what she expected from Ramona &Sonja at St Bartz is really getting old! Aviva needs to go on a trip with Kim Richards, NenE & Theresa, then let us know how she feels about Ramona! Aviva needs to get over herself!

Therealme83
Therealme83

At first I liked Aviva but now I think the show is bringing the diva in her. Sorry there is nothing wrong with having fun a letting loose, because I do and I'm 47. She's mad because no one brought the red carpet for her and husband. Get over it!!

honoluluhottie
honoluluhottie

I can take abot 30 seconds of Aviva before changing the chanel

 

MBrownsuperstar
MBrownsuperstar

Aviva, I do not think you have any reason to apologize.  In fact, Im really glad that you finally saw through Ramona and Sonja's facade.  I think you were just being brutally honest.  Ramona and Sonja are white trash, they are rude, they clearly are not gracious, and I do think Sonja may be destined to be the next Anna Nicole Smith.  Is it all negative and sad?  Yes, but it is also all factual.  As they say: The truth hurts.  You go girl!

blake_michael
blake_michael

I personally don't condone the comments that were tossed back and forth in St Barths, but I have to say that a bigger part of me is leaning on Aviva's side of this situation than Ramona and Sonja's. I do agree that what Aviva said was very harsh, but I think if anyone looks back at Ramona's prior behavior this season - and seasons past - they would agree that she is a very brash, uncouth person. And I think that Sonja should have exerted more effort defending Aviva and her husband being at the home in St Barths. She seemed willing to accept the situation at first, but allowed herself to get clumped in with Ramona when Aviva confronted her. I understand that being someone's friend means standing by their side, but it's in anyone's best interest to keep out of other people's issues. That's common courtesy. I think Sonja is very emotionally fragile, and I think that given the amount of drinking that was being done, she was more inclined to outburst. She should have let Ramona and Aviva bicker it out, and be there for both of them, since she claimed to be a friend to both of them. Neutral ground would have been best for both of the women in the situation, and I think Sonja missed that boat. The whole situation could have been avoided, in my opinion, had Sonja remained neutral between Ramona and Aviva. Allow Aviva to say her peace, apologize for any comments, and let it be. But I think after hearing what all of the other wives had to say regarding them, I wonder if maybe I'm subconsciously letting some things slide, or missing them altogether.

jaj3
jaj3

Perhaps Aviva made this hollow apology after all the negative feedback she has received since the airing of the St. Barth's trip.  Her attitude and comments are certainly not the classiest.  It is so funny to watch LuAnn and Aviva take on the airs of "class" when true class and gracious attributes are never making others feel uncomfortable.

jerseyviewer12
jerseyviewer12

Do you lecture your father about his behavior the way you lectured Ramona and Sonja?  I doubt it.  How dare you be so sanctimonious.  Than to quote that a woman should be able to express her anger.  That was anger, that was just rudeness.  You must have learned that from the fancy college you went to.

 

Every week going on and on and hearing about poor you.  I fast forward the scenes with you.  Hoping you will not be back next season.

 

Leechiv
Leechiv

Avila did you say something like "doesn't a woman have a right to be angry"???? Then why didn't you give Ramona that right???

smittymarie
smittymarie

I think maybe you make up your phobia's

Laurielu
Laurielu

I'm confused... Part of the title says, "Aviva apologizes for her bad behavior in St. Barths" but I can't seem to find the apology anywhere.  I've reread the blog but nope, it's definitely not there.  Unless A'Diva wrote the title, and considers that to be the apology, I don't believe she has offered one.  Saying that I OWN IT - I OWN IT - I OWN IT just means that you take responsibility for your words.  In no way does that constitute an apology.

taylorhawken
taylorhawken

I'm going to be completely honest, I am very torn about Aviva. On one hand i LOVE the fact that she called Ramonja white trash, because quite frankly they are. On the other hand, they hadn't really done anything to deserve being called that at the moment. I truly think because of her injury as a young child people treated her differently and she probably got a lot of attention and everything she wanted because of her wealthy upbringing, and because of this she came to St. Barths with a sense of entitlement and the mindset that everything should go her way, and that's simply not how life works.

pomoboy
pomoboy

i respect you more after reading this! Kudos!

scaryisland
scaryisland

It's refreshing to see a housewife own up to their mistakes.  I feel like it takes a lot for any of us to say we did something wrong. So BRAVO to you that you were able to see yourself and realize that your behavior was a bit much, even with Ramona and Sonja's silliness. Thank you. I hope we see you in future seasons. We need more of this.

Virgolady6901
Virgolady6901

I never seen anyone attack your husband. People say things and sometimes is not exactly the nicest things to say but you attack them before they even had a chance to say, Yes we did ,,but we are glad your here. You was stressed but allot of what you said is what you was feeling and this was the excuse you needed to say what was on your mind. I liked you and thought you was a good addition to the show,,but its not the lets fix Aviva Show. The name calling was a bit much, and thats coming from a person that you would consider white trash. Everyone, including Heather was getting along, until you showed up. I hope Andy, on the reunion show, ask you just what do you consider white trash. Is it the person that serves you a meal, is it a person that is poor and has to live in a trailer because thats all they can afford. Or is it someone that you just judge as white trash. You was being very judgemental of others and that to me is distasteful.

