Carole Radziwill

Carole claims she wasn't talking behind anyone's back and points out her and LuAnn's different codes of conduct.

on Oct 8, 20120

Dear Friends,

So after London and Miami, St. Barth’s and Le Cirque, inviting and not inviting and God knows how many toasts, bottles, planes, subways and cars, it all comes down to a couch. Six women, 18 episodes, 12 really expensive shoes, and an elegant little seating arrangement fanned out around Dr. Andy Freud.

I thought the reunion would be more like the presidential debates -- a few lies and some posturing, a handshake then back home. But there were surprises on the couch. For one thing, it was freezing. It felt like a vault. The room had the ambiance of the opera after the curtain went down and the Phantom had gone home. We were instructed to wear: 1920s evening meets Truman Capote Black & White Ball. This seemed, on the face of it, a contradiction. The famous ball was in 1966, but six of this, half of that. This is the Housewives where contradiction and frack and friction go hand in hand.

It felt, a bit, like a closing argument in Law and Order. Objection! Overruled! Steely Glare! It was great fun, with echoes of all the best potboilers, and a little bit of Clue. Who took Colonel Mustard and a Pirate into the Ballroom?

Where to begin is the question. Let’s start with LuAnn.

566 comments
Alice@_@
Alice@_@

You are so smart and confident and savvy about navigating situations. Something that is cool to watch.

Roscoskat
Roscoskat

I love that you're part of this series now. Your 'tongue-in-cheek' humor is wonderful. I wish that Bravo would get rid of Sonja and Ramona. Ramona, especially, says the most cruel, vicious comments - all under the excuse "I'm just being honest". Everyone excuses her and it boggles my mind!! Her reaction to Aviva's prosthetic leg was ridiculous. I kept thinking "What is she - 2 years old?"  I love watching this series - it is my guilty pleasure, too. I completely tuned out because of Ramona and Sonja and the Countess. They're the most self-involved, deluded, rude women, "Darling"  - don't you know?! My point after this ridiculously long comment is: You are a breath of fresh air!! I love your down-to-earth take on everything and non-self-entitled outlook!! Please stay on the series, as long as possible!! (Also, pass on to Bravo powers that be to nix Ramona, Sonja the the Countess!!) LOL

 

Best wishes -

crafty48
crafty48

House wives is my guilty pleasure and I have to say I was ready to dump it out of boredom until you came on the scene Carole! Some of the house wives seem like cartoon characters but not you... your are the cool interesting chick. I'm rooting for you! Don't let me down.

 

chrissie_malcolm
chrissie_malcolm

Carole, thank goodness for you on RHONY Season 5 - just say you'll be back for Season 6 or I will not!  Best of luck with your new book and plans for a TV series.  Your honesty, humour and humility are so refreshing and in contrast to most of the other housewives.  Sonja and Ramona ... watch and learn, watch and learn!

Nataliawealleans@12
Nataliawealleans@12

Carole, you are by far my favourite housewife. Witty, intelligent, humorous and straight talking, a real revelation in the silly, provocative, turbulent, non- sensical drama that is HWONY. Look forward to coming episodes!

kalaimo925
kalaimo925

im so glad that you got casted on the show. you really are a breath of fresh air. Im so happy that you called out alot of Luann's ridiculous behavior. she really needs to pull her nose out of the air & her head out of her ass. cant wait to watch you next season! youre so charming

tinariley84
tinariley84

Absolutely adore you Carole! And L O V E your book!

lizzyjae
lizzyjae

I will say that I enjoyed Carol on the show this season as some of the old housewives are getting boring. Given that, Carol's back-stabbing behind the scenes seems a little cowardly.  Carol can say she is just trying to by funny, but I think she is really just a "mean" little princess.  She wants to be the nice one to everyone's face, but she doesn't foolmost viewers.  Although she doesn't refer to herself as "princess,"  she sure lets everyone know she's the "top lady" in NYC.  Well, at least she isn't as boring as Ramona.

rachel.n.lee.7
rachel.n.lee.7

While I can think of instances where your points ar e valid, I can also see how pages 2 and 4 of your blog could be seen as contradictory. It depends on the situation. 

Voluptubelle
Voluptubelle

Carole...you are the best "housewife" ever!  I love how you handle yourself and the amount of humor and intelligence you interject into your blogs and the reunion show....and you're a pretty snappy dresser to boot!

Bilko
Bilko

Apparently you've never watched a presidential debate. More empty prose.

