Aviva Drescher

Aviva admits she failed as a matchmaker and defines "wet" for Ramona.

on Jul 30, 20120

My father is so embarrassing and Ramona is so controlling. Welcome to my life.

When people travel, they forget things. Some forget a toothbrush, a blowdryer, or even their favorite earrings. I forgot my swimming leg. Is it my age? The blonde hair? The four kids? How could I forget something so important?

Arriving to Ranjana's pool, I was about to turn back because I feel like I am going to fall off the roof due to high anxiety. As the dizziness and vertigo have sufficiently set in, Ramona luckily distracts me by putting a LOT of focus on my swimming situation. Not sure if that was a blessing or a curse? Her behavior certaintly got me out of my own head fast.

Here I am about to get into a pool with a bunch of women and Ramona starts to go on and on about whether or not I should go swimming. Then as soon as I am in the pool, Ramona soon enough is insisting that I get out of the pool because my leg is going to get too wet? Once something is wet, it's wet. . .Am I missing something here? Ranjana certainly didn't! This trip caused me to get somewhat annoyed with Ramona. She was controlling my swimming activities, the dinner party food flow, the dinner party conversation, and even threw me out of a bathroom in my own home. I was disappointed and and my patience was lessening. . .

156 comments
paula.escober.9
paula.escober.9

Walking Contradiction....

 

It's mean that Heather calls Ramona "acting crazy" but it's okay to talk about Jacques the second he leaves the party.....

 

"I am afraid of heights" but I love hanging out in my penthouse and especially on the balcony.....

Didabr
Didabr

Aviva, what Ramona did and does was despicable, but u totally allowed yourself to be a doormat when you are not that at all. I just couldn't fathom that you didn't try to shut all of that down in any way at all. I have a LOT of patience but that isn't really patience. It is just embarrassing not to stand up for yourself anywhere let alone when you are graciously hosting the whole deal. Soooo hard to watch that. I am sure you have a breaking point coming up but what probably will happen is that you will go off the deep end in handling her because it is too little too late. Good luck though.

amerikiss
amerikiss

Aviva, your Dad is your Dad so I won't comment on him.  However, why don't you step up and say something to Romona?  You have the patience of a saint.  You are a beautiful lady and wonderful wife and mother.  Love you on the show!

katc47
katc47

Hi Aviva,

I was Ramona at one time.  I have a friend who is blind and has been for over 50 yrs.  we met 6yrs ago and at first I was over protective and hovering not knowing how to react to her lack of sight.  She was patient with me and helped me to relax by being open and frank. Realizing, that this grown woman with a college degree and 2 grown kids can take care of her self.  You have a platform and a built-in audience to educate.  Be yourself and others will respond and be blessed.

kaybeecee
kaybeecee

Aviva, you are a kind and beautiful woman, but I think you need to either quit involving your castmates in issues that you have anxiety with or just realize that when you do, sometimes you will get more "protection" (aka feedback) if you make yourself vulnerable to certain people with very strong personalities (aka Ramona).   I truly believe the whole fixation on not having your swimming leg with you was because Ramona was concerned after you had made a few comments.  Ramona being an extremely overt person thought she was "helping" you.  Yes, she over did it. . . maybe next time don't share your concerns with her if you don't want her "help".   

About your dad. . . . . . he's rather creepy and perverted.  That's not your fault, but I would want to die if my dad was talking to my girlfriends about squirting orgasms and rubbing his erect member on their backsides.  I would have been really offended if I was Sonja, but she handled it well. She's certainly not an uptight prude, but no woman (I don't care if they are in a short dress with no undies) deserves to be sexually harassed like that.  She made it pretty damn obvious that she wasn't interested and he just didn't "get" it and kept going at her pretty much non-stop.  It was cringe worthy.  Again, not your fault, but I would avoid "setting" up dear old dad with any more of your female acquaintances.  

Love you and your husband together. . . .  you seem to have a very loving and supportive relationship, and your children and beautiful and well mannered.

HousewifeAl
HousewifeAl

Hey Aviva, I'm afraid that you cannot really make a big ass deal out of all of the things and circumstances you are terrified of and concerned about (especially around Ramona's personality type) and never expect a reaction or comment.

