Carole Radziwill

Carole shares her thoughts on the whole Housewives experience -- and a glimpse into her new novel.

on Oct 2, 20120

Lucy and Ethel are at it again here talking all the way through the show, complaining about. . .? (Drum roll, please.) Yep. The toaster oven shoot. You can’t make this up. I couldn’t write this. Shakespeare couldn’t write this. Didn’t I tell you we’d be talking about this photoshoot until the very last minute? I don’t lie.

The show was incredible. It was Heather’s moment to shine. It was for a wonderful, heartfelt cause, and it was fabulous. Ping pong champ and sexy fundraising Queen, Holla! Nice way to end a season.

My Baby Book Shower
George has been lying about his age. Did you see how I did that? I took Mad Aviva and turned her into Fun Aviva. I’m a princess, I waved my wand. I like when Aviva laughs, she has a nice laugh. She needs to keep her hair out of buns, her waist out of corsets, and her laugh out of the closet! Those are words to live by. I take every chance I get to throw some humor into the show now. I’m looking for the funny.

Jacques toasted me. Ramona is seeing. Ramona is apologizing. It took her seven hours to come to my party. Let’s make love, not war. Ramona is stealing my lines. Everybody was. What if I run out of lines?

I invited a bunch of my real life friends to my I Finished My Book party. That’s them sneaking around giggling in the background. They were like Florida school kids at Great Adventure -- thrilled to see the animals in their element. Giddy at the chance to see us Housewives up close, unleashed, in the wild. There was an audible gasp in the room when Ramona grabbed my arm, like when the lions yawn then eat a visitor at the zoo. They’re still talking about it, right now.

199 comments
Lesley.Canam.Dugas
Lesley.Canam.Dugas

Carole,  I normally don't comment on RHONY,  however I felt the need to.  I watched an episode of where you were all dining with LuAnn and Jacques.  LuAnn started making fun of aboriginals and spoke about Canadians.  I was so impressed of your reaction to her.  I am Canadian and I treat our aboriginals with respect.  I thought it was extremely unbecoming of a so called "countess".  I applaud you.  You are a beautiful woman inside and out!  

 

Lesley Dugas

Sagalitti55
Sagalitti55

Carole, you're a breath of fresh air! When I found your site, I read each and every blog. Fantastic! I ordered What Remains from Amazon and received it today. I'm getting ready to hit the couch with a good read tonight. ;)

lavone
lavone

i have been so happy about your book and hope the movie comes thru and hope you come back your a really nice calm person you baance them all out!

patcaseygold
patcaseygold

Carole you have been fun to watch and it looks like this show has brought you success in your life, not that you wouldn't have done it on your own. I do however think you came across as being passive/aggressive. 

LoriAfromNYtoLA
LoriAfromNYtoLA

I think I'm going to miss you most of all, Scarecrow.

Mimilicious
Mimilicious

You are refreshing, organic, non-traditional. Hope you stay on for the next season; but wouldn't fault you if you didn't, I am looking forward to your book!

KatiePhx
KatiePhx

Methinks you try a bit too hard to be eccentric and avant garde especially with your blog posts.  At the beginning of the season I enjoyed watching your calming almost zen-like behavior, however, as the season progressed you became more mean-spirited and catty.  Defending the neurotic obsessed Aviva (which I truly believe is more of an act than true neuroses) and her lecherous, disgusting father not only diminishes your character but leads one to think which is the real Carole. I'm hoping we'll get some clarification at the reunion show! 

deanne_jackson
deanne_jackson

I find it sad that someone as worldly as you would empower an extremely creepy or "inelegant" man such as Aviva's father by excusing or laughing off his crassness.  He's not some doddering old man who doesn't understand the power behind his words and the crassness.  He shows incredible disrespect towards women, in particular his daughter.  To excuse is to empower. 

Charlottemiddleclass
Charlottemiddleclass

I honestly liked you up until the end.  Your true colors started to show. Looking forward to see what you are really like at the reunion show. 

RoseWind
RoseWind

Dear Carole, 

I want people to think about something.  Carole, Heather, and Aviva spent special one-on-one time with each other throughout the season showing their interest in each other's lives (Heather and Aviva with their children at a park; Carole and Aviva visiting a boy who received running legs for the first time; Carole and Heather sharing time together on the boat and beach and bar).