Fayth43
Fayth43

You are such a nice breath of fresh air.

Adeledixon
Adeledixon

I thought you said on the reunion  2 show that you dont borrow dresses?  You are contradicting yourself.  My own opinion of you is that you are extremely pompous...so full of yourself. You think your so above everybody, and that you're here to teach everyone how to behave. Get over yourself!

Luvrhw
Luvrhw

You are awesome!

conchitadelmundo
conchitadelmundo

carole, you are a doll.  i think you are youthful, beautiful, and fun loving.  i will say that your claim to be layed back is not altogether true in my opinion.  you seem to have a hidden level of stress that sometimes shows in your commentaries.  being cool does not necessarily mean you are laid back. i think you have a little hysteria bubbling under the surface and we will probably notice it more as time goes on.

southernkiki
southernkiki

Thank. God. You are here. We have been waiting for you! My favorite HW on any show - you are smart, sassy and funny.....and mercifully well adjusted. You reflect me and my best girlfriends - love you on the show and can't wait to buy your book!

Signora
Signora

You are fresh air, indeed, Carole!  This has been my guilty pleasure--or should I say, "my guilty habit", since it hasn't been pleasurable for a long long time.  I was astounded at LuAnn's behavior toward you, not to mention her line of thinking.  She was offended that you thought she wasn't as famous as the First Lady?  What an inflated self image!  And you did tell her what you thought, so I can't understand why people said that you "talked behind her back and didn't tell her to her face"!  (about borrowing dresses)

 

Your soliloquies are brilliant, entertaining and much needed!  Continue!  Everything you say is witty and true.  Why would they want to eliminate that?  Perhaps you have elevated the show to a level that makes some people uncomfortable.  Perhaps those people prefer ignorant jibes and nonsensical drama--devoid of anything resembling intellectual!  Reading your blogs is so enjoyable!

 

So thank you for joining the show and adding some dignity to the Housewives.   It truly is a Social Science lesson!  I will be horribly disappointed if your next book isn't about your take on this "reality phenomena"!  Grazie!

sbcook
sbcook

Carole - just want to congratulate you on making it through your first season and I truly hope you will be returning. It was so refreshing to have someone intelligent and thoughtful who could still be very interesting without being mean and petty.  I think you were justified in your comments after watching the season -- "one upper" and "friend jumper" were priceless.  I think as a journalist you have the ability to observe and take in what is going on around you and I always look forward to your take on things.  You showed so much restraint and dignity in how you spoke of your husband and friends.  Just wanted to add my two cents and let you know that you have many supporters.   Best of luck to you with your book and new projects.

jenjakiel
jenjakiel

Hi Carole..love you and you are a great addition, but I do have to point out something to you...I get what you mean by there being no "back" in reality TV because the interviews are public as are the blogs...however, it is a little deceitful to hide behind that distinction when you know very well that the other ladies are not going to be privy to any of that for the four months you are filming...so imagine all the while you are saying these things in private interviews, but behaving differently to them in person--I can see how that would be aggrivating if I were them...if you were as upfront about it as you are claiming, you would have said the same things to their faces or at least warned them about it...laying it out in a blog half a year later isn't the same as saying it to their face and that is a  little cowardly...don't get me wrong-Luann is an a-hole and you hit her attitude and behavior on the head. But, I did get the feeling that you were either afraid of Aviva or timid to say anything about her nasty behavior to her face, although you certainly seemed to disapprove in writing or in interviews...just an observation...have a great fall and holiday season!

ClassynSassy26
ClassynSassy26

I must admit the Real Housewives are my guilty pleasure. I have 3 favorite cities that I watch and DVR faithfully. New York has always been in my top 3. You can imagine how I felt when I heard half of the old cast was being replaced. Not that I liked everyone they replaced but they were familiar. Needless to say, this season with the "newbies" I wasn't excited about it. Until I saw Carole and Heather!! I instantly bonded and loved both of these new cast members. I love both of these women but if I had to choose my #1 favorite it would be Carole with Heather right behind. This year is the first year I have read blogs and my first time posting a comment. Carole you are so down to earth.....finally a housewife I can truly relate to. I love reading your blogs....and I don't care what anyone says they are never long enough for me! You and Heather have made New York better than ever! I enjoyed watching you two, and reading your blogs. I understand about being protective of your friends....when you have a true friend they are like family.  I felt really bad for you watching the St. Barth footage. You put together a great vacation for the girls and they couldn't let things go and just enjoy the island and that beautiful house. I hope you will be back next season, I loved watching you and enjoyed your funny and on point commentary. The other woman need to relax they all talk behind each others back. Please come back next season and don't change!!! You and Heather are the only housewives out of the whole franchise I would ever want to personally hang out with. Thanks for a revamoing NY!!!