I completely understand your desire not to attract attention to your leg, and Ramona is not always sensitive to these types of things but her intention were clear-she was showing concern for your leg, albeit in her controlling, non-stop Ramona type of way.

But rather than taking control of your own situation and allowing Ramona to chill, you just didn't.  And in a way, you've drawn attention to certain things by sharing your fears and issues with the other ladies and on television; and you certainly (perhaps unknowingly) welcomed Ramona's leg obsession by smooching up to her so much, she's just returning the favor---next time say "Thanks Ramona, there's zero problem but if there is, I'll come to you."

 

Michnyc55
Michnyc55

You should never be uptight about your looks. You're gorgeous and you're built like a model. It must be those swedish genes. You have a lovely family. Be smart and get off the show before it messes up your life.

MQUINN3
MQUINN3

I just want to say that Avivia, I think you are very classy and appropriate at all times. You obviously put everyone else first and your family is beautiful. You and your husband seem to get along wonderfully and you can tell he adores you, and you him. I don't know how they select you ladies to be on the show, but I think you have given all of the ladies the benefit of the doubt and enough is enough. Stick with Carole and Heather and I could watch a show with just the three of you. Ramona is repulsive, rude and selfish.

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

sweet, STRONG Aviva ---

when you and Sonja were chatting about a "signal" to give to Ra-moan-a to tell her to quit it...don't think that will ever happen. Ra-volta only thinks about herself. There are many international hand signals to curse or call someone vulgar. There's one that in the U.S. looks as if you are telling them they are "OK"  in other countries, it has a totally different meaning. There's the middle finger gesture that she would understand best, since she has a potty mouth.

 

Yikes, Ramoana, ..an "aquired taste"???

Like limberger cheese? anchovies? haggis? Hákarl from Iceland?  

 

wouldn't waste my time,

keep on + carry on Aviva,

you + your family are lovely, and your dad....hahaha. a trip + a half!

surfmama
surfmama

Hi Aviva. Don't you just love all of these people telling you what to do and what's right and what's wrong with you and your family? It must be a weird experience : )  Anyway, I just felt compelled to tell you that I think you are a kind, considerate class act that appears to be a girl trying to avoid conflict, turn the other cheek, and choose your battles wisely and I think you are a refreshing, cool addition to the show : )  You handle yourself so well and don't take yourself too seriously and I like that : )  Just wanted to tell you that.  Don't listen to all the haters you're great : )

fromtheGardenState
fromtheGardenState

-You look great in your bathing suits!

-Ramona and her high pitched voice is BEYOND annoying

-Sonja is a contradiction

-Your father's comments were disgusting and inappropriate; I hope we don't have to hear any more of these things from him in future episodes!

grayfox007
grayfox007

Aviva you are class personified and I feel your setting up Sonja with your dad was just a nice tribute to you real kindness. I know you though Sonja and your dad who is sexually preoccupied would be a perfect fit. Hunter (grayfox007)

MomfromNJ
MomfromNJ

You are not to blame for your fathers actions. I would hate to have my father's behavior put on me but I have to say that was, without a doubt, one of the most uncomfortable hours of TV I've seen with my 16 year old daughter in a loooong time. Your father is absolutely disgusting and for a man of his age, and supposed wealth and knowledge, he should be ashamed of himself. I see he's on next week. I'll have to make sure my daughter and I miss that episode. Does ANYONE need to know about your father's ability to give a squirting orgasm? Disgusting.

obdulia26
obdulia26

Aviva - u have to stand up to these women! Why o' why ? do they always 1 way or another have to bring up ur ex husband how rude is that! I'm sure ur dad is a fun guy but enough is enough very crude of him...he sure is the shock factor!

Bravofan66
Bravofan66

It's not really clear what's going on with you.You either tacitly or directly ask other women to speak up for you--to rescue you, so you don't  have to assert yourself. You enable your father's bizarre behavior by inferring it's just one of the "rough edges" that your mother knew how to handle, insisting he's a great father and grandfather, and that he's just being sexually aggressive because he misses his wife.