 

In contrast, neither Sonja nor Ramona spent any one-on-one time with the new women on the show.  They didn't care to learn anything about them.  In fact, they treated Carole and Heather as though they were their paid "help" (correction:  free help).  In St. Barths, they treated Carole like a maid instead of the hostess.  They tried to control the purpose of the trip, not listening when Carole said repeatedly that it was not a girls' trip.  Carole was the one entitled to state the purpose of the trip.  The guests are supposed to respect her wishes, especially given the fact that Carole provided them a $40 million home in paradise.  But Sonja broke glass on the floor and left it for others to take care of the shards; she yelled at the chef to wait on her; Ramona tried to run the trip and determine what should happen and what shouldn't; she swept into and kept the master suite; they were loud, rude, and drunk.  Back in New York, Sonja treated Heather like one of her free interns, expecting her to provide a never-ending list of free marketing services, and Ramona barged into meetings with her loud voice attacking Heather even though she was not Heather's client. Both girls showed serious disrespect to Heather at her fashion show fundraiser.

 

When Sonja and Ramona had a legitimate need for help against Aviva's attacks, why are they and many viewers surprised that Carole and Heather had no interest in protecting them?  If you treat people like dirt for months, don't expect them to rescue you when you have a serious need for help.

 

cocijo5000
cocijo5000

Man. You. 

 

Generally speaking, most of the series of the Housewives are all the same: take rich women and dress them in diamonds with big, fake, hair. Put them in a tiny room with alcohol and whisper into their ear the secrets they don't want to hear. Et voila, you have TV magic. 

 

You remind me of that one episode of Will & Grace, where Grace keeps saying that she's kinky and Will keeps saying that she isn't, because you "aren't kinky if you say you're kinky." 

 

I believe you have taste, style, class, etiquette, maturity, and talent because you don't talk about it. You just do it. You don't say it in confessionals or have a "hit" auto-tune song about it. 

 

I hope you come back next season. 

underthesea
underthesea

Thank-you Carole, I have really enjoyed watching how you handled yourself during some very difficult situations.  You managed to remain kind, calm, and dignified.  I don't think I would have been able to, but I am hoping I can follow suit and aim to do better. 

dorotkak
dorotkak

Carol, 

 

This is the first blog that has compelled me to return week after week!

 

Bravo!  

 

You are truly a witty writer, and I must say, I adored reading this.  I must read your book What Remains, if it's as good as this blog I think I will finish it in a day! This excerpt from the new book seems promising too.  I hope both of them are at the library 

Wishing you lots of luck and fun in the future!!!

 

ginger.key
ginger.key

Carole, I can totally understand if you choose not to do another season, but I want you to know that of all the series and all the Housewives, you have been my absolute favorite. True class and true elegance, and mostly kind. I am really looking forward to reading your book, and really hope against hope you'll be back next season!

lotsaluck
lotsaluck

Having Carole on RHONY has been a privilege and a treat. So entertaining! And I love her Blog. It's the best blog I've ever read. To get to read the thoughts of an exceptional professional writer which are so witty and entertaining is also a privilege and a treat. I hope Carole stays for another season, if she can stand it. She brings so much to the show. 

 

I thought I'd really like Aviva and did at first, but I really dislike her mean, judgmental treatment of Ramona and Sonja. Sure, they have their faults like anyone, but they don't deserve Aviva's rath and condemnation. I never would have expected such a mean streak under Aviva's sweet exterior. Aviva's dad's comments were far worse than anything Ramona or Sonja did or said. I could like Aviva on the show again, if she apologized and got over her issues with R & S. 

 

Heather is great and I love her on the show more and more with each episode. Very impressed with her business sense and success.

 

Bellisamo
Bellisamo

Your story blazes thru my soul. It just goes to show that people of all classes feel pain. I felt yours. While I'm thrilled that you are a welcomed addition of sanity and sense  to the NY HWa, everyone knows that your innovative mind is just too advanced for the diva mindset that surrounds you. You won't get thru to close-minded snobs, but you've made an impact on me. TY Carole. 