BLenore
BLenore

You can be passionately angry without being hurtful. It was possible to communicate how upset you were without the name calling. Sonja is probably dealing with more hurt/issues than Aviva realizes, and she has no place to throw them out there like that. I am also not thrilled with how she seems to think that she is sticking up for the "Little guy"  in several situations when all she is really doing is stirring up trouble. You have no right to get between Ramona and Heather, BUTT OUT.

alil.1012
alil.1012

Aviva,

I quite liked when you told Ramona that you heard she did mean things, she needs to get called out on that. The trip wasn't all about sonja or ramona but they acted like their time was most important. You went a little off the deep end, but you owned it and you didn't back down to them or talk about them behind their backs. I think Ramona is just one of those people that you have to keep smiling and nodding at because shes got a few screws loose and sonja is just a mess. Don't let these other haters get you down. 

Alph
Alph

Let's be real!! Some of the things Aviva said to and about Ramona & Sonja are TRUE!!!!

BMW4EBW
BMW4EBW

Aviva – STOP!  God took one of your legs to humble you.  He knew you were a rich kid that would never have to do anything but find a man to take care of you, including your daddy, now Reid.  No one is saint and if you don’t like what the other girls are doing, put on your leg and leave.

 

Trust me; you will not make it on the show next season.  Wow, you may have to get a “real” job.

bentley97
bentley97

Aviva, please stop talking about yourself like you are the only person that matters...We don't care about you or your husband..You can't make people respect you with your yelling...You are not special and you are not kind...

april-jennifer
april-jennifer

I am glad to see everyone else was as disturbed by aviva's behavior as I was. I had to change the channel in the middle of the episode because I was so frustrated by her self-centered rantings. This isnt the first time she has shown off this part of her either. the whole charity thing with her scolding romona and sonya for not showing up was a heads up for what was to come.

I am scared to see the next few episodes where it looks as though aviva insults poor sonya even more.

I have anxiety badly and lots of phobias, and I thought maybe I could relate to aviva, but she has shown me how NOT to act. Using anxiety and phobias as an excuse to get attention, demand special treatment and 'parties', and use it as a reason to scold your friends for not 'laying out a red carpet' is how I never want to be. A lot of people have the same problems as aviva and a lot more people have WORSE problems, but they dont act like that.

Hopefully seeing her behavior on tv will help her realize when he is acting like a attention starved, immature child, and never hurt others again for the sake of her own insecurities.

 

ggmiami
ggmiami

A girls night out... a girls weekend is "girls" NO MEN well at least not the one you have at home LOL! But seriously I think BravoTv did this so there would be MORE drama on this trip, cause if Aviva would have not shown up and screwed everything up there would not be anything to blog about nor would anyone be looking forward to the Reunion show.

MayTheForce
MayTheForce

The only reason Aviva is posting this fake apology is because of all the blowback she has received since last week. She forgives her dad everything and even encourages his shenanigans, but calls Ramonja white trash? Believe me, I am not Team Ramonja at all. But Aviva is no better!

music
music

If I had a friend who had invited me on a luxurious vacation to these amazing places, I cannot imagine having a single complaint and if I did, I would certainly not voice them. 

Kalt-1109
Kalt-1109

Just watched a clip from the next episode...you are incorrigible.  Please don't come back next season.

chaitanya
chaitanya

Aviva, please read the teachings of Christ and or Buddha. Its clear you need some perspective about how to treat people. See a spiritulist/ therapist about all your negativity.. you still have a lot of healing and growing to do. God bless you

jennibeans25
jennibeans25

 @Virgolady6901 i agree, what a winner and ohhh so perfect Aviva must be to be calling people white trash.  

ggmiami
ggmiami

 @alil.1012

 I totally disagree with you on this comment, it was not all about them! Why do people hate on people that know how to enjoy life! Dont ya know that life is short and that we need to enjoy every minute, and that each person enjoys like how they see fit!?!?!? we are no one to judge!

jennibeans25
jennibeans25

 @Alph is it up to "perfect" Aviva to point them out?  what happened to having fun on your vacation?  Aviva should have stayed home, she ruined the trip once she arrived.

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @Alph The things Aviva said to and about Ramona and Sonja said far more about Aviva than Sonja and Ramona.  They may have some self centered qualities but Aviva seems to expect the world at her feet and when she didn't get what she wanted showed a side of herself far worse than Sonja and Ramona ever have stooped.

Rita-la
Rita-la

 @BMW4EBW Wow, someone with a direct line to God. Go figure.

alil.1012
alil.1012

 @BMW4EBW eww you sound like a total hater! You should probably check yourself

MicRLane
MicRLane

 @FairIsFair Who is Aviva to say that Sonja is in a 'spirial downward', 'embarassing to be scene with' and a 'drunk' WOW.... Aviva is totally mean and cruel.

 

urgurg
urgurg

 @FairIsFair I was never a big fan of Sonja's, but Aviva is so awful that I really like Sonja now. She totally schooled on her tonight. Aviva is NUTS. Backpeddling and saying she owns it it is in her words BS.

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

 @FairIsFair   

AND.... it was A-DIVA who mentioned the fact that she forgot her "swimming" leg. No one would have known  what leg she was wearing. Always bringing attention to herself. Tiresome! Yep all her bathing suits look the same...bra and panties.

 

RHONYCmandi
RHONYCmandi

 @alil.1012  @BMW4EBW Can we stop with the "hater" moniker already? We all have different opinions, no need to call anyone that doesn't agree with your opinions, haters. It's so overused and designed to suppress free thought.