 

Then you set up a situation that you know will expose him to the ridicule of a a national television audience, humiliate a woman who is your guest--but you obviously dislike, while you alternately giggle, roll your eyes, and then repimand him; you insisted everyone hear the details of his recent infidelity. Sounds pretty passive-aggressive to me.

goldie.barilan.5
goldie.barilan.5

hi aviva are you israeli................      your nam is israeli..............

wisew
wisew

Hi Aviva, welcome to the show. I am so in awe of your figure. You look fantastic and would love to know your workout regime and diet. I am also a mom to 4 children under 6 so would appreciate any tips! I was wondering why you didn't just take your no swimming leg for the pool? If it were that worrisome I would think you would just take it off. I liked another viewers comment about handing it to Ramona. Lol.  Looking forward to future episodes when you tell Ramona how you really feel. Reid so far has been a class act. Lovely husband and family you have.

ChicagoViewer1977
ChicagoViewer1977

Aviva, lawyer to lawyer, lets use our law degree here ... lets stand up a little bit for ourselves ... lets not allow moronic bullies to dictate how things go in any given situation. Ramona is a bulldozer. You must know this by now and you obviously take some effort to stand up to her in St. Barts. I assume that didn't go well given the Scary Island music playing over the second half previews, but Aviva - learn from this. You are a grown woman and you are well educated. Forget about this stupid show, you and your children will face situations far more important than guests cancelling the salad course that require immediate confrontation over your lives ... you need to show them how to stand up for yourself/themselves immediately and in a productive manner (and you know, being a lawyer, there are good ways to do this). I get that you are a gentle soul, and mazels for that, but you say in your opening "never underestimate a woman born and raised in New York." Tap into some of that claimed aggression. It will serve you well.

tinaturner
tinaturner

OMG, your father is so rude and inconsiderate! Sorry, if he were my dad, no more invites to my house while I have guests. He is just gross! You need to quit trying to make everyone like each other. Don't get your attraction to Ramona but you will certainly see her real side soon! I hope you and your family remain healthy, strong and good humored thru all this! lol

Soozn27
Soozn27

Aviva You seem like a wonderful woman. And your husband seems like a great guy. However, your father was more than embarrassing. He was disgusting. The other housewives were extremely generous to you not to say anything and not to walk out.

HotMamma40
HotMamma40

I really like you Aviva and think you are a great addition to the show, however, you need to stand up for yourself!  It's not appropriate to approach Carole and tell her what she needs to say to Ramona about your leg - it's up to YOU to say something to Ramona.   You were a very gracious host, I would have snapped if I had been in your situation with Ramona!!!

ocdeb65
ocdeb65

I hope you've learned your lesson where Ramona is concerned. You have been so busy kissing up to her that I think you resisted seeing how rude and controlling she is. You are way to nice and classy to ever need a "friend" like her in your life. She's just not happy if everything isn't her way or she isn't the center of attention. It's Ramona's world and you're just a supporting character, in her way of thinking.

Aqualover
Aqualover

Aviva, I appreciate your ability to be appropriate in any situation - even when those around you are not. Your father is your father and while he is way out there by most people's standards it was nice to see that you were willing to share with viewers that your life isn't perfect. I don't know why Sonja thinks it is appropriate to flash other women's husbands and then thinks your father is too much! Ramona - I think everyone has said it all.

sarah100
sarah100

I don't believe Ramona's intentions were malicious. I wish I had a friend like Ramona who says it like it is.

DangleParticiple
DangleParticiple

Don't set your father up with your friends. Ever. Ever! That was beyond embarrassing.

Lisalisa0968
Lisalisa0968

I loved your dad !! Life is too short to be so dang stuffy. Ramona can say all she wants in her blog about this episode, she was very rude. You were a saint. I would have thrown her ass out !

BravoFanInfinity
BravoFanInfinity

Aviva - So far I like you, but I guess I have to keep watching to see why now in your blogs you're trying to paint a different picture of what happened when it comes to Ramona.  She made a big deal out of your leg getting wet because you were freaking out about it in the car all the way to Ranjana's??!!!  Which is very in character for you from what we've seen so far.  Yes Ramona can be controlling but she was concerned because you expressed concern to her and she is a good friend.   So please don't act like Ramona is obsessed with your leg dear, because she was simply obsessing over the same thing you were until the cameras were rolling.  I was wondering why Ramona was being so insistent and now it all makes sense.  Ramona may be harsh, unfiltered, abrupt at times, but she's a great friend, why would Sonja let her get away with things if she wasn't a wonderful friend; so your loss.