Bellisamo
Bellisamo

I'm mid-thru your first book and I must say I can't seem to put it down. So impressive is your humility and lack of pretentuousness. You're the real deal and I honor you for that and for showing so many of us that while all the glamour and glitz is FUN, it's still shallow & elusive. An illusion. Thank you for being YOU and proud of being your humble beginnings that shaped your strong character. Too many people associate wealth w/sucess, so thanks for showing true sucess is being HONEST  & hardworking and being real with who you are.  I love you Carole on so many levels. Your inner beauty radiates an otherwise "steven tyler" face (sorry, but you do love related & I love him too btw) You have an expectantly round rump too. OMG-I have such a girl crush on you. Wow. I think I just creeped myself out, but I'm not weird. I admire you immensely.

adrian0603
adrian0603

You were not my favorite this season. Everyone seemed to think you were on their side and I believe this is how you wan to be perceived. However you seem to have a different take when you have a moment with the camera. If this is a joke to you and you are so above these situations then don't come on the show. You think these people are funny and you are in a comedy while they are in a drama. Seems to me there are some pretty sad situations brewing, mainly Sonja and her financial concerns and poor Aviva and her demented view of every situation. Not funny. Sticking up for that  old man as well. Ok, you escorted him out of an event he was not invited to. Your concern should have been for the hostess however you cannot pass up any circumstance to take a dig at Ramona. BTW, she is a very savvy business woman, she has a great husband and seems to keep it all together even with a glass of pinot in either hand. I will not be buying your book. You take shots at the ladies drinking and having fun on vacation and you freely admit to smoking pot in your apartment tour. You got totally wasted on national television when you returned from St Barts. What makes you so superior to Sonja and Ramona? Nothing. That is the answer. Leave the show if it is a big joke to you. So disappointed with the newbies. You all suck with the exception of Heather. You can take a tip from her on being sincere. 

Florida_Gal
Florida_Gal

Dear Carole

 

I've enjoyed you on the show immensely. Witty and kind and a wickedly funny writer. I'm a surprised that people are demanding that you be confrontational with the other ladies as if you are holding back. Did they forget the epi of you addressing the Countess about dresses? It seems to me that confrontation is simply not your style. Whether it's because you are a writer, an introvert, a journalist by training, what does it matter? It's part of your package. Seems to me that signing up for the show was, in itself, an act of courage. 

 

Besides hasn't every "housewife" show proven that confrontation does NOT work? 

 

When I was very young, I didn't know how to confront. Then I found my voice and found that it didn't work. Amazingly, people were offended! Haha. Then I matured and learned that people are more receptive to advice rather than criticism. Also, to not give advice unless asked for it and then when they do ask ... don't do it.  Haha.

 

Even warriors, like Ramona, can dish it out but can't take it. I like Ramona. She's very smart and direct and can be very funny. At the same time, she is also very demanding and high maintenance. I'm sure she can be exhausting. 

 

Regarding St. Barth's... I am trying to read between the lines here... your reference to 'inelegance' and Heather's comment that she was 'shocked'. Perhaps a LOT more happened in St. Barth's that was left on the editing floor. Perhaps it will come out in the reunion show.

 

It seems that in the 2nd year the 'likeable' characters on a Housewife show get their turn to be unlikeable. Editing can do a lot to sway public opinion. I don't want that to happen to you. Think twice. Do you really need to return? If you would like to remain on TV in some capacity, perhaps there are other venues that you can consider where the focus is more on the positive side. 

 

 

jolee1965
jolee1965

I have to say your my favorite. But dont stick up for someone when they dont deserve it, she has some pretty horrible behavior's as well, and she needs to know in order to change it.

skye8844
skye8844

Carole, I just finished your book last night.  Of all the books I've read about John and Carolyn your book is by far the best.  Never critical but full of love for a wonderful relationship the four of you had.  You proved you were a strong person.  I see you as a lovely one too and you were loved by four exceptional people.

 I met your Mother -in-law with Herb when I worked with him on a movie.  Your description was perfect.

 

WHAT REMAINS, A Memoir of Fate, Friendship & Love

was a great read. I agree with Jeannette Walls, it was ' A riveting and heartbreaking journey.'

juka
juka

I don't know how you can support George, the dirty old man. It cheapens you.

passthepinot
passthepinot

I love the way you put your words together. I enjoyed your blogs and loved the Wizard of Oz theme. However, unlike Dorothy, I am pretty sure you did not need this journey to find your strengths and become a "whole self". I am positive your heart, your thoughts and your courage were well in place already. A few things I didn't appreciate, one being the question of whether or not you were a "one percenter", which came early in the season. Surely you know your own status. The other being the veiled dig at Sonja's dialogue about the painting. Yes, Sonja mentioned the Queen Mother and referred to the Morgans as "American Royalty", but Sonja's ex husband, and now Sonja's daughter, share a bloodline to not one, but two presidents. In addition, the Morgan family saved this country from a depression in the early 1900's by opening up their own personal funds so it was a Morgan Bailout rather than a government bailout. You have to admit that is one impressive pedigree. If that was tongue-in-cheek, as many posters have identified it, then I think your tongue was planted a little too firmly in cheek with those remarks. I am looking forward to reading your books, and thanks for taking the time to write such great blogs.  

jenmcn
jenmcn

I really like you and how you live your life which is why I am shocked you thought Aviva's dad behaved properly and didn't deserve to be kicked out.  He is inappropriate and fundamentally rude.  He uses his age as some sort of shield.  Down right self centered and annoying.... just like Aviva.