fistilynn
fistilynn

The Houswives shows are my guilty pleasure and reassures my decision to not consort with other women if I cannot be myself around them. I see alot of myself in you,Carole, and with my quirkey attire, humorous perspectives,and quiet demeanor, I basically suck at having friends and the show only makes me more leary of other women and being able to be myself. Any advice on keeping the drama and unhealthy friendships at bay? I worry about you being on the show and having it change the real you. Hope to see you on next season.....keeping it real like you do!

bravochic
bravochic

Carole,

 

I think you have been outwardly obnoxious and rude this season, especially to Luann. She seemed to want to be friends with you. If you didn't want to be friends that is fine but to just attack and attack her without provocation was pretty tacky and made you look like a mean girl. I also think the dress debacle was wrong on your part.. i think you may be jealous of luann or something, as there really is not other reason as to why you would repeatedly attack her without any provocation. 

skye8844
skye8844

Read your book and loved it.  Have passed it on to friends and ordered 3 more for gifts for some out of town friends.  I know you must have had to stop several times while writing to brush a tear away.  Thanks for a good read Carole.

Housewives must be interesting to you as a journalist.  Luann you saw through immediately.  Very insightful!  When she comes on I go for a glass of wine. I got so sick of her throwing the "countess" name around last year and chose not to watch her much this year.  She is a flaming wannab.

HottieMom24
HottieMom24

You definitely nailed Luann's personality and her one-up deal.  She IS like that, because she's narcissistic and thinks so highly of herself.  I can't stand Luann, she's a fake and you called her on it.  Love that!!

LadyK2507
LadyK2507

Carole bottom line is you did make nasty comments about LuAnn behind her back and you should admit it.  Really you made nasty comments about all of the ladies behind their backs, grow up and tell them to their faces.  You are not really a good addition to the show, I hope you do not return.

Rhotexas
Rhotexas

Carole, You are amazing! Love how you refuse to get down in the muck that is Ramona and Sonja. Your observations and commentary are priceless!

tarte82
tarte82

Carole,

I must say I really enjoyed having you on RHONY this season and I love your insightful blogs.  Unlike another "royal" you don't put on airs or stand on ceremony.  To me, you were both a participant and an observer.  I don't think you were ever playing for the camera or trying to start drama.  Your good manners seemed to keep you from making a scene or starting a fight.  To me, you were an understated "Greek chorus" for season 5. 

shivy
shivy

Carol - you are a wonderful addition to the show.  I wasn't sure I was going to continue to watch without Jill, but you & Heather both brough a fresh air to the show.  I do wish the women could get along.  I realize it probably wouldn't make for great TV watching, but sometimes after all the fighting, I feel exhausted.  Love your wit ... get your humor & wish you all the best in your future endeavors.  Hope Bravo is smart enough to bring you & Heather back.

BlancheBrady
BlancheBrady

Your blogs are just as entertaining as the show itself. Sometimes better. If they don't have you back, you should be hired as a paid real housewives blogger. Wish I could see life from such a balcony and funny perspective and write like you. You made the show for me.

juju5
juju5

It seems to me that you are two-faced.  You speak as if you are better than everyone else.  I think you try to hide the real Carole while the cameras are rolling although sometimes she slips out and rears her ugly head.  Stop being fake!

beansnut
beansnut

Carol...you come off as such a lady however I think you feel bullied by Aviva and the need to stick by her even when she's rude to others. You need to open your eyes. You need a reality check. You seem like a nice person yet stick up for the wrong people and you too can have a nasty mouth. :((

RealityWoman
RealityWoman

Thank you for not stooping the their level.  You are a delight as well as Heather!

carolewannabe
carolewannabe

Carole, I have enjoyed watching you but have enjoyed your blogs even more! Your blogs are "my" guilty pleasure! I hope you consider returning to RHWNY next season, but better yet, I think Bravo should allow you to blog about the other RHW series as they are running. Think how delicious that would be! Your zen, Nelson DeMille-esqe snark,  size-queen point of view is exquisite and applied to the other shows would be Blog Magic. Take care of yourself dear girl and keep having fun - as I will! 