Look not everyone can handle someone's quirks the way another person can, it means your not meant to be good friends, but that doesn't give you the right to try and make someone look bad when it's not the whole truth.  Shame on You.

 

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

Nice try with Sonja and your dad.  She would make an awesome step mother but it appears that will not happen.  Sonja is just a flirt, which doesn't mean she is over sexed, but your dad was raunchy. Nice to hear his good qualities because he didn't come off well.

Rethink Ramona's intentions.  Read her blog.  Some of this is due to your being hot and cold, open about and embarrassed about your anxieties and the position she was in.

ColorMeGlitter
ColorMeGlitter

Aviva...I really like you. You are gracious and classy! But you must learn to stand up for yourself regarding Ramona and not just complain to everyone else about your issues with Ramona. And I am baffled that you wanted to invite your father and put him on national television knowing the way he behaves. It was horrible! He was very trashy and it only made him and you look bad!

yeahyeahyeaher
yeahyeahyeaher

Hi Aviva! I have to say that you are a class act. You are my favorite NYC'er. I hope you and Lu Ann develop a friendship. Regarding Monday's episode; Um, you and your Pops have the same smile. I think that "pairing" him with Sonja was a good idea. I didn't realize Sonja was into older gentlemen. Albeit, your dad wasn't much of a gentlemen. Anyways, thanks for a fun show and wondering why you get into altercations w/ Ramona and Sonja??? hhmmm. I'm def. on your side. Wink. Rob xoxo

alicia90
alicia90

Aviva you are a wonderful lady just don't let Ramona get to you and I am sure that in the coming episodes you will. whatever you do just ignore her when you guys meet at the reunion show. Out of all the girls I think you should hang out with Carole. One question: in your introduction on the show you say "never underestimate a girl born and raised in New York City" but you told viewers that you grew up on a farm and that's how you had your injury. can you clear us one day on that?

 

cehemise
cehemise

After watching the recent show, it finally dawned on me why there's a problem with Ramona.  Yes, she's obviously a wealthy woman, but she's out of her league.  She doesn't fit in with the group of sophisticated ladies.  She seems to be a dichotomy, which is probably why people have trouble pinning her down.  But, suffice to say she's simply a common square peg trying to fit into a socially sophisticated round hole.  Her money didn't buy her the secret password.

Alexandra_Sydney_Australia
Alexandra_Sydney_Australia

Aviva you were such a gracious host. It was hard enough watching an hour of Ramona's antics so I'm amazed that you managed to keep your cool after a whole weekend! But I agree with everyone else, you need to speak up and tell her to shut up and sit down. 

 

You and Carole are by far my favourites!! 

Virgolady6901
Virgolady6901

You handle yourself beautifully. Ramona is a bit much to take. Your Dad is a pistol. He was funny and very charming. About Sonja, there is an old saying those that talk about it all the time isn't gettin any...LOL...

NeutronBomb
NeutronBomb

Aviva, you looked stunning in that bikini! Meanwhile, Ramona and Mario are obviously way out-of-their-depth with you and Reid's lifestyle. I can tell your poor husband is thinking "What has my wife signed up for". "Who are these whacko's?" lol You both have a lot more class that The Singer's!

WandaP
WandaP

Avivia and Reid, what generous hosts u were.. It was a SHOCK and awe show, between Ramona in her grnd mothering faze, Mario actually spitting on everyone, was priceless and u took it like achamp.. I wonder how Ramona would of felt . Reid was so gracious with fric and frac in the bathroom, that was a little different. PLEASE stand up to her, PLEASE BULLYing is not to be tolerated. By ignoring her, u give her power over u.. Please for all that have ever gone thru this type of be haviour.. STAND UP BE HEARD.. Your dad while it can seem cute, and funny, it could get him into allot of trouble . Carole nothing fazes her, such a good sport!, Girl u looked hot in your Bikini, at least it fit perfecto!! Just saying!!!