Lynda58
Lynda58

Dear Carole,

Your "Wizard of Oz" analogy made me laugh and laugh more.  I got the impression that you signed on to do the show for fodder for your grist mill.  Or maybe, it was for material for a future book?  In any case, I cannot understand how you could overlook and coddle Aviva for her (at first) pot stirring, (turned) screaming meamie, shrill, self righteous, judgmental conduct.  btw: her father was not embarrassed, my dear.  If his own disgusting, inappropriate behavior doesn't affect him, nothing would.  I do agree with you that "SamoanJa" were narcissistic, rude and ridiculous the entire season long.  I wish they'd leave the show and take Avivid with them.

rhowell1965
rhowell1965

I think it is really unfair how Ramona has been treated.  She was getting assaulted by Aviva at your party and again- you did nothing.  I think that your shrinking violet role is getting really lame.  Poor Ramona- she tries to walk away and avoid this woman but Aviva persists.  Why didn't you step in and tell her to stop?  Because you are above it all and that doesn't impress me.  It was your party and you should have ensured that all your guests were comfortable.  Aviva made it uncomfortable and Ramona's outrage was totally understandable.  Aviva's a bull in a china shop and Ramona is a very nervous person anyway (she does have baggage but it makes her endearing).  When you look at someone like LuAnn who doesn't really express her emotions- it's a drag.  Everyone relates to other people's issues.  No one likes a perfect person.

Bellisamo
Bellisamo

What you have to say is not only fascinating, it gives people a chance to actually stop and Think. Wish I knew if you knew how much your words have touched me in a very Positive Way.

RoseWind
RoseWind

Carole, So many comments criticize you for being friends with Aviva.  I think Aviva is a train wreck like everyone else, and she has been abusive to Ramona and Sonja, and George was wrong to attend Ramona's event.  However, (putting Aviva aside) I am really surprised that so few viewers empathize with Heather and Carole's exasperation with Ramona and Sonja's actions.  

 

Carole was the one who invited guests to St. Barths, and Ramona and Sonja showed no courtesy, respect, or gratitude toward her.  Everyone seems to think that Carole should have been their maid and cater to every selfish whim they had.  Ramona and Sonja were terribly rude the way they treated Heather concerning the free marketing assistance Heather gave, and they were both rude and obnoxious at Heather's fundraising event.  And Ramona let Aviva goad her into a very loud and intrusive fight while at Carole's book event.

 

The truth is that for all of the episodes, neither Ramona or Sonja made any effort to get to know any of the new women on a one-to-one basis.  They may have invited the new women to a party or an event, but neither Ramona or Sonja developed a special one-to-one relationship with any them.  These three new women DID seek each other out and do special things with each other.  That is how you develop a friendship and that person can be counted on to help you in the future.

 

If, however, over a six-month period, a person (such as Ramona or Sonja) makes no effort to find out who you are and what matters to you in life, but instead treats you like "the help" to do her beck and call, then that person should not be surprised when she finds she really needs you, and you are not there for her.

BigHWFan
BigHWFan

Carole, I'm not sure why fans would remotely want you off this show.  If it was the Ramona/Sonja show, I'd stop watching.  BORING.  I'm interested in the REAL New York.  Along with the business side, I love the high end art and culture scene.  The fashion (of course) and also the intellectual side.  And not from the perspective of 20-somethings.    You bring all of that to the show most of all.  You are the full package!   If Bravo dumbs down RHNY, I'd be less likely to watch.  Each city has its own personality and NY needs more than just old mean girls and party girls to round out the cast.  (I'm your age - we're too old for acting like they did this season.)

 

PS:  I read your first book.  It haunted me for days because your heart comes through. It's a book I can honestly say I'm better for having read.  Beautifully written.  While "childbirth" is difficult, the pain is worth the result!!   PSS:  I don't think I will ever drive by NIH without thinking of your journey. 