jeaneen.tucker
jeaneen.tucker

I just finished reading your book "What Remains "....truly wonderful! I turned here only to read more of your lovely prose. Thanks for explaining how reality tv works- it all makes sense now. Observations in isolation with creative editing, I enjoy it every week! I am 7 yrs into a cancer journey with my husband. I feel sure we have had some very similar experiences. I am so happy you remain blessed while fully engaged in your pursuit of whatever life brings. Anthony, John & Carolyn would all be so proud as they laughed their heads off at the drama!

cinray2020@yahoo.com
cinray2020@yahoo.com

Carole, I would like to say you are a breath of fresh air on RHNYC. All the others wish they had half the natural class you do. Lu wants the world to think she is so elegant but it just isn't there for her. She tries to come across better than others and it burns her up to see someone like you with real class come along to show the world what a snob she is. If I were to run into you and said I am your fan I am sure you would treat me with respect but if it were Lu she would act as if she were above me. Thank you for keeping it real. Good luck in all you do and hope to see you next  season.

music
music

 It's ironic that you are on display for the spectators' guilty pleasure and fun-filled gawking.

lucyluho
lucyluho

You...are the mean girl....very passive aggressive to LuAnn.  It's looks very childish and petty of you...  I think, you seem to think you are ABOVE it all...but you just right in the pile with the rest...  Sad and very un princess-like....Leave the show...please.

EllieJ
EllieJ

Carole, In your extremely lengthy blog you claimed unlike Luann you would never ask for a dress. Well, you do realize don't you, you don't look like Luann and while I'm not a big fan on how she came across when Aviva the "Hun"arrived..........she would do more for showing the dress . Your "friend jumping" comment led me to believe you have some jealousy there. I mean as you stated over and over this Designer is a very close friend of yours. We get it. You are friends with a Designer. Wow. Get over it.

annie.kobayashi
annie.kobayashi

 @FairIsFair She wrote 2 books , remember?  This season focused a lot on her new book which is bring turned into a TV show... she also worked for ABC news for years.  What has Luann done?  Been on a reality TV show and married well... She lords her marriage to 'a count' (which by the way isn't a real title.... the French government registers nobles and guess who isn't on there... her or her ex... it's a purchased title...) over other people's heads.  And remember, Ranjana said she asked to borrow a dress.  So who would she believe?  A long time friend or this new person who assumes she is doing Naeem a favor instead of realizing, Naeem is doing her the favor.  Carole told Luann to ger face it made her uncomfortable... maybe she's snarky in her confessionals, but Luann is so condescending that I feel like she brought it on herself. If she could just tone it down, remember she grew up in a blue collar family, like many of us, then maybe she would be more down to earth and more people would like her.  

bravochic
bravochic

 @pjbeaudry I agree. This is by far the most classless thing I have seen all season, especially because at the time she was supposed friends with Sonya.

MoreMerlot4Me
MoreMerlot4Me

Carole is the least fake person on the show. 

 

Rhotexas
Rhotexas

@carolewannabe You hit the nail on the head...Nelson DeMille-esqe snark! I love Carole!

EllieJ
EllieJ

@cinray2020@yahoo.com with all due respect, what is so elegant and classy about Carole........one who takes you on a tour of her NY apartment and shows you her bed to show her pillows with large. Blk lettering of SLEEP on one side then turns them over not wanting to miss showing F&@K on the other side. Yea, real class there...NOT That had as much class as her statement at her Book party.

MoreMerlot4Me
MoreMerlot4Me

Again . . . . the point is missed.  It's not that Carole is friends with a designer.  Carole has a friend as close as family who just happens to be a designer.  As Carole is trying to explain, what the man does for a living is second to the relationship they share and thus, her protective feelings toward him and his wife.

 

ksawyer
ksawyer

 @EllieJ I think you are getting to caught up in the whole who would look best in a designer dress and who Carole's friends are thing. Carole's point was simply, LuAnn (someone she just met) asked for an introduction to Carole's friends and then the very first time LuAnn met these people she asked them for a huge favor. It put Carole's friends in an awkward postion and it embarrassed Carole. If you take the situation down to it's core, LuAnn was rude and should have known better. It isn't about dresses or who Carole's friends are, it's about common courtsey.

ksawyer
ksawyer

 @lynnwhitlock  @EllieJ No, it was about LuAnn asking Carole's friends for a very large favor the first time she met them.