laura.gomezbenavides
laura.gomezbenavides

I won't sugar coat it, Aviva-- your fathers' behavior was appalling! I also thought Ramona acted indecent and poorly. You need to stand-up to Ramona and stop this madness! I agree with everyone on this blog, you should have said a heck of a lot more to Ramona about her rude behavior! Who acts this way and thinks for one moment it's acceptable? Nuts, plain & simple.

kaylawaldie@gmail.com
kaylawaldie@gmail.com

Aviva, Ramona is awful! I can't believe anyone would be her friend unless it was televised. Seriously if somone got up at my dinner party and told MYcaterers how and when to serve I would blow. Secondly where does she get off setting the allowed dinner conversation.  You are gracious and absouletly beautiful she brings up your leg because she knows you are better than her and thats how she tries to bring you to her level.

crazygrace15
crazygrace15

I loved your bathing suit!!  I have such a hard time finding flattering, supportive bikinis.  Where did you get it from??

MeanDonnaJean
MeanDonnaJean

 @wisew "If it were that worrisome I would think you would just take it off." I feel the exact same way. What's the big deal about showin' yer "stump"? That shoulda been the first thing ya did....take that sucker off 'n give those ladies sumthin' to REALLY talk about! ;-)

AudreyEH
AudreyEH

 @ocdeb65

Spot on! and VIVA Aviva!!!!!

 

Ramona is controlliing and unfortunately, it seems she's unable to change, or accept constructive advice...it's her way, or no way. From the snibbly bits of previews, it seems you've come into your own and won't allow this bullying, idiotic beast to influence you!

Laurielu
Laurielu

 @BravoFanInfinity Even if Aviva was freaking out about it earlier that still does not excuse Ramona from going on and on and on about it.  Once Aviva said it was fine, Ramona should have dropped it.  To then order her out of the pool???  Who the hell does she think she is?  I'm not sure why you think she is such a great friend - please explain because maybe I'm missing something here.  The fact that Sonja lets her get away with her rude, childish behavior doesn't make Ramona a 'great' friend in my eyes.

BMBarbie
BMBarbie

@BravoFanInfinity Ramona not obsessed with Aviva's leg....are we watching the same show????

happykat
happykat

 @alicia90

 She was spending the night at a friend's house.  The friend lived on the farm.

Janeysmile
Janeysmile

 @NeutronBomb With a father-in-law like Reid has why do you pick on the Singers.  People forget that Ramona was there first and they are coming into her world.  Not to say she isn't overboard at times, but she speaks the truth most of the time.  And why do the Dreshers have to boast about how much they have also.  Who cares.

daisybu
daisybu

 @NeutronBomb Sorry but her dad was not funny or charming he was down right creepy-.!"

If-he was just an ordinary Joe he would have been cut down in a flash but because he is a very,very, rich man any thing goes......""""""

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BarbarainNY
BarbarainNY

 @laura.gomezbenavides YOu and some others are writing that Aviva should have stood up to Ramona. However, please remember that Ramona and Mario were guests of Aviva and Reid's, guests who had flown to Miami to visit. Therefore the host and hostess could not exactly kick them out of their home during the visit.

 

sarah100
sarah100

 @oyveysmear I believe Ramona was concerned for Aviva, she wasn't being malicious.

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

 @crazygrace15

 They have custom-made bathing suit shops in various areas around the country! I worked in one back in the 80's that took your measurements by computer. It was seen as pretty high-tech back then ;-) You picked out different colored fabrics for your suit and cover-ups and it was ready in a week.

 

I can't tell you how many women that came in and said they had never worn a bathing suit in public because they couldn't find a suit they felt comfortable in. Some of them were older and had terrible scarring from mastectomies performed in the '60's and '70's. (I'll never forget seeing them) :( 

 

They were able to get a suit that they could choose how high/low the neck and armholes should be and how high/low the cut on the leg should be- they were thrilled. We even sewed some of the women's own bras inside for them, too!

 

I loved that job!

Lynda58
Lynda58

 @macombmommy  @sarah100 hahahahahahah!  that is good!  As it seems, Ramona probably would "interview" her next friend.