Hottytoddy
Hottytoddy

Like you on the show, you are very diplomatic- however I don't like your choice of profanity- it cheapens you.

gbearc
gbearc

How could you say that Ramona was wrong for asking George to leave? The man followed her around harassing her over and over. She, to her credit did everything she could to respectfully deal with him but he wouldn't stop. P.S.  you desperately need an editor for this blog. 9 pages?

lolabel
lolabel

You'll ask Ramona to leave a ping pong tournament if she's inappropriate around Aviva, but you support Aviva in her outrage at Ramona for asking George to leave when he's being inappropriate at a women's charity event?  You seem so sensible most of the time - what is going on here? Why does Aviva get the pass for being aggressive and hostile?

WatchWhatHappens
WatchWhatHappens

Dear Carole, Unfortunately, some people just don't appreciate your tongue-in-cheek commentary.  Personally, I love it and can't get enough of it.  You have led such an extraordinary life and have dealt with some real tragedies.  You truly are an inspiration to me and so many others.  Thank you for allowing us a peek into your world.

Rockerman
Rockerman

At the end of the proverbial day, you have brought us your perspective on events this season. You did it with humour and without taking sides overtly--actions do speak louder than words. That alone is an art form and a sign of maturity. All the attacks for not taking sides, and innuendoes from castmates are irrelevant although revealing how low others will go to deflect attention and criticism. As much as we gained insights, you gained some recognition of your talents.

Vigdis
Vigdis

Carole, I´m shocked!  Only 9 pages of blogs this time a round!!!!!

What is the world coming to I wonder.

josephine.assunta
josephine.assunta

I really enjoyed your blog, and you and Heather were such a refreshing addition this year to the RHONY.  You're such a cool girl and deserve good things. You've been through so much. I am so happy you and Russ are doing well. He's a lucky guy. I hope to see you again or run into you in the city.  "I'm surprised we haven't run into each other before. We travel in the same circles" haha just kidding. 

JHugs
JHugs

For the most part I like you - you're witty and don't get out of control regardless of what is happening around you. 

Maureen3
Maureen3

Carole you were absolutely adorable and refreshing to watch. I'm sure you wont be back but if you would consider it for us fans...that would be fab. You are such a voice of reason. Wishing you continued success for all your endeavors. Your blogs are wonderful and witty. You are a truly talented writer...MAZEL xo

ckfavorsandcrafts
ckfavorsandcrafts

Carole,

 

I love you and think you are a great person.  I just think you need to speak your true feelings.  When you told Aviva that you would ask Ramona to leave because of her I think you where wrong.  Aviva has become a crazy woman and I considered not watching because of her.  I thing Sonja and Ramona can get out of hand, but they just want to have fun.  Stay true to yourself.  You are a great person.  You enable Aviva to act the way she does.  I think you and Heather are the greatest.  I hope you come back next session and Aviva leaves.

KansasLady
KansasLady

I absolutely love watching you and reading your blogs, I think you're too sane to stick around for another season.

 

If you do, I'll enjoy seeing you again on my TV.

 

If you don't, thank you for sharing your humor and "coolness" with us normal people who got to peek into your life for a little while.

redyaya
redyaya

Loved your book. (Looking forward to the second one) Love your blogs. Looking forward to the reunion show.

Ruby-Lena
Ruby-Lena

LOL, very funny blog. I always enjoy your blogs. 

Sunny11
Sunny11

In a future blog, could you please explain why you support Aviva?    That woman is a bully and the public is fed up with her.

 

sarah100
sarah100

 @KatiePhx Exactly my thought, I feel reality TV is not her thing.  The person  I see on TV doesn't seem to be the same person writing this blog. I find her to be hypocritical with her cast mates. I liked her in the first couple of episodes then I began to see her immaturity come out.

nnorvell
nnorvell

 @RoseWind I agree with your post 100%!  I also think viewers need to think about all the times their friends, family, etc say unsavory things,  do they call them out?  Of course not!   You couldn't live like that and have any type of relationship.  It's very easy to criticize.  I know one thing for sure.  I would never be on a reality tv show.

BlaireJeanne
BlaireJeanne

 @Florida_Gal i am not asking for confrontation, it is the way carole tries to be self deprecating, doesnt work, there is a google research thing going on, just a tad too predictable

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

 @gbearc Watch closely and Ramona did not ask George to leave until she heard George harassing Carole for a date.  Then Carole coddles and hugs George after he calls Ramona names, and continues to say Ramona was wrong over and over.  Ramona was accused of kicking George out for touching her but she did not ask him to leave at that time.  

juka
juka

 @gbearc yes, George was way out